Am I being selfish?

I need some advice. I haven’t been doing too well mentally lately, and I feel like it’s really starting to affect my life negatively. I was thinking about taking some time to myself & admitting myself into a psychiatric hospital. The only thing stopping me is being away from my son for that long. Is it selfish of me for wanting to do this? Am I a bad mom for it? I just really fear that if I keep going, my son won’t have a mother in 5 years time. I want to get better for the both of us.

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Take your son to a safe place to stay with a person you trust and get yourself some mental help. It’s not selfish at all. You want to be better for yourself and for him. I would assume they allow visitors - maybe he can come visit you once or twice a week. If not, maybe just a phone call or FaceTime if that’s allowed.
It’ll be tough to be away from him, but it will be for the best in the long run for all involved.
Best wishes! :pray:t3:

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You can not be the mother that your son need and deserves if you are not mentally and emotionally stable.
Getting admitted to a mental hospital to get the help you need is the best way of showing your son how much you love him and how much you care for him.

I think it’s very selfless and wonderful that you are going the proper route to better yourself in that aspect. Your thinking of your son to have a healthier mommy. Personally I would do the same if I was in your shoes. Gotta take care of you too first

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A bad mom wouldn’t worry about her child. You know that this will help you be a better parent and a happier person. Your mental health and overall well being are important and I hope if you can get help that you do.

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You’ll be able to be a better mom if you’re mentally healthy. :heart:. Not selfish at all. If he has a safe place to be, check yourself in if you think you need it. Maybe after Santa comes though. Hang in there. Sending you big hugs. :pray::heart:

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Go for help more ppl will watch you and say they need help and not be ashamed set the example

That would be the best gift you could give your son. Please, if you need help then get it.

Speaking from experience, do it. :heart:

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You can’t pour from an empty cup mama! :heart: It’s the very best decision you can make for you and your son!! :heart::heart:

Totally understand where you are coming from here much love x

No you’re not a bad mom for wanting to get mental help. Don’t ever think that. Get help it will benefit both of you in the long run.

Why not just go to the Doctors and take your medication . Then when you get better. Look around and see people in wheelchairs who can’t walk or do anything for themselves and think too yourself my life really is not that bad .

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Don’t! Go and see a psychiatrist and therapist to start. At the mental hospital you are not going to get support needed and it’s very depressing.
And it will be on your records

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Taking care of your health is taking care of your son. He deserves the best parts of his mom. Not selfish at all. Take care of yourself.

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Please don’t become a statistic because you wanted to appear strong. Do the right thing, seek help and be there for him in 5 years,10 years and 25 years.:revolving_hearts:

Nope find someone who actually loves him and will watch him then admit yourself

Taking care of you benefits him. This is NOT selfish. You are responsible and mature. I hope everything works out for you.

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Going is making a good example for your son as well as helping both of you. Best of luck

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When it comes to ur mental health it’s never selfish!

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That is not selfish at all but you possibly could be treated outpatient with meds

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No you are not selfish. You need to take care of yourself in order to take care of your child. Best of luck to you.

No it’s not selfish, but I would think twice about giving someone else the power to let me out.

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You are getting healthy for him and once u get better look at what u could accomplish

How about outpatient therapy?

You have to help yourself … if you can’t do for yourself then how will u be able to for your baby! Mental health is so important yet so over looked! If you can guarantee a safe place for your baby while you go I strongly encourage you to do so! Hugs and lots of positive vibes your way

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Do you have a family dr? I think that should be your 1st step

You can do it! It is not selfish at all!

I would go, you will regret it if you don’t. Arrange for your son to be with someone you and he knows and trusts while you are away. You have to help yourself to be a good mom. In no way going would be selfish.