Would you be upset if your husband straight up forgot your birthday? we have been together for 5 years and i spent the entire day cooking and cleaning for him to come home and not even look my direciton or acknowledge what day it was…he told me he was going to be late coming home from work so i assumed he was stopping to at least get me something but no…he stopped for beer and wings after i legit made a whole dinner…i still havent said anything and he still hasnt realized…i am just hurt at this point
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Would you be upset if your husband forgot your birthday?
Happy birthday ! I’m sorry that he forgot your birthday . I hope he realizes and makes it up to you 
Wow that sucks! Just return the gesture on his birthday!
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My husband forgot my b-day 25 years ago and I still remember how that made me feel so good luck
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I’m sorry but I would be reminding if my love didn’t start saying he is making plans for us days or a week before! Like giving hints I want to go to the casino, or etc he probably has been tired from work just spaced it!
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I’d be pissed 
Call me toxic but there would definitely be an argument behind this
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I’d personally be very upset yes…so sorry that happened 
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I feel like he’s doing it on purpose cus how do you forget that
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People forget about my birthday all the time
He obviously has other things on his mind. Sorry… He will say he forgot… He literally doesnt care. Men do forget but… 5 yrs no… Dontfall for his wings and beer. He has other priorities…
Go put on something nice, do your hair and makeup, grab your keys and purse, walk by him on your way out the door and say “I’m going out for a drink for my birthday. I’ll be back later.”
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I would let him know that your pissed
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My husband of 10 years told me happy birthday finally towards end of the day and that’s it. Me and my bestie decided to go get Mexican food and margaritas and then went out. It was an awesome day hangin with her! Hope u have a friend u can go do something with 
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One year I forgot my husbands he didn’t say anything didn’t complain then I remembered like 2 weeks later 
life is happening some ppl actually forget
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Sounds like bigger problems then him
“Forgetting”
Yeah that’s terrible. I would be hurt also! I’m sorry but I would lose my shit! Birthdays and Anniversarys are important. You should be celebrated! Happy birthday! Please do something nice for yourself!
My husband still doesn’t know what day my birthday is on after 15 years. It’s just another day anyway and he has a million things to think about as it is!
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Shoulda reminded him every day for a monrh
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Go out and grab a girlfriend and go celebrate babe!! Fuckkkk that for a joke.
I would be pissed! I’ve been with my man 15 yrs and he always makes sure I wake up to something on my birthday and same for him if u have to remind someone its ur birthday then u should move on clearly he doesnt care
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Mine did it too one year. Never said anything but next year on his I did it a day late
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Omg I’d straight up have a whole slobbery blubbering meltdown. It may have been a 1 off, but it still hurts. Definitely let him know he fumbled big time this year.
That’s literally sad. He can’t take one day, outta 365, to make you feel special.
And those justifying it, saying yalls men have have more important things to worry about, please stop. You’re worthy of so much more.
Happy Birthday lady. I hope this is the last bday you spend feeling less than.
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I would be heartbroken.
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Lol. Try having a birthday on Christmas day.
Bridgett Gray gave my idea…
Get all cute and leave. Only I wouldn’t mention your birthday until the next day.
Tbh, I’m not sure I could stay with someone with that little brain function. 
I do wish you a Happy Birthday next year, you deserve to be remembered by ppl who actually love you. 
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I halfway wanna say yeah I’d forget but my bf is a good guy and just a lil dumb dumb sometimes and doesn’t mean anything by it lol
Do something special for you … i have been with my OH for almost 10 years and he has never done anything for my birthday…
I’m used of been on my own for my birthday… I had a milestone birthday this year and nothing was arranged… so next year I’m going away by myself and will do what I want to do … if you wait for people to do anything for you then you may be waiting a while and will just get more upset
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That really does suck that he didn’t say anything but I mean in my experience most men don’t even remember their own birthdays better than yours or families or etc. don’t let it get to you probably sooner or later here remember or ask you or some sort I mean I’d always do something for my husband but usually we’re both working on mine n yes it sucks because I would maybe like flowers once in a blue moon or something something of that nature but hang in there n I’ve bn married to him for going on 7 years
I would be disappointed for sure. My hubby would definitely not remember my birthday, knowing that I start dropping hints a week before that I’m excited for my bday… Not all men are cheaters or preoccupied, some just really don’t pay attention (mine included.) You have every right to feel disappointed though!!
