If your kid was doing bad in school, would you still give them a birthday party? Not bad as in behavior, but bad as in having F’s on their report card/progress report. They are in 2nd grade.
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Absolutely not. Bad grades are a sign they need help. Canceling their birthday will not help.
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I would still give. Life is not all about good grades. He needs to feel he is loved
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Absolutely not. I’d try to get to the root of the problem but they’re still a very young child that may just need some extra assistance.
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Dont cancel the party.
That would do more damage then anything positive.
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Throw the party, help figure out what the problem is. Might be a learning disability that needs a different approach.
No. He’s in 2nd grade.
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Not in 2nd grade, I would be pushing the school to help you help your child. Now, my 8th grader, Ive told him that if he has any missing assignments, he isn’t doing anything for his birthday. He has failed his honors math class all school year, even with tutoring and having all his privileges taken. I’ve thrown in the towl and conceded for just don’t have any missing assignments.
No i wouldnt. Talk to them about grades/get a tutor. Grades are important, but in the grand sceme your relationship with kids is way more important
No it’s just bday if his grade are bad you need to get him help or help yourself has nothing to do with his bday
You should still celebrate his birthday. I would say take away all games and electronics until he works more on whatever ot is he is behind on in school, maybe he needs a tutor
I wouldn’t cancel. If your school year has been anything like ours, we’ve dealt with virtual for weeks, quarantines, sickness…it’s been stressful for me as a mom so I can’t imagine how it feels for them.
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Nope: wouldn’t ruin my child’s happiness, could figure out something else than take away their birthdays.
Um… no… give the kid a party…
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No, give consequences that correspond to the issue. Minimize distractions that may be keeping him from focusing on his schooling. A party has nothing to do with grades this early. Especially in 2nd grade, they won’t understand why you are doing it and would do more harm than good.
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No, children should not be defined by a letter grade! Let the kid enjoy their special day.
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You don’t cancel celebrating someone’s birth because they’re struggling in school. The fact that this is even a question makes me feel sorry for this child. You help kids who struggle academically, not punish them and seriously at a 2nd level, I can’t even believe this is being asked.
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Birthdays are a don’t interfere with area. Everyone deserves to be celebrated. Find a different way to help him understand what is wrong, and give an equal punishment. Failing grades are not necessarily behavioral problems, and there may be something going out that you need to help change.
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What?
I would try to understand (talk with teachers, doctors, therapists, dieteticians…)
I would not punish my child.
To be “bad” grades reflect that something else should be a bigger concern.
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No. spend more time with them on whatever subject it is that they’re struggling with instead of getting mad??? There’s an idea! LOL
but definitely wouldn’t cancel a birthday … 
No. Not for a 2nd grader!
I would take a long look into what subjects and call a parent teacher conference. Is the material not being learned? Does your child have anxiety or some other issue that may cause this? I know we all want our children to succeed, but canceling a birthday party for scores will literally make your child less confident than they already are with their bad grades. Please do some major soul searching and get the help your child needs.
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No way! They’re still a CHILD! Kids love birthday parties. Celebrate their birthday and find a tutor or talk to their teacher for help. Somethings obviously wrong for a second grader to get Fs. My son is also 7 and in second grader. Im pretty sure the teacher has reached out prior when they see grades dropping like that.
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Nope. He’s a kid. And it’s been a hard year for everyone, especially our kids. I would definitely not take away his birthday over grades.
I wouldn’t. You celebrate day of his birth. It’s a joyful Occasion. Not sending the child to a birthday party is one thing. Not celebrating your child’s day of birth is different
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No. They are in second grade. Find out why they are getting Fs. There could be a learning disability. Maybe the child needs extra help not a punishment. Good luck.
Maybe at an older age but not in 2nd grade.
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Um no way thats a sure fire way to make the child feel as tho they arent special
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No, it’s his birthday…and it’s second grade!
No shaming your kids be their example and support them and help
NO!! Is he doing his best? Is he having sight or hearing issues?? If not due to bad behaviour I would be looking further into this instead of punishing a child that may have no control!
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Uh no school has been hell for 2 years there grade 2 give them a break… .
An asshole move to cancel a kids birthday.
No, canceling a child’s birthday party for any reason is cruel .
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I’m sorry but I cannot understand how parents think it is ok to blame and shame their children 
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No, the grades can improve but this year’s birthday will not return.
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Um. So you’re wanting to punish your child because they have trouble learning? That’s literally saying to them sorry love you can’t celebrate the day you were born because you’re not good at something.
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Nooo… the day after the birthday, I’d do it idk.
All kids learn different,maybe start by seeing where the kid is struggling and focus on helping them learn better instead of punishing. They are more than likely already stressing themselves on the struggle with learning. Birthday parties are to celebrate the day of birth. Not to be held over your head because you don’t learn like others or any other reason.
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No!!! Find out why he’s getting bad grades. Is he being bullied so he’s scared to do his school work? Or being distracted at school? Maybe he needs services.
