Clear the bank accounts and set up your exit in a way that will fuck his life up. Then plan how you will fuck hers up. 
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Go the the house and let them fuckers both have it
Save, save, save all the proof.
Pack your bags, and leave.
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Plan get yourself set up don’t make decisions mad but even if u gotta stay an pretend u don’t know drain him of all u can get u good then while he at work clean out the house and leave a note
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Take phone to print out messages later , file for divorce , cut both off pronto
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Leave. Like ASAP. Or pack his bags and tell him not to come back. That’s something you can’t come back from. You’ll never trust him again.
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First thing I would do, call a locksmith and change alllll the locks. Plus his shit would be on the lawn. Since it’s been going on for years she should welcome him with open arms. Take half the bank account and call a divorce lawyer. For some razzle dazzle I’d probably put a giant picture of them on her lawn congratulating the new cheating couple!
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Be Very Careful, don’t ruin your chances of calling all the shots here. Be descreit, remove all funds from a joint account and open your own. You’ve got the upper hand so be Wise😉
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I’d make his life a living hell for a few Weeks and depending on who his best friend is… I might show him how it feels 
and I’d definitely leave his ass !
Sugar in the gas tank, screen shot all things,then throw his bags outside, call lawyer, and file for divorce.
Lawyer and leave. Pointless to ask both all You’ll get are lies from both sides.
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You have proof… if don’t like that fact he’s been cheating and you’re trying to leave contact a lawyer… if not act like the messages doesn’t exist and keep it moving…
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Get all your shit and go and when he comes home and wonders where you’re at don’t even answer. Take all the data you have of him cheating, put it on a USB drive and take it with you. Take that data and serve his ass divorce papers on grounds of adultery and be done with that. Sorry for the BS. Also cut contact with said friend, and don’t accept her “apologies”.
Or pack his shit up and drop it off at her house, lol.
Get rid of him change the locks and start an eviction process with the courts so he can’t just come back and forth between y’all! Cut your losses and don’t drag it out. It’s initially hard but so worth your peace of mind once he’s out for good!! I wouldn’t jump into another relationship. Or if u have it like that move out on your own. Don’t tell him where u live. That would be the fastest to start the healing process of the mental and emotional damage that this is causing. Sorry mama but it happens to the best of us and have u in our prayers for a speedy smooth heartbreak recovery!!
Calmly pack his stuff and drop it off at her house.
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Clear the bank acct and dip
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Save all the proof. Don’t leave the home or the kids. Don’t retaliate. Save it for the divorce lawyers.
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Pack his bag and dump it out the front of her house and drain all the bank accounts.
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cheaters 3 stages . 1mad at other woman. 2 mad at him but you want to keep them. 3 mad at yourself for putting up with his behavior. it not you it s not the other woman it is him .he think he is slick. so bust him out about it. kick him to the curb and move on.
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Bust the windows out their cars and take the gas out of both 
better yet water in their engines 
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Take deep breath’s…take care of you first you are in position to make all the right moves…don’t back down don’t fall for his promises don’t give him any money etc…get a lawyer
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Do you have Joint Accounts? Take out however much you will need for a Retainer Fee and then some for a Divorce. About 7,000-10,000 will do…
Don’t tell your current Husband or Friend anything until you have all of the receipts and Divorce Papers IN-HAND
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First things first… post it on Facebook. Air your dirty laundry!
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Start plotting your revenge. Move money around. Seriously. Whatever you can do before you let him know that you know
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go over there ans confront them!
SS everything, get your funds in a separate account. Call the police now for a no trespassing order on him and her, change the locks. File for divorce ASAP.
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FIRST OF ALL…DEEP breaths.
Pretend everything is just as normal as he has been while pretending and living all these lies.
She is NOT YOUR FRIEND! Don’t believe a word either of them have to say.
Be VERY cautious of who you share your hurt and dirty laundry with. It will come back to haunt you…
Plan strategically! Execute with precision!
Quietly…
Gather your records (get an atty and a great Private investigation firm) Be prepared to do forensics on all cyber assets (phone, comput, etc). He can pay for all of that since he is at fault.
Hang him (in the court of law)
Let her HAVE him…that’s the BEST revenge!
Smile, Move on and live happily ever after, gracefully and in peace. 
Don’t react, respond. Calm down and think clearly before you decide what to do. Don’t tell him you know yet
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Do not react right now. Give yourself time to process. Pay attention and BE SMART
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Calm yourself down, sweetie. That’s the first step.
Pack his things and drop them off at her door.
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Take all the money out of the accounts. Change the locks next time he is at work. File for divorce
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Screenshot everything. Confront and wait for the lies to come out. And then leave!! You deserve better! Coming from experience…
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Send him a text that you are otw to ( the friend’s) house. See how quick the two of them respond.
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Blast your what you thought was your friend all over social media… clean out your bank account and take your name off anything that links you together (credit cards).
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Drain bank account, rent a new place. Let her have him.
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Pack his clothes…put them out in the lawn!
Knock knock - ding dong!’
