Am I in the wrong?

Tonight my husband and I were supposed to hang out with a couple friends, husband forgot and went to hang out with his work friends for a last day party. All is fine. Then he comes home and says he invited the whole party back to my house… without asking me… I had literally just put my 1yo and 4yo down and I work early in the morning. All of these people I’ve never met… then he brings a complete stranger into my room that is a disaster right now to show him his shoe collection. I have been trying to go to bed because i don’t want to be the bitchy wife. they are all still downstairs being loud af so my kids aren’t going to bed, then my husband in his drunken state has been screaming at me and telling him that he can’t have fun because of me. I have not yelled, I have stayed calm because there is no point in even arguing when he’s drunk because it will only end in tears. But im the bad guy because I just want to go to bed. Am I the asshole?