At what age would you consider it inappropriate for a daughter to sleep in bed with her father? No one else in the bed.
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I use to always sleep with my dad cause I only saw him on weekends. Then he got custody of me when I was in the sixth grade and he told me I was too old and need to sleep in my own bed. So I did
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Who cares?! Why is this a question so often?? Being a man doesnāt mean he is a pedophile.
If the kid wants to then I donāt see an issue.
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As long as they got clothes on who cares
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When should daughterās stop sleeping in bed with their mothers
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I donāt think there is an age as every child is different Iād just say when either one feels uncomfortable itās time to stop. My son is 5 and a couple month ago I just felt a little uncomfortable getting changed with him coming in to the room so I decided it was time he didnāt. Whereas I donāt feel uncomfortable with my 3 year old but I do my 2 year old it just depends on the child
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If you have to question when a child should stop sleeping in a bed with their parent, I would assume you have some reason behind this and should not have had children with your partner. There is no age where it is inappropriate for a child to be in bed with their parent
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I donāt see it ever being inappropriate for a Father to share a bed with his daughter. Itās his daughterā¦ He has man parts & she has women parts, which means absolutely NOTHING unless he is a sexual predatorā¦ in which case he shouldnāt be around her at all, let alone sleeping in the same bed. If it was Mother & daughter no one would sexualize itā¦ so why sexualize a father/daughter bond?
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This question 
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I could take a nap next to him even when I was married 
I loved sleeping with my parents, then I just got too big, there were no room for me.
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I think that itās healthy for kids to sleep in a bed by themselves. Not saying anyoneās a pervert I just think that itās a healthy growth habit.
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until the daughter, or the father is no longer comfortable sharing a bed. my son shares a bed with me and can continue to do so until he decides he doesnāt want to.
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How old is too old to sleep in mums bed? Same thing.
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The same age it starts being inappropriate to sleep in bed alone with her mother 
Stop trying to make innocent acts perverted just to fit your agenda.
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Same as it would be when they stop sleeping with mom.
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As long as nothing inappropriate ever happens then there isnāt an age limit. I feel like this is a stupid ass question.
Umm what I still share bed with my parents when they are here visiting me and I am 35
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At no age is it inappropriate, should stop when the child wants to sleep elsewhere.
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I hope my daughter always finds comfort from snuggles with her dad.
Stupid question.
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I donāt have a dad but I would hope never 
Iām 32 and still sleep with my mom canāt imagine my dad being any different
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I slept with my parents til I was 12. Never thought it was weird or inappropriate. Tbh I thought everyone did until I was like 18 and mentioned it to a friend that looked at me like I was crazy lol 
literally every child in my family sleeps with their parents until the child decides they donāt want to so I never thought any differently.
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Girl Iām 20 years old and if Iām depressed and just wanna cry, having a shitty day and I know my dads home and asleep, Iāll lay on the other side of the bed and take a nap. Heās my father, itās sad you sexualize that crap.
This question says more about the person asking the question than the dad.
Get help for whatever is making you question an innocent and loving relationship between a father and child.
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I would still laying in bed with my dad at the age of 20 and I didnāt even live in the home anymore
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Maybe the same as the time a Mother stops sleeping with her son!??
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When the CHILD feels theyāre too old
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My 11 year old twin boys still sleep with me 
am I missing something?
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Whenever they find it inappropriate, could be never? Same as a child sharing a bed with their mother??
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Literally fell asleep in my parents bed next to my stepdad because I was super pregnant and tired. It shouldnāt be weird at any age, itās dad.
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Liah Hendry I agree with this comment to an extent. Like jill katz stated, why does this mean she shouldnt have a child with partnerā¦ also Iām 30 yrs old and my child has slept in her own bed since week 1. Now that shes almost 5, we get a "hey ma, can you sleep with me tonight(I absolutely do, because her bed is 10x more comfortable lol)Or hey dad, can you sleep with me tonight but please dont snore. Please stop making simple things in life weird!
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Sounds like you are divorced and trying to get something on dad to me.Stop sexualising an innocent relationship between father and daughter.You sound jealous
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One of my daughters (5) always comes in and sleeps in mine and her dadās bed. Anytime I leave to take out oldest to school I find her cuddled in his arms or theyāre holding hands. I find it very sweet that she feels comfort in him even when sheās sleeping.
So in answer to the question when she feels sheās to old to sleep with dad
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Iām 24 and if need be Iāll still sleep with either of my parents honestly lol
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If u have to ask this question YOU have problems. I have fallen asleep with all my kids . Until the child says otherwise theirs nothing wrong .
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I am 30 and I would still cuddle up to my dad and go to sleep 
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And this is why poor dads are scared to cuddle there children !!! any one told me as a mum I wasnāt aloud to hug my kids while in bed or sleep next to me Iād be fuming same as dad they are parents let them parent and show love stop trying to put something innocent into something.