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kick him to the. curb. and her too. Delete checking and savings. and confront them face to face
Show up at your friends house cause you were in the neighborhood 
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Leave. It won’t get better. Keep all the proof and use it in court.
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Empty the accounts and move out without telling him 
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Call your “friend” and act like you don’t know she’s sleeping with your man then say” I need to confide in you, my husband gave me a terrible std. Change the locks on your door set his stuff in the yard and move on
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Leave slowly, smart, and quiet.
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Pack his shit and change the locks
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Watch the Lorena Bobbit story. You’ll know what to do!
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This happened to me.
First: don’t react out of anger, wait, and watch. It’s painful, but getting the most damning evidence is key.
Second: make a plan of how you want this to play out, it’s going to be the hardest thing ever. Call lawyers too.
Third: remember, you did nothing to deserve this no matter what he says, and he might say something.
Also get a support group with you. Family/friends.
Fourth: execute plan when ready.
You can record texts, leave your phone on record when you talk to him so you have proof of what he says. Etc.
Find out what your state divorce laws entail too.
Don’t react out of pain and anger and do something you regret
Last: you will go through a lot of phases. It could be ready or hard. Mine was excruciating, he moved in next door with the woman next door. I’ll tell you now, karma has got him. He’s trying to leave her etc.
You can text me anytime. Please be ok
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If you’re going to do some of things suggested on here to JUST end up STAYING you’re making yourself look like a clown. You already know what you want to do so just do it. Only you know how much you want to put up with and what humiliation you want to endure. But once you make that decision FOLLOW through with it…
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Leave him!!!Lock your doors and windows,don’t let him in your place don’t even talk to him send his divorce papers to your friends address
And always take the high road. Don’t stoop down! Be the better person. It’s like a game of chess.
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All I can say is your allot calmer than me, I wouldn’t be sitting here writing a post I would have lost my shit 
gone around there and caught them in the act and also film it post it everywhere humiliate them both like they have you
No Man or Woman is worth all that keep quiet get your thing in order make sure you save all messages they sent to each other when you have everything in order wait til you know he is over at her house and call them to let them know he has 1 hour to get his shit out of the house and you go on and live your life happy
Transfer money that you needed. Keep all evidence. Walk up to the door with a live video like the show cheaters and confront him.
Make pictures/copies of all messages. Suggest a dinner party invite her over ( say nothing to your husband) . Then make hard copies of everything, twice. When she comes over they’ll think you are still unsuspecting. Ask them if they could help you clarify something…hand each if them a packet, tell them to open at the same time, like it’s a surprise (cuz it will be). Then after they have both opened their packet and had a chance to look at what it is, ask them WTH is going on and as he why specifically. Shr is supposed to be your friend, not his with benefits. Go from there. You’ll have to decide if you want him in your life, cuz at that point she’s not.
Just a suggestion.
Sorry this is happening to you. I wish you the best, cuz thats what you deserve. We all do
Go show up at her house acting like u didn’t know he was there🤣…say u just were nearby and wanted to say hi
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Pack him a bag, print off the texts and put them together as a little book of infidelity (tell him it’s some “light reading”) drop it all off to the “friends” house and then drain your bank account and change your locks.
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Pack his stuff and put it outside, he can collect it, and go back to the home wreckers house.
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Of course, drain bank accounts and then, find some dog poop. Go over to her house and put the dog poop under all car door handles. Then pack his stuff up, change locks.
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Change your locks and take your money that is yours out of the account, pack his bags and take them to her house.
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Go over there and confront them especially if he’s there right now. Park your vehicle a street down turn your location off before leaving too and go there. You need the proof so
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Change all locks, and alarm codes. First thing. Get a lawyer, go after him for adultery. It’s absolutely illegal, but only will be prosecuted if the spouse presses the charges.
Throw out his stuff on the lawn
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Pack all his things and leave it out front. Print out all the texts and put it on the pile of his belongings.
Honestly I would would mess with them… tell her some crazy stuff that she’ll tell him. See what happens lol. Like “ I got this crazy std” and I know he has it, so whoever he’s sleeping with has it now
But really just leaving would be the better option.
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I’ve always been one to act out of emotions and later wish I thought about it properly ! Stay (just for now) to plan !!! Scream and cry and be mad while you can but don’t let him know you know until you have everything you need, evidently, financially and emotionally. Then your pay back will be much more rational and satisfying !
Sending you the BIGGEST hugs ! I’m so sorry this is happening I wish you nothing but good fortunate, healing and love 
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SHE differently WAS NOT a FRIEND. SHAME ON THE TWO OF THEM.
