If u have to put a deadline or force it just move on
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Forcing a proposal isnât a good start to a marriage
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Been together 8 years and nothing. Sooo
The honeymoon stage last roughly 2 years. You still need time to get to know each other after the honeymoon stage is over.
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Stick to your deadline but keep it to yourself. The worst thing you can do is force someone to marry you. Iâm sure he does love you but he might not be ready. He wonât be marrying just you, heâd instantly become a family of four. Also, if youâre already living with him itâll take a lot longer.
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Girl Iâve been with my SO for 7.5 years and he JUST popped the question back in June
It is very ok to want marriage, and to communicate those wants and needs in a relationship .
For many it is not just lable or piece of paper, stop minimizing peoples wants just because they are not yours.
Itâs also ok to ask your partner.
I asked my husband to mary me and we have been happily married 21 years now, was only together a year when I asked.
Woman can be ready and decide to.
Donât let others beliefs , traditions or opinions sway you from what you want.
Fyi saying marriage is a goal or proposing to him is not forcing, just like itâs not forcing when A man proposes to a Women!!
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If he wanted to pop the question he would have. You giving it a deadline is basically forcing him wich is not good for any relationship.
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You ainât a single mum if youâve been with him for 2.5yr 
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You have him a deadline to propose to you? How do you know thatâs what he wants? Or is the relationship about you? 
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I dont think I could ever live with myself forcing someone to marry me. It should come naturally from them and not âmandatedâ means nothing
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You sound manipulative and controlling. I hope that man leavesâŚ. Very soon. You shouldâve never given him a deadline. That was just plain stupid. I wouldnât want you either 
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If you gave him a date that you will leave on a certain day well then up and leave on that day, if he wants to be with you he will do what it takes to keep you. If he letâs you walk well than in my opinion you still won because you where only wasting your time.
Itâs only been 2 years? Me and my fiance have a great relationship but it took like 5 years for him to askâŚ
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Been with mine for 10+ years known even longer weâve broken up and got back together again were not married he doesnât care to and even though I do I still stay with him because our love is more then a piece of paper itâs a commitment you make with your between your souls all marriage is is a piece of paper from the government, if itâs the symbolic reason which is why I want to then maybe give it more time, if youâre willing to cut it off from someone you love then you dont âloveâ them cause the symbol of marriage means more to you then the actual relationship, thatâs my opinion on how I see it for my personal situation, if itâs TRUE love give it time
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You havenât been a single mom for the 2.5 years youâve been with him. You clearly want something he canât/wonât give you. Giving him a dead line isnât healthy for the relationship either.
2.5 years is not a long time and you come with two kids so he probably needs even more time to make sure that you and your kids are truly what he wants forever. You should be happy he isnât super willing to marry easy come easy go then youâd be left with your kids alone again and then your kids are gonna be like all confused like dad left and then step dad left just let things be how they are for as long as this guy needs
Didnt you post youâre a single mom of 2 but been with a guy for 2.5 yearsâŚ?
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Iâve been with my man for little over 7 years and I got a ring but no marriage. He doesnât believe in a piece of paper but thatâs fine with me. I got a ring to say Iâm taken and Iâm happy with it. When and if he decides to get married to me, we decided itâd be a courthouse wedding. I donât think you should push someone to marry you if they ainât making no moves for marriageâŚyâall living together? If so good then he wants to be with you marriage or no marriage. Is he good to you kids? If so, good again. Let him pop the question when heâs ready to. Donât force him to do something he doesnât want to do. You wouldnât want him to push you to do something you donât want to and believe you donât have to do it. So sit back and enjoy the moments with him.
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Doesnât sound like heâs the âoneâ to me. You just want marriage, which is fine, most women do. 2.5 years isnât a long time, though. Give it time. Does it honestly matter if yâall are already playing the role?
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If you need to give a guy a deadline you already know what you need to doâŚ
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Why would you try to rush him into something so serious? When he is ready he will ask you, if you are that impatient ask him⌠but you may not like his answer.
2 years is not a long time⌠you usually dont even get to fully know someone for at least 5 years. I dont understand why people are always in such a rush.
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I waited 8 yearsâŚas long as you both love each other and her also cares about the kiddos, who cares how long it takes for him to pop the questionâŚmaybe heâs not quite ready yet and thatâs okay. Giving him a deadline is going to push him away. Just be patient.
My man took 5 years been another 5 still not married canât be bothered now donât see the big deal
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Donât rush him to purpose to you you only been with him 2.5 years if you your that bother with him not asking you to marry him why you with him canât you just love him and be with him with out having his last name
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Deadlines are a sure sign he needs to just break it off with you. Very immature.
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If heâs worth it you will wait I was impatient with mine but never forced him or gave him altimatium we talked about it never did it until last April after 11 years we finally got married surprised me on a vacation we drove by a wedding chapel and he said this is random we have no rings only our promise rings but you wanna get married and we did it was so amazing and romantic and the guy said the perfect words so donât push it will happen in time
If itâs a deal breaker for you or itâs something that your set on then, Iâd ask him about it if he doesnât have the same goals as you itâs best to end it now.
Lmao Iâve been with my man for 19 yrs and ainât married
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Me and my husband were together for 3 years before we got married. Sounds like you are not in a healthy relationship. Giving him a deadline to propose? Really. Marriage is a serious and big commitment that someone should not be pressured into. If you are going to push marriage with him then the marriage is not going to last.
I met my husband with a daughter of my own and him having none. He didnât meet my daughter for 6 months, we didnât talk about marriage for 2 years, and didnât get married until we were together for 5 years. Now married with 2 additional children together. Everyone has their own timeline and it doesnât sound like your timelines match up. But definitely pushing him into it isnât the answer. If your not where you want to be and it doesnât feel like heâs all in I definitely wouldnât want that person to marry me. You should do a good personal inventory and figure out how your really feeling about everything in your relationship.
sooooo⌠you already have the ringâŚand you have given him a deadline to propose? That man needs to run like hell.
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this was hilarious to read⌠be single then if youâre that desperate. heâs probably still debating if youâre the one he wants to actually spend the rest of his life with, in which if this is the case, he should not dedicate it to you.
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I donât think Iâd want to marry you either if I was given a deadline sorry.
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Women can propose to men too. Donât by shy. Maybe he wants you to ask him. Either way if you ask, youâll have your answer.