I've been with my fiance for over 2 years now, recently I have been catching him snapchating other girls, saying "send n***s" and "wanna get n***d?". Honestly it's a slap in the face to me.
We had a hiccup like this before, he came back from a guys trip and something didn’t feel right so I went through his phone (which I know I know I shouldn’t have) but I saw messages with him and another girl. I confronted him about it and he swears he doesn’t remember texting her and he’s sorry.
Everytime he messages these others girls, it’s always when he is out drinking with his friends.
I love him and so does my son. He swears on everything he would never ever cheat and he’s not that type of guy. His best friend tells he how much he’s changed for the better because of me. He’s constantly talking our wedding and us buying our house together but in my head all I can think about is these messages.
The best predictor of future behavior is past and present behavior. He is cheating on you emotional, financial leave and build a life for you and your child. God bless
Your not alone hun. I’ve been with my man the same amount of time. I used his phone for messenger cause mine was acting funny. I seen a mesg saying hello beautiful how are u. And a heart face and then recently saying thinking of you with a shhh . I confronted him he said some excuse and he wouldn’t cheat on me and if he was he’s not stupid enough to leave it on his phone. Deep down I want to trust him but I’m so afraid of being heart broken and being stupid. His excuse was he use to race with her father when she was younger and her mom died recently and he said she’s married.
My x bff would say the same after dropping him from a nite of sex so if it only happens when he goes out to drink guess who isn’t going out to drink again
What has he changed for the better because of you is what I wanna know cause going out drinking with friends talking to other women isn’t something positive.
Girl if he is doing this disrespectful shit now he isn’t gonna stop doing it when your married. Love doesn’t sustain a relationship if it did rhere would be no divorce.
If he really felt that way he wouldn’t be doing the shit he’s doing…PERIOD! Drinking or not you know what you’re doing. Don’t marry a man who lies already and is making you feel like you aren’t enough and can’t trust! Get out for you and your child …it will only progress from there. Trust me girl I lived it!
be very careful . this guy sounds like he is talking the walk but not walking thr walk. i personally wouldnt make any long term plans with him , my advice is to get out of this situation before it gets worse , you cant trust a guy like this
So, this would be the second time? Or this is the second time that you KNOW about. Guys like that stay guys like that. As long as you allow it, it will continue. And him saying “I’m sorry” after the fact, doesn’t mean anything. He isn’t sorry. He’s sorry he got caught.
He’s already cheated. Someone who is in love with you wouldn’t be talking to other girls and disrespecting the mother of his child. He may love you, but not in love with you. If you end up marrying him, you’re gonna end up divorced. It’s best to leave now and bcz he’s now going to change. Let that
Have you ever heard anyone admitting that they are cheating ? No man admits to that. Find someone that doesn’t feel the need to cheat and mess around with other women.
If an opportunity were to come about do you think he would do it? If the answer is yes…leave now and quit wasting your life on him. It’s all about what you’re willing to put up with. I personally would dump his ass.
He’s not ready to be a married man. Being drunk is not an excuse to cheat. Apologies without changed behavior/actions is just manipulation.
Know your worth. Your son deserves a better male role model.
He be cheatin’, he’s definitely tried, succeeded? I don’t know. Tried? Absolutely. Don’t be stupid. We can see that he wants other women while with you, so why can’t you? Love makes people blind.
Wants to have his cake and eat it too. You aren’t his mama…aka safe space while he runs off and needs other women to make him feel good about himself. Take YOUR son and go. You will be fine and so will your son.
He is unlikely to change. Love him or not you deserve to be somebody’s only woman. I know I wouldn’t marry a guy already disrespecting me like that. He obviously is a horny drunk and should be texting and trying to get all frisky with only you if he really respected and loved you. Men are either cheaters or faithful. Go find youraelf a faithful man.
