I have 3 babies and a great job/marriage and just found out i am pregnant again…i want to tell my family but at the same time i dont…they are never happy for me when i am pregnant and i just feel like i want to relish in this moment as it will be my last…they always make comments like “dont you have enough” “Or you know what causes that right” and it hurts because I love my kids…and i take care of them…i just dont get why they are like this…would it be wrong to withhold this info until i give birth or as long as i can hide it?
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Would I be wrong to hide my pregnancy from my family?
Currently 34 wks. We didnt tell anyone until around 16 wks and it was his family only.
No one on my side learned until around 26 wks and that was just a handful. I still haven’t told my ma because she is always negative about any of our pregnancies (my and my two sisters). We’ve gotten quite a few harsh remarks from her when we announced, so i dont see no reason to say anything as we dont interact much.
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I totally understand that… I’ve had 8 kids I’m only 28 and I use to get told the same stuff over and over and just for once I wish people could be happy for it like any other pregnancy 1st.2nd. 3rd 4th ECT Still should be exciting and congrats 
for it… because they don’t have to look after our kids we do 
so I’m happy for you it’s a blessing
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I don’t think it would be wrong for you to keep it to yourself and your spouse for now. I hide the third pregnancy for as long as I could die to my second only being 6 months when I found out I was pregnant again. She ended up being a hard one for me in the end so when I found out I was pregnant with the last one I hide that as well from my family but my husbands family all knew about it before we had it confirmed. We knew they would be happy for us.
Did the same with my fifth, they have a lot harder time saying anything rude to a sweet baby face 
enjoy a quiet pregnancy with your spouse and kids, you won’t regret it.
You don’t need to tell anyone you don’t want to, you also don’t have to listen to negative comments. “You are being incredibly rude. If you don’t have something positive to say, you are more than welcome to refrain from commenting” “Your feelings on my pregnancy will not change that I am pregnant, nor that I’m happy to meet this baby. If you don’t stop this disrespectful and hurtful behavior, I’m going to take a Big step back from our relationship so I can be happy.”
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I don’t see why they need to know. Who needs negativity at such a special time congrats!
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I don’t tell anyone I’m pregnant anymore. Not their business. And I’ve had 2 angels by this point so hearing their bs about having healthy babies would really irk me especially since they were healthy. Nothing wrong with them. It was just the placenta that gave out. Or the whole me being alive for my children I have now and not worry about any more. And getting my tubes tied. I’d rather not do that. And I’ve had babies on birth control. They don’t know your life or struggle nor do they care if they’re over there judging you probably saying worse behind your back. Nope don’t need it.
Do what you feel is best for you. I didnt want to tell my mum about my second pregnancy and I tried hiding until a situation came up that I was forced to tell her. I got the “you’re fucking idiot” remark. With both my kids. And to this day she still does nothing for them.
Both of my pregnancies I didn’t tell my family til I was 6-7 months my sister was so mad bc I waited so long before I told them… but I would probably do it again
Same I never told them until I was 7/8 months because I’m super showing si more my stomach told them
Don’t ever share news with anyone who steals your joy.
You told the world in Facebook so you want everyone to know. If you are happy don’t worry about anyone else
My dad’s significant other is like that. Always something rotten to say. My last 3 kids we didn’t bother telling them out. 2 of them they only found out days before they were born.