Am I in the wrong to throw things out that they neighbor kids leave in my yard?

Well, you warned them

Throw it over the fence?

If your kids were to do this and leav their items elsewhere… would you be fine with it thrown out?

If ur fine with that them sure do just that. If not then decide on something else

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Why not just a crate, throw everything in it, keep it in garage or an entry way and let kids check it (or maybe parents). Kids will be kids, and just don’t think ahead. I wouldn’t throw them away, but that’s just me . . .

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Not your job to track down what needs to go home with whom, but sometimes kids don’t process information or have learnt consequential actions if it’s not been modelled in their home.

Maybe a box or container can be placed somewhere for all the odd and ends that could be significant to a child so that way it’s all off your yard and in one place? Kind of like a lost property box. Not for scooters and large items etc, but for teddies/figurines etc.

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To be honest I wouldn’t want my children playing or anything at your house. You seem bitter. Put their belongings in a box on the sidewalk a little lost and found. Let the kids and parents know… Add a simple note stating on garbage day the remainder item go. Let your kids play at their homalso.

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Get a box and throw there stuff in it. Set it out ao they can collect it. Then tell them and their parents they have a few days to collect or its getting throw out. Or don’t let them play in your yard

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Yes should have told the kids and the kids parents first not have your children do it. They might have not done it

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I would of just put a tub with a lid out to put all the stuff in an leave it for them to take home :woman_shrugging: but I understand chucking it if it was damaged.

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I don’t think you’re wrong. The other parents should be teaching their kids to clean up after themselves.

Yes, you have a right to trash it. Maybe next time they’ll remember.

:crazy_face::joy:your funny that’s all I can say

Seriously You say You Feed them and provide a place to play for them :thinking: Then let Parents know you do just that! And if any of their children leave things at your house , you’ll try to return them but they also might go out with the trash on Tuesdays! Or whatever day it is

This sounds like my neighborhood and my yard…I agree trash it…

Nope. Three w them away!

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I just tell them if they leave I won’t protect it from damage. If left it’s there for others to use. If it gets damaged, I throw it away. They know my rules. So far I haven’t had any problems with my rule.

Why not just collect the things in a bin that gets left in the yard for there toys that get left or a small garbage can that gets put out for them to put there trash in?

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Why don’t you get a bin and put it in there. If after a week they haven’t got it then fine. But I know I always told my kids friends and their parents. So no hard feelings

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Make up a lost and found box like others have suggested

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I did that same thing a couple of weeks ago, kept telling the lady to get her stuff out of my yard, two weeks go by and her junk is still in my yard, Now, I don’t like a trashy yard, and she started getting snotty and laughing it off every time I said anything about it… so I said ya know what, I’m tired of her BS and hauled all of her stuff to the dumpster… she then wanted to get mad and call the law on me for throwing her stuff away… I laughed and said “you can’t call the law on me for that, you have had PLENTY of time to come get it”… But, you really should talk to their parents and tell them to either come collect their kid’s stuff, every day or make sure the kids bring their own stuff home, trash and all…

I personally would have notified the parents as well and not just the kids telling them that if they leave their stuff you will throw it away. I mean technically after so long by law it’s considered abandoned and you can do w/e you want to it. My apartment complex has a rule that if their maintenance workers find stuff and it’s not on our property they will confiscate it and after a week throw it away.

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Don’t see any wrong here

Not your responsibility to track down their stuff. I would not keep it either…

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You can’t be in NZ it isn’t normal to entertain other peoples children at yours my daughter would of hated that aren’t her friends this is the country where you could be called a child sex offender phedo anything horrid you could get accused of 6 foot fences and a pairr of dogs is what you need and i am not talking about toy dogs .You need to stop children playing at yours asap it’s not normal.

Just make a sign
Not a storage area
Take your stuff!

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Children leaving things at yours is the last thing you should be worried about parents thinking your a weirdo is a major;

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I would be pissed if kids were trashing my yard on the regular. It’s enough you give them a safe place to play AND feed them. Most parents have their hands full with work, their own kids and upkeep, why should you feel bad about kids essentially leaving trash all over your yard giving you extra stuff to clean up after. It’s flat disrespectful. Hopefully they learned a lesson. If the parents are mad they should be teaching their kids better etiquette at another’s home or be willing to take accountability for belongings themselves. If my kids ever thought to tear up someone else’s yard and leave stuff about and lost it that’s their lesson to learn. Not your job to keep track of or clean up after other people’s kids.

Yeah I would just shut the yard/playground down. Unfortunately. If you have provided a safe neighborhood space for kids to play, while parents get a few hours to themselves, and they can’t be bothered to 1) introduce themselves to you 2) offer to chip in for anything you might need (like this lost and found bin ) 3) help to clean up your yard their kids made a mess of……I would just shut it down. Anywhere else people would have to pay for the free babysitting service you are providing.

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Why don’t you sit outside and watch them. And when they do it then tell them. It’s not hard to embrace watching your kids play in your yard. Especially with others best thing to watch. Try it. What you do is not wrong by any means.

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You already providing safe,place and food. I would also think wow kids and parents step up . I’m fed up of untidy yard. Be,fair please

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Don’t worry about the mad parent. Put the stuff in a tub.

