He is being a good dad.
Why are you sexulizing a father son relationshipā¦you need help.
Mind your own business! Itās the kid father not a stranger!
Thatās called parenting.
Omg you need help! For heavens sake!
I think itās more weird that you asked this thinking that this dad and his son are weirdā¦
Are u sick?thats the childās fatherā¦some ppl actual have healthy father son relationship kmt
A Dad is a parent. A Mum is a parent. Why do people keep sexualising situations when there is nothing sexual about it?
OP, you need therapy stat!
Iām 26 and you bet Iāll go to my Mumās house and ask her to look at a lump I felt near my butthole, along with many other things.
This is normal behavior and my 24 year old brother who has no shame would openly ask my Mum or my Dad about something he wasnāt sure of.
.what you have described is as everyone else has said good parenting! The kid has a good relationship with Dad from what you describe! Is there some other thing that is raising your spider senses? If not then separately have a conversation with yourself about the reasons you are feeling this way! Then rethink your actions!
Wth did I just read?!?
That is his dad and thats dads job, i dont see an issue here
But it would be ok if it was the Mum?? I think it is a case of needing to adjust your judgement snd perception of people . The worst part of this is āsupposedly the dad was helping the childā so you have already made a judgement that something sinister is happening.
Why are people name calling? This poor lady just asked a simple question, maybe where sheās from or what sheās grown up around itās not ānormalā
Thereās no need to trash her and call her names. What happened to people being kind?
Youre trash op. He sounds like a good dad
Sounds like the father is BEING A FATHER and helping his son in a time of need
My 13 and 25 year old sons, and my 24 year old daughter still occasionally ask me to look at something on their pubic area. Iām the parent, itās totally normal and not at all sexual.
Its you that has a problem! What a strange person you are
Iām the first to pick a pervert but we must be carefulā¦not everyone is sick. Remember that
Is this a bloody serious question?
No matter how old my kids get, if they have any concerns about their bodies, Iāll be there periodt.
I would hate it if i cdnt have gone to my own parent with something i thought wasnt right or strange on any of my private areasā¦
Would you say the same thing if it was mother and daughter. I would find it strange if it was mother and son. Boys would be more comfortable with dad in this sort of stuff
You need help thatās what I thinkā¦ I would question it way more if it was the mom
Where the hell is the āā reaction when you need it ā¦
HE IS HELPIN HIS SON WHICH IS WAT HE IS POSE T BE DOIN ! LIKE SOMEONE SAID IF NOT HIS DAD WELL WHO HIS DAD IS THEIR TO HELP GUIDE AND TEACH HIM(BEFORE YU SAY WAT ABOUT IF HE DIDNT HAVE A DAD IT WOULD B THE MUM OR WHO CARING FOR THE BOY AT THE TIME! NO DIFFERENT CUZ HE IS A DAD IT NIT JUST MEN ā Women ā¦MUMS STEP MUM ECT CAN JUST BE AS BAD!!)
DONāT MEAN SHIT CUZ IT WHR IT IS HE JST ACTUALLY TRYIN TO HELP N EDUCATED HIS SON ABOUT THE HAIR ECT AND SEE IF HE CAN MAKE HIM MORE COMFATABLE WIT HIS THIGHS CUZ IT HORRIABLE TO WALK IF YOUR THIGHS ARE CHAPPED AND SOMETHING ā¦
Would it be an issue if it was a mother and her 11 year old daughter?
Is this a frickin joke?
you some therapy.
Stop trying to sexualise parenting.
Perhaps, since youāre on a mums group anyway, you could learn a few things about what itās like to be involved and there for your child.
My Son is 12 and comes to me for EVERY THING. Chafe, constipation, I raised him not to be ashamed of his body. He still climbs in bed with me a lot . I hope he never stops coming to me.
You obviously didnāt have paternal involvement and it shows.
#parenting but yet your questioning him being a father and helping his childā¦ you are the issue not the dad
Is this an actual real question like what the hell
More Kids need fathers that are more involved , more loving , more nurturing like this Dad ! Go , Dad !!
Wtf is wrong with you?
Is men being a good parent that much of an odd occurrence you think they must be doing something to a child? Maybe look into therapy becauseā¦ it is completely normal. Especially if itās only two occasions. If it was every time he went to the bathroom I would be concerned but on two occasions and the child asked for his father to accompany him? Um, no. Thatās not questionable in the slightest.
