His daughter … Be thankful he’s actually being a father
Some of them don’t help their kids , they allow the mother to do it all
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You’re taking this far beyond proportion…
Have you even had kids before lol
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First question is is how old is the daughterseco d is if she’s younger than 6 I wouldn’t worry about it
Ask the little girl how she feels about it? If it bothers her. Don’t come to fb with this shit tell her mom if you think he’s harming that little girl and leave his ass. Tf?
Okay so I’m not going to bash you for thinking it’s a little weird. But I will say that daddies are very different with their daughters. And sadly if he was a woman- n it was a son- there wouldn’t be anything weird about it. Maybe she’s scared of the dark n needs help in the shower. I would definitely say something to him if you are that uncomfortable with it. Maybe offer to help her in the shower or something. Men get morning wood- doesn’t need they are turned on. That’s just a natural thing. Now if he had a boner while helping her in the shower- that would be a little different. Every parent is different. I wouldn’t exactly call you jealous. But I do think you may be reading into it a little bit. Just have a conversation with him
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My daughter is 10 and still cosleeps with us when she wants (usually once or twice a week. Sometimes less, sometimes more) and I still help her do her hair in the bath/shower. 
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Myself personally, cut showers off with my son at 2yo, and I stopped “helping” him at 6yo. He also slept with us until he was 3yo
Do I smell grapes? Because I’m sensing you’re a bit jelly…
That’s his baby girl, and she will ALWAYS come first in his life. Something that you as the gf will need to understand and get used to if you want the relationship to work! Just my opinion, girl!
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Ehh at least he cares about the child, my first child’s dad dipped out like a loser. I was thankful to find someone to be great father to him and have him in the bed for a little bit. Yours may be having the baby in bed more often because sex is being offered less so he figures why not have the child in the bed, try being more sexual before bedtime and see if that helps, idk 
My 11 year old son sleeps with me every single night and I wouldn’t have it any other way… until he feels comfortable and safe enough to sleep on his own he will continue to sleep with me… and I don’t care who likes it or not…he feels safe with me…he keeps his foot on my leg all night long…
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It’s literally impossible for any of us to determine what motivates his behavior
True not all dads are perverts BUT some are
Try talking to HER and seeing how she feels about the shower help
If she says she doesn’t need or like it then talk to him
If she says inappropriate things are taking place do NOT talk to him, go directly to the police WITH HER to report it
If I read the comments correct the daughter is only 2?! You shouldn’t have any concerns then …
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Keep making this an issue and you’ll find yourself single
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The best thing that man can do is get him and his children far away from this crazy lady!
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Don’t believe this. Sounds like a father being a dad, you being jealous. Kids are different she may need more than the brother. Who are to judge. And if it’s a real issue why you asking facebook?
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I don’t blame you for being concerned. Too many situations like this get swept under the rug as normal behavior and then the kid realizes they were being molested not nurtured and they end up in therapy.
Leave him alone. He’s a dad. Sounds like a jealousy issue… Grow up
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There is no cut off?
Its whenever the child doesnt want to sleep in Dads bed, and same with showering. Its whenever the child is uncomfortable with it, I dont see anything wrong with it at all. If it was a mum with her son/daughter we wouldnt be having this conversation. Sounds like he has a great bond with his daughter and you shouldnt step in the way of that.
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Nope, my cut off is 4 years old. They need to learn independent sleeping habits. Expecially after your updated post. She needs her own room. It feels wrong from what your saying.
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I think it is good for kids to sleep alone. Parents letting kids sleep in bed with them is innocent…exceptions being criminal and so sad. I know children always like sleeping with a parent and as a treat it is fine…but kids need to learn independence…and that goes for bathing too…spoiled and pampered comes to mind.
I slept in my dads bed till I was like 12-13 (not exclusively, just when I had a bad dream or woke up and heard a noise) soooooo… I don’t find it weird to sleep in your parents bed for a “long” time 
he finally had to tell me I wasn’t allowed in his bed anymore because I’m to old.
I agree with the others, if it was a mother - son you probably wouldn’t blink an eye at it, if it was a father - son you still probably wouldn’t care, but just because it’s a father - daughter it bothers you…
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I know this is random but are the kids by different mothers ? Like is the little girl from another mom and the son is yours? I seen you said he was a boyfriend so did he have this child before you and y’all have one together? Or nah ?
How old is the child?
