sending you some love.
He prob calls her QT (cutie) and maybe even met at the QTš¤. He thinks heās clever.
Just know it only gets better for a little while and then heās password protected and still doing his cr*p. Leave or donāt leave. Sorry so blunt
Thats how it begins dear just because your not reading dtf tonight doesnāt mean itās not going to happen his intent is what you shouldnāt forget here
They do this to get compliments back and feel better about themselves. Itās all about attention they want like little children itās not you. Try to to call her and get more info!
Did you know about them texting at all before looking through his phone? If he didnāt tell you anything, then thatās definitely suspicious. But also just the flirting isnāt ok in its self. Heās definitely working up the cheaters ladder if he hasnāt reached the top already.
That sounds like he is taking action and will eventually cheat if he hasnāt already! I would confront him and ask him if he wants to be with you or other people because you wonāt stand for a liar and a cheat.
There is something definitely going on.
My husband did this shit for several years. I finally gathered enough evidence and kicked him out 2 weeks ago. You know whatās going on. And it wonāt ever stop. When they cross that line, they keep going.
Cheating just donāt have too be kissing and sex hun
Emotional cheating
Mental cheating a thought laid is thought done.
So maybe go to her as well not just youāre husband it has to be both ends understanding you are here
Text her on his phone and say by the way Iām married to see her reaction.
Leave his lyin cheatin ass! Itāll never stop! Run! Know your worth!
I just ended my relationship because of thisā¦I would love to know why as wellā¦ Are they not getting enough attention from us???
Girl youāre worried about the wrong thing. Youāre worried about why your man is sending a selfie. You need to be worried that your man is fn around! 
Oh he works outta townā¦well hang that one upā¦he wonāt stop heās already doing this with out hesitationā¦it wonāt stop believe me.
Shhhhit girl make your self a fake profile. Hottest girl as pic, message and exchange pictures, ask to meet up and confront that bitch tell him to say cheese, then post that shit too. There is a time to act a little petty. Lol
I think you know the answer to your question already, heās a dog!
Send her a selfie on his phone of youā¦
middle finger up to both of themā¦
They send them to flirt. Your husband is being disrespectful!
If my husband was referring to another woman as QT, I wouldnāt care if he knew how I found out. HE is in the wrong.
Am I reading this right?
Leave him? Heās cheating and itās apparent . Be done
He is after her, get your head out of the sand and put a stop to it.
Unpopular opinion but it isnāt healthy to be the way some of you are.
Men are allowed to have friends of the opposite sex just as we are.
Hell one of my best friends is a guy. My husband knows him & they are friends.
One of my husbands closest friends is a girl.
Selfies really are no big deal, but I certainly donāt call my bestie a QT & he doesnāt call me that.
I honestly do not see how some of you function within relationships. Too controlling, no trust, no individuality. Itās quite sad.
Your husband is cheating on you and you are stuck wondering why guys send selfies???
Can we know how you found out?
Itās the QT circa for me 
The intent to cheat is there whether he has YET or not is beside the point. Heās giving another woman attention and pursuing her. He will turn this all around and blame u for snooping. You are not the blame. Obviously u felt something was off. And your intuition was in fact right. Now itās your time to decide what youāre ok with. His behavior wonāt stop he will just get better at hiding things. After he of course blames you for snooping as well as not giving him enough attention,sex,Compliments etc. you are not to blame. Itās time to stop looking at what u feel for a person or want to be from a person and look at direct actions of a person. Hugs. Hope u find strength and do whatās best for u. U deserve to be happy and this aināt it.
Just tell him you thought he was acting weird so you looked and you saw. Point blank
I swore I just read that heās cheating on you but your tone makes me feel like you YOU donāt know that.
Confront him and get out girl.
This is absolutely the first step to cheating. It doesnāt matter how you found out. Clock him on it. He deserves to reap what he sows.
If she showed interest, and wanted it to go further it absolutely would. Donāt be naive and donāt let him lie to you either. If it looks like a duck, itās a duck.
Doesnāt matter what sheās wearing in the pictures. Heās going behind your back talking to another woman and hitting on her. Nope.
Because he is cheating!!!
The fact that your worried more on hes going to know how you found out then the fact that HE IS CHEATING says a lotā¦ Your not in the wrong here HE IS! So who gives a flying poop how it came to light. Please remember your worth and get out. Its only going to get worse he will just find a way to hide it better. Its gona be hard to leave but trust me so sooooo well worth it in the end! Put the big girl chonees on and CONFRONT ASAP!
Affairs donāt start in the bedroom, they start with conversations. It really doesnāt matter why he sent them, it only matters if you are ok with it. If this is a boundary for you, tell him. I also think it is completely disrespectful for him to be calling any other women sexy and cute in a private manner. This is the first step to an affair. You need to have a long conversation with your husband before it is too late. If this has gone further than pictures, then you need to have a longer conversation with yourself. Can you get past it? Or should you move on? Good luck!
