Homeschool moms! So I and my daughter’s dad are no longer together, and he wants to do homeschooling, so we can have 50/50 custody. He lives 3 hours away. I want to do homeschooling as well, but I swear everyone except her dad and me don’t want us to do homeschooling my mom wants her to do school down here, and his mom wants her to do school up there, and they say my daughter won’t have excellent people skills, but she does dance we go to the park, and she’s great. I just don’t know how to tell my parents that homeschooling is what I think is best until she decides she’d rather do public school and she can choose who she wants to stay down with for school… currently she’s in a preschool that’s 3 hours a day 4 days a week, and she’s just to smart for it… from what her teachers tell us, but I feel like being at home for school me, and her dad will be able to bond with her more and have more time with her Also home school moms, and I need more information on how to start homeschooling where do I go to make it official and get the curriculum I need
I feel thats a decision for you and her father to make. Everyone has their opinions but at the end of the day its your choice to do what you feel is best for your little one.
Tell them just like that. It is the best option for your lives at this moment. They dont have to agree. And dont ask them to. It’s your choice.
Teacherspayteachers.com is an awesome resource for printable activities/ worksheets and lots of it is free
You are her parents it is your decision
1st. You and her dad are her parents and decide what is best.
2nd. You dont owe ANYONE an explanation as to what you decide to do and neither does he.
3rd. Juat because your child will be homeschooled doesnt mean she wont have people skills. That is your job. Find a co-op that’s halfway between you and her dad and take her to it. Any extra curricular activities she wants to do, sign her up. Make sure she is around other
Children.
4th. If someone doesn’t like what you guys decide to do, tell them it is none of their business.
My daughter is an only. She definitely needed preschool for the social aspect. Homeschool is such a personal issue. I feel that many people are not qualified to teach their children because they lack structure and discipline. If you can give her that then it might be a good fit. As for your parents, it’s your child not theirs.
That’s your Co-Parenting choice. I would look into different home school programs. My kiddo isnt home schooled but a great learning game that shows you in reports where they need help and accel is Kahn Academy Kids. I feel it’s better than ABC mouse
My oldest homeschools, she’s a senior. We use k12 and they provide everything for her.
As far as others and their opinions, I would explain to them that while you value their opinion you are the parent and feel this will work best for her. Also, I would make it clear that at any time she wants to go back to public school she has that option.
My daughter loves that she is able to do school work at her leisure and her work schedule can be flexible so she isn’t stuck at a desk for 8 hrs a day. Good luck in your journey!
I homeschooled my children and it worked out very well. Look for other homeschooling groups in your area to join. We did that for field trips and holiday parties.
Only yours and her Dad’s decision. How about subjects you are stronger in, Taught by you and ones Dad is stronger in, taught by him. Lots of support for home schoolers in community. Did not home school but I would imagine you would have to fulfill requirements in one of the states. I agree, requires structure and discipline on parents’ part…
Do what YOU want. your parents are not her parents. That said, exposing them to a variety of people in most schools has a more negative effect than it does any good. I’d much prefer you expose your kids to the positive influences you have chosen. Public schools where I am will expose them to gang members and drugs—teach them how to never trust a soul, and how to shoot folks and destroy property. NOT what I’d consider my integration preference
It isn’t up to anyone except the parents. Tell everyone else to back off.
Simple shes your kids you make the decisions for her tell them if they dont like it tough.
I’m a former preschool teacher. State department of education websites will have sections for homeschool families that can give you the information you need to get started and groups you can hook up with in your area. What I would suggest is, check with your local YMCA. When I worked there, they have programs for homeschoolers, where a couple times a week you can meet for art and gym (or dance, swim, yoga, karate- anything!), and then they are still getting social skills and friends that everyone is always worried that those kids might miss. Even if they don’t have an actual program, you can sign up for a few classes on your own, you would still have to have art and physical Ed requirements anyway, so a Y or Boys & Girls Club etc. would be a great place to go. Both have sliding fee scales based on income if it’s too expensive for your budget, it’s worth looking into. Good luck.
Everyone else isnt parenting her. You and dad are. 🤷
My husband was home schooled from 2nd grade and up and being the son of a pastor… He never got outside or got to hang out with kids his own age… He didnt know how people acted in the real world… Also hardly knew was living was till we met last year… Home schooling deprives kids for thwir natural instincts and being able to experience the real world… In my opinion… I hate home schooling… My husband only knew what was taught in his books and what was seen on tv and movies practically
Tell them your kid your decision
I feel like homeschool is not an option for starting out maybe later in life. But you do this she decides to go to school you pit her in public at grade 5, after being home schooled amd its gonna semd her in for shock. Just going to the park and dance isnt enough socialization. They have to get up speak in front of class even in k. To get tgat stuck in. Make new friends etc. All in all you are the parents. But put your benefits aside fron it and think about what she wants.
K 12 is a great homeschool program free and public school education.and if she has extra carriculars like sports or something she enjoys doing she wont be unsociable. I was homeschooled through k12 and im a social butterfly lol. Its really between you and her dad no one elses opinion is really important. And her education is most likely to be better because of the one on one schooling than being in a classroom where most teachers hardly know there students educational needs
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You need to look up the laws and regulations for your state.
