Am I in the wrong to feel the way I do?

The insecurity of my partner makes me want to have this baby, hand it to him and walk away. I really hate how I’m feeling right now and so tired of trying to explain hormonal imbalances to him.He has three kids with other women so I never thought he would be so unable to comprehend that sometimes I prefer space or am in pain(due to fibroids).

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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Am I in the wrong to feel the way I do?

Some man just don’t get it and don’t care about understanding how taxing it is on the mind and body.

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There is not enough context

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No man will let you endure the stress of pregnancy alone, and perhaps, there’s a big reason they are no longer in a relationship. But make sure you’re being a good partner, as well. I highly doubt with his history, he’ll be in the slightest bit capable of change. Good luck.

Mistake number one creating a child with a man with numerous other baby Mama’s.
He doesn’t care!

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They need it in writing lol

How you’re feeling, what you need or want

Have to agree with TK Bradley

Why would you leave your child

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Multiple baby mommas is a :triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post:

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Ooof more than one child with more than one woman is never good

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3 kids with other women was your first clue

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Hand the kid to him? When he had multiple baby mamas and kids? I’m not understanding what’s going on here.

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Maybe the other women found him to be a pain too. That is why they moved on. Does he take care of the other children? He sounds very selfish. I would move on. You will be better off.

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There you go “he has three kids with other women “ no wonder there is more then one baby momma his the problem probably !!!

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He knows how to make them but has no idea how to take care of anyone but himself

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He chooses not to understand. Then he won’t be the center of attention.

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He can’t expect every female to endure pregnancy the same, nor every individual to have a similar experience with each child. If he’s really that out of it and not understanding try couples therapy. Clearly you two aren’t speaking the same language at the moment.

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First mistake is having a baby to a deadbeat dad… him having multiple kids to different mummas should of been your redflag. If he makes you feel this way leave and find better

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Damn, you wanna give him the baby​:joy::weary: do you think that’s even an option? Lol good luck with that tho.

He had numerous other babies to other women and you thought he’d be different for you?

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He’s probably up to no good.

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Sorry Hand your baby to your man because you weren’t the one to fix him??? Shake your head woman. That baby did not ask to be here pull up ur big girl pants

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Everyone deserves space…in fact I think it’s a necessity. You still have to live and be you and vice versa.

Yes , you are !!! He HAS 3 kids with different women for a reason :woman_facepalming:t2::woman_facepalming:t2::woman_facepalming:t2:
And , why you want to punish the baby for your mistake ? You choose to have a baby with this man and now you are contemplating to abandon the poor innocent baby :woman_facepalming:t2::woman_facepalming:t2:

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You have a right to your feelings. Sit down with him for a serious talk.

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How much do you want this child? Make decisions based on those thoughts

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Why is no one commenting on the fact that she would leave her child that easily😳

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I’m assuming by it you mean YOUR baby. So I do think you are in the wrong for just wanting to discard the child you made to an immature dude. You had the baby knowing he has multiple children with different mothers, that’s on you. It’s time for you to grow up from the sounds of it. Sorry if that’s harsh but come on now.

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Take him to a doctor appt and have the dr educate him

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Unfortunately when you were in the interview process you didnt check his references

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No MOTHER should talk like this about their child because a grown man upset them….

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U don’t leave him with baby. If u don’t like him then leave and take your baby.

Just say it!!! He’s A Ho. Dead Beat Father!!! Don’t leave the baby with him!!!

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I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. Every woman and pregnancy is different. He sounds selfish and mean. You can try talking but if he doesn’t want to understand he won’t. Don’t give up a baby, raise the baby to be loved. Surround yourself with a village of family and friends and people who help and guide you. The people you have in your corner helps make a difference. You will be ok,even without him hunny. You Got This!! Take a breath, say a prayer and do what you need to in order to give this baby And yourself the life yall Deserve! Many blessings hunny.

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I understand your emotions are all over the place. Tomorrow you may feel differently. (I hope so) Do what’s right for you and your little blessing. She could be your one and only miracle baby.

You want to give up your baby and walk away because a man is on your nerves? Girl… throw away the man not the child.

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I think you need to seek therapy. This doesn’t sound good for you. Or healthy.

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Maybe you should just give up the baby if you’re this willing to walk away anyway.

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He has three children with three other women and you thought you would be different? For a mother to say they want to hand over their child to the father because of his insecurities and walk away is mind-blowing. You both need to grow up. These are children you are deciding to bring into the world. They are not bargaining chips or pawns. I suggest you take a long hard look within and decide if you want or are able to be a parent to a child at this time.

