AITA for being mad my husband didn't spend time with me?

My husband and I have been together for 6 yrs, we have always had a great relationship and at the very start have always been great at communicating wants and needs, we have two daughters 9 & 2 and just had our third a baby boy four weeks ago. Since bringing home the new baby we haven’t had any significant time together since he has been none stop working. For two weeks we both knew my parents were going to keep our 9 yr old and our new born son over night at their house, I was extremely thankful and excited because I knew this would be a night and half a day with just our 2 yr old and we would be able to get some quality time together which I have desperately missed and I have been constantly telling him I needed, AITA because he woke up and made the choice to go help his friend install subs and speakers in his car instead of spending the six hours we had left before we had to pick up the kids with me?!? For weeks I have communicated that I so desperately need some time with him, mentally and emotionally!!! Then he tells me in a text argument we got into that Because I want time with him I am pushing him away? I don’t know what to do! And my feelings are extremely hurt!

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Just the same as being home with children is isolating; working all of the time is also isolating. There’s a demand every moment of every single day. I didn’t have time to miss my family when I worked 60 hour weeks and to be truthful, when i finally got time off i needed to decompress.
I understand your frustration too.

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Was he earning money from his friend? I could see if you needed the money and he went to work for it. Or maybe he has promised the guy and forgot. Guy code I guess. Idl what I’d do

Sounds like a loser. Get rid of him. It won’t get any better. They put there needs before yours and start saying crap like that. It’s time for them to go because they do not like or love you.

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He’s got a girl friend. He’s turning it around on to you making it look like you are clingy

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