Little paranoid huh?? If anything should have a cut off age it’s the shower with daddy’s and daughters. But sleeping in the same bed shouldn’t be a big deal for any age
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Cut off help with showers if they are able to bathe themselves. I’m sorry anyone including family can be child predators so I have zero trust with it. If shes capable there is no reason to shower and sleep together. Sleep sometimes if nightmares but not all the time. To weird
Ok let’s reverse this… mother and son. I bet half of yall thinking this is an issue… it’s no longer an issue. Dad’s can’t even father their children. 
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I’m 18 and I’ll still sleep next to my dad. I do it when I’m not feeling good so leave it alone
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The government has set an age. It is 5. Brothers and sisters even need to have separate rooms at 5. Least in Canada they do
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My partner used to share his bed with his daughter until she was 8 or 9. It wasn’t every night he had her, but some nights she needed daddy. His ex (the one between his ex wife and I) started allegations that he was sexually abusing his daughter. She was a jealous bitter woman. He didn’t see his daughter for a month, which was more damaging for his daughter.
Have a talk with ur man. Explain to him u think it is inappropriate and weird. See what he has to say. And for God sake do not report any bs to anyone until u have proof of anything. DSS will make their lives a living hell and he will end up in prison and the kids will be taken.
I have read the some of the replies the op has said. And to me it sounds like she’s jealous and you better have some damn good evidence to making people think this man is being improper with his behaviour with his child, I’d find myself wondering what type of person YOU are to either accept this behaviour OR be sick enough to imply his relationship with his daughter is indecent!!
My cut off was 3 but never really let my kids sleep with me (I feared rolling over on them) they slept with me when they were sick. I had same issue. With my fh I brang it up to him cuz he let her sleep with us in the begging and. I simply said. I was uncomfortable with it cuz I’m a roller and believe kids belong in there own bed. He said he needed. To wein her down in the prosses I slept on choach cuz I didn’t wanna. Roll on her with in a week she was in her own bed.
My 3 year old still sleeps with me cause she doesn’t want to sleep in her own bed. Pick your battles
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Who tf are you?! Let that man comfort his daughter if you don’t like it you can occupy one of those available beds?
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I mean if you can trust him…you can trust him. Then there should be no question. Everyone has different preferences on sleeping arrangements. If his is to continue to co sleep let it go. It will die down when he sees fit. Are you upset hes not in bed with you? Or does it just bother you hes sleeping with her?
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All I have to say is I hope this is just a dad being a REAL dad. And not sexual assault on a kid.
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I guess me and my so are bad cause both of my kids still sleep in our room not that it’s anyone business y’all are some judgemental bitches
Depends on the kid and what they need
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If it “bothers you”, you shouldn’t be referring to him as your boyfriend? I don’t think there is a certain cut off age if she needs her dad she needs her dad… I mean my son is about to be 1 my daughter is 2 and still sleep with me probably will for quite some time even though they both have brand new beds would I get mad if my soon ex husband did the same? No 
he’s their father just as you’re the mother… if YOU would comfortably sleep or bathe or even bathe with the child (or your own of the same age since I’m assuming you’re a step parent) then why can’t dad?
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I wouldn’t want my ex husband helping my 8 year old daughter shower. That’s a bit weird to me. But I would suggest probably not going straight to FB with this. If you’re uncomfortable you need to ask yourself why you’re uncomfortable. My perception on anything to do with my own children and my overprotective nature towards them are based on the fact I was molested as a child. So everything seems suspicious to me. Now another woman may not feel that way because she had different experiences. See what I’m saying? Definitely if you feel something is up… say something. Don’t wait to potentially save a child from abuse but I also wouldn’t be making a huge deal if you’re only jealous of the relationship. There’s a huge difference and once you accuse someone of child abuse especially sexual abuse… dude it’s out there. You can’t take it back.
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Since when is it acceptable for society to make decisions for our children? We as adults like to be held and comforted, do we not? What’s wrong with an innocent little girl sleeping where she clearly feels safe sleeping next to her DAD. Who cares if he helps her shower. Hell, my kids are 8, 6 and 2. Does it make me a sicko that I still help wash my kids’ hair and make sure they are clean? No, because if not- I’d have CPS banging on my door saying that I’m neglecting my children. Does it make me sound like a pedophile that my 2 year old wants to lay next to me in the bath tub when she’s sick because that’s what comforts her? That’s what I have done with her since she was a newborn. Is skin to skin with our newborn children going to be banned next because god forbid you have your naked skin against your child’s? Seriously. Excuse my language but for f$&ks sake- this crap is out of control. Your children will only be children for so long! Hold them, comfort them, teach them what they need to learn through this life. Who the hell cares if your 7 y/o wants to sleep in bed with you- if there’s nothing sexually happening that shouldn’t even be a question- and if it is a question with no reason to question it you need some serious damn help. It’s not normal to sexualize CHILDREN- they are children. They don’t know about that stuff. All they know is what makes them COMFORTABLE AND SAFE. Which 95% of the time, that feeling comes from their PARENTS. File a proper report if it’s truly a concern or move the hell on. 
