Hey moms with more then one baby daddy so my oldest kid has his dads last name my middle son has my last name cuz he decided he didn’t want to be a dad anymore I am currently pregnant with my boyfriends baby and it’s been a family fight on both sides of our family’s about the last name and I was wondering is it a bad thing if I gave the baby his last name ? Yes If I did I would have 3 kids 3 different last names the dad is also asking for baby the get his last name so his family name will live on what would y’all do ?
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I mean how I see it if he wants to be apart of you child’s life give him his last name you can always change it no matter what and not bad to have 3 different last names no shame
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My daughter’s oldest son has her last name because his father is absent in his life completely since birth. My daughters second child has her father’s last name. If the baby you’re expecting as a father who is not only participating now while you’re pregnant but intends to continue participating and being a father onces the baby is born then the baby should have his last name. Like it shouldn’t even be a question in my opinion if he is an active father. And he obviously is, not only during your pregnancy now but intends to continue so after the baby is born.
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Either hyphenate or give the baby your last name. Gave my daughter her dads last name and he skipped out when she was a year old. Now I’m married with 4 kids and we all have the same last name except her and it’s gonna cost me a good bit to go to court to try and have it changed to ours.
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My child’s father and I are not married and I did throw around the idea of giving her my last name just so things would be easier for paperwork. Ultimately, she got her daddy’s last name and it has not been a problem at all. You are that baby’s mother so you give them whatever last name YOU want them to have. You could also hyphenate.
Go with YOUR heart. I have 3 daughters, 2 dads, 3 different last names. My oldest got her Dad’s, 2nd (same Dad) my maiden name, 3rd her Dad’s.
Don’t let anyone make the decision for you. If whatever you decide to do is a mistake, it’s yours. If it’s not a mistake, also on you. Good luck Mommy.
If he’s gonna be involved then i see no problem with y’all’s baby having his last name or you can always give the baby both y’all’s last names.
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It’s your decision no one else’s about the last name. I have 1 question does he want his name on the birth certificate???
My oldest has my lastname, my second has his father’s last name and my two youngest have their fathers last name. 4 kids 3 lastnames.
Doesn’t make a difference. Give the kid their dad’s lastname. He’s asking for it, so not like he doesn’t want the kid…
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I know a family that has two kids, with dads last name and one kid with moms last name-all same dad. My kids have all my last name,same dad. My other friends kids have all diff dads, they all have different last names.In any and all choices you make regarding your Child’s name…. is your choice! I say give baby dads last name! Don’t worry about what others may think. There is no “normal” way anymore!! Hope that makes u feel a little better lol 
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If you think he will be a good dad then yah give the baby his last name. But really it doesnt matter at end of the day all that matters is you treat them good & love them, a name is only a name
Ok my oldest me and his dad fought over it so we decided to give him both you can hyphenate the last name and give him both last names my oldest daughter different dad has her dad’s last name and my younger two I’m still with their dad 7 years now has his last name all I can say is if it’s an argument give the kid both last names compromise and everyone’s happy in a way and my older son can now choose which last name he goes by or if he wants to go by both he usually chooses mine just because he likes my last name it’s an animal
Hyphenate his last name with yours. One sister’s kids all have different last names but my 3 kids (3 different fathers) have my last name. Our other sister’s 3 kids have two different last names. Life happens and it’s becoming more common to see kids with different last names from each other now.
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Seriously what I would do is stop having babies by every man that you lay down with, without commitment but that is just me.
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If anything give the baby a hyphenated last name of both your last names… I gave my son his fathers last name and now his father isn’t in the picture and I can’t change my sons name… think of EVERY thing before making your decision. Key word: YOUR decision.
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If the father is going to be in baby’s life then the baby gets his last name. You could also hyphenate and do yours then his.
I always give my children there fathers last name my first 4 chikdren i was with there father 10 years and my second kids father has always been a good friend we got together 2 yesrs ago and its a boy ill be making him a jr
Give the baby your name or a hyphenated name. My kids have different fathers, two have their dads names, one has mine. I think it would have been better to give them all mine. My last name is hyphenated and has both my parents last names.
If the father is in the picture he deserves the kid to have his name.
My first 2 kids have their dads last name. My 3rd has mine. They all have the same the same dad but he wasn’t in the picture for the 3rd
Also, people say hyphenate it… DONT. My last name is Delyria - Villasenor & I till this day,hate it!
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My son has my last name. My other two kids have the same dad. First daughter has dads last name & second daughter has my last name.
My son girlfriend has three kids. Older has her last name. Next had her ads last name and my grandbaby has my son last name. They really don’t get hung up on last names. I consider them all my grandkids and they are brothers and sisters. They are a family. The two older ones now have siblings with their dads and they call them brothers but they are half brothers. The ones that live together mot if the time consider themselves brother and sister no halves. The new baby with my son has really connected them all together. My son has been with the mom longer than the other two dads. The baby just brought them all closer. Names don’t really matter. They don’t really talk about it.
My eldest 3 have their dads name, my 5 year old has mine and any babies with my current partner would have his name x
In some states if paternity is established the father can petion the court to change it whether you want to or not
Growing up, my mother, my siblings and me all had different last names. If you feel like your boyfriend will actually be present then give the baby his last name or possibly hyphen it
Unless there’s a terribly unsafe or precarious situation going on, I’d give them dad’s last name.
Why don’t you double barrell their last name? So my daughter has my last name as I’ve raised her since birth on my own, me and my partner have had my second his first child together and I couldn’t leave my daughter with a different surname to my son so me and my partner agreed on double barrell so now both my children have the same last name, except my son also has his dad’s on the end x
Give the baby the daddy’s last name he wants it to so obviously cares and who cares 3 to 3 different dads but its his kid so only fair to carry dads last name
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I always give my children there dads masy
Hyphenate it. My oldest 2 have hyphenated last names so they have both. One day they can choose which one they want.
I would give them all your maiden name /baby daddy name.
If he’s active in the baby’s life then give the baby his last name
Don’t do it unless your married in my opinion.
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If it’s not my last name, I’m not giving it to my child. I paid $500 to chnage my son’s name since his dad didn’t do shit. Never again will I give a child a name, that has not been given to me. I’d give both with mine as the main last name.
My kids (2)have the same dad and all together her has 4…my 2 are the only ones with his last name…the way I look at it they are his kids no matter what happened with us🤷♀️
Give the baby the dads last name. They don’t have the same fathers so they don’t have to have the same names.
Your last name until you get a ring…
Oldest mine middle ex husband youngest ex fiancée
Go with what you want. In my house I currently have 2 kids (am 7 months pregnant). My oldest has his dad’s last name, my middle has her dad’s last name and when my youngest is born he’ll have his dad’s last name (the 2 youngest have the same dad) so in my house there’s going to be 5 people with 3 last names
Give it the dad’s last name