What took them an entire week? smh.
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Iād get a black bin bag and tell them where their stuff is if they want to get it, but after a week itās going to the bin lorry.
I deal with the same issue!!! My kids are grown and gone, but I babysit and the neighbors kids come play. Yesterday I had finally had it. They were in and out of the house grabbing water and snacks, I walked outside and there were water bottles and wrappers all over (even under the stairs on my porchā¦purposely thrown there) and tots everywhere. I told them to clean up the yard before they left. My roommate left for work and a helmet was in our yard, he asked me to go get it and put it in the neighbors yard. NOPE! They were told to pick it up. Not my job. I have 6 other kids I am responsible for hereā¦the neighbor kids are not my problem
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NTA. I do the same. Other kids items arenāt your responsibility. It sounds like the angry parents wouldnāt have even known the stuff was missing if you hadnāt said anything. Youāve mentioned it enough times and they donāt want to listen. Itāll teach them to be responsible for their own stuff
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Nope not in the wrong. If this was an occasional thing you could be more accommodating but it isnāt occasional, itās constant and they were warned.
Also, anything theyāll knowingly leave outside for over a week out of sheer laziness cannot be all that important so the faux outrage is just foolish imo.
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You are not wrong. This is ridiculous.
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Just because they are kids does not mean they cant be respectful of others peopleās property. When you take your kids anywhere you do not let them leave their belongings and/or trash everywhere do you? No.
I would however tell the kids everytime they come play, to not leave anything behind and if they have trash to please clean it up. If the kids did not listen, I would tell the parents just once, if anything is left in my yard more than a day it would be thrown away. If they donāt like it, donāt come play. Everyone here would get fed up with having to clean up after a bunch of kids all the time. Especially ones that are NOT yours. 
All the neighborhood kids gather in my yard. At first they left wrappers in my driveway. I talked to them about it. They donāt do that anymore. If they left clothing or other items, I most definitely would NOT throw it away. Iām glad they want to be in my yard. I do believe you are in the wrong for throwing their belongings away. Theyāre kids and sometimes they forget or have to go home in a hurry.
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Definitely verbalize at least once to the parents of the children or leave a note on their door that you will throw away before you actually do. 1)toys arenāt cheap and the child would take the fall harder bc their items will be thrown awayā¦ 2)itās fair to give warning before you do. Maybe parents arenāt aware of how annoying it is
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Get a bin- sort of like lost and foundš¤·š»āāļø
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Tell the kids they canāt play in your yard, problem solved!
I donāt think youāre in the wrong at all. Iām baaad OCD and I donāt even leave anything of my own childās laying out in the yard. Nothing, nottaā. Everything has a place and I canāt function if itās not in it. I donāt have this problem yet cause my oldest is only 2 but dogs tend to carry random things from neighbors houses over to my yard and the moment I pull in the driveway and see it, it goes straight to the trash. The whole āmake a lost & found bin and leave at the end of your driveway or random spot in your yardā idea is obnoxious to me. Like my OCD could not handle that at all! I donāt see anything wrong with you wanting your yard nice and tidy. If the parents of these kids have a problem with you wanting your place to look nice then maybe they should all meet up every evening to help tidy up and collect their childās belongingsš¤ Some say youāre disrespectful, but like youāre basically babysitting (for free) giving these parents a break from their kiddos to clean house or whatever they need to do and they expect you to not only pick up after their kids but what? Hand-deliver every rando sock, toy, and whatever else back to each and every house in the neighborhood?? Like I think thatās disrespectful towards YOU and your time and your home.
No your not wrong but your wrong being to nicely
So let put better rules for your yard to improve by Collectingļæ¼ their stuff and put them as ļæ¼
lost in found
No pick up by next day then trash their stuff .
Still sound nicely
You are not wrong its YOUR YARD YOUR HOUSE and you set your own rules if the mom is so upset why didnāt she come looking for HER childās stuff??
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Never threw anything away. The kids would get it eventually. Get a container put everything in it and then the kids can get it back when they remember they left it.
