Construction guys work super long hours. Most have no girlfriend or time at home. It keeps them busy mentally from the mundane spackle nail hammer motions. One construction guy randomly sent me photos of his pants down in the porta potty because he was taking care of things either way on the job. guys think they get pent up energy and need the release to refresh their energy during their work day. Some guys say before they start their day they take care of things so they wont be thinking about that and instead can focus on their work- with this belief guys think women should also do this before leaving home to release negative energy and tension to communicate better in the world when they are out.
Disclaimer: I am simply stating what I have observed and heard directly.
You better tell him that if he can have porn then so can you tf or leave
Yeah get the fk outta there! Hes a bitch and if shit hits the fan when you have pork on your phone then definitely get the fk out hes a child and hasnāt grown up yet, find yourself a real man that will watch it with you and then fuck you the best they can afterwards!
If heās having it at work and canāt seem to stop, it could be an addiction. Maybe is is unaware of this and the hurt it can cause the both of you. Maybe see if he would be willing to see a therapist to find out the reasons behind his need and desire while at work
Red flag pay attentionā¦
Itās constructionā¦ all men show each other dirty or shocking shit all day long.
Itās disgusting and men who do that are cheaters facts!
Maybe see if he would watch it with u. Not while at work. Make it about u guys. Spice things up
Perhaps heās watching Russian midget porn or his into nugget people porn
sounds like a lack of respect for u sadly
Men who are obsessed with porn eventually need to watch it to get an hard D I had a boyfriend who had to do that every time I felt uncomfortable and I asked him sometimes if we could just be us and he wouldnāt get a hard D. Eventually it fks with their brain so much they canāt be without it.
Porn addiction! I feel itās their only way to feel in control is to control if their partner is watching it because they have no control over their own addiction!
I will never understand why porn bothers people. Itās not like they are meeting the person after work lol I donāt get it
Him n his buddies probably look and laugh together
sleep with his friend
It might be bothersome but construction is a stressful job, and that can be considered a stress reliever I guess? Maybe heās just blowing of some steam in the Porta potty.
Watch porn together
Sounds like a possible porn addiction otherwise really itās not your business and neither is it his .
Jeeze, watch it with him. I watch it with my husband. It actually turns the both of us on and makes sex fucking fantastic!!!
Porn addiction is sadly very common. The fact he goes batshit at you for looking at it is a major red flag of a controlling, or potentially controlling, partner. You have choices; accept it, offer to watch it with him, or leave.
What do you mean āif I ever haveā¦ā like he shames you? If so, leave him.
Maybe you can do your own pictures and send them to him. If he āneedsā it looking at your pictures would be better for yalls relationship. Just a suggestion
I dated a guy like this a few years back he freaking loved porn after 2 years of dating we moved in together 3 days after that as Iām laying in bed naked hes in the other room jerking off to some porn, I was so freaking madā¦ I should have left then ā¦ because red flags everywhere. U got your girl in the next room naked and looking at other peopleā¦ its one thing to look at itā¦ but the real question isā¦ is he still having sex with youā¦ if not then time to go
He clearly needs to get his nails doneā¦.
I think thats every manā¦ Even friends to friends.
Am I the only one thatās like āhow does she know when heās watching and how many times? Are you tracking and checking?ā
Iām more bothered by THAT truly.
Works both waysā¦ Let him be. Keep your porn and a new best friend in your drawer. Yea! See how he feels. Then you can hit him with it if he gets mad at you.
My supervisor was fired for having porn on his computer
The real question is why he doesnāt feel its fair for you to also look at porn? Seems like the porn itself isnāt the issue here.
Thats super trashy in sorry girl I would be devastated to suffer the same situation. Iāve had a few times I see porn on his phone but a handful of timesā¦ and when im not home. But I let him know exactly how it makes me feelā¦ insecure. And I cant help that either. So we have tried watching together and so far its working okā¦ I wish all attention was on me but it must be too much to ask. not like heās very attractive or in shape but im suppose to act like heās āgodā
. So I told him if u donāt want me to see it ā¦ please delete it. It hurts me more when I find itā¦ we donāt hide our phones from each other so If I need to search something and his phones near. I use it. And sometimes I see something I dont like and it will eat me all day till I say something. I hate men
if this one donāt work out im done dating
If he can do something he says you arenāt allowed to do then leave him in the rear view.
Uh leaveā¦ you said bf? Yeah bounce.