He’d never cheat??? Sending text messages to other females is cheating or he’s trying his ass off to cheat. You should’ve walked away the first time. Do not let your child grow to love a man who does not respect you and doing this is disrespecting your son!
So its only when he’s “out drinking with his friends” that he wants girls to send him nudes or get naked ? I was worried for a moment that he wouldnt remember drunk driving and killing someone, but just abusing your relationship with his desires of infidelity and lying are perfectly inbounds ?
I really don’t know what is wrong with these women I see similar stories over and over again. Leave and you’ll be doing the best thing ever, stay and you get what you deserve. Men prey on women like you.
Girl I spent 5 years ignoring these messages it never gets better. I know the good times are great but you have to figure out what your willing to deal with.
He’s the entire red flag. It isn’t just when he’s out drinking with friends, that’s just when you catch him doing it. Please run as fast and far as you can. He has repeatedly broken your trust and shown you what a future with him would be like. Please don’t allow him to treat you like this. If he’s disrespecting you then he’s disrespecting your son. It goes hand and hand. Don’t you want someone who shows your son how to be a great husband? Not that it’s okay to hurt his mom like this
If he has changed so much and still acts in that matter why do you want him? How much more does he have to do so you and your son can move on before it’s to late?
He’s already cheating!! He can tell you till he’s blue in the face he would never cheat on you when in reality he already has… I never in a million years would have thought my husband of 20 years would cheat on me… He told me over and over he would NEVER cheat… He lied! Just like your “fiance” is lying to you!
This is manipulation at its finest. My heart is with you. You do not develop amnesia when you are with your friends either. It only took me about 3 years to figure that out . Your son may love him and that is heartbreaking as well to deal with, but in the end you wouldn’t want him to repeat some his behaviors as a man either. At the end of the day, all that matters is how you feel and what you are willing to put up with. There is no easy way to fix this. But how worth it you both are to him means everything. Actions always speak louder than words.
Girl you might love him but he doesn’t love you. If he did he wouldn’t have done that. Being drunk isn’t an excuse, it doesn’t make you suddenly not realize what you’re doing and that it’s wrong. Leave his ass and move on. You and your kid will be fine without him
Nah. In my opinion asking for nudes or sending inappropriate messages IS cheating. So he has cheated by doing that. Everyone has their own opinion and boundaries but for me that is a hard limit! Porn is one thing but asking a real life person for nudes is cheating You want nudes ask your girlfriend/wife period! At the very least he’s disrespecting you and your relationship. He’s basically saying to that girl “his girlfriend doesn’t matter enough to not have those conversations, and their current conversatiin means more than being respectful to his SO” That’s unacceptable. You really wanna know how bad it is, just download his entire snapchat history. You’ll probably dislike what you see and it’ll show you he’s “that type”. I’m sorry but you’re better off just ending it now, you’ll replay those messages for years to come. That’s no way to start a marriage.
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. I confronted him he said some excuse and he wouldn’t cheat on me and if he was he’s not stupid enough to leave it on his phone. Deep down I want to trust him but I’m so afraid of being heart broken and being stupid. His excuse was he use to race with her father when she was younger and her mom died recently and he said she’s married.
be gone with him
. Your son may love him and that is heartbreaking as well to deal with, but in the end you wouldn’t want him to repeat some his behaviors as a man either. At the end of the day, all that matters is how you feel and what you are willing to put up with. There is no easy way to fix this. But how worth it you both are to him means everything. Actions always speak louder than words. 
You want nudes ask your girlfriend/wife period! At the very least he’s disrespecting you and your relationship. He’s basically saying to that girl “his girlfriend doesn’t matter enough to not have those conversations, and their current conversatiin means more than being respectful to his SO” That’s unacceptable. You really wanna know how bad it is, just download his entire snapchat history. You’ll probably dislike what you see and it’ll show you he’s “that type”. I’m sorry but you’re better off just ending it now, you’ll replay those messages for years to come. That’s no way to start a marriage.