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Shoot, I’ll take the baby. Get him fixed and get yourself in therapy.

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By all means, if you don’t want your baby, then consider putting it up for adoption. Give it a chance at having a good life and parents that will want and love it. You don’t sound ready for motherhood.

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Idk, I feel like the other baby mommas should’ve been the first red flag. Obviously relationships can end for any reason but you have to watch how he treats his kids and exes cause men don’t change for anyone but themselves.

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Sounds like you need to leave him and sit and think about if you really want this baby or not. If you’re that willing to give up your baby over a man you might want to look into adoption now. Don’t keep the baby just because it’s his. He isn’t going to change after baby is born and you’re hormones won’t be remotely back to “normal” until the baby is at least 1. So think about that too

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Hold up. You made a baby with this man, and due to his not understanding your pain. You want to give HIM the baby and walk away? The hell am I missing? Why would you give the baby up so easily bc he ain’t understanding?

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I really don’t know why you chose to post this here for support. This group is full of miserable souls who love to tear people down when they’re at their lowest. I would suggest being honest with your OBGYN about these feelings so they can refer you to someone who you can talk to and help you figure out what’s best for you and baby. I wish you luck. :purple_heart:

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I wish so bad I could have another baby and you’re willing to give up yours for a man? Maybe you should consider adoption. There are so many others that would love to take that baby in

Just because she feels like handing her child over to the father and leaving doesn’t necessarily mean she will smh… what people can’t have feelings anymore?? Alot of women feel that way especially after giving birth ….it happens …soo many judgmental comments

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I feel like you need some professional help and guidance and then see if you feel the same way. I definitely wouldn’t hand over the baby to him I’d seek a loving family that wants a baby.

If you didn’t want the baby why did you get pregnant. If you can actually say you would give it to him and leave then you don’t need a child. That’s an innocent human being and deserves a loving family. Please just put up for adoption because you don’t have any maternal instincts. You are only thinking of you. Screw him.

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Get ready to do this on your own hun. Sounds like he’s not the most reliable person in the world. Love isn’t enough to build a relationship on or hold a family together. It takes a lot of work

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WOW!! Where to start.

First, it would be good of you to speak to your OB-GYN about the pain you are in.

Also, getting into a parenting program so you will know exactly what to look forward to when a baby is born.

If you find that you don’t feel ready to be a mommy, where the baby comes first forever and always, then it might be in yours and your babies best interest to put this child up for adoption.

Please get yourself into therapy. It sounds like there is a lack of maturity in this relationship.

Lastly, please know this man will never change for you….EVER!! In his world, it’s all about HIMSELF.

Please take care of you and make better decisions.

I’ll be thinking about you.

Take care.

Blessings.

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No you’re not wrong to feel that way bc that’s what makes you human but, what you do about it is what makes you….

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He doesn’t car about the others and he doesnt care about yours.
Do you want the baby?

It’s very hard for men to understand hormonal in balance I find. Maybe have a sit down with him and discuss you need some space? Maybe ask him why he is feeling so insecure? I feel for you, it’s not easy being pregnant, I hope you are ok!

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Try counseling for yourself and couples counseling asking with parenting classes for you both if you want to stay with him. (Maybe you going to these things all also will motivate him to go too?)

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Your insecurities and just giving your baby away to him… I can’t with this post, by all means seek help

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It sounds like depression could be setting in, talk to your doctor about how you’re feeling before the baby is born as it could potentially get alot worse.

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3 kids to other women is prob a good sign he doesn’t get it!

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Get a doctor to explain it to him

A bit confused here. Backstory please

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Yeah give him the baby and walk away. Maybe after having to figure it all out he’ll stop dropping his seed and walking away. At the same time you may need to seek therapy.

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He has three kids with other women and you’re surprised ???

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And you wanna just hand your baby over to a man making you feel like shit? This post is stupid :unamused:

Why are you having a kid with someone tgat already has 3 baby mamas? Is he even paying child support? You apparently have no clue what red flags are?

Are you sure you even want the baby? Why would you hand them to him and walk away? Why wouldn’t you toss his ass out and live your best life with your baby?

If you’re already pregnant and his insecurities are in! It’s a tad too late! That’s called nonsense and childish knowing the outcome of both your actions! That’s the problem now a days! As a female know your self worth!