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Sometimes people simply forget. I’d just let him know like, “you know it’s my birthday right? Let’s do something this weekend.”
No sense in sitting around stewing and he’s oblivious as to why you’re upset.
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When I was married to a ‘bloke’ I always dropped hints a couple of weeks before and was creative with them. 'Darling, I’m just checking which day, etc you want to take me out for my birthday as so and so wanted to make sure that I was available because 'she, they, 'wants to take me out for drinks/etc and I would much rather spend the time with you…It would be lovely for someone to take me somewhere special but I don’t want to ruin any surprise that you have in store… . All with love, but some people don’t quite get it. 
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Nope. I am going on 42 this year and quite frankly, I don’t give a crap about my birthday.
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First couple years my bf did something and then as years passed we dont do anything for my birthday lol but i give him a party or supper once in awhile… but it doesnt bother me… weve been together 14 years this year… most of the time i do something for myself 
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Make reservations to go out another night, let him know how you feel…
Honestly he has every year since we met and my birthday is literally the day after his
My partner doesnt know when his own birthday is most of the time. I remind him like a week before. Life happens and gets busy. He’s obviously forgotten which sucks, but it Happens, let him know how you feel.
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Been with my husband 7 years he dont remember any birthdays at all not mine not his moms or the kids some dudes just dont remeber things lol maybe he is just one of those men you have to let know when things are coming up…
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Well imo I wouldn’t be cooking or cleaning for him. 5 years he should have known. He sounds toxic and narcissistic traits
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I’d be disappointed! Been with my husband for 6 years now and he’s never forgotten my birthday. I wake up every year to a beautiful card, flowers, and gift cards . You should bring it up and let him know how you feel.
Not really… I’ll use it as excuse to get what I want for my birthday and I’ll give him hard time tho like pick on him about it for the rest of his life 
I would let him know it was your birthday today, and see how he responds. Then let him know how hurt you felt by this, be specific- forgettable, unloved, not prioritized, neglected, let down, silly, etc. See how he responds. If he immediately apologizes and sees the error of his actions, ask how he can prevent this from happening again, and how he plans on making it up to you. Then let him, and forgive. There’s no point moving forward if this is something you can’t get past. If it happens again it shows he isn’t willing to prioritize your happiness. If he responds to anything defensively, insultingly, belittlingly - he does not care, will not care and you should find your own happiness. Good luck and Happy Birthday 
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Are the stores still open? Pick up your purse and the car keys, walk on out and go to Walmart or somewhere. Walk around, look, and decide what you want. Do you want clothes? A new appliance? Jewelry? A new purse? A movie? A book? A new wallet? Buy yourself a birthday card too. Something that is you. Funny or sentimental from yourself. And get yourself a decorated birthday cake. Then go over to a friend’s house and celebrate. Hang out for awhile if your friend is single. Or just go on back home. Grab a plate, fork, and knife and go into whatever room he isn’t in when you get there. Have some cake and enjoy yourself. Watch TV. Or listen to the radio. Just relax. If he comes in the room and asks what’s going on, tell him you’re celebrating your birthday. Tell him it’s important to you even if it’s not important to him, so… and if he acts like a jackass, make up your mind if you want to stay with someone who takes you for granted.
Girl tell him…i always reminded mine…lol
Tell him your feelings.
My husband remembers mine every year and gets me gifts …Don’t care if he gets me anything but at lest Acknowledge the day been married 16 years it shouldn’t matter he should remember your birthday just saying
I wish I could say yes but I can’t. I almost forgot my husbands birthday, not because I didn’t know the date of his bday, because I didn’t realize that date was already there. I thought it was still a day or so away. I didn’t end up saying anything about his bday until towards the end of the day. I still feel super bad.
Pretty selfish and thoughtless.