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As long as they know the consequences, after a couple days Iād say thatās reasonable. Maybe put out a ālost & foundā bin to throw everyoneās stuff in and a note saying it will be emptied/donated every weekend or whatever, if that would work for you. Unless itās all the same neighbor, then Iād just set their stuff on their doorstep lol.
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Get a large bin and put it all in. Give them a time limit. Say if it gets full and isnāt cleaned out in so many days ,then the stuff is going in the trash. I have same issue with neighborās kids coming to play on our kids stuff in backyard, which i dont mind,but then go outside with my kids to find food wrappers and drink bottles/cans tossed around.
Please donāt throw the kids stuff away
I to at times have been that yard ( I have a pool )
I do what Kimberly Raupp said
Make my kids or yes the neighborhood kids put all the toys ect in a bin in the yard
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I get the anger and frustration but kids are kids and you could tell them one minute, and 2 minutes later they are bolting off home without remembering their belongings, iād of got a box or bag, put it all in so it kind of clears the garden/yard (better still make YOUR kids clear it, they will soon get fedup of clearing their mates stuff) then when they actually realise they left something it will be in the box/bagā¦just remember their parents/friends/relatives have had to pay for those items and iād be pretty peed off if someone had just thrown something away, or you could go and warn the parents, tell them you have tried but the kids keep forgetting, let them know how messy their kids are leaving your property and you would appreciate their help in sending their kids back to check if they have left anything.
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Iād have a lost and found tub that gets emptied once a week.
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I personally would put like a lost and found box at the edge of the yard and no itās not your job to keep track and to call parents or anything like that but my son without my knowledge it took an iPad mini to a neighborās house and left it and as soon as he was back he went to go back to get it and told me that he had taken it and so I went with him and it was gone already and we never found it so Iām assuming somebody stole it not thrown it away.
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Food wrappers and trash is entirely different than toys and clothing. If you allow them to play in your yard and give permission to have them on your property you are taking responsibility for them and their belongings. You should collect items in a lost and found box and send a group email to parents notifying them that in a week or two that you will be disposing stuff left at your house. If you arenāt willing to make some attempts to compromise on this, you soon wonāt have kids coming over to play.
Put a tote at the end of your yard put the stuff There. Throwing their stuff out isnāt nice. They are children. Children forget things.
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Iād do the same thingš¤·š»āāļø you gave them a week and they were told multiple times
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They need to know better
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In my opinion you are not wrong. I would give them 3 times then thatās it. I would make your kids pick everything up so they understand what you have to do. I did it to my kids after putting them in a basket in attic, did 3 times they still left out. Trash they went. Gkids living here no respect doing same thing trash it goes. No more toy gifts from me. I didnāt have kids to be the maid non paid hired help
Kids are kids! I wouldnāt throw their stuff away. Just get a bin and put everything inside of . I mean I feel where ur coming from though. Your yard isnāt a trash can. You let them play and feed them . Before they leave you as an adult should go out there and tell them to clean up before they leave or they wonāt be allowed there anymore. Thatās all!
Kids have to much. We went to school with one pencil. We didnāt lose it. We didnāt get to town very often. We never saw any body leave there coats or mittens. That could mean they only had one. I am 86 things have changed.
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Get a big bin that can be left at the end of your drive where ever an the kids can take it back or tell the parents individually of visiting kids to make sure their kids bring their stuff home or the parents themselves come and collect their kids belongi
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Wow would you want someone throwing your kids stuff away?? NO so donāt throw their stuff away. Thatās really rude. Kids forget stuff. It happens. Get a basket and put the stuff in that at your front door but donāt throw away their stuffā¦
Make a lost n found box to put all their stuff in and tell them when they are over if they donāt claim it itās gone
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Place them all in a containerā¦ it wont b long before mum or dad realise the skates or new toy they bought 2days ago is missing! And eventually return to collect their belongingsā¦ their kids! They leave shit everywhere! I Dont really see what the problem is but anyway its ur back yard! Do as u please
Youāre not wrong for being tired of it. I personally would have approached it a little differently rather than resorting to just throwing stuff away. Maybe reach out to the parents and ask them to remind their kids to bring their belongings home. Or maybe even just make a bin of the stuff left behind. If youāre going through the process of cleaning everything up to throw it away then itās not doing any more work to set it all in a bin rather than the trash. Or maybe make sure before everyone leaves to go home at the end of the day, make them stop playing and clean everything up and collect their belongings before they go home. Kids can be forgetful and irresponsible sometimes. Maybe they donāt have that type of guidance or discipline at home. I believe in trying to teach them responsibility before forcing them to be the hard way.