Honestly itās a guy thing I mean obviously not all guys are like that but I have had a few boyfriends in The past where they literally just critique the whole movie like theyāre not even really getting enjoyment from it they really are just either laughing or basically just saying how that girls hot I mean itās harmless really unless he does really have a problem
Yall got to realize sheās lying & doing this for clout. Literally 1 or 2 days ago she made a post that she was single. I mean how many life problems does one person have. I feel like she does this cause this is the only thing that gets comments and likes for her page
Thatās crazy. I watch porn,
My hubby watches porn, sometimes we watch it together but itās not extreme. If itās hurting the relationship then itās def a problem
If it bothers you then leave the relationship because heās no the one for you.
Yea at work is a little excessive. Porn is normal, but it sounds like he has a major addiction.
Hes not cheating sooooo
He might just be looking at it. While heās on lunch or with his buddies.
It doesnāt nessessary mean heās beating his meat lol
So he is a control freak. Also does double standards. Me personally I would leave. It will just get worse.
What is he doingā¦watching it??? Why does him watching strangers being paid to have sex bother you tho
why do you two know so much about whatās in eachothers phone? sounds like thereās more issues than porn!
Itās more common than youād think, but it doesnāt make it any better. The simple fact that youāre ānot allowedā to do the same thing he does is telling though. Neither activity is conducive to a healthy relationship. Get out.
Say youāll stop when he does
My ex used to watch porn and wanted me to watch it too but not my thing but alot of men do so if heās not seeking sex from other women you might just want to learn to accept it and move on. Plus maybe heās looking for ways to please you more too! Good luck
I think if anyone is at work that should not be what theyāre doing. Whatās okay for one should be okay for the other. But do it on your own time.
No one wants to see anyone happy any more lol geeez
Sounds like your boyfriend is a narcissistic pos!
He has no respect for you if he does it after youāve said it upsets you. If he has a double standard for you. And disrespect doesnāt not EVER equal love. Period. Move on.
Whilst I donāt care about porn in relationships. I donāt think itās cheating either. But what I didnāt like about what you said is that itās alright for him but not for you. He is not your boss nor does he have the right to tell you that you canāt look at it or even love yourself with it. Especially if he gets off on it aswell
Some men legit need puss or to bust one everyday, I personally find it annoying and gross bc I can go forever without it lmfao with zero effort but men will always want it, always, itās in their genes, their bones lmfao itās their foundation sadly . But for him to be doing that at work, is more concerning for others than ANYTHING, especially working construction, let me find out the roads I drive & buildings I go in and out of mess up when I come along and itās bc some dude wants to pay more attention to porn than his job, thatās dangerous at the end of the day, even if heās not literally watching it while working, if itās on his mind it can easily distract him from work.
What guy doesnāt have that on their phone at some point. So whatā¦. Itās a dude thing and doesnāt mean they are ācheatingā or looking for something better. The sooner yāall girls realize that the better off yāall will be
#isaidwhatisaid
Sounds like he might have an addiction If he canāt go the work day without it. An issue like that will only snowball.
Bye!! Sounds like olā boys got an addiction to porn. To me, thatās cheating, heās fantasizing about what heās lookin at, and it aināt you. Leave his ass and let him have his fuckin porn
It could be worseā¦ā¦ā¦ he could have a girlfriend
Dude I literally work with a guy who watches porn on his phone daily. Bosses all know. Nothing gets done. Heās so desensitized to it it doesnāt even make him hardā:nauseated_face: definitely addicted
Why are these kind of questions on FB?
Pornography is harmful. Get it completely out of your life.
I would be really mad if he does it and I canāt. Like if you can satisfy your meat at work or wherever you are doing it at then I get to Satisfy my kitty too if he canāt stop then you shouldnāt either. Tell him you did now itās my turn
He sounds addicted to porn and possessive
Im in this same EXACT situation. Following
Sex addict, I dated a guy that constantly looked at porn even caught him satisfying himself several times. Seem to be all he thought of was sex. Would never admit that he had a problem with sex but it was very obvious that he was an addict.
I guarantee you not all men do that. Your guy sounds addicted.
Because a real person requires interaction
I have no problem with porn at all. Strip clubs if I comeā¦.
He will get out of it. Most were there.
Turn off and not a one way streetā¦ time to LEAVE
The fact that he thinks itās OK for him to do it but not you is a huge red flag.
Okay i would just say ok no problem have porn on your phone but I will also be having porn on mine and I best not hear a single word about it ! Set your screen saver to a buff hung stud
Heās definitely Addicted. Get out now before you find out more then you already have. My ex husband had the same issue. When I finally realized & took it seriously he had went from just watching porn to having phone sex & sending videos to random chicks he didnāt know & then cheated. And let me tell you it doesnāt matter who they are, how old they are or what they look like! He had a boss at work who was openly gay who gave him this āgirls phone numberā that he was texting & sending sexual videos toā¦. When I fought him and he told me how he ādidnāt know her & never met herā but he got her number from his gay boss I was like āumm you didnāt think that was wired huh? You could possibly be sending your dick pics & jerking off for your boss you dumb fuck!ā
GET OUT NOW!
