I think it might do more harm to the child than good. If you think you really should allow her to visit just be prepared for your niece to most likely act out. Gosh especially with the holidays here I would definitely wait on a visit.
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First, do you have custody of her thru the court system or are you just raising her? If you have custody, do what is best for the child and for your situation. If you donāt have legal custody, consult with an attorneyā¦
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Supervised visits only
Unless youāre gonna get courts involved
I would suggest getting a picture of her bio mother so she can have that in your room. As for her calling you mom that should be up to the child. I suggest if you do a visit maybe contact law enforcement for a safe zone location so the visit can be on video/camera.
I disagreeā¦let her see her birth mom and tell her she will be going with the auntie (not her mom) reassure her that all is going to be ok. It will be hard on her now since she is so young, but in the future she will regret it. Reassure the baby that all is going to be fine her momma just wants to see how big and beautiful she is getting and to thank her sister. Do not keep her away from her momma.
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I would do supervised visits. Since she is trying to do better and get off drugs because that methadone will help her stay clean. Because if she tries to get high it could kill her because of the methadone
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I feel it would do more harm. My father is an alcoholic he would come and go as he pleases, when I saw him I was happy but when he left I question what I did wrong why he hated us why he never wanted us. She may think she wants to see her but if the birth mom gets back on stuff sheāll feel likļæ¼e she did something wrong
I would say have her go at least 6 months to a year with a steady job and housing and sober before you do that. If she can prove to make a good life for herself first then do it
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Maybe just go out to lunch or something at first
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Sweetheart you really need to have an attorney a good one not one thatās just in it for the money. A child advocate on your side. Has this child gone through counseling and your family? if you are doing this all on your own with your family it can make things difficult in the future for everyone. God blessings to you all have a wonderful Thanksgiving and Merry Christmas to you allā:heavy_heart_exclamation:
First I would not have let her call me mom she already has a mom even if she is an addict and not in the picture at the moment.
If that sweet baby is having that hard of a time when you just go to take out the garbage she needs a therapist & bio mom needs zero contact until she can stay clean & get a therapist for no less than a year.
Sheās too young to decide . I would not let her see her until sheās been clean for at least a year . Not fair to the little girl . That little girl should have counseling also before she sees her mom so they can tell you if she can mentally handle it . Sheās obviously still having issues with what her mom did to her .
Your niece needs a child therapist. She clearly has a lot of trauma. Mom should be clean. She doesnāt have any business being around her child unless she can get her act together.
Iād wait until she is clean. Offer her rehab and other outlets that can help her and once sheās clean sheās more then welcome to meet her. Other wise Iād wait.
My dad has always had a problem w drugs and I told him he doesnāt get to meet my kids until heās 100% clean for 6 months. And so far his grandsons arenāt worth it.
Itās whatās safe for you and your niece. Not whatās best for the sil
Can she prove sheās clean?
If she wants to see her daughter make sure she proves to you that sheās actually clean. There is a market for clean piss and itās easier to give a false positive then most think even with cameras in the bathrooms at the clinics. Bring your own tests. If she can and is willing to provide you with a clean test right in front of you then do what you think would be better for everyone involved.
I dont think shes ols enough to fully understansld and ready to see her birth mother.
Listen too her your niece