Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Will I be happier if I leave my relationship for someone else?
Wasn’t worth it. Came back to first person and things are good.
The grass is greener where you water it.
Not necessarily but if your so quick to leave the one your in now you aren’t happy apparently so you need to get out of it first then maybe go with the other one but that doesn’t mean you gonna be happier in the next relationship neither
Lmao no. You will be a cheater that left because she thought she find something better then you’ll cheat on him to
Yup! Married for 2 yrs before I met my current S.O been happy since. I did all that I could in my marriage but it was one sided and I was no longer happy so before it got toxic because we have a child together I walked away from marriage on better terms.
How do you get to the point of falling for someone else while in the relationship… is your current relationship not successful? Sounds like you’ve already got your heart set if you’re having feelings for someone else.
If you were so happy to begin with you wouldn’t have never fell for someone else
Actually yes. I was in a relationship with him for almost 5 years. I was happy to a point and he was too but it wasn’t enough. I saw him cheating on his Snapchat and even his emails. I met someone and have been with him for 3 years now. Both the ex and my current are very close and we all co-parent together as best we can since we moved out of state. But I’ve never been happier, never felt more comfortable in my own skin. I’d say follow your heart but it really wasnt even that for me it was this feeling in my gut. I knew I was making the right decision
I’ll tell you right now… the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. It’s not worth it! Work on YOUR relationship before jumping into someone else’s lap!
The grass ain’t always greener on the other side the grass is only green where you water it. But if you wanna leave leave 
but don’t expect him to want or take you back. Sounds like your relationship is done if you have time to fall for someone else
The grass always looks greener on the other side and every relationship has it’s problems
What goes Around come around. Don’t get upset if the new person u leave ur partner for, cheats on u or leaves u. Karma. It will forever be a problem in the new relationship bc u cheated in the first and left that person for the new person . That will get thrown in ur face alot. Not a good way to start a new relationship. It’s time to breakup wait a bit before u jump into something else. It will be better for u in the long run.
Just dont be in ANY relationships
Grass is never greener on the other side . Water your own grass !
If you’re asking about leaving for any reason, especially someone else then the one you’re with isn’t the right one!
Grass is not always greener! 
If you really loved the first there wouldn’t be a second.
If you can honestly say with your hand on heart you have given your all in your current relationship and you are still not happy, walk away. But don’t be blindsided by lustful feeling for another. Concentrate on yourself for a while.
From my current experience, i can tell u it CAN happen. I was in a relationship for 6 years with my kids’ dad. It was going down hill fast. There was no saving that relationship at all. I was at work and the man I’m with now would talk and what not with me and finally I ended up leaving my ex for him and we’ve been together almost 2 years now
Grass isn’t always greener
Rose tinted glasses spring to mind xx
The grass is always greener when it is fertalized with B.S.
I don’t think anything that is happening within you atm (in regards to happy or not)….has anything to do with being in a relationship or not.
Happiness starts and ends with YOU.
You need to go make yourself happy. To place that responsibility upon others to fulfill your needs for happiness - is abit selfish.
If you can’t do that for yourself; you can’t expect someone else to do it for you (aka can’t expect your current relationship or the next one to make you happy).
Yes and it was not happier. But both relationships weren’t good. You’re starting off on a bad foundation. Be single, find yourself and then find a better man.
80/20 rule… look it up 
That grass aint always greenier on the other side…I hope you move on though because the person you’re with doesnt deserve second best just saying…
Left a mama’s boy I had been with for 4.5 years for a man I had known a while and always tried to put me first. We’ve been married for 5 years now with a daughter. We have our normal marriage stressor and arguments, but I know I’m much happier and better off with him than the person I left for him.
Yes I have and I’m happy I did. Still with him. Some people are just not what we’re looking for in a relationship… We don’t know it til few month/years down the road. Do what makes you happy.
I would say the grass aint always greener… talk to your current partner, perhaps theyve not realized how often theyve forgotten to water and fertilize yalls grass or has issues unbeknownst to you, that is work throughable, as to that yard hasnt been tended to. IF and ONLY IF, your partner doesnt care about the yard or if weeds have engulfed it, or the grass is all dead… be the bigger person and end it respectfully
Girl it’s your life do you and make yourself happy. Others opinions don’t matter hun
I feel like this has become a magic 8ball group…
Grass always seems greener on the other side until you step in dog 
Ask my sister. She’s on her 3rd marriage.