Be aware that every state has them. For example in my state 600 hours of schooling 400 of which must be dedicated to the 4 core subjects. (And i live in a state with really lax lass comparatively) You MUST be able to submit a log detailing as proof that you’re doing this.
First thing to consider…can this be done between two enviorments? Can you combine and provide the documentation that may be needed? Are you both willing to “take the fall” legally if for some reason you cannot make this happen? -
Socialization is important. What are your plans to make sure that she’s getting proper socialization? It can be done but its something you need to figure out before hand. Honestly more than the work that’s what preschool is for (just so you know)
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Consistency and cohesiveness is going to be paramount homeschooling in two different homes. What are your plans for making that work?
I’ve homeschooled my son. Im fully supportive of homeschooling, but it comes with a lot too. Any one teaching the child needs to be 100% committed and to that comes with a lot of considerations.
Fuck them and what they say they didn’t make her
I homeschool my kids. They are 13 and almost 16. This is our 6th year homeschooling.
They have lots of friends and are well liked by their peers.
My father wasn’t a big fan of homeschooling when we started. He worried how I was going to teach them things like science. He stopped wondering when I sent pictures of my daughter dissecting a pig. That, along with other experiences convinced him.
It all sounds good in theory but i am against home schooling, and i will tell you why. I started homeschooling 2 of my children due to many absences they had during the school year due to illness. It was a struggle. The school we were enrolled in here in sacto was one hour a week to meet with the teacher, turn in homework from the week before and get assignments for the coming week. Not enough time to go over the assignments. They give the kids homework based on their age, not what grade level
They happen to be. For instance maybe they were 5th grade level in math and maybe 2nd grade level in reading…doesnt matter. They dont personalize their skill level according to where they are at in that subject. But mostly the kids missed the most important thing that going to school daily teaches kids. The respect for authority: social interactions with teachers and other students. I could go on and on but it sounds like you already have your mind made up. So i wish you luck. But it sounds like in your case, home schooling sounds easier for the adults more than the kids best interest. If possible explore all options available to you in the areas where you live. Hopefully you have more options than i had for my kids. It was not good for us. Both kids fell even farther behind and they suffered in a lot of ways. Hope things work for your family! Good luck!
Abeka is what I’m going to use
It’s your choice the grandparents don’t have a say. you do homeschool if that’s what you want. I was homeschooled, there is nothing wrong with it !!!
Grandparents are opinionated. TELL THEM you will do what is best for the child. The child is the most important person. Do a lot of activities with other children.
Homeschooled my four kids, now 38, 40, 42 & 44.
I hope you are able to tell your parents just what you stated here. Grandparents must step back and respect our kids for doing things THEIR way.
YOUR DECISION! Homeschooling is great choice for your situation. Homeschooled children tend to be smarter than public school kids. As long as you choose the right curriculum and make sure she does her schoolwork and learns, she’ll be fine in regards to expected milestones and such. Abeka is a great one.
Do. What the daughter wants.she is the one you need to please.
Home School is great. Hard work but it is good that you’re both are wanting what is best for your child.
Girl i was opposed to homeschooling for years but now that my kids are grown and my daughter has kids she wants to homeschool and this day in age the way things are im glad she is
Everyone one else isnt parenting her. Honestly tell to mind there own gd business. I’ve home schooled I had to stop when I got sick. I wish instill was.
My friend was homeschooled but had an agreement with my school that she came to school for gym, recess, and other classes like art i think… so she still had the socialization aspect of school. May be a possibility for you as well 
she then went to high school with us and already knew a bunch of people!
All for home schooling but not 4 being done In 2 different homes. If that’s the root you want to go then I believe it should be done by one parent in one house. The father still can have 50/50 custody and see the child on weekends, holidays and summer vacation.
I agree for preschool cuz if your over a certain income you gotta pay which is nuts. But I mean if that’s what you want to do. I know my daughter LOVES preschool bc she has all these other kids to play with. Even if she went to parks and all these other things I think once she found out there was regular school with a bunch of kids shed be bummed she wasnt apart of it. But it’s your child you do what’s best to you and your situation
A lot of people doubted I could homeschool too til I got started with it. Anyone with a basic education can do it (GED or diploma) in my state but may be different in yours… I suggest researching a lot of free homeschooling sites for instance ducksters.com is a free one for learning history, science, etc but you won’t have to worry about that right now…there’s a site called all in one home school I used it for a year with my daughter its pretty good, education.com is pretty cheap and we still do that plus you can order a lot of different learning books on amazon if you cant find each subject in the stores. But I’ve heard costco and places like that carry huge books with each subject in them. I would say just do what your heart tells you to do. Don’t listen to judgment and opinions from others just make sure you are going by your states homeschooling laws. I didn’t know how to enroll her at first and reached out to a local school who helped me figure it all out and it was very easy to sign her up but different states have more regulations etc. Also, my daughter still plays with the neighbor kids and her cousins. She is far from antisocial. You can also still put your daughter in things like gymnastics or dance and get music lessons if you can afford those kinds of things etc. But don’t let anyone tell you this will make them antisocial. It couldn’t be further from the truth! I went to public school and I was always shy so public school doesn’t mean they will be more outgoing. Each kid handles things differently but you could always test it our for a year or so. Best wishes!
