This is probably the stupidest question you’ll read today but the way I am bothers me so much. I love my mom, I respect my mom and her advice, but how do I stop feeling like I HAVE to do what she says. A little history ; she has been there for my child & I since the beginning. My daughters dad went to prison so we stayed with her, she helped me get everything I needed and more for my daughter, etc. So it’s mainly just been us 3, I always took her advice for my daughter because she was all I had. My husband (my daughters dad) has been out of prison for 2 years now. The 4 of us have moved out state, which means we all live together. My mom pays majority of the bills but we do give her our parts. I feel as though because I normally just listen to her, I get myself into situations I really don’t want instead of telling her how I want things. Shes very close minded… & gets upset when I don’t follow her advice. I just feel like she peer pressures me. I do appreciate her input but I feel like it should be my husband and myself making decisions, not me making decisions on my own listening to my mom. For example, we did not want our daughter going to pre-K. It’s not required & just not something we wanted to do. My mom comes in & doesn’t even ask about if we’re going to put her in pre-K it’s just “so what do you need to enroll her” “she needs to go to pre-k so you can work too” & basically just not caring what we want. I ended up complying and I enrolled her into pre-k, my husband was constantly not approving of this but he never made it an issue with me. Then the night before she started I just broke down crying. I was like why am I doing this? This isn’t what I want. I don’t like her teacher, I don’t like that they don’t have a mask mandate or social distance with the covid variant for her health in general but also mine because I’m pregnant. & was just overall not comfortable with her going. She’s too little still. So today I withdrew her. I did not tell my mom but obviously she’ll find out when she doesn’t go to school tomorrow. Why do I still follow my mom even if I dont like it? A part of me also feels like this because we do live with her. We do pay our parts but it is her house. Any advice welcome.