Buy a laundry basket facent it down through the middle on bottom put a sign says put your toys here. So they can come back and get them we all were kids at one time ā¦
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Maybe create a group text and remind parents to send their kids to your house to gather their things and bring them home. Include that all items not picked up will go out with the next trash run (give them a few days notice). Kids will forget, so letting parents know should help.
This is bad parenting when children donāt remember to pick up their toys and put them away. Yes, they are children but if they donāt learn early responsibility for their actions then they will always expect someone else to do their job. I would tell the children when they come to play that if they donāt pick up their belongings then you will throw them into the garbage, but you just put them in a plastic bag and hold onto them for a few days. Also, inform the parents of your rules for your yard. It seems both parents and children have a lot of learning about being responsible and respectable neighbors.
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Put the itemās at the curb, or on the sidewalk
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I think youāre not at all in the wrong. The only exception I might make is a box of all the found things. Put it in there and then if by the end of a time period you chose (or perhaps your children can be in charge of it) it gets dumped out.
If there are wrapper from food etc that you provide or otherwise my rule is that if they donāt clean it up no one gets it anymore
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If my child was at your house and left a mess and their toys over there, throw it away! That teaches them to be more respectful of other peopleās homes and also more responsible with their belongings. Of course, not all parents look at this way and sadly, some would probably throw a fit. But I do not think youāre in the wrong at all.
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Can you have a bin that belongs to random kids items?
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Youāre doing the right thingā¦
I kept a lost and found bucket at my house. I would take to Salvation Army every few months.
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You havenāt mentioned their ages?
Get all the kids together one day and with a nice tone of voice and pleasant expressionā¦tell them you donāt mind them coming over and playing BUT you need their help. Then tell them you canāt keep picking up behind them and that they need to pick up their toys, jackets, etc. before leaving.
Tell them we all forget things ( and we doā¦even adults) and you will have a box / basket whateverā¦ if they forget something ā¦to put it in but you will only keep it for a week or whateverā¦and then on Monday or Saturday the box will go on the curb.
I think expectations/rules/ consequences need to be explained before something is done. If there is something in the boxā¦just remind the kids each time they come over to check the box because its going on the curb Saturday. [ or whenever]First time they see it on the curb will connect the dots.
Patient teaching.
If something is tossed a parent is not as likely to be upset if you tell them you got the kids together, explained the new rules and reminded them daily to check the box.
Understand your frustration.
Teaching and some patience will go a long way. When the kids are at your houseā¦not only do you know where your kids are BUT you get to know their friends
ā¦which is important.
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Maybe put a big box in a corner of your yard for the kids to put their things in, tell the parents you have 2 days to claim what belongs to your child or it goes in the trash. Depending on the age of the children I would be happy just to have them pick up their trash. Just my thought
No the parents need to talk to the kids themselves and the kids need to learn responsibility and manners when visiting others
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Well, my take is I would have informed the parents firstā¦ then there would be the lost binā¦ where I would put everything and tell parents that once a week on the day before garbage pick up they should check, have their kid check, or out it goes each weekā¦
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Idk if feels a little harsh. Perhaps instead of relying on your children you do I o e tike call to the parents and inform them of this?
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While you are not necessarily in the wrong, you say you enjoy having your kids play there. This is how you get them to not. And how you get them to distrust you later. Make a lost and found bin and have your kids help you for 10 min at the end of every day and put the things left in the bin.
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One week is long enough and if she mad it ought to be mad at her child not you
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Monitor you kids in your yard and make them clean up and take that mess with them
Good idea, but a time will come that it will be overfull.