Not everything men and women do is paedophile vibe, good on him for being a good dad and doing that. He may feel more comfortable doing that with his dad then his mum. Donāt shame someone who is having normal parental concern. Father and son relationship the end. Iām 29 and still get checked from my mum or Mil for help. Stop making bad assumptions what if it was a mother and daughter?
Wtf. Is this even real? If the kid needs assistance in private area matters, who better than his father? You have a twisted mind.
Plusā¦I would rather say a father help a son with those things instead of a stranger.
Your a freak, if dad canāt help teach boys how to be boys, who do you think can teach them betterĀæ???
Iām 22 and still harass my mom in the bathroom
I will guide my child! If he is asking he needs me!
What stupid question is even this? Get a life loser seriously
Umm so a child is comfortable wit dad and asking about his body?? Umm I think you donāt understand healthy relationships
Why exactly do you know what the issues were to begin with?
I stg these have to be prank questions
The fact that you see something wrong here, says alot about you
Totally normalā¦I would be upset if the dad didnāt help his kid with all that.
Get your sick twisted messed up mind outta the dahm gutter and leave that amazing father the hell alone!!!
I get that your concerned, but thatās a good father/son relationship. Thatās a father willing to be there for his son who asked for his help. Thereās trust between the child and parent. Nothing wrong.
That to me says thereās a good amount of communication and trust between them, good parenting by the looks of it.
I think these are getting real silly and real fake.
I think you should mind your business
This has got to be a joke?
Omg wont u help your daughter with same problem as the dad helped his son
Iām sorry it should be more of an issue if you want to give such assistance to your son
BTW you have not been changing his diaper s being of opposite sex
Did it matter then?
Well it would be a whole different senerio if you had a hunch already n caught them twice n they gave you this explanation
Sounds to me like mom may be jealous. Sorry mom, some things call for a dads attention. Now unless this dad has given you reasons to be suspicious, then you need to put your worrying hat away and let dad handle the sons personal issues. Save your worries for real stuff. Geesh!!!
And props to the dad who actually wants to be there for his son.
But you Maāam, need to do a self check. Why are you in a relationship with a man you apparently donāt trust? Unless you have a real reason for this post, I say Shame on you. !!!
Wow how could u even think such a thing i was young wen syarted getting boobs I thought I had a lump my mum had to check me nothing weird about it called being a good parent where else was the bloke ment to go to put his sons mind at ease ur the weird one thinkimg it
The fact that society now questions fathers with their sons is absolutely horrendous and disappointing
Why do you make something out of nothing fathers suffer grand dads suffer by these comments be sure first
Iām 30 and if I have something concerning I still ask my mom to look when I need her too. If soon is asking dad for help and questions then itās fine.
Not your child, Not your business. Unless of course something inappropriate was happening.
Ask the boy ?! Like yesterday
If it was a single father helping his daughter in the bathroom would you still find it āoddā? Whatās wrong with your thinking?
Wtf is wrong with you?
Of course itās normal, would you prefer his mum did it or whatās your problem?
Omg some people are weird af
You one sick fuck !! Go get yourself some help !!
Ooooh what do I see here? Hmm someone who needs to mind their own bloody business
Its just a dad taking his child to the toilet?
Like if it was a woman and her 11 year old, youd not bat an eyelid.
Whoa. Iām first find a therapist for you. Secondly have you tried feminism? This is toxic patriarchy at its finest.
Wow. Is this a serious question? The one with the problem is you! There is absolutely nothing wrong with an 11 yr old confiding in his father. Seek help, you need it!
No no no this is completely normal. The fact that the child went to his father with personal questions is absolutely amazing. The trust and communication between parent and child is earned. Give dad props, bc who else would he go to for answersā¦ Google?
If a boy canāt have these conversations with his dad who should he have them with? This is not an issue.
So, the comments section isnāt going the way you planned
You canāt be seriousā¦ That sounds like a healthy relationship to me. If you think that a son comfortable enough to be able to ask his dad for advice has something suspicious about it, says more about you than it does about that Dad.
You mustāve NEVER had a father in your life or have NEVER seen an active father iƱ his role. This is absolutely EVERYTHING he should be doing as a father. Who better to tell him about coming into maturity, showing and teaching him how to maintain his health and hygiene than his own father? Heās doing exactly what heās supposed to do.
If that was a mom & her daughter would it be a question?
Whose the boy supposed to ask about personal questions regarding puberty and his body changing if not his dad? He probably feels more comfortable with his dad, rather then his mom.
