I wanted to know if I’m overreacting or not. My kids & husband make comments a lot about dinner. My 11 year old will say she’s not craving that. My husband sometimes won’t even eat it. It really hurts my feelings. I try to make stuff I know they like. It feels like they think I’m just fixing whatever & don’t care if they want it. I come today & have the stuff for spaghetti. I recently started fixing it with meatballs instead of ground beef to mix it up. Well apparently my husband & daughter don’t like the meatballs in it. I came home & my daughter said daddy doesn’t like the meatballs. So when my husband came in the kitchen I asked if he liked meatballs & he got upset my daughter snitched on him. He said he told me before he doesn’t like them & why can’t I just buy beef. I told him I was sorry I forgot he said that. He was already fixing himself & my daughter a sandwich so I put the food up & said well since you’re fixing food anyways I don’t have to cook. He said I don’t know why you fix stuff nobody likes (also have a 20 year old stepson that rarely complains & my 15 year old doesn’t always eat so I don’t know if they like them or not) I walked away. He didn’t know why I was so upset. It wasn’t just the meatballs it’s comments all the time about dinner. Last week I planned on subs & he said we have had a lot of sandwiches lately but then orders cheeseburgers for everyone. I try to fix things that aren’t weird or nobody likes. Am I overthinking this? I’m tempted to just not cook anymore. Also I have a lot of health problems & most people that have the limitations I have rarely cook so it upsets me I take my time & energy to go grocery shopping, cook & clean up. Thanks for letting me vent.
Your husband and kids are being turds on purpose. I’m sorry but they are. I don’t put up with that crap in my house. I finally sat everyone down and told them that Friday nights we will make up a menu for the following week and everyone gets too choose a meal they want and they get to cook it (if they’re old enough). “I don’t know how to cook” isn’t an excuse. If you can read, you can cook. If you don’t know what something means… look it up. That is literally why Google exists.
When it comes to that person’s day to cook, if they don’t want to, aren’t hungry, they want something else… too bad. They, or you, make the meal anyway. You don’t cook multiple meals. If someone doesn’t want what’s on the menu, then too damn bad. They go without or they make themselves something to eat. Of course, you have to be willing to tell them this to their faces.
If no one wants to eat what’s being made, put it aside and take yourself out to eat. Let them fend for themselves. It took my kids and my late husband about a month for them to figure out that I am not a freakin’ doormat, and I got a very well deserved break.
Things are great now. Of course, there are only 4 of us (out of 7) still in the house. Everyone is an adult. I cook Sunday and Wednesday. My 3 boys left at home each have a day they cook. We have a “whatever” night, where we use up leftovers and Friday’s are takeout. It. Works out very well.
Don’t take any crap.