At what age do you have to stop telling your child what to do every morning to get ready for school? Like seriously. Every morning I repeat myself atleast TEN times to do the same things- wake up, use the bathroom, blow your nose, brush your teeth, wash your face, get dressed, put on deodorant and put on your shoes. This is the second year of the same routine and I feel like I am losing my mind!!!
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I was seven when I was getting up by my self because my mom was a bus driver and left at 5 and my step dad wasn’t reliable I also had younger siblings my mom was our bus driver
It all starts with the parenting, No matter what age 
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I wake my five year old up and he knows our routine from there 
If your telling them to put on deodorant, it’s WAY past time to stop!
It depends on the child. Mine is 7 and has an alarm. She gets up on her own and does everything(I did her hair at night). I have worked with my daughter since she was very young about taking responsibility for herself and so far it’s working
When they move out ! Trust me 
Are we talking about 1st grader?
Really. Probably won’t end until high school.
My 13 year old just started to be independent on these things and i still have to do it with my 12 year old… Guess its only when they are ready then they’ll act as such… Good luck and lots of courage to you… It’ll pass, be patient and brave 
How old are your kids?
Mine is almost 15 and just this year he started doing everything without being told except getting up cause he sleeps thru his alarm clock
My oldest is 14 an I still gotta wake her up or she will sleep right thru the alarm an I gotta tell her every morning what she needs to do good luck
This is kid dependent. My dad was still waking me up to get ready at 15 because I slept through alarms. I’ve not had to worry about waking up with my 12 year old in about 3-ish years. He gets himself up, eats breakfast, gets dressed and goes to the end of our driveway to catch the bus.
2nd year? So depending where you live we are talking about like a 5 or 6 year old child? Likely will take a couple more years for them to independently get them self ready for school lol start teaching them the routine and hopefully they will pick it up on their own. But it sounds like they are still quite young so I wouldn’t expect it right away.
my oldest child im in the clear my 12 year old i have to wake up a million times and remind her to do everything
My oldest is 10 and I am still having to remind her to do things. But she does have ADHD so she does get distracted sometimes.
My daughters 11 and only needs to be woken up. My son is 9 and needs step by step instructions every single day!
Maybe put up a big schedule or checklist with times in bedroom and kitchen or places where child spends most time at home.
For example: 6:30 am: get up, 6:35: shower, 6:50: dry off, get dressed, 7:00 am: eat breakfast, 7:20: brush teeth, fix hair, 7:30: grab backpack & head to bus stop.
Same for afternoon: 4:00 pm get home
4:05-5:00 snack & play time (outdoors if possible), 5:05-5:30: chores, 5:30-6:00 start homework, 6:00-6:30 pm dinner, 6:35-7:45: clear table, get stuff ready for (activity like Scouts, sport, practicing instrument).
And night: 7:45-8:30 pm leave & participate in activity, if no activity, time is used for homework. 8:50-9:00 pm: put homework in & check & prepare backpack for next day, 9-9:15: set out clothes for the next day, put worn clothes away if still clean or in laundry basket, 9:15-9:25: brush teeth, wash face, 9:25-9:30 whatever bedtime rituals like prayers or snuggling you have, 9:30 pm lights out.
You can also carve out time for TV & video games, but not necessarily every day. I’d also encourage family exercise times like taking a walk after dinner (with or without things to look for or collecting trash/recycling along your route, or walking a dog), or teaching each other a calisthenics, dance move, yoga pose, martial arts move, for example. Mix it up!
Weekend days have different schedules. Up to you whether or not you post anything or leave schedules open.
Every single kid is different… both my kids were completely different
Depends on the kid… I stopped needed to be told at 7. Others never get ready without being yelled at
I read a story about parents with the same problem with their son. This is how they solved the problem. On a Friday after school the son told his parents about a special event (I can’t remember what it was) on the next Saturday at a park that was only a few blocks away & he really, really wanted to go but it was only in the morning from 8 to noon. So the parents decided they would all go & have a family day. But that Saturday morning the parents decided to sleep in. The boy was frantically trying to get the parents up & moving. “Mom, Dad, get out of bed!” he kept saying. “Get dressed!” he kept pleading. “Mom, let’s just have some muffins for breakfast & eat on the way there!” “Come on!” But mom wanted the family to have a good beakfast before they set out. The only person in a hurry to get there was the son. Yep, you guessed right, they were too late. On the way home the son was crying & ask why they took so long getting ready. “It was driving me crazy!” The son said. Mom stop & looked at him. “Welcome to my mornings trying to get you ready for school.” She started walking again, leaving the son to think that over for awhile. Problem solved. This might not work for everyone but it’s an idea.
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No worries…only 16 more years to go
Every child is different. My daughter has gotten herself up, dressed, and ready all by herself since she was about 8 or 9. She’s now in high-school and is already out the door before my alarm even goes off. My son on the other hand is the total opposite. He wakes up on his own, but I need to repeat each step several times. There is just no sense of urgency at all. We even load up his backpack and pick his clothes out the night before and we still run late.
My son is 12 and he’s pretty self sufficient in that regard. He gets up, eats, brushes teeth and goes outside to catch the bus. He also does his own laundry and is pretty good at his chores. This is his 1st year of doing all by himself
Ii raised 4 children and they were all different. My son was not a morning person. I would be getting ready for work at the same time as they were getting ready for school. Every morning my son would still not be dressed in time. He was 15. One morning I came into the living room to him completely dressed. I was overjoyed. This went on for about a week. Then his younger sister ratted him out. He was sleeping in his school clothes. Back to the drawing board!