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I think you should stop them bringing stuff into your garden in the fist place , then you would have no problem with them bringing it home …you would just be left dealing with a bunch of other peoples kids , allowing them to play in your garden , feeding them etc when them or their parents clearly have no respect for you or your rules …….

Get a big plastic bin
Put all the belongings inside. A sign that say lost or forgotten belongings. Talk to the families tell them to come check it out.
If anything is still in it a week later.
Then throw it out
Then they can’t be upset they were warned

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I’m I’m the minority. I would have just put it in a bim and left it. They are kids they don’t care about picking up

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if it’s left in your yard, throw it out. this won’t go on too long before the kids’ parents are making them bring their stuff home, and the problem will be solved. if a parent gets mad, too bad.

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I was gonna also suggest a “lost and found” tub of some sort. If the items are still in there after a certain amount of time, throw them out. I think that’s fair.

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my mom had that house all the kids in town were there all the time she didnt throw stuff out fed them and they all had fun there as they get older and you do you will remember them all and they will remember you teach love and God instead of misery

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Maybe I’m a minority here but I’m with you :woman_shrugging:t3: my kids are 6 & 3 and know to pick things up before they leave anywhere (including our home) and get upset when other kids that are here don’t, and leave the mess for them. It isn’t hard to teach kids to pick up after themselves.

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Yes you are absolutely wrong by throwing items. Just put items left in a box.

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I may be old fashioned, my kids grown 49,45,44,41, kids came over all the time,l made it a rule that l knew each kid , when they left something in my yard ,l have my kids take their stuff home, it would be different if l didn’t have no kids, l would have contacted the parents

Get a “keep things” trash can. Nothing claimed in a month gets thrown away. Be glad your place is comfortable for all to gather together. Hope it is a Christian home where they see the love of God :pray:

Why not get a tote and put stuff in that instead.

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I agree with you my house was the “spot” and I did just this I spent on week tell everyone that by the next week what ever is left here by a certain time it’s trash and IMO this teaches them respect consequences of actions … 

I understand from both perspectives - you told your kids to let them know nicely and you also tried to let the kids know too - idk how old they are but they seem to be on the younger side? Their mindset may not be where you’d like it to be when it comes to picking up, but I also think the parents have a right to be upset if the issue wasn’t brought to them either OR if you may have thrown away something that they may not be able to afford all the time (socks/jackets) or maybe one of the toys you threw away was also a gift - I would do what others are suggesting and maybe get them a bin to at least throw their stuff in, then they themselves can get whatever belongs to them later

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I don’t blame you for being tired of the constant mess and cleanup involved. Seems like you’re being taken advantage of! They have a free babysitter, snack provider…wow! I do like the idea of a box to put the stuff in, BUT that being said, you’re still getting stuck with a mess and the cleanup! Seems like the least the other parents could do is take turns coming to your yard and helping cleanup! Regardless, I’d have a rule about the box, the stuff gets dumped at the end of the week in the trash.

Tash it fast tell them only one rash

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I think you are doing the right thing - you gave them fair warning!!

You should’ve contacted the parents before throwing it away

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No, you’re not wrong at all. You have all the kids at yours but they’re not being respectful of your home. If that other parent has an issue then tell them they can take your place and have every kid in their garden. See how long they last.

My husband leaves food containers in my neighbor’s yard when he gives their dogs treats. My neighbors are wonderful people. You know who you are Beverly Laster

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I don’t think you are wrong

No way is she wrong…they were all asked to pick up their things and take them home. If they didn’t after being asked there was nothing wrong with throwing then out. That is not her responsibility for other kids items. :roll_eyes: parents have no right being upset with her. They need to be teaching their kids to clean up after themselves and especially at someone else’s house! From now on maybe put items in a bin, warn kids and parents if not claimed in a week it goes bye bye!!!

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This is up to the kids parents !! It’s called respect, which so many parents don’t understand or teach their children anymore. I would tell all the parents, that when the day is done, to come gather their children’s belongings or it will be thrown away. Forewarned is forearmed, and they have been warned. Then, the parents can’t get pissed !

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Ask these parents of the kids that trash your yard what they would do if it were in THEIR YARD??

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I honestly wouldn’t throw stuff away without the knowledge of the other parents especially if it’s clothing, shoes etc. That’s asking for more issues in my opinion

A lost and found box or basket would have been nicer

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Talk to the other adults

Yes… you’re wrong. Throw it all in a bin for them. How would you feel if your kids left something at a friends and it was thrown out? The parents most likely don’t even know.

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I don’t think you’re wrong at all. You’ve set your boundaries and people have repeatedly violated them. I would probably inform the parents one time that if their children keep leaving things in my yard I’m going to throw them away. Then I would follow up on that. It’s frustrating when people let their kids act trashy like that. My kids know better than to leave their shit for other people to clean up.

Not nice of you , yeah you have a right but your the kind of neighbor id never want to have.My neighbors use my front lawn when were not home…i go bring the toys their kids left …like really is it that big of a deal?

Maybe try and say that u have left stuff out front that belongs to yr kids and if it’s not collected by end of next day then throw it. Toys and stuff cost to much for u to just throw out.

Put it all in a big rubbish bag and keep it in the garage. Next time a parent turns up, get them to sort through it

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Oh dear. Put a. Small trash can out there. You know where this is headed cuz it already started. Question…do you mind pissing off your neighborhood. Just to let you know I would be pissed to

Your not wrong but what’s your problem?