Good question. Iāde say between ages 16-25, in the 90ās and early 2000ās being young and going through puberty as well as external influence ābeing coolā was a typical senerio. I was sexually active at a young age and had a kid when I was 17. Negitive Influences were alot more back then. And coming from a single parent home morals and spirituality wasnāt a first priority. I looked at porn or a naked women as āMan I canāt wait to try this when Iām olderā. After break-upās and infidelity it took time to respect my self, my partner and my whole outlook on life. Fortunately in this modern growing world the life choices for our youth are so much more keyed for education and growth! This is a great thing. If youāre in a monogamous relationship and respect the person your with as well as respecting your self, environment and others then worst thing to do is taint your spirit and state of wellbeing by introducing Negativity in your life. If your looking at Trashy Pictures at work then obviously sheās not enough for you. If sheās ok with it then well Trash donāt fall too far from the canā¦
So many problems here but the main one is that he thinks itās OK for him but not her which means itās not an equal relationship. Something needs to change, girl.
Give him the ultimatumā¦ me or porn. I feel he may have an addiction due to the fact heās constantly watching it even at work.
No wonder why these construction jobs take so damn long lmao
Because heās a manā¦and he thinks with his other head.period.
Some men **
Sounds like heās not being well satisfied OR he has an addiction OR he may not feel as attracted to you as he use to. Can be many things. He may even feel unattractive himself If this isnāt an adult conversation you can have with one another? I wouldnāt even waste my time honestly
The real issue here is the double standard he holds you to. Sounds like he has an addiction
This really beats meā¦why do people like to watch other people having sex. Canāt they enjoy with their partnerās!/wife gf. Not like they need to be motivated.
He sounds like he as an addiction .
Guys send each other pictures n posts n jokes itās just a thing they do -worked wiith many in dispatching trucks -not sure about porno stuff n why?
Itās not the porn thing that gets to me however more the point that itās OK for him but not for you is a massive red flag, I would cut cord and leave. Sounds like he isnāt immature even to have a relationship. Best of luck
Either heās really having an addiction and need therapy, or heās just low class. If itās the latter, then itās hard to fix because heās gonna disrespect you in other ways as well
Iām confused on why heād do that at work alsoā¦I donāt have an answer
Heās in construction. Builders just like that
Sounds like a porn addiction.
Most men do not watch porn at work they are too busy actually working! Plus you can be fired for shit like that.
Obviously has a sex Addiction and youāre going to be cheated on if you already havenāt been
Honestly I would offer him a threesomeā¦ Or something because itās not gonna go away
Look, thatās not something that I focus on on. I donāt know if my husband has it on his phone because Iām not looking through his phone. I do remember that before we got married he had a āslewā of old Playboy-like magazines on his coffee table, bedroom and in his guest closet. I never said a word and slowly but surely he started moving them from the obvious places to the closet and eventually they disappeared from the house. I donāt know what he did with them, I wasnāt interested. All I know is that I never saw them again. I donāt know if he goes to strip clubs, but I donāt think so, that wasnāt his style back then, so Iām assuming that itās not something he does now. He goes out, I go out, and we go out socializing together. I donāt know , at this point how I would react to him having adult photos on his phone. But I guess it would depend on the type of photo, Are they pornographic or just scantly clad photos of women?. It all boils down to how you feel about yourself and what your definition of ācheatingā isā¦ If it hurts you or makes you feel less than, then itās up to you to do something about it. Donāt let him dismiss your feelingsā¦but do realize, that this a āgame-changerā.
Who knows I worked in a psychiatric unit and one time IT was there and I asked if they were there because midnights was always looking at pornā¦and he repliedā¦ābasicallyā.
Men will be men. I personally think itās weird but itās just not my thing but itās not all that uncommon for men I guess.
Most men have porn on there phoneā¦and nearly all women dontā¦thatās how it isā¦the norm thnks for reading!
If heās allowed to look at it so should you.
But other than that it really shouldnāt bother you if he watches or has porn, it way better than him cheating or having pics of other girls
I had an ex that did the same exact thing! Leave him. F*** thatā¦
Get rid of himā¦hypocrite
Bob I mean nob the builder
Sleazebags in every workplace
Just make a point of doing it once every day. Just because some people donāt know how their own treatment feels until it happens to them.
Get away from him he probably has other horrible addictions if youāre young you have a chance at a great life you just donāt need that heās sick