Sounds like he is very controlling what happen to 50/50 what does your family say
I wouldnât say no to Easter, maybe after, you could ask to rotate. I would want to keep gatherings intact. Itâs rare
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Itâs his house too. Maybe heâs proud of the home the two of you have made. Maybe he feels itâs his turn to take the burden off those that have hosted in previous years. Talk to him calmly and see what he has to say.
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UmmmâŚyou do have a say in this. He invitesâŚhe prepares the meal, he cleans it up, you sit back and enjoy your holiday. He can also go to buy the food needed to entertain his family. No help from you other than go grab yourself a good bottle of wine!
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When my husband and I got married, we decided to just get married at the courthouse. His mom thought it would be nice if we had a small wedding âfor the family.â I replied that if his mom wanted to plan it, pay for it, and all I had to do was show up and say âI do,â then weâd have a wedding. Guess what? We got married at the courthouse. Let those who WANT the celebrations HOST the celebrations.
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Also as he is doing all the work in hostingâŚinvite all your family to join in! Every holiday isnât all just his side and not including yours.
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Make him host his family instead of assume you will.
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Let him enjoy his family if you donât feel like hosting let him know and go into your room and lock the door. Trust me as time goes on all the hosting will end and there will be no more visits they will get the point you donât want a full house but till then let him host
And soon YOU wil become the in law that nobody are going to even bother to invite. You reap what you sow⌠Remember this!
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He needs to respect your request. I would tell him if he has his family over and is adamant about it, I would leave for that holiday, than he can entertain them
I agree thatâs not fair. I would explain to him that you feel youâve begun to reciprocate some of the invites youâve received to other family membersâ homes over the years, so itâs time to alternate between homes on the holidays because you are getting stuck with the majority of the work involved, especially for holidays that donât fall on your calendar. Also ask him to pitch in with the work involved with the gatherings at your house.
Have a conversation with your inlaws about it. Make it a light playful conversation about always hosting and maybe it will open up to where yâall can start trading off holidays or something. They may just think you really enjoy hosting all the time. Always speak up so others know how you feel!
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You obliviously have no children since you do not " believe" in Easter.Maybe you should just take a trip and not be around.
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Tell him to do all of the cooking,cleaning,hosting in general on Easter and see if he still does it 
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I do understand and the worst part of it is your husbands refusing to listen to you and hear you ! Now if only he did here you that would make the world of difference to you because at the moment husband does what husband wants . He wouldnât be a husband if he hadnât married and chosen to have a life partner . Draw a line in the sand and Iâm so glad you arenât a hypocrite because youâve been open about not celebrating Easter so many people celebrate Religious special days and donât believe in any of it ! That makes my blood boil so he Does believe and wants to celebrate Easter well , let him and let him look after all the guests , shop for the meal , cook the meal , serve it up and wash the dishes ⌠I wonder if heâll be so quick to want to entertain his family in future . Itâs a lot of work in planning all these celebrations 
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Whats wrong with him wanting to invite has family over why donât you do the same and invite your family over then your surrounded by family of both sides of the family just talk to him and tell him how you feel then see what he says
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Are they coming from out of town or just for dinner!?
If itâs just for dinner than fine but they should bring a dish or him or his family should help cook a d cleanup!
If it from outta town and they are there few days you shouldnât be expected to entertain and cook 3 meals everyday for them!
Theyate capable of doing that themselves!
My family comes from outta town
and my bf expected me to host them for multiple days!
He know now that they can expect to make themselves at home as they are fully capable of doing so!
I donât lie to to my children when it come to Santa clause ,Easter bunny ect.But I also tell them that some kids believe in them and to keep the rouze going for others!Out of respect!If its not a religion thing than âŚ
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Tell
Him to enjoy his partyâs. And go for a hike. Let him take care of it all.
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go invite some of your family over
If little kids are coming remind him to set up the egg hunt and games too, along w all the food. Lol
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Let him host his family if he wants them over. Itâs his house too he should be allowed to have his family over if he wants. When your family is over you host and when his family is over he hosts.
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If it really bothers you walk out the door and come back when the party is over. Then he can have his family.