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why would it be inappropriate at any age thatās their DAD?
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My 12 year old occasionally falls asleep in with her Dad ā¦ my 10 year old son often sleeps with me?
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Iām 24 and I still have naps with my dad and I would sleep in the bed with him and my newborn son at 19 years old, still to this day I would have a sleep with him! He is my father who helped to give me life! 
I couldnāt imagine my life without my dad!
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Iām 22 and Iāll still cuddle into my dad, people that think thereās an issue with need their own head checked. Itās a parent showing love to their child! What is wrong with the world these days
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Uh, 2ish. Unless mom is also there (nightmares, scary storms, etc.). It may be my unfortunate upbringing, but kissing on the lips should also be out.
Now, that being said, if daughter initiated the behavior, I can see some wiggle room assuming dad isnāt encouraging it.
That starts a whole new thing, obviously.
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I havenāt cuddled with my dad since I was 6 or 7.
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Last time I was around 36-37ā¦He was sick in the hospital. I will soon be 63 and I would gladly sleep with my dad if he was here. You donāt get too old to sleep with daddy. JMO
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My daughter is 15 and loves sleepy snuggles with her dad, I hope it never changes
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When she chooses not to. My 5 year old son sleeps with me. 
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So at the minute we have our 3 year old daughter and one year old son sleeping in our bed, even my 6 year old boy comes and sleeps in there when my daughter is in hospital. My eldest does have gas own room and the youngest goes in with him but my daughter might always sleep in our bed because she has complex epilepsy xxx
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All I know is my daughter can sleep with us as long as she wants. Weāve always co slept. I like the fact that her feet always end up kicking his back or kicking his head, especially when Iām mad at him lol
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What age should a mother stop sleeping with her children? If father and daughter are close whatās the problem? Unless you are suspicious of SA there is no reason to put a stop to that like seriously this is so sexist not all men are animals!! This is whatās wrong with society
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I was young & had to share a bed w my dad, but for me once I was older no. I have a half sister who would anytime I visited would sit on our dads lap. I found it weird for a grown woman to sit on her dadās lap & no he wasnāt a perv & not I was not jealous. I again thought it was weird & gross. Like my grandmother said, her mom told her your dad & brothers are still males & you donāt leave your room until your dressed.& no nothing was done to her. Her mom was a Christian & our beliefs. Also my opinion. Mine would sleep w me no problem always had a pillow in between. Grandkids want to sleep w us no issue. If you fine with it then go for it.
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I used to cry to sleep next to my Dad since I can remember, until his last days and that was in my late 20s.
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Whenever the kids donāt feel comfortable with it??? I mean some people here say 2ā¦ dafuq?? My boys are nearly 5 and still sleep in my bed but itās ok because Iām mum right???
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Since when has it been inappropriate? Thatās her dad! If she needs him for comfort then why stop her? Unless youāre concerned for her safety then I donāt see any issues.
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My cm friend and I are doing this eventually but just need to find a nice landlord that would be prepared to rent us a property and change its use. Weād stil be minderās but working from a separate home, to keep the home feel parents prefer and designate bedrooms for sleep , preschoolers and hopefully a conservatory for the schoolies
Until the child no longer feels comfortable. Why should this be a problem for fathers but no one says anything about mothers co-sleeping? Theres nothing wrong with a daughter sleeping in the bed with her father just as it isnt wrong for a son to sleep with his mother. There is no age limit.
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My son is 6 and sleeps with me.
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Strange question. Something to discuss with a therapist!!
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God I hate this question. I would be more concerned with whatās going through your head to ask this
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Never as long as everyone feels comfortable. Why would there be an issue? Iām over half a century and I still jump into bed with Mum or Dad if they let me lol (I donāt live with them so it doesnāt happen often) 
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Iām 31 and Iād be snuggling up to my dad right now if I could!!
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Iām concerned that your immediate thought it that itās inappropriate for child and parent to sleep in a bed together. Have you considered unpacking that with a therapist? Do you have a history of abuse that may be clouding the way you see things? (It happens)
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Iām 40 years old and if I can cuddle my dad or my mom I will. When I was little me and mom always took naps together!!! I see nothing wrong with it. When I got with my husband he had 2 daughters from a previous relationship and the oldest would sleep with us until she was about 10-11 years old and she decided she wanted to sleep in her own bed
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When the mother is trying to pin something on the father.
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Whenever she feels uncomfortable or wants her own bed. 5-7 typically
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I donāt think it ever becomes inappropriate does it ? Unless you donāt trust her father ? I donāt think itās inappropriate until someone makes it inappropriate, unless thereās an actual reason it would be inappropriate?
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Itās her dad. For as long as sheās comfortable
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When the child shows signs that they no longer want to
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Personally with either parent from birth should be in own bed regularly but of course if unwell or no other choice Iād say no age limit for them to share a bed as an āocassionalā optionš
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If youāre questioningā¦ there is reason to. Thereforeā¦ inappropriate now.