They’re in 2nd grade good grief. If you are willing to a cancel birthday party because a 2nd grader is struggling in school then you’re completely wrong
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Maybe you should see what YOURE doing wrong. 
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Come on let that kid have a party… Take something else away if you have to buy not that. That’s pretty harsh
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If you weren’t succeeding well in your job would you expect your birthday plans to be cancelled?? My guess is hell no you wouldn’t put yourself in your child shoes for once
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No. You as a parent need to find a tutor if you are unable to assist your child with his/her grades. Don’t cause your child to have anxiety over grades. Do everything you can to find help and someone that is able to help them learn and enjoy learning. Not everyone has the talent to teach a child.
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No way…unless you are cruel & evil.Something could be wrong with your child that’s causing them to have bad grades.
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You want to cancel your child’s celebration of birth because of bad grades? 
I would sit down and ask your Son what he’s having issues with in school, and why he’s struggling to learn the material and fail classes. Also, my Son is also in 2nd grade and they don’t get graded like this yet.
Edit to add: I don’t believe in punishing young children for grades. If it was my High schooler getting F’s I’d maybe take her phone and iPad so she could concentrate on her studies.
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I never understood why punishing a child for a grade is the way to do it, no matter the age. They age have a birthday once a year and the fact they’re being told they can’t have a party cos of a bad grade. It’s really harsh and could bring their confidence down so much thinking if they have something taken away like their birthday/party just cos of bad grade, they’re gonna have things taken away or stopped for the rest.
Instead, help them. Find the struggle and help them and show them instead of punishing them.
I never understood punishing someone for a grade, yes they do help in the future but alot of the time, grades means nothing. Aslong as they’re getting the support and learning good grades or not then they should be okay and the fact they’re only in 2nd grade whatever that is in the UK, just a child. I didnt mean to be blunt, just winds me up that parents do this to their child. So nasty in my opinion x
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2nd grade that is way too young for grade punishment 12 and up is sufficient age as more independent in schooling. And birthday no but another privilege internet TV phone yes
What do you hope cancelling the party will do exactly? Scare them into getting better grades? Why not communicate with the school and work with them and your child’s needs to get those grades up.
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Absolutely not. I’d try to figure put why they are struggling and give them encouragement.
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You do not take a birthday party away for any reason. That day is to celebrate their life.
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Oh my gosh
He/she is only a second grader!! That would be awful of you. Maybe figure out first why they are struggling in school. Jesus.
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Noooo, that’s cruel.
Don’t take away birthdays! This world is shit enough.
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Nope
Grades do NOT represent who your child is!
Really? What’s more important… celebrating your child’s actual life or a 2nd grade letter on a report that won’t mean anything to anyone next year? … Don’t be ridiculous.
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Personally no!! What do you think canceling the party would achieve exactly? I mean look how the past two years have been, its no wonder grades are slipping, but🤷🏼♀
Nope. Maybe focus on why they have bad grades and help them? Ask teachers and the school what you can do to help? Instead of punishing, maybe figure out WHY their grades are so bad. Otherwise you will never solve it, and what are you going to do, cancel their birthday every year?
“your doing poorly in school, therefore your life isnt worth celebrating” is a horrible lesson
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No but I would take away all electronics and privileges likes that until they came up.
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Don’t do that. Their birthday is all important. If you cancel the party all you’re going to do is create more problems. If your child is failing all their classes, there’s a reason why. Instead of punishing your child, hello figure out what the issue is so you can help them.
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No. I’d get them a tutor. They are in second grade. If they are struggling in school there is a reason and you as the parent need to address it.
I wouldn’t take a birthday party away from a little one. If they were in middle school or high school maybe. It just depends are they trying and having a hard time or are they not even trying
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No and definitely not in second grade. The parent holds a whole lot of responsibility for the grades of a child at that age. The parent should be figuring out what the problem is and how to get the child help. The child is not old enough to advocate for themselves; that’s a parents job. Please find out why they are struggling and get them help.
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I never punish my kids for bad grades. A bad grade shows me they are not understanding something or struggling with something and that is not grounds for punishment. My kids know if they get a bad grade on a test it’s ok as long as they tried. No need for added stress with school being stressful enough. As long as my kids do their homework/class work and try their best then I call that a win. Your child is in 2nd grade. If they have an F it looks like they are not understanding something. I would talk to the teacher and see what options they have to bring it up and where they can get extra help. Maybe they need to be tested to see if they qualify for an IEP for extra help with certain subjects. I wouldn’t punish them especially if they are trying their best but they don’t understand what is being taught.