My 18 year old daughter still comes to the bathroom with me
What if it was a woman and her daughter daughter. You wouldnt be here saying this. So the boy is comfortable enough with his father to get his help? So what.? Seems like you may need to mind your own business.
I definitely wouldnt look at it like this unless that boy acted different after.
Also I remember asking my mom what the hair down under was. Because i didnt know it grew there! And definitely didnt feel comfy asking my dad because ya know a female is easier to communicate with about the personal things if you are a girl. Vice versa same with father and son.
My husband helped our 11 year old son with his chapped thigh issue. We needed to put a diaper rash cream. Fixed it right away and dad went into bathroom to make sure it wasnāt infected. At no point in time did I remotely find it odd that our sons Father was helping him address a medical issue and wouldnāt if our son had puberty questions either. I did it for our daughter and he takes care of the boys. What in the world? Not all men are pedophiles automatically when alone with their own child. If the11 year old son was exhibiting molestation signs might be a different story. If that were the case that kid would avoid being in the restroom alone with his dad like it was the plague and would be acting out severely in other areas of life.
Um the fact that most of yāall are commenting how āsickā this person is , to ask a question . Definitely says more about yāall than this person asking the question. Maybe this is a genuine question from a concerned adult , maybe this adult asking this question , has been in a similar situation where things werenāt so normal. The fact that I see some of my āfriendsā saying this person is sick for asking a question. Is disgusting to me. The fact that some of yāall claim to have awful depression and anxiety , and are still calling this person sick for maybe genuinely being concerned. Tells me you have NO IDEA what actual depression and anxiety truly are and if you did and you were a decent human , you would try to be helpful instead of shaming and downgrading.
Maāam or sir if you are concerned for this child , maybe ask this child. I happen to have a great understanding of how parents are with their children , and I understand that sometimes these children need that extra help.
I know also in some circumstances , these issues may not be just what it is ( a parent helping their child) so I understand your concern. I have never been hurt in a way like that by an adult I trusted , and I pray you havenāt either. And this is just anxiety you are having. Of thinking the absolute worst of everything.
I donāt think youāre āsickā or āneed helpā for asking and , just me being me , Iām apologizing for the folks in this post for making those comments and hoping they never have to feel the way you obviously do , to make you come to Facebook and ask a question
Ummm, this is the dumbest s**t Iāve ready todayā¦
Uhhhā¦ no. Sounds like a good father helping his son to me
Whoa!!! This is a little boys asking for help on his growing body? Why is that a problem?
JESUS H CHRIST, STFU! You not only sound dumb as shit but looking for ANTHING to cause problems in someoneelseāslifeā¦
KAREN!
Seems like you should mind your damn business.
So if your daughter needs help at 11 in the bathroom from mom would you tell her no? Because she to old.
Shaving , hair, period, rash, chaffing.
Well āFanā needs to seek help if their first thought was the sexualisation of a child. How embarrassing for you.
I think you need to mind your business. This is the most normal thing. My 16 yr old shows me her books if they are hurting or will just invite me in while shes still naked. Like are you sick minded or something
Geezus I hope you donāt have any boys
Youāre getting such a lovely feedback, is this post an angry jealous mom? This is one of the most stupid things I have eveeeeer heard, and uhhh I work with the general publicā¦ Soooo
The boy is asking his fatherā¦ another male for guidance and your sexualising it, you need help!
This has got to be fake.
Of course itās not a problem.
HEāS HIS DAD.
Heās asking his father about his body. Would you rather he look online?
If so, something. Is very wrong
Okay when E was over 10 I would sit outside the menās room door. Dadās would come out and say heās okay. Funny they understood why I was there. Mama bear outside the door!
Isnāt he old enough to let someone one know if something happened? I have a 12 year old and got pregnant at 14 Iām sure if at that age Iām sure if he felt like something was not right he would deff say something
Why is it bad if his kid needs his help. Just like us moms help our daughters
I would be worried if the father didnāt go in with his young son!
So basically you donāt Trust fathers to handle their childrenās issues? And to answer your question - no I donāt find it odd. And to the dad in question: youāre awesome!
You are being ridiculous. Stop sexualizing children. These sound like completely normal situations and you might be projecting.
I think youāre deranged to think a dad canāt help his son with personal issues. Who else can help him? Mothers are there for daughters during puberty.
I think you need help if a father looking after his son is viewed as inappropriate by you