They r kids- throw them in a box in the garage and give them time to get them out of ur place
Throw everything in a bin like a lost and found. Leave it near the gate/door. Not all over your place/yard but accessible when they remember to look
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I have to agree ā¦If socks and stuffed animals are left for days or weeks obviously the kid didnāt miss themā¦ Throw thatās shit awayā¦your yard isnā t a storage area.
This stuff belongs to kids, kids like adults are not perfect, they forget things too. I would make a lost and found box and put everything in there for kids to get later.
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Kids will be kids, my dear. If the parent is upset about something missing- maybe they should keep closer eye on it. Bless your heart for being āthat houseā - our house was the same. What my Mom did was put up a table by garage- informed parents - any and all things left are put on table - trash comes once a week -
I donāt blame youā¦ if the parent is mad its because they arenāt doing a good jobā¦ they should be teaching their kids how to be respectful of other peoples property, not youā¦ those are not your children to raise and if the other parents donāt like it, then they should do betterš¤·āāļø your house, your rules
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soā¦ why not (wild idea) put the stuff in the neighborās yard?..
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My house is also the neighborhood house and I make the kids pick up before leaving! I do not leave it to my kids or the others to remember. We have court downs for when they are to be leaving and there are several things that get check off prior to departure time. Clean up is 100% apart of that! We have a bin inside and out for friends items that get left behind also! I accept that my house will be a little bit messier than if it were just my boys. To me it is so worth it! Iād never take this approach!
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Iād say ya gave them a week ya itās ok
I have this problem too! I have everyoneās trash in my yard and they have taken to using my garbage can for their trash. It makes me hate having a house and want to move back into an apartment lol
Thats what I would do
Honestly, I would get a cute little decorative outdoor bucket and just throw whatever they leave in the bucket - sorta like a lost and found. If they have a bigger ticket item, just leave it by the bucket/tote. OR since your children play with the neighbor kids, why donāt your children walk whatever was left down to their friends houses.
As far as what is legal, I would check to see. I have heard that you have to give someone x-amount of time to pick up their item before you legally can do whatever with it.
At the end of the day, I would rather all of the neighborhood kids leaving stuff in my yard rather than them being destructive, stealing stuff, etc. 
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U should be enjoying ur kids childhood instead of making it difficult.
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That was my house when my kids were small, same thing here I put a trash bin outside my gate in the drive way and a few hooks on the gate that I would put up what they left behind. Before I let any of the kids in my yard I told the kids i had to meet their parents first and that they should meet me. I personally told the parents and kids they were welcome to come over but only after they finished their homework and finished whatever house chores they had, and that I was not responsible for snacks,drinks nor were they aollowed to use the bathroom or go inside without the kids parents around and I had no problem with them bringing their own stuff as long as they would pick up after themselves. I had a few momās thank me cause that was the only why their kids would do anything. The few parents that had an issue were those that didnāt want to deal with their kids and only wanted to pawn them to someone else. Over all your house your rules be nice and just talk to the parents and let them know what the issue is, let them know if anything is left behind will be placed in a bit and taken out on trash day. Good luck
nope. there fault not yours
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Iād not be reminding my kids to remind them. Kids forget and would be the last thing on their mind when playing. Remind the kids when they enter the home and before they leave.
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#1 itās a blessing to be the host parent as you know where your kids and who they hang with #2 donāt leave it to your kids to tell other kids we know they donāt always do it and kids are kids you shouldāve told the parents directly
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I have to askā¦ if your kid left something in someoneās yard wouldnāt you be upset if someone just threw them awayā¦ that you spent your hard earned money onā¦ their kidsā¦ id be a pissed off mother as wellā¦ 
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Start a lost and found box,. So the kids can go through it when they come over.
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I agree with Melissa. Get a big plastic box with a lid and just put everything in there. As more goes in the less they have at home which will bring the parents or the kids searching for their things. Kids are kids and they dont think. Most times they are spontaneous and will drop whatever they have with them to go do something else. you are blessed to have all the kids over , they feel safe on your lawn and if they leave things things behind they will find them again and trust you not to throw them out.