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my bf was sharing a couch bed with his 8 year old daughter. I think its weird. I have boys i dont think they should be sleeping in bed with me past age of 4 maybe 5
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I assist my 7 y/o (June 17th 8) daughter with her hair IF asked but i do not the boys. My 1 month old showers with me. All 4 sleep with me when they want. My girls are on one side and boys on the other. Youngest are usually closer to me. Michael 13, Ethan 9, Haileigh 8 and Alyxandria 1 month. (Newborn sleeps separately when older kids co sleep). I would help my exbf daughter wash her hair (4) but not shower and only because i am female.
I still have my 11 and 6 year old sons in bed most nights and we do shower swaps completely naked i dont think its a problem
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If the girl isnt comfortable then worry
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Hold on: how old IS his daughter??
Also when she is showering… walk in unexpectedly. See what’s up. I mean if you want to know, investigate. It’s simple. If you have a moment alone with the child, ask her about it. My daughter is 7 almost 8. She can articulate enough at this point to tell you what’s up if something is. That or ask him outright. I mean don’t expect a relationship after that because more than likely he isn’t going to take it well. Who would? You feel like that for a reason. Ask yourself why. If you’re jealous, that’s on you. And not too cool to be honest. If you aren’t, then you need to figure out if something is up.
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7 is too old to be co sleeping or showering with opposite sex parents. DHS has said it is time to stop that by age 3-4. They wouldn’t let me sleep in bed with my mom when I was 7 so they definitely wouldn’t want daughter to sleep or shower with dad that long. I’d be afraid of something going on between him and her. If she’s sleeping next to gf not him it might be different, but DHS still doesn’t allow it when they should have their own beds. Young girls who grow up with dad might not know if anything is wrong if they get used to it. I don’t trust men and little girls since my stepdad tried watching porn in front of me and touched my back, I was smart to run.
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My question is how old is this kid. If past 6 should damn straight be in her own bed. He should be sleeping with his partner. Ive been through this and i have kids and they have beds they sleep with me if they are sick or scared not every night and they are only 3 and 4.
bitch … he’s a father. a real man whom loves his daughter. You’re mixing love with some sexual deviance obviously. Get some help.
I helped my son through kindergarten with shampooing his hair only because he either wouldn’t wash it or wouldn’t get all of shampoo rinsed out but that was it… I was in there long enough for his hair and back out.
I don’t believe in an age limit. Each child is different, and therefore, shouldn’t be put into a box. However, my son is 7, and still sleeps with me more often than not.
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My boys are 3 and 4. And idc if they sleep in my bed with me. I mean they can shower by themself they’re good about it.
There is no age limit. Some ppl just have that connection and INNOCENT relationship with their parent.
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My son is 7 and every now and then he sleeps with me, not seeing the issue of ur kids sleeping in bed with u parents co sleep all the time also he can do his own shower once in awhile he will call me into help but that being said I dont make nakedness a huge deal the more we make it a major issue the more they make it a big deal. If the daughter is comfortable and there are no concerns then there shouldnt be a big deal or annoy u that’s his daughter kids come before pissy gf over small issues in my book
This whole thing is just crazy. My kids girl and boy sleep In bed with me and their Dad. This whole thing sounds off like your either super paranoid or you’ve actually seen something. If you don’t have anything solid dont assume. That can make a very ridiculous situation out of NOTHING.
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Let him love his daughter. Life is too short and these few years we have where they actually WANT to cuddle us need to be taken while you still can. Very soon she will be too old to want to cuddle in bed and watch movies with you and too coll to be attacked with kisses before bed and be seen with you much in public. Our children grow up waaayyyy too fast not to give them every ounce of love you have while you can. If thats HIS daughter then let him love HIS daughter.
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Hang on, so its alright for a mum to sleep in bed with her kids but not a dad?? Fucking jesus. That’s his daughter. If you even thought for a second that he was abusing her why the fuck would you be with him anyway?? That’s his daughter
Our daughter is 8 and she’s whining herself from our bed like our Pediatrician suggested. But she showers alone except when it’s time to wash her hair and I do that.
