Why does it upset you that your son’s friend comes over daily asking if he can play. Kids are kids and of course he is curious and disappointed when his friend isn’t home.
I have the same problem but they look in my window when he’s not home. It’s super annoying but I never had friends as a kid so I just deal with it so my son can.
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Yes… it’s petty. I can’t figure for the life of me why that bothers you. I was happy to be the safe place, the constant, the dependable in my kid’s friend’s lives. Some of them needed that. I answered questions, listened to problems, held them through sadness/disappointment and rejoiced with them in success. They were as much a part of my kid’s lives as most family. Change your perspective and be grateful he has a good friend.
Omg that is absolutely ridiculous!! They just want to know where their friend is! That isn’t impolite. It’s a child being curious. Just tell them and move on. Not a big deal.
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Why not say, he can’t play right now bc he’s busy doing such and such/at such and such place. If you know he’s going to ask and it bothers you maybe explain off the bat???
Damn!! You sound ridiculous and I’m glad you’re not my neighbor!! 
Ignoring his question… Wow. I’m glad I don’t have neighbors like you! How about you treat others children the way you’d like your child treated. I’d hate to hear how you react with REAL life problems
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It is a kid. I highly doubt he is trying to be annoying or get on your nerves.
Dear lord 
annoyed an innocent close friend of your kid, because asked where his friend is…
I get annoyed that the neighbor kids come looking for my kids when I’m just home for my lunch break during the summer 
but they’re just kids they see my car and assume the kids are here too. I just let them know the kids aren’t here
Coming from a mom who’s son has no friends in the neighborhood- be grateful!!! He will look back and be happy he had a friend to play with and do boy stuff with. Unless the friend is inappropriate, disrespectful, or something of that nature, of course. Then, that would be different.
You know you want to know how someone died when you hear they did… It’s the kid version.
Omg they are kids 
my daughter 5 and her bestie 6 do this all the time. They gotta know all the deets
My 11yo’s friends still do this and I just say “sorry…they’re not home. They went to (wherever they are).” I feel like it isn’t that big of a deal
For crying out loud, he’s a kid looking for his playmate. It must not take much to set you off.
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Omg I hope my neighbor doesn’t feel this way lol my 6 year old runs over to play with her girls daily. I’m sure he’s annoying tho. But I’d just tell them he’s not home and you’ll have him go visit when he is.
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What’s the point of keeping it a secret? Tell them he’s at grandmas dads or preschool - they’re curious tell them and that’s that. I don’t get why people just can’t give straight answers to questions. Unless he’s hungover or in kiddie jail, then ya just tell them he’s busy or otherwise occupied.
Lucky kid to have such a great friend:100:
why do you feel agrevated? Though I feel it’s something personal against the KID… you’re an adult. Cmon
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Sounds like your son has a friend ! I hope you don’t run him off being so easily annoyed. You should probably be thankful
Be lucky ur son has a friend that wants to hang out. It’s a simple common question kids asks.
Wish my son had friends that did this but he has no one around us where we live.
As the parent I would want to know that my child annoyed you that much cause to be honest I would not want him to come back over to your house. They could hang out at mine instead.
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It’s just a child. (My daughter’s age) they just want to play. Find a polite thing to say. Kinda silly you’re so bothered
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Is this a serious question 
Yes you are petty. Those babies are just wondering where their friend is. You must have plenty of time to be bothered by things that don’t matter. It’s weird that it bothers you enough to make a post about it honestly.
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Oh, for the love of Pete, who is being childish here. If it’s a secret, just laugh and say he’s on a secret mission.
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I think it’s great someone comes by and asks about him. Imagine if he had no one to play with.
My neighbors come around and ask about my kids all the time.
They recently spent some time out of state with their grandparents and the next door kids still came by and played in the pool sometimes.
It’s great they have friends in the neighborhood.
You aren’t overreacting. I would also find it mildly annoying. Not enough to be rude to the kids, obviously. I would just say “He’s off doing stuff he needs to to do. He’ll be back _____.” No need to teach the kids about the social propriety of asking since that’s their parents’ responsibility. I wouldn’t want to make them feel alienated or embarrassed about it.
Im sorry this annoy you…
So glad your son is not my son’s “home” friend… everyone has their one opinion…
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Idk how a kid asking for his friend, ur kid, would irk u. Maybe u have some issues and wanna take it out on this kid, please don’t, get some help.
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Omg Wat is the big deal geez I’m taking it there is something ur keeping our of this story becozz for U too go over the top over a question like that well more to the story…
You are petty … he’s just a kid 
Wtf??? Tell the kid where he is be thankful someone loves to hang out with your child so much. I feel like it’s pretty odd to be irked with a 9/10 year old asking a simple question.
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Every kid does this. Chill out.
Overreacting for sure. A normal kid would wonder where his friend is. All you need to say is something simple. He’s at grandma’s etc.
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Yes very petty you would be on her complaining if no one wanted to play with him . If he isn’t home try putting a sign on the door that he’s not home and will be back at such and such time in such and such day . If you are that bothered .
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I think your overreacting. Your son has friends who are looking for him to hangout, be happy he has friends. I don’t know why that would annoy you? Maybe you should live in a secluded area
LMAOOOOO are you annoyed that easily
They’re 10 and 9 years old. Of course the kid will be curious where his friend is. Yikes 
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put a post it note on the door saying hes not home if it bothers you that much… sounds like hes lonely and likes playing with your kids!