Honestly, the grass isn’t always greener. It could be cared for with fertilizer… be careful
If your asking then it’s time for a change…you have no left there
Everyone is different so of course it CAN but truth is happiness is on you and no one else and you’ll just continue to attract exactly the same things until you fix your own stuff. Also the grass is always greener where it’s watered and tended to so factor that in.
Grass is greener where you water it.
No if you want to be with another person while with one u need to stop n be single before u hurt them both
I fell for my now husband when I was married to my ex. Then me n my ex we’re getting divorced n my now husband was off at school across the country, but he was with someone else. Shortly after he came back we hooked up n I never left. Been together 5 1/2 years now, married a lil over 3 years, and have 3 beautiful lil girls together. Couldn’t be any happier
That’s what we call an emotional affair.
Should definitely watch the movie "temptation"
The only one that can define your happiness, is yourself. No one can tell you how to be happy.
I was in a relationship for 9 years and he was never faithful ,left him and married someone who was faithful,we were married for 45yrs.and then he passed"will always miss him."
Grass is greener when you water your own lawn. However leave now because the man your with deserve more than some out looking for others to love.
I was with my last for 13 almost 14 years and had enough of the cheating and mental and verbal and physical abuse and left him for my current and we’ve been happy for almost 4 years now lifes to short to be unhappy its worth a shot in my opinion bc if you died tomorrow would you want to die wondering what if I know I sure wouldn’t
Hey if you ain’t In it 100 gtfo. The other person deserves that much idgaf how awful it was or is. Just leave
It was the best ever, but ended anyway
You got to be happy with yourself before anyone can be expected to Make you happy
I was with an unfaithful person that had severe drug addiction problems. I left him for a person I met on the Internet. He lived in Wales and I lived in Canada. He moved here to be with me. I am 10000% happier and so happy I made that decision. We are now married with a child and my days of being unhappy are finally over.
Hell are you happy with yourself by yourself??? If not your not gonna be happy anywhere you go but I guess you’ll get that new feeling all over again
You aren’t in love with the first one if you can fall for someone else at the same time
I did this and I’m going on 10 years with my soulmate 
Sounds like You have some personal issues you need to resolve first. Maybe your unhappiness has nothing to do with the relationship you’re in now. If you keep relationship hopping like a frog on a lilli pad you’ll never be happy.
This reminds me of the cow who sticks her neck out through the fence to eat the grass on the other side while she defecates in her own home. 
If you have to ask, you already know.
Just do the right thing, hard as it is, before you move forward and free the man u have fallen out of love with…
He will thank you and appreciate you for it in the long run.
You can never know until you do it so it’s always a risk. Ask yourself why you want to do it. And if it’s worth the risk.
I was once told “if you ever love two people at the same time choose the second because if you really loved the first person you wouldn’t have fallen for the second”
Choose number two, bc if you were In love w number one, you’d never have fallen for number two
How do u let your relationship get to this point??? When is it unfaithful to the spouse. This post makes me cry…I’m asking a question to all , not just the poster​:heavy_heart_exclamation:
As they say, the grass isn’t always greener.
Good luck with that, you may be happy for 6 months then regret it or you will be in love with someone else. People always think they can find better and it doesn’t work out.
Nope…dont do it the grass will always be greener where you water it work on your relationship or leave and work on yourself before you get into another relationship
Yes, I picked the second one and we are happily married. But I was also in a domestic abuse situation with the first one. So maybe just do the right thing and leave the person you are with if you have feeling for someone else.
First make sure your happy with yourself. I was in a abusive relationship terrified to leave especially when he kept telling me no one would want me. I spent most the time at the end learning to love myself & the person I was becoming. I met my now husband at the end of my last marriage & we were friends for a while then started dating & he we are 6 years later with 2 kids. Like others have said though too if you truly loved the first one then you wouldnt have fallen for the second. I also am a FIRM believer that you may think your “in love” with this second person & actually may not be as in love once you leave the first person.
Ew this energy is NOT it.
You wouldn’t have fallen for someone else if you ever truly loved the first person.
Hahaha! No! Grass is never greener on the other side when leaving someone for someone else. Known proven fact! Don’t act on something that you’ll regret later.