I would say…hey idk if you know of remembered but it’s my birthday. And for you not acknowledging it or even trying to make it the least bit special really hurts me. And say let’s do something fun to celebrate this weekend
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It sounds like it’s more than he just forgot your birthday
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It happens. Mine has forgotten mine twice. Once right after we got married. I had taught all day and asked if we were going to go out for my bdy dinner or if he was bringing something home. He said he’d bring it home. We grabbed a pizza and I got a bottle of cologne still in the store bag. I was sad at first but we were so busy we just laughed and made it a fun night at home. The second time was 7 years later. We had moved and he was starting a new location while I substitute taught and took care of our 2 year old. My mom called him to let him know she was making dinner and bringing it to our house for my bday. He ran into Kmart on the way home from work and bought me this hideous bird light (I hate birds) and threw it in a gift bag with some candy. I swear, 22 years later that stupid little bulb has not burned out. He has tried to throw it away so many time but it is a loving joke between us and has been for years. You have to make the best of these things…we are all human❤️
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Ouch. I would talk to him. He should know and I don’t blame you for being upset at all
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I’d get rid of his ass!! F him!
Not really!!! Men are forgetful by nature , most of them doesn’t even remember their own birthdays.
Better say something
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That would hurt my feelings and make me mad.
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If it bothers you that he forgot tell him.
He’ll apologize.
Then he will buy you a extravagant gift to make up for his egregious lapse.
He will probably spend more than he would have if he had remembered, more than he would like to spend or can afford to spend so you will find it in your heart to forgive him.
I’ll never understand grown people who make such a big deal out of their own birthdays.
It just seems so narcissistic to me.
For children, I understand. Children, yes, but still the celebrations should be moderate. Family and friends invited for cake and ice cream and silly games.
Over the top parties and gifts are ridiculous.
If someone remembers mine and says Happy Birthday or give me a card, fine. It’s nice but I’m never upset with anyone who doesn’t.
I truly don’t get this obsessive need for recognizition in birthdays, holidays, etc.
I am more concerned with mutual appreciation and caring in our everyday life.
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Seems like a real d bag, call him out
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You just have to talk to him and tell him and see what his response is then you will have your answer. Could be something as simple as he really didn’t realize what day he was and is just stressed and exhausted or he simply doesn’t care. In order to figure that out you have to talk to him and not us
No need to be. I do not forget when, but i will not realise the day is there.
Just continue on and get him nothing for his bday and watch him be upset about it and ask why.
I’d be hurt. And I would also be a little petty and when we went to bed I’d say “thank you for a great birthday” and turn around and go to bed. He’ll make it up tomorrow or he won’t care and at that point you should reconsider your marriage. If he wanted to, he WILL. Could’ve been a simple mistake.
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I always forget birthdays even my own
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Yesss. My hubby forgot mine and Mother’s Day. I had to complain the day after each and he felt bad after it
I would be hurt, but also humans are forgetful sometimes. Bring it up but keep in mind it was most likely an accident.
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First mistake is to make assumptions because along with making an assumption, disappointment follows… secondly I’ve learnt that partners/husband’s need straight up reminders otherwise No it’s not something that’s on their priority list.
Happy Belated Birthday, Go out and spoil yourself.
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Did you remind him a few days before? I always have to remind my husband. He doesn’t purposely forget and feels bad when he does… so I just remind him so neither of us feel bad about it. But to be fair… he and I both have memory problems… we forget our anniversary almost every year… and we’ve been together for the better part of 20 years
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Not to excuse his behavior or sayin its right by any means and you have every right to be pissed. Just to avoid this in the future , take his phone and set up his calendar for the year and set the alarms. Like a week before bday or anniversary, put in buy present for… Again not your fault and he should do this but obviously he didn’t. My wife and l did this together. I set up my calendar and alarms as she reminded me of all the dates.
Aww, yes I’d be upset too. Happy birthday to you. 
We are going to need updates🧐
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Yeah I’d be pissed for sure.