At whatever age they start to care. My 10 year old son started covering his junk from me at about 8 years old. I respected that and started giving him his privacy. My 6 year old daughter has no problem running through the damn house butt naked so no problem with Dad helping her wash her hair in the shower. And if something bothers them at night they crawl into bed with us or with each other. As long as they are comfortable doing it I wont stop them.
I dont sleep with my son and hes almost 3. I have a few times but i like to sleep with my boyfriend and my son is a bed hog. He likes to play when he sleeps in my bed. So i dont let him
Depends on the child. I have two autistic children that are 9(boy) and 6(girl) that still need assistance with washing, but I give them baths not showers. My boy just needs me to wash his hair now since he fears water going over his face.
My husband sometimes has to help my seven-year-old daughter wash her hair if I am not home she can wash everything else by herself but needs a little help with her hair but he does not sleep in the bed with her and he’s only in there long enough to wash your hair and get out
Im guessing its a crime for her being concerned. Is all this is and i need more info
I dont let my kids sleep with me and never have as newborns yes but I was always afraid of crushing them. Secondly I feel as parents we aren’t gonna be around when their older they will have to sleep alone then unless they have a significant other.If my kids are sick I have let them . My philosophy is we are raising little humans to be bigger humans and eventually adults so we have to teach them how to do things like sleep on their own wash their hair etc. I think you should say something lastly I think there could be more to the story my opinion.
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To be clear… this is HIS child? Why is it questioned…just because he’s dad? If this was mom not a brow would raise. Ladies not all dads have sick minds…smh
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There was times at 20 years old I’d wake up and go lay down with my parents cuz they have a memory foem bed 
lmao theres no age limit. My step daughter wakes up in the middle of the night and crawls in between me and her daddy
This is a legitimate concern. In my opinion as soon as they are physically coordinated enough to shower, bathe, or clothe themselves they should on their own. This includes sleeping in their OWN bed
It’s like anything else. Would you still wipe your kids ass at age 10 just because they didn’t want to do it themselves? No.
We’re raising future adults here…not codependent kids that can’t do anything on their own.
I agree with you on this one. It’s out of line and needs to be addressed ASAP
My children always slept in there own beds ever since they were born it’s one of those things you just don’t start at all but you make them feel comfortable in there own bed
My 12, 11, 9, 4, and 2 yo would probably be overjoyed with a family bed…
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My daughter is 5. We still help her with washing her hair.
I hate how everyone’s mind instantly goes to “he is a sexual predator to his child” 
ever think he actually just loves spending his time with his kid so he likes having her close while he has her?
I showered with my best friends little sister a few times (she was 6 I was 16 and lived with them) because she was horrified of the shower, after a few times of showering with someone with her she could actually shower on her own without being scared of the water hitting her face. Sometimes it’s pure innocence and people’s minds just spin it in disturbing ways, unless you have real reason to believe this is wrong or you have seen something leave him to love his daughter, they won’t want to be cuddled forever…
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My son is 15; he still on occasions jumps into my bed (especially nights he is sick). My daughters are 11 and 10 and every second weekend and school holidays it is litteraly ‘take turns’ in my bed and the other sleeps on a mattress on the floor.
Hell I’m 40 and when I go home I still some nights curl up with my mum in her bed.
But that’s my family and our dynamics. There is nothing sinister or inappropriate about it. Respect his routines and parenting; it his bond and his child and it their relationship they are building (which honestly is on track to be the best daddy and child bond).
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Maybe like 10? I dont know same as it would be if it was a mother and daughter. As long as hes not a nasty pedophile I dont know why it’s a question
My son sometimes sleeps w me. Not everyone night but sometimes. He is 6
He’s her dad. Its fine.
Both my girls still climb in bed with me and their dad. They are 5 and 7! I have no regrets. I love snuggles from them. They grow up so fast. I feel bad for the people who say they do not allow their kids in their bed. One day they will turn 12 and want nothing to do with you and not need help anymore either
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Is he sick, in the head ?
It seems you’ve left a couple important pieces of information out. How old is his daughter? Is it her who wants to sleep in his bed? And why, is it because she is afraid/nightmares etc. or is it him bringing her in to his bed? If it seems odd to you then there’s a reason?And a three-year-old is very capable of doing much of her own bath with verbal cues. Kids at that age need to be encouraged to do as much as that kind of stuff as possible for them selves
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My son is 8 and still sleeps with me
My question is do u think he is a weirdo an if so why u with him but I see nothing wrong with it as long as he aint making her
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Most men wake up with a morning hard on , it’s not from being horny it’s from having to pee🙄 you are seriously sick to be bringing this up. If you were too concerned you wouldn’t be on FB complaining, better yet I doubt you would date a man who acted weird around his daughter. It’s very normal for a man to love his daughter and want to show his love and just because he does so doesn’t make him wrong. I was a daddy’s girl and slept with my dad
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It’s none of your business how your BOYFRIEND parents his child.