Youāre upset about the selfies? What about him TALKING to another woman!!! Iād be more upset about that
There is no reason a married man should be sending selfies to another woman unless he has āotherā intentions. Call his ass out on it!!!
It does not matter how you found out. You did and he needs to explain himself asap. Donāt let him turn it around on how you found out he was being sneaky. Ask him who his new friend is and why.
Um yāall are married whats his is yours and whats yours is his, it doesnāt matter how you found out, you should be able to ask for his phone any time of the day and he should give it to you without hesitation.
Ask him if you can see his phone, if theres hesitation then thereās something to hide and you have a right to question that.
Yes I do believe privacy should exist in marriage but there are boundaries in that, and If one or the other want to cross those boundaries and disrespect your wishes then maybe marriage is not where yāall should be.
If you feel insecure thats the only reason you should need to sit and talk to him about whats going on in his phone.
Because every man thinks heās all that and a bag of chips and assumes that the selfie will be well-received. I work in Title IX and we have that happen all the time. Frequently in stalking cases where the guy is convinced he can persuade the girl to like him if she just randomly sees him all the time.
Well as I know they send them so they can get seen lol itās cute when someone sends a selfie and yes he is cheating.
If heās entertaining another woman, thatās considering cheating to me. When youāre a married man you can obviously have friendships, but entertaining them through text especially with selfies is extremely inappropriate and disrespectful to you and your marriage.
Iād be more concerned that he is entertaining another woman, while being MARRIED!! And like others said, it does not matter how you found out, the fact remains that he has crossed lines. You need to ask him about it. Cheating starts as emotional/verbal.
Itās not the selfie that would be the issue. His trying to build conversations with her and over stepping boundaries with compliments. X
He is fantasizing about her and wants her to do the same.
Evidentially he is trying to get something started with her!! Geez I think I would def confront him in a calm cool way! Hopefully before he really messes up!
Youāre more worried about the selfie than the fact heās basically cheating on you? Give your head a shake
I wouldnāt worry about how you found out. You found out because youāre smart. He did something wrong. Not you. When he tries turning it around, you need to calmly stand your ground saying that you did nothing wrong here, he did.
Nip it in the bud before it goes any further and tell him this isnāt tolerated. If he feels the urge to even simply flirt with someone else thereās a major problem.
Doesnāt matter how you found out, you found out because there was something to find out. Heās over stepping the mark even entertaining another woman. Communication is key to any relationship so voice your opinions and feelings on the mater. Itās not good to bottle it all up x
Itās an issue for you which means itās something that needs to be discussed openly before he screws you and your kids lives up on a fling that could have actually been avoided by discussing it. But more than likely if he has gone out of town and come back and this is still going on more than likely they have already hooked while out of town if that is in fact where they began their little selfie sharing texts - if you want your marriage to work out without harsh resentment TALK.
I would leave it and keep checking where he is going with it then you will know where you stand. Because once a man starts up with this nonsense and you say something, they will stop talking to that person and be full of sorryās at first, but will lock up all their accounts with new passwords and just start chatting somewhere else and gaslight you in the process
Thatās super inappropriate.
I would / used to send my husband selfies I would take selfies of us
Sounds like youāre jealous that he sends this chick pictures and not you. since apparently thatās all you care about, tell him you know. Why is it so hard for people to communicate?? Yāall donāt have a problem sharing your personal business on social media. Donāt get it.
Print them out if you can & give it to him in a present 
lol im petty though
This is just the beginning tell him that you saw the text and that you donāt appreciate their ārelationshipā but be on the lookout because heās looking to cheat
Doesnāt matter Iāve been on his phone Iāve been married ten years ! I would too
Ugh Iām sorry this is gross and awful. Agreed with most the women here. Heās a pig
I would be less worried about the selfies and more worried that he met someone else and all of a sudden he forgot he is married and his commitment to youā¦ 
Honey if heās THAT comfortable doing that right now who knows how many times heās done it before. Sounds like heās trying to get something started. Yeet that man out the mf window.
Hes cheatingā¦andā¦Youāre worried about selfiesā¦,hmmā¦
You know whatās happening here, men dont just go out of town to see another female when they are marriedā¦.
He is cheating and you NEED to say something to him because thats not ok for him to be talking to her like that. Its one thing to have friends but you dont call your friends sexy unless you want more
Be alert, this is how cheating begins
Who the hell cares ā¦ how you found outā¦
YOUR husband is CHEATING on youā¦ 
Thatāsā¦ cheatingā¦. Iād be more worried about that then him sending selfieās ? Girl come on you deserve better
Iām sure if you have to check on him heās given other reasons to feel like heās cheating. But about confronting him maybe say sheās an old friend and she realized that heās your husband and she decided to let you know about it?
I would make a file folder of everything he says to the woman heās trying to get the attention of so you can use it in court if it comes to that. My hubby said Happy birthday sexy to one girl I went up one-side and down the other of him on that
I guarantee heās met up with her. Time to confront him and be done. Know your worth!