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I would be pissed! I would continue to go on like business as usual and see how long it takes him to realize what he’s done. Plus does he have Facebook? It literally pops up once a day with all your friends birthdays 
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Mine forgets mine every year unless I remind him, along with our 3 kids 
we’ve been together over 10 years lol
But, I get why your upset mama your feelings are very valid xx
Mine doesn’t forget mine but he’s still not cool. He will mention my birthday coming up a few times that month the like clock work the night before he will start a fight…and we don’t go anywhere or speak day of my birthday…2 weeks later he’ll apologize and offer to take me to dinner.
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You’re entitled to feel however you feel, but keep in mind that everyone is human and sometimes birthdays are forgotten, and men have a horrible track record for remembering things. If he hasn’t said anything to you by tomorrow I would bring it up, not in a confrontational way. Just say it hurt your feelings that he didn’t remember your birthday or even pay attention to you really when he came home. I’m sure it just slipped his mind.
First, Happy Birthday to you!
Next, yes I would be sad too.
That’s not a husband
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Some men are just plain dumb and dont remember a dam thing !
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Birthday aside, he totally ignored you and the efforts you went through in order to prepare dinner? Why are we ignoring this bit of information?
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No I would not be upset if he forgot. I hope every year he and my kids forget. I hate my birthday so…
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Make a plan with your friends to go out for a meal to celebrate your birthday properly and tell him why your going and leave him a microwave meal in the fridge, go and enjoy yourself your birthday is once a year celebrate it life is too short make memories be happy. Happy Birthday to you, hopefully you get to smile instead of dwelling on the fact your husband forgot or just plain disregarded it and hoping he changes his way before you change yours.
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Happened so many times I got used to it, anniversary also. Also sat through many Christmas mornings watching him and two kids with gifts galore and I had my coffee!! I left after 43 years!!
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You need to forget his.
My husband forgot my birthday 2 years ago (we’d been married 9 years at that point). He apologized and took me out to dinner that weekend. He hasn’t forgotten it since, mainly because I give him crap over it 
Awww happy birthday hun
Men are hopeless
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Sorry but most men don’t even remember why they need to go to the store. You need to say something because how is he suppose to fix things if you’re just going to keep it to yourself. And the women who are saying their husbands have never forgotten their birthday are lying. They even did research on this and men have been proven to be more forgetful than women and that their brain structure actually decreases in volume between the ages of 20-40.
So just say something to him or get over it.
Talk to him first…if it doesn’t go anywhere, well then, eye for an eye…wait until his birthday rolls around and do the same thing. Sometimes it takes giving them a taste of their own medicine to make them realize “Oh shit I fucked up”
After 28 years my husband forgot this year and mine is easy to remember may 4th(it is star wars day) but I didn’t hold it against him, life is busy and sometimes days just seem same old same old. Let him know I am sure he will feel awful and he didn’t do it intentionally
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Sorry this happened to you.
It’s unexceptable. You are important and you matter. You are worth celebrating. Birthdays come once a year he has had a year to organise something. Next year isn’t promised.
I would seriously go buy a cake sit at the table play happy birthday on youtube so he can hear it and make him feel bad.
Men don’t need coddling that’s giving them excuses to be lazy and it’s been proven as alot of other men will treat their partners with respect and celebrate them.
Men will do it if they want to do it.
Happy Birthday I hope tomorrow is a better day.
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No but I see my birthday as just another day 
I absolutely love when others show me birthday love but it is never expected even from my husband and kids. I however make sure I do at least one special thing for my husband on his 
Return the favor on his birthday.
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Yes!!! I’d tell him! Maybe you’ll get a nicer gift, lol.
Ignore his birthday. I’d be more mad I made dinner and he went and ate somewhere else.
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Go out and buy yourself something expensive using his card or a account then wrap and make a. If deal of it in front of him. Next year give him daily reminders a week before my husband never forgets now
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Tell him what he date is. Start to remind weeks before. They do forget but he will make it up to u.
You should have a calm discussion with your husband about how you feel.
Most people have a smart phone with a calendar. Suggest he set calendar reminders in advance for all special dates.
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Haha I’m over 20 years married and this July 26 was our anniversary and both of us forgot haha , it sucks and I’m sorry but I wasn’t mad, he doesn’t forget my birthday but I remind him almost everyday starting weeks before haha
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