I don’t know how to make my adult child understand this without hurting their feelings.
My child is 30yo has moved back home does not have a job, applies for jobs a few times a day, has not gone on any interviews or pursued any positions. They sleep till mid or late afternoon, playing online games till 2-4 am. Does not keep our house clean and get upset when I am not happy about the state of it, I work full time as does my husband! I pay for all bills + vapes, fuel for the car, that I bought and any thing else that is needed!! These things are "expected " because they didn’t ask to be here!! This is not a joke, how do I make them understand that this is not my obligation?