10 years together!!.. BRING THAT UNCOOL SHIT TO ATTENTION BOO!!! KNOW YOUR WORTH BEAUTIFUL!!!
You donāt have to tell him how you found out. Just confront him. You ask the questions, not him.
Iām baffled that heās cheating and you are afraid to call him out. Who the heck cares how you found out!? Good lord, stand up for yourself.
Cheating girlfriendā¦
no excuse
Those saying this is how cheating ābeginsā this is cheating to me. Forming a connection solely based of conversation & personality with no physical or sexual chemistry (yet) is cheating. I wouldnāt disrespect my husband by sending another man a selfie or calling another man sexy or āQTā maybe Iām just different & thatās okay with me.
I would say a girl confronted you with this info. Then see what he does after. Does he text that woman to see if she spoke to you, maybe there is more than one woman? Collect evidence so you can build a case that canāt deny and your can use it if you choose to divorce.
Heās cheating!!!
Iām sorry hun! This is not okā¦ especially married!! Who cares how you found out, thatās not a topic! Heās your husbandš°
Thatās emotional cheating
Sounds like she is not reciprocating it but he is tryna find someone
Wow you have great patience. Heās now your ex and I would tell him or just wait until youāre emotionally ready
Time for you to either step up your game with hubby or get yourself a sexting buddy.
Turnabout is fair play.
If heās doing it then itās ok for you to do it too.
Just make sure you do it in front of him.
Making sure he knows that you can shop around and replace his ass just like heās doing on the downlow.
Life is short. If heās capable of sexting with another woman heāll have no problem sexing another woman.
Step to the plate and be a boss.
If he want to stay married then stay monogamous.
If he wanna eyeball different merchandise, then you start window shopping too.
Do what you did to catch his eye in the beginning, only difference is make his ass work 4 times harder to get the cooch.
Also pull her number from his phone and while you and hubby are sitting in the same room, call her and put it on speaker and tell her who you are and that you know about them.
Then ask her if he can come live with her since thatās where his attention is all the time. And be willing to let that bitch boy go.
Use your āI only want his happinessā voice.
Talk to her like yāall are old friends.
And after that start going out without his janky ass.
Get a piece of life that donāt include him.
Make that mutha fuccka start peeping around corners wondering why youāre smiling when he knows heās not the source.
Yāall have gotten too comfortable in your relationship.
You donāt have to cheat to put a bitch in line. Itās all about perception.
#DontBeAFreeHo
You donāt go out of town, meet someone of the opposite sex and just exchange contact info unless you have intentions of meeting them again. Just saying.
I love this. Why? Because itās true!!
Hes looking for attention to feel possibly attractive or wanted(not placing blame)ā¦ you should talk to him and find out why heās doing this and if something is lacking in your relationship that can be mended. Best of luckā¦ I hope it all works out
My favorite class ever was Probability and Statistical Analysis, it came in handy when I calculated the odds when I was gambling, you have an overwhelming statistical probability that your man is being unfaithful in some manner, proceed with your mind not your heart
Heck, I would text her a picture of the family together and then a picture of his stuff outside and ask for her address because he will be living with her so you will need to know where to send divorce papers.
Heās literally cheating
Itās called cheatingā¦call his ass out and get print outs of the texts for divorce courtā¦always have paper evidence
Even if he hasnāt met her yet heās still cheating. The way heās chatting to her is wrong for a married man. If it was my man Iād have confronted him. If Iām not happy heās gone. Youāll get treated whatever way you allow him to treat you. Have some self value
Yup cheating it is period
Let him go. Iād definitely let him know I know and how I found out before letting him go. Who cares what he says to that??
How to bring it up? Hey so I see you been sending pics to a girl you calling qt. Then let the cookie crumble cause if he cheating he cheating
Itās done behind your back. Itās immoral to do in a relationship/marriage, this is still a form of cheating, plus you donāt know how long itās been going on and he could have deleted all the naughty stuff. Iād confront and then go from there.
That is still cheating. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. It wonāt be the last time it occurs and she might not be the only woman. If it continues he will probably leave you for her.
Just bluntly tell him heās cheating
Gather up all his money and how you can get it
How you find out is irrelevant if the crime was committed.
So what if you were snooping? You were right.
Itās called ask him. Thatās all you can do, if you donāt ask youāre never going to know. He could be doing have a countless other women. Take it from someone who knows.
Your big question is why do guys send selfish?
I mean, my questions would be why does he feel itās okay to message another woman and especially call her sexy, why are you not fazed by that? Why are you not even touching base with the fact hes messaging and sending selfies to another woman he met on vacation?
Heās cheating and youāre only question is why do guys take selfiesā¦ heās taking selfies to send his new booā¦ get rid of him
He is obviously trying to see if other women are interested in him. Unless you have this talk with him,I donāt see it stopping there,either.
He is cheating on you and your worried about him knowing how you found out but yet heās the one that should be worried! How you havenāt ripped hew head off yet is insane there is no way i would be able to contain myself, donāt let him mug you off you deserve better than this pond life, if you ever need a chat message me Iāve been there 