Tell your parents that the child’s father and mother have decided to coparent effectively to ensure that the child develops a good relationship with each parent. You appreciate their concerns and will take note of them, however, the parents are the two people that will ultimately decide what is in the best interest of the child. Be confident and be strong about your decision. If someone tells you that you are making a mistake, acknowledge their concern but tell them it’s your life and if you make a mistake you will own it.
There are pros and cons to each, homeschool and brick and mortar. Do your research thoroughly and pick the best option for your family.
For curriculum and guidelines, check your state laws. Every state is different.
Hopefully you’ve weighed pros and cons more than “dad wants 50/50”. Homeschooling requires certain costs in most cases and requires commitment from everyone involved. It requires someone in both homes to have someone home all day with the kiddo. Not dismissing or downplaying the option at all, just saying to look into all factors.
If you’ve weighed all the aspects and came to that decision, it’s absolutely up to you guys, the kiddo (depending on their age) and no one else. The only thing family needs to know is you guys are making the best choice for you guys.
Just keep it plain and simple… that while you appreciate their input, the decision is solely up to you and your ex and that the two of you have already agreed that your child will be homeschooled.
First, this is really a choice between you and her Dad. Your parents raised their children and got to make those choices and now it’s your turn. You can try to educate them, but if they don’t seem interested in learning, just consider it a topic that’s not up for debate and agree to disagree.
Second, do both of you have the time to devote to homeschooling her when she’s old enough to need a focused education? She’s little right now and learning through play is really the route to go at this point, so it’s not a huge issue now, but when she’s older you will need to be available to teach her and oversee her education.
At her current age, she doesn’t need any focused time where you sit her at a desk and give her worksheets. Go to the park, take her to play groups and extracurriculars, talk about the fruits and vegetables at the grocery store, do puzzles and build towers with wooden blocks and talk about the colors and the animals and the shapes, colors and numbers. Once she’s starting Kindergarten, you’re still only looking at less than an hour. Mine are teens and believe me when I say there will be plenty of time for them to sit and do book work when they’re older.
As far as how to get started, look up your state’s laws on homeschooling because it varies by states. Some have zero requirements and some require a college degree to homeschool. Learn the law and follow it. I also recommend finding a homeschool group for your area here on Facebook. They’ll be great support for social opportunities, as well as the laws in your state.
Good luck to you! Just remember that the first year is more about getting to know your teaching style, her learning style, and a schedule that works for you all. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself (or her), just figure out what works best for you guys. That’s the beauty of homeschooling. We all get to relatively the same destination, but how we get there varies widely.
Are you both full time stay at home parents? How will you homeschool if you work? How will her dad homeschool if he works? I come from a very very homeschooled family, and it only works if one parent stays home full time while the other works to provide for the family.
I home-schooled one daughter as she had a recurring illness with hospitalization & did not want to fall behind in her studies, of course this was high school, but it was totally her choice & we loved it!
We went thru a program called Indiana Connections Academy, which is exactly like a public school, just done online at home, & go K-12. They are in many different states, & they are public funded like a public school, they have an online lesson plan according to state guidelines, they have planned activities & meet ups & field trips. They have live lessons that the kids attend with the teacher & other online students. The teachers call & email the student regularly. You must enter attendance every day & do the work by a certain due date & there is a structured weekly schedule for the kids to follow IF they can.
My daughter graduated with a High School Diploma with Honors <3
& is now about to graduate college with an Associates in Criminal Justice. BEST DECISION EVER!
How are the parents going to work and home school at the same time?
First, you’re putting too much weight on the grandparents’ say. They don’t decide this. You and Dad do. Their input is welcomed but when the decision is made, it won’t be them.
As for homeschooling/cyberschooling, which is what my wife and I plan on doing, there are plenty of ways to circumnavigate the social skills issues most people have being homeschooled. If she’s active in groups and the neighborhood, she’ll do fine. Our personal choice of homeschooling is due to not trusting public education and not trusting school safety. If you guys do decide to switch to public school, prepare her by letting her know what a classroom environment is like, about the dangers of school shootings, fires, and abductions, and that she can, in fact, refute facts to teachers in a respectful manner
1.) Write down why you want to homeschool. It’s hard and on those difficult days you can refer to this “ Mission Statement” and remember why you are doing it.
2.) Learn the laws in your state. In Washington, a child is not required to to any formal schooling until 9 years old.
3.) A child can get plenty of socialization outside of the public school system.
Our family homeschooled for 10 years+. It was a blessing for us and continues to be my proudest accomplishment.
I’d get someone else to teach her English and grammar, but you do you. 
I would always prefer people homeschooling. In terms of socializing, kids are literally everywhere. Set up playgroups or go to several different activities, and soon your child will have more friends than any public school student can 
Do neither of you work?
Do you have experience in early childhood education?
Homeschooling is usually an option parents choose because they want what’s best for the child’s educational needs not because they want more bonding, that could seriously hamper your child’s social skills and independency