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I’d probably have a good cry, plan a safe route, wether that’s breaking away or staying if that’s even an option for you x
The petty in me would probably ring her saying you just found out he’s been cheating and you’ve now got antibiotics for something or drop all his stuff on her doorstep so when he leaves he knows you know…either way lovely, know it isn’t your fault, it’s not something you’ve caused and if he says you deserved it, you don’t…he’s an ass and what him and your “friend” have done is disgusting and scummy…I hope you’re gonna be ok, sending hugs xxx
I would say shit I’d just pack up his shit and stick it outside m, with a note that’s tells him to go stay with her
Take the phone to a lawyer asap
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If it were me I’d be pulling right to said friends house!! Sorry luv noone deserves that
Men cheat when there not getting what they need at home it’s simple leave cause obviously you missed what he needed an someone else took interest in what it was he was not getting at home
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The only appropriate response lol
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I wouldn’t be on here ild be kicking ass
Throw his stuff outside and change the locks
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Casually stroll up to your “friends” house and say u were stopping to say hi and was wondering why your husband was there
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Take money out of bank
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Go over there… pack up all his stuff and drop it over there to him.
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Empty that account first and open up your own! Leave his ass $1.00. Then pack him some bags and drop them off at said friends house!
do not get mad!!! get even!!! and get the hell out
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In this order I would:
Screenshot all the messages and upload them to Dropbox
Throw all his shit outside and pour bleach on it break any non clothing items.
Kiss my children
Withdraw bail mail, leave it with someone trusted and tell them they’ll know what to do with the money soon.
Go over to said “friends” house
Not encouraging just saying that’s how I’d handle it 
Send her a thank you card for taking him off your hands and a condolences card for what he will put her through… tell him good riddance, his stuff will be outside for him to pick up (give him a deadline) and move forward and find someone that loves you the way you deserve to be loved… remember they are the ones with the problem, not you… know your own worth and don’t accept anything less!!
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Just leave please …dont let him know until he comes home to an empty house
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Take all his stuff and drop it off over there
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Seek a lawyer. Don’t even say a word to this man, save yourself the heartache and energy… this is just disgusting and I’m so sorry you’re going thru this!
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Anyone else here like…
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Be smart about it. You have the upper hand right now.
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Plan! Everything. New bank account new phone plan… don’t be irrational and also don’t stay. You don’t deserve someone who doesn’t respect you more than that. He will do it again.
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Don’t say a word yet. Make copies of everything. That’s your proof of adultery. Get your finances in order. Depending on what state you are in he will still prob be entitled to something you own together. If you can truly forgive him, get counseling, if you can’t file for divorce and surprise him. If you have children get temporary custody of them. Get an attorney, a good one. And trust me if he did it once it will likely happen again. Don’t let him talk you into anything. Find out what you are entitled too. Take him through the coals. Good luck, it will hurt like hell.
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If it was me id mess with his head and hers abit. Id start wearing more than not makeup. Be on your phone more, suddenly say u gotta get off cause hes home when, when he comes through the door. Make him think u are having the affair. Suddenly say u are going out with a friend to a bar. Pay with his mind.
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Pack his stuff, pull up and wait outside until he comes out then give his stuff to him.
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Don’t say a thing until you set yourself up then just leave.
He doesn’t need to know anything
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Don’t say a thing until you set yourself up then just leave.
He doesn’t need to know anything
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Calmly confront, pack his stuff & kick his Ass out. No fighting necessary. Adios.
Play it smart girl, make sure you and your kids (if kids are involved) have what you need before you even let him know that you know anything. Start putting money away and when the time is right , bounce.
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Pack your stuff and be gone before he gets home. Never say a word to him. Block his number. Go do something super successful with your life and be really happy.
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Change the locks on your house. Get a good lawyer, show your evidence to him and file for divorce. Oh, and put all hubby’s belongings on the sidewalk. This is what I would do.
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I’m sorry you’re going through this. But seriously, some of these other suggestions are accurate. You may feel like you want to do what’s in this gif but plan accordingly and get yourself out. You deserve better. You could just pack his shit up and leave it outside. Change the locks. Make sure to get that paperwork done asap and don’t let him come back. Stay strong!
Long con, baby! I’d do the longest revenge… However many years it’s been going on until when you found out and there are ways without hurting him, of course. That’d be criminal.
A friend of mine got cheated on and she found out that it was going on for about 3 years and she made him think he was losing his mind for that long while she was making moves in preparing for her departure: she joined a gym, got a nutritionist, got a better paying job, got hotter and healthier, etc. The day she left him, he had no idea what happened to him. He thought he was crazy because she screwed with his brain for years with “oh, babe, you don’t remember you wore that shirt the other night. You silly goose!” Or she changed all the clocks and messed with his phone so he was late and got fired, etc. He got fat, sad and kind of nuts. Not really but he thought he was.
This all sounds horrible and petty but he fathered 3 children with 2 different women in those 3 years and was funding their stuff and taking cash away from my friend and their kids. No more snacks, duct tape for busted shoes, etc.
She’s happily married now to a man who has his own business and is the most down to earth guy. All her friends wish he had a brother.
Seriously though, being cheated on sucks so bad and I am sorry you’re going through with this but I wouldn’t let him know that you know. Now is YOUR time to work on yourself to get that upgraded happier, no cheating, more beautiful) life. Just imagine how sweet it’ll be when you’re in your own home with no worries and peace in your heart. You’ve got this!
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Change the locks divorce him they never change
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I’d drop them both but not right away. Get all the proof you need and make sure you have everything you would need to be on your own.
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