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I find it weird that you find that weird?! Would you find it weird if it were both of your guy’s daughter?
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it’s his daughter. if he still wants to be close to her. let him be. i know people with kids who are like 7 or 8 and they once in a while let them sleep in their bed if they have bad dreams but everyday type bed i guess depends. if they sleep thru the night. leave him/her in their own bed. shower help… my son is 2. i roll my pants up and help him shower.
I was still getting into bed with my dad when I was 11, had baths with him til I was about 9… He’s my dad! He was my primary source of love and comfort. It stopped when I didn’t want to anymore. I think the fact it bothers you is more important here. Why does it bother you? Explore that feeling.
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My dad was a single father. He helped me shower and bathe up until I had a problem with it, which was about 5 and I started wanting privacy and I believe it hurt his feelings because he realized I was growing up. Wanting to help his child and holding her is about him wanting to feel needed in her life. And I slept in bed with him every night until I was 8…And even after that, I did occasionally until I was 13. He held me in his arms every time until his arms got numb and hurt because I was too big and heavy. My father adored and spoiled me and it was never anything sexual about it. Just a single father loving his child for 2. And as you can see on my profile, we cuddled even after I was 18 and had children of my own. A bond with a daughter and a single father is a special one. My dad was the first man I ever loved and I thought he hung the moon.
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After the age of 1 there not supposed to be in the same bed with the opposite sex cps rules
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Some Mums sleep with their son or daughter for a while. Why should it be any different to a father? My question is why does it bother you? Sometimes single dads have to be mothers too. I’d probably be careful on how you handle this situation with him unless you have a valid reason for being concerned! Sorry hun.
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Lol why does that bother you? Are you concerned he’s a perv? also how old is his little girl? I’m sure it’s innocent
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It doesn’t matter what people think about that. My son is 30 and n when I’m in florida he sleeps on the couch with me. He is her dad. Would u feel better if she was a he? I don’t mean to sound harsh, but if u have a problem with it then leave.
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As long as he’s not molesting her it shouldn’t be a problem lol it’s ok for dad’s to show affection to their children
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Sounds like ur jealous. Go home.
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There’s no law against bed sharing whether ppl find it appropriate or not is a different subject. (i share with my kids whenever they want, dad works over night but even in days he’s off they manage to get into our bed) Unless this person has reason to believe he is doing anything wrong then she should leave him and speak up. Other than that, it’s his daughter wanting to cuddle up with dad. And showering, i have 3 daughters 2 very sport active girls ages 7 & 9 and I’ll still wash thier hair if i need to. If im not available Thier dad is. If i had any doubt that he would do anything to them i wouldnt stick around. This lady is painting her bf to be a monster, and who knows , maybe she has other reasons. But I’d help her if she needs it if you don’t want him to. And to the other moms who cut off helping thier kids at such a young age in the shower, i seen alot of the posts that ppl put are about getting rid of lice and other problems (rashes,bites, ect)cause parents think thier kids are fully capable at such a young age to maintain thier own hygiene.
My son is 3 and still sleeps in mine and my husband’s bed… she is just a baby they are only little for so long… she just wants to be close to her daddy… sounds like ur a little jealous… my son also takes showers with me once in awhile too but he mainly takes them either by himself or with his father
Hmm. I bed share with my 4 and 5yr old. My 14 yr old pops up every now and then. My kids find comfort in me and I would NEVER take that away from them.
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my 2 girls 7 and 3 both climb in with me 5 out of 7 nyts
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Ain’t no woman that should get between a father and his daughter. He sounds like a great father and you sound like you either need to get with the program or if you can’t handle it leave. Sad you jealous over his daughter… That is his number one. You come second.
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10 or when the child initiates independence.
Would you be questioning the same thing if it was a mother with her daughter or son ? Probably not .
I slept in my parents bed forever until they finally kicked me onto the floor I just preferred it over my own room because my anxiety . But even after they split up I slept in my dads room sometimes my mom always did the bath stuff so I don’t have an opinion on that but I think as long as the child needs help , it’s okay . There are kids out there who only have fathers and the dad has to do all of that stuff
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