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Ugh my man does this he invited everyone for Easter gave me a 2 day notice! Then left that whole morning while I cooked for hours!
say something to him! . I get where your coming from, but it is his family and his home as well. Heâs probably just proud of what you all haveâŚ
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Let Him Host Them Tour Having Dinner At your Family House Enjoy.
Maybe you shouldnât be together than
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Klomp selfsugtige katterige vrouens wat so lelik is met die arme man en sy familie. Die madam moet onthou, was dit nie vir sy Ma nie, het sy nie 'n man gehad nie.
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Go on a trip a day before they arrive n return 2 days after they leave⌠U need some time n space to unwind n refresh 
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Have him prepare for it and you can help. That way he does the brunt of the work .
Sounds like your husband is proud of you sand both of your accomplishments and he wants to celebrate.
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I would announce at the beginning of the meal that whatever holiday is next someone elses turn is then. (Who would like to host our next holiday?)
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If you put your money into home purchase,and name on the deed, Speak up and put your words into action⌠NO
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Tell him that youâve been invited somewhere else. Tell him itâs a secret.
No. Tell him to cook if he wants to invite them over
Definitely not wrong of you. Should have be talked about amongst you both but with it being his family, I feel itâll Definitely be a sensitive topic on his end. Best of luck
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Honestly suck it up this time but have a serious talk with him about the future. Not worth creating problems w your in laws.
Jesus has risen thatâs the follow up of Easter and the meaning behind it. If this was my issue. Iâd be like nope this is my home too this is my safety zone and comfy with just you and I. Sounds like you donât care for his family. Tell them to do dinner at there home. He is probably wanting to host dinner because he is proud that he finally bought you and him a home. When men accomplish this, itâs a BIG DEAL. You should feel the desire to stand behind him and give him the praise he deserves. A lot of women not me but others would be so honored to even have a home and family. Family is precious time is precious. While your being grumpy you should embrace the fact you have what most ladies would love to have.
Iâm so sorry girly but YOU SOUND LIKE A SPOILED BRAT. This is my home these are my rules fyi itâs NOT JUST YOUR HOME ITS HIS TOO. I bet he alone pays the house note! Iâd say be more appreciative of what you have.
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Why dont you enjoy his family? Are they rude or ? If not why dont you like it. Maybe theres more to this you didnt add but is it you dont like the cleanup? Seems to me he needs to find someone who can appreciate him and his family.
I do not blame you for being upset. If you donât even celebrate the holiday, why should you be put in a position to entertain his family and celebrate Easter? I would maybe suggest that you are not comfortable doing this, and you are willing to compromise (once again) but in the future, if thereâs a holiday you donât celebrate, you would like to have your house to yourself, and he can visit the family at their home, with those who celebrate the way he does. Perhaps there is a holiday or 2 you do celebrate, and would be willing to open your home to his family during that time. I know marriage is full of compromise, but he should also consider that this is your home, and you are forced to celebrate rather you want to or not because you have to cook, clean & entertain the family.
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Ask your hubby what he is serving and then tell him he invited them he can do all the work
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Our extended family switched houses every holiday, one holiday per household a year. You are the other half of his household so you have as much say as he does, put your foot down.
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Maybe help plan a party (ugly ornament swap at Christmas time?) at another family memberâs house?
We regularly host the friend-family parties at our place (our family is thousands of miles away) and though itâs time consuming and labor intensive, itâs just so magical to see and feel the happiness of our guests.
Honestly, itâs all all in your perspective. If youâre sour about a gathering before it even happens, youâre not going to have a good time. If youâre overwhelmed by all the effort (I get it! Purchasing, preparing, and cleaning up Thanksgiving dinner, for example, is a total pain in the dick), delegate tasks. If someone canât purchase and prep the turkey to cook at your place, thatâs on them.
Sending love and light!
No, its a lot of work to entertain on every holiday or special event, whether they bring a dish to share or not. You still need to make sure bathrooms and rest of your house is cleaned, plus dishes, etc. Let them take turns.
Go out or stay in your room and let him host them?
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Have you considered leaving for the day? Let your husband do the entertaining. Joking not joking.
Get up and go a day before they arrive, take the kids with you and do something fun. Do not prepare anything before you go.