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stop letting the kids be in your yard. talk to the other parents about your new policy and maybe get a private fence or something to separate your property from the other children
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My house was always that house. After something was left there (Iād place all items on my stairs on the front porch for 1 week (I had things left for months asking kids if it was theirs or whoās it was) then it would be donated or tossed. All parents were informed and if they cared at all they came and checked by Friday night (that was my clean out night
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Get a lost and found bin that is cute for your porch
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Why not just put them in a bucket so it gets out your yard, so then they can come get it later? If not claimed for a bit then toss it
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smart move, I would of done the same!!!
First off. Why are you informing these kids and not their parents.
Second you should absolutely not have thrown away those things without first speaking with parents.
Itās rather simple create a lost and found bin. Inform parents of the children that when items are left there they will be tossed in the bin and need to be picked up asap.
Inform them that every Sunday morning or something. Whatever isnāt claimed will be donated to a local store
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My mom always said if itās okay for toys to be left in the dining room and jackets on the couch then she can keep the pots and pans in my bedroom. Everything has a place. If you care about it. You take care of it. Simple as that. If those kids are upset about a teddy bear or toy. They should have taken care of it. Itās your property. Finders keepers.
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I would definitely try the lost and found bin and let all the parents know that once itās full you will start throwing it out if kids/parents donāt start claiming there items
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Have a lost and found bin. Make it clear that every Sunday whatever was not claimed is going to be either tossed or donated.
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Harsh in my opinion.
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Dont have a lost and found bin, they dont come looking for their things. You can put them aside in a bag with their name on it and hand it to them said bag will still remain in your houseā¦ so
Did the Parents who are upset their kids belongings were thrown away ask if their child could have a playdate? Did you say yes?
Nah people push that barā¦
I would do the same thing
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Get a box and put the stuff in there. If no one claims it by the end of the week Chuck it. Let the parents know so they donāt get mad at you for their kids lack of responsibility. They raised them and they are responsible for their actions or lack of them.
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Its ok but moving foward i would keep a trash bin in the corner of the yatd snd tell them all to put good and wrappers etc in their. And a lost n found box that u keep till its full n if nobodys still claimed their stuff then throw it. Say each time the kids are overā¦ check the box b4 u leave
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After informing the kids, I would inform the parents. Tell them you donāt mind them playing in your yard, but they arenāt cleaning up after themselves. That you would appreciate their kids to pick up after themselves. And if they donāt, whatever they leave behind will be thrown away
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I would do the exact same. Clean up your stuff or Iām throwing it out. Iāve told my own kids that about stuff laying around in the house. My step kids leave their dirty clothes in a pile and I told my husband Iām throwing it away. He agreed. But lost his nerve and instead, he put it in a big black garbage bag and threw it in their rooms - no we didnāt sort it before throwing into bags. They know the rule, sort laundry and bring it down to laundry room if you want it washed, then fold and put away. Instead, they choose to just assume some little fairy comes to the house and will sort, wash and dry and put their clothes away. Iām not a maid and youāre not a storage facility.
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Nope. If you want to keep itā¦ you take it home. They know the rules. I would, however, put things into a box in the front yard marked FREE
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I had the ussue years ago.I had all the kids every day in myyard and stuff left everywhere. Ended up getting a plastic garbage bag liner and anything that was left went in that bag until garbage day then in the garbageā¦we were one of the first ppl in our little street to have a pool so there was lots of towels as well as barbies etc. I spoke to the parents to make sure their kids took their towels home or they would get thtown out but still they got leftā¦so thats what i did so i dont blame you.
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Maybe have a tub that everything can go in? Trash everything in the bin after a couple of weeks or a month? That gives the parents time to realize their kid left stuff somewhereā¦but you have every right to throw things away that are left in your yard.
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put laundry basket out there after 1 week throw away
I throw away anything left in my yard because if I donāt my landlord charges me $25 and is written up as a violation even if the kids are not mine nor guests of mine. So end of day, anything in my yard goes into the dumpster.
You arenāt wrong at all
Your yard is not a junk yard. If the item was so important they wouldnāt dump it in your front yard for a week.
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They can throw anything in their own front yard.
Dang Karen! You were young onceā¦.or maybe not.
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