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No. I would meet with the teacher to see if he needs extra help in certain areas and go from there. His little brain could just be trying to process too much at once and needs a little but of one on one. Maybe take away electronics and sit him down to discuss the issue. But personally I wouldn’t take away that special day. It might make them feel like they’re not as important as their academic performance…
This is heart breaking that a parent would even consider this:pleading_face:
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At that age there’s probably a reason for the bad grades… might need to get some tests done. My now 13 hear old always struggled and I finally got her tested in 6th grade (teachers refused in the past… but I got one teacher to say yes let’s test) and found out she had a couple disabilities that should have been caught before then…
No, that’s honestly so heartbreaking for your child
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Absolutely not…who would ever consider this… punishment for bad grades …it’s a birthday not a good/bad grade party… ridiculous to even think never mind ask on here
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Definitely not! At 2nd grade level the parent holds a lot of the job to make sure they’re succeeding in school. Tutor him or find a tutor. Sit down to do his homework with him. I would never punish a young child taking a party away from them.
Personally that young they are struggling and you’re not giving them the resources or help they need.
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No why would you do that smh obviously the child is struggling in that category in school so instead of punishing a 2nd grader!!! Sit down and help your child
No I would never punish my kids for bad grades. I would def try to find out why etc but I wouldn’t cancel a birthday party.
Yep absolutely would and I have! Quit coddling these kids, and be real with them.
Poor thing will have to be held accountable for his/her actions. We should want more for our kids.
I personally don’t want to still be raising my adult children or their families in 20 years.
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Never no a birthday is once a year my boy is turning 3 bad as hell and don’t listen I would never take the experience away from him.
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They only turn tht age once I wouldn’t cancel their birthday party. Maybe after it find some other way of punishment (if they’re just not caring and failing on purpose) but even before tht I’d talk to them first and ask them why do they think they’re failing. My daughter was the same way turns out she just needed a little extra help.
2nd grade ? Bro let the kid have their party just cause they are struggling in school doesn’t mean the day they were born should be cancelled !!! If a grade two is getting an F that says more about the teaching staff and parents then it does about the child
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Second grade, no. Get them a tutor and help them they’re to young
No. can’t learn without making mistakes.
Don’t cancel once in a year things, especially if it’s their birthday.
Hold on, so you would call off your child’s celebration of their life because of grades ? If their behaviour and attitude at school is fine then maybe they are struggling. Some just aren’t academic. It doesn’t mean they need punishing. What an awful question how could you even consider it. This kind of attitude is what causes kids mental health problems.
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Birthdays shouldn’t be about grades. I’m really strict on my kids and this goes too far. Don’t damage your kids
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No. The two have nothing to do with each other. We’d talk, figure out what the issue was, figure out how to best address it, make a plan to get back on track, and do all of this without shame, just love. There can be so many reasons for grades slipping. Blindly punishing doesn’t help.
That bad of grades in 2nd grade only tells me something is going on. Either they need extra help at school or something else is going on that’s preventing them from doing work.
I would ask for a full evaluation (start of iep) to see if there is anything hindering their schooling. They will be able to see learning disabilities and mental health issues as well.
I would sit and have a conversation with my child( NO YELLING or scolding) to see if they willnopen up on what’s going on. Often times kids won’t speak up if they think they are going to get yelled at or scolded.
I’d keep the bday party. If they are having no behavior issues I don’t see how canceling it would help their schooling. It could actually backfire and create bad behaviors
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Find a way to help them boost there confidence and ask the teacher what it is you need to do to help your child at home. Set up a parent teacher conference asap. Do the birthday party leave that aside. Your the parent you and the teacher come up with a solution and a plan to better help your child.
No cause kids all learn at there own progress clearly they are struggling and need some extra help. Instead of canceling a bday party Maybe try asking them what’s going on and get a tutor. Sometimes they just don’t get it but they succeedd in other subjects more than others.
Absolutely not I would find a different way to try to fix the problem but I definitely would not take my child special day away from them as a punishment.
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Absolutely not! 2nd grade? They are too young!!! You should be helping them if they are struggling! And if you can’t help them get them a tutor.
I would be more inclined to investigate why a 7/8 yr old is failing well before I’d be looking at punishing them. I didn’t even know kids that young get graded anymore! My daughter doesn’t in year 1 
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in grade 2 it is also you who is causing the Fs at school, how are you doing homework, , this reflex back on you for not helping them out with their readers./counting maths etx if you just allow them to go on the tablet/computer/tv as soon as they are home this is on you
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Bring up your grades before your party…
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Please tell me this isn’t a real question… grades should never factor into a birthday. EVER. And on top of that it’s SECOND GRADE. Maybe take a hot minute and help your child to see why he or she is having bad grades. Otherwise what you are telling your child is if they don’t get good grades they aren’t worthy of love or Celebration.
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No . I cant. See taking that from an child. There’s other ways…get the child help if he/she is having problems.
Nope there are other ways of going about it. 2nd grade is very young, I would be talking to the teacher or figuring out what’s going on with why they aren’t retaining what they are learning.
This question reminds me of people putting wild questions in mom groups to repost the responses on tik tok 
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Middle school and up yes that is acceptable but not in elementary school.
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2nd grade though…… maybe in middle school if they’re just completely blowing everything 
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Nope. Not in 2nd grade…
2nd grade, seriously?? Maybe a party is just what this kid needs to feel more confident. What an asshole of a parent.