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I have laid in bed as an adult and had deep conversations with himā¦ all of my sisters have also. I work nights and many night 1 to all 3 of my kids crawl in bed with their father. They are 4,6, and 14ā¦ all girls.
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My son will be 18 in September, he occasionally will wonder in at night and sleep in my bed on odd occasions. My girls are 14 and 12 and one of them are in my bed for the night at least once a week.
Iām 43 and if Iām staying at my mumās who is 64 ā¦ Iāll sleep in her bed.
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I donāt think it ever becomes āinappropriateā but rather maybe time to teach independence? If youāre worried about it becoming inappropriate, you may be with the wrong man. However, I do believe there is an age where you should teach independence, maybe around 7-8? I personally never slept with my father (due to abuseā¦) but I slept in the bed with my mother until I was 9 (probably prolonged due to trauma) I would say leave it along as long as she is comfortable, itās great for her to have such a close connection to her dad, let her have that as long as she can. If it lasts up until teenage years, then I think itās time for her to have her own space because she is becoming a young woman. Best of luck to you, mama! Donāt force anything on her, and always allow open communication between you and your daughter
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Hes her father fgs 
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Let me just say this. My husband when to visit his mom one day. She wasnāt in good health. She will usually be in bed resting most of the time because she felt tired. So that day he went she was in bed. My husband ( mid 30s) went to her room and cuddle next to her. He ended up falling a sleep with her. Well who would of known that this would of be the last memory of her mom with him.
So yeah ur never to old!
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Never. ā¦no matter how old any of us areā¦that sense of comfort and security from a parent is welcoming.My kids still like to get in the bed every now and then ā¦even the older ones and if peoples minds go to inappropriate thingsā¦thats on themā¦I hate how innocent moments are often trashed by society
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Did you have a baby with a pedophile ? Unless for some reason you thing she is unsafe with him then itās never inappropriateā¦ if there is no reason for alarm then stop with the presumption of all fathers being a predator ā¦. Very aggravating and disgusted as a father myself
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I think it would be inappropriate to sleep with the dad anything after 12 years old.
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Why is it inappropriate?
Why are you sexualising a child sleeping In bed with their parent.
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As long as the child is comfortable with itā¦
Would you be questioning about sharing with a mother?
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If women can breastfeed 7 year olds and it is okay, why the hell do we keep questioning the dads co-sleeping?
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10 to 12ā¦but i would curl up with my dad now if he was still hereā¦I used to ly down with him when i was a teenager and ask him to tell me stories about his childhood
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Unless something inappropriate is happening to the child then there is no age limit.
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If the child is comfortable itās fine itās her dad
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When sheās not comfortable anymore
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Itās fine unless heās a freakin pedo
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It should never be inappropriate.
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Umm im 40 and i still jump in my daddy of 75 year olds bed for comfort and daddys cuddles always have and forever will well until my mum kicks me into my own bed the hater ass beeetch 
but if u feel somethings not right then get rid of the dad on the asap
I stopped sleeping with my dad when i was about 6.
So let me ask you this, what age is it inappropriate for a son to sleep with his mum? If the answer is itās never inappropriate then the question should never be asked about father and daughter.
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My husband and 13 year old are having a sleepover on the sectional sofa right now. She didnāt leave our bed until she was 10. Whatever age feels right for child imo
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My mom worked nights so my brother and I weāre probably 12 (him) and 10 (me) when we quit sleeping with our dad during the week. On the weekends we slept in our own beds it was just during the week. I donāt think he wanted to be alone in there cause I never remember him telling us no. I think if everyone in your household is comfortable with the situation then thatās what matters
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Shouldnāt even start it as kids need to sleep in there own bed
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My kids sleep in their own bed unless nightmares or scared. My two year old sleeps with us more than she should. I donāt think Iād be bothered if they wanted to sleep with him as long as it wasnāt all the time
Never wtf Iām about to turn 30 and still snuggle my dad on the couch when I get the chance. Why are things like cosleeping and affection towards your parents so ācontroversialā to some people?
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When ever she decides , not sure why this would be questioned . Lol
I know I took naps when my dad did up until I was like 9 ish .
Then when I was 20 and had a late shift at work I would be dropped by my fiancee at my parents way too early and sometimes I would crawl in bed beside my dad who was snoring like a bear and pass out for an hour before my shift close by . Lol
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When/if either of them feel uncomfortable I guess. Idk, usually kids will eventually want to sleep in their own bed anyway. I donāt think it would ever be āinappropriateā unless they had no clothes on or something
If the father isnāt behaving inappropriately, why would it ever be inappropriate?
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I think whenever the child decides they no longer want to share a bed?
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Also as long as my babies want to curl up in bed beside me and make me their safe place they can and will be always welcomed .
3 years or 13 or even 30. Lol
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When the child wants to stop. Age doesnāt matter. Itās down to when the child wants to. X
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