If you are no longer in love with the person you are with then there’s really no point in being with them. Don’t lie and don’t cheat… just speak to them and leave… because falling out of love with someone happens. People grow and change and feelings change…
But if you are going to go to someone else make sure your feelings are actually real and you are happy with what you are about to do… only you can decide what’s best…
The grass is not always greener in the other side
The grass looks greener on the other side bc the fertilizer (bullshit) 
if you actually loved the person you are currently with, you’d never have started communication with this side person. Tbh, sounds like you don’t need to be with anyone until you can figure out if YOU can be faithful.
I did but it was a bad out come. Now after 10 years I’m back with the first one
The people who are upset are probably the people who have been left. And it sucks to fall out of love with someone. It sucks to end a relationship. But your heart is no longer there. You should have already left as soon as these feelings developed.
End your relationship. Your other half deserves better.
In my experience I am happier. But my previous relationship was toxic and the other guy showed me i deserved better than that and he has treated me thousand times better
Once a cheater… always a cheater. You need to love yourself before a y relationship will work
Probably…pursuant of happiness. Thank you next
Sorry, but the grass isn’t always greener on the other side
Firstly, if you fell in love with someone else while in a relationship you need to leave that relationship IMMEDIATELY! Before you hurt someone
My mother always said sometimes the grass ain’t greener on the other side. But if the grass is green for a while, it’s ok to jump the fence.
It didn’t work out for me
Not when you do it in that order, NO. If that could make you happy, to go about handling ppl, (someone you once loved) in that careless way….says a lot about your integrity. Integrity plays a huge role in happiness, unless your a narcissist.
How easily the wedding vows are forgotten, the grass is not greener, it is just selfish thought. Remember ones happiness does not depend upon another, but must be achieved by ones own actions. In the famous words of an old song, be careful where you leap, still waters run deep, and there wont always be someone there to pull you out.
Never know! I left a 5 year relationship to be with someone who I thought would make me happier, and it turned out to be a nightmare. Then I left that relationship and ended up finding my soul mate, and have never been happier!
I would like to add that I never cheated, and ended both relationships before starting the next.
Marriage counseling first. And maybe individual counseling for you. I’d bet you are fantasizing about happy times w the other guy and the reality is he would make you happy in some ways and drive you nuts in others, Same as with your current guy, just a different mix.
Is this other guy single or married? You might be breaking up two houses. And maybe the other guy is nice but not interested in you. Or just slick and a lady killer who has a ton of girl friends, or he could be grooming you for abuse.
Don’t lose your head. It worked for Julia Robert’s but not Brittany Spears.
If you’re cheating just leave
Leave both of them alone.
The grass is never as green as it looks when you go to that side!
Shit my opinion is leave be single and do u with no strings attached and u won’t ever regret it best feeling ever u please as u leave and don’t have to explain to no 1 and feel good about it
Well you know what they say, the grass may be greener on the other side but it’s probably fertilized with shit.
Is you are cheating and that doesn’t mean having sex it means emotional cheating or flirting you need to leave its not fair to play with someone’s feelings like that. Would you want someone to do that to you?
Don’t Be Pathetic! No Relationship Is Ever Perfect. Leave A Relationship For Yourself, Because You’re Not Happy. Never Leave A Relationship For Someone Else!! Someone Giving You The Feeling Of Something New Isn’t The Answer.
Not enough info given in the OP. What kind of relationship do you have now? Abusive? Boring? Long-distance? Disgruntled? None of the above but just want a change? Whatever you choose, understand there may be no going back, so be sure this is what you want.
Some of you really enjoy karma biting you in the ass
If you are not happy in your current relationship then you need to end it first. That is extremely unfair and hurtful to your partner.
What ever happened to “if something is broken, you fix it and not throw it away”?
How would you feel if you SO was in your shoes and you found out that he fell inlove with another women? Devastated. Heartbroken. Feeling of unworthy. Don’t do that to your partner. If you’re already inlove with another man, leave. No one deserves that.
Sounds like you need to learn to be happy alone before going around hurting innocent people
I was in a 4 year relationship when I met my husband we got married 2 weeks after meeting and I ended my other relationship after and we have been married 12 years come October. My 4 year wasn’t going anywhere we lived in different states and saw each other maybe 5 times a year
Grass is often greener on the other side because it has more bullshit…
End your relationship first, recover from the trauma and when you are ready, start an new relationship. I waited 4 years for my guy and he was totally worth it. I earned a good healthy marriage and it is worth waiting for…
Good luck