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Super rude to be annoyed by that lol. The kid cares about his friend (your son). As he ages you should want him to have friends that check in on him. They ask where he is out of harmless curiosity or care. Not to be annoying.
That is normal for that age I am going to talk to my son just in case you are talking about him
Wow your asking this they are 9-10 years old . Be glad he has a good friend & isn’t being bullied
My kid’s friends come to our house all the time. Sometimes they just walk on in. We treat them like family. I think of them as my bonus kids. Be happy that your child has kids wanting to play with him. And you never know, maybe your child is the only friend he has. Maybe your house is his safe place.
It’s not rude!! It’s a sign of friendship and caring. That kid loves playing with your son and connects with him so when he’s not around, he’s just wondering where he’s at but probably mostly wants to know WHEN he’ll return so they can maybe play.
Are you serious? They’re kids. Sheesh. And how is it impolite to ask where someone is? Sheesh
He’s just a child. Don’t be rude!!!
What is wrong with you? FFS
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I think the one who is impolite here is you. He’s a kid wondering where his friend is. Why would that annoy you? Take a chill pill 
He’s a child. It’s normal for him to just ask where he is. I don’t think he genuinely cares where he is, so much as he’s just bummed out he isn’t there to play. He’s probably wondering when he will be back. Definitely petty. All you have to say is “He had to go somewhere else, but I will let him know that you stopped by to play.”
It’s a kid thing…. Where is ____ …. Oh he is gone with his dad he won’t be back till Sunday. ( kid knows not to come back to Sunday) get a grip mom.
I ignored my daughters friends at the door today. I unplugged the door bell. I don’t have to send my daily plan to the neighbours kids nor am I rushing round to get back for them. If she’s got time to go out she’ll be out. If not leave me alone!
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Be happy he has friends who ask after him deffo over acting… just tell his friend he isnt home deffo isn’t hard lol I think it’s lovely he has someone come over and wants to play/hang out etc they aren’t kids long enjoy it
Its kids. I get some kids can seem clingy or pesky. With that said I had a banner put at our elementary school that addressed those type kids or especially the kids that seemed to always need negative attention. “Sometimes the kid that requires so much tends to need it the most”. It can be the kid that’s overlooked at home that’s at your door every 2 minutes, it does require a lot of patience and sometimes we just want peace, but know they are there because it may be the only place they can escape, with your child and at your home may be that child’s safety. You can talk to the child and explain that sometimes you are very busy and need to not be interrupted, but always let the child know you are there if something is wrong. My boys are now grown but I’ve seen it so much where the clingy neighborhood kid was that way for a reason. May not always be the case because some are just bored and friendly, but try to have patience with these little kids.
Wow he’s just a kid!!! Don’t be ugly. This really let’s people know ur heart from the inside.
Wow they’re just kids. They’re probably asking just to see if he will be back soon to play with him. Calm down, Karentina.
This is weird why does this bother you?
It’s a child, children are naturally curious. Your child is lucky to have a friend who cares about him.
I would suggest an anti depressant or anxiety med if you’re getting so easily irritated over a child’s normal reaction to your kid not being home.
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How is it not polite? Why do simple questions from a child bother you in that way? Is your child off doing top secret,private things?
Now I’m wondering if I’m being petty that your question irks me sooooo much? It’s an innocent question from a kid who happens to enjoy your child’s company. You can certainly answer without revealing any hidden, dark family secrets. As the “adult” in the interaction, IMO, you could handle this successfully without letting it bother you so much.
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Just tell them they are gone and will be back later. And move on. Sheesh so emotional lol
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Yes extremely petty of you and it’s giving mental instability or lack of sleep? What the heck. That’s just a kid wanting to know where their friend is
Dude he’s a little boy and curious. Wow just wow
They’re kids stop being so petty. There’s my best advice.
Just answer the kids question. I’d be sad for my girl if someone was mean about a simple question. The kid is just curious… It isnt a big deal at all. You have a choice to be kind or break a spirit. Choose the right one.
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thats just kids! our neighborhood is full of school age kids and my 7 year old has been relentlessly going to other kids houses all summer, i tell him not to knock on doors, but if they are outside he can play unless i contact their parents. but we always have kids knocking on our door and they ask the same things. i dont think its anything to get bothered about
Are u for real they are kids just asking why does it bother you
…this is what you chose to complain about? You literally took time out of your day to post on a public forum about… this?
Now the group will perform the piece “dragging the OP”, in C minor
Mad at a child whose just being a child. Amazing!
You should behave like a grown up and not a 10 year old. Stop getting annoyed over such petty things
How is it inappropriate? What is wrong with you? A child wants to play with him, think this is a you issue. Poor little boy.
So …who’s the child here ?
Are you serious? He is a child asking where his friend is. Yes you are being petty. This baffles me.
Wtf lol…how is that impolite?! It’s a kid wanting to play with their friend, sounds pretty normal to me. I think that’s petty and ridiculous.
Hes a child asking where his friend is. Definitely overreacting on your part!!!
YTA. They’re just kids and wondering where their friend is. I assure you, you did the same ish. Chill out.
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Why would this annoy you? That’s odd. They are kids. If he’s not home, he’s not home? Or put a note on the sorry saying, “sorry can’t play today”
You’re definitely overreacting, he is just a kid after all. That’s a very valid reaction when you find out someone isn’t where you thought they would be, hell I do it even as an adult. I don’t understand how it’s rude actually? Seems outdated
Ehhhhh…. I feel attacked. If my best friend isn’t home and doesn’t answer my texts within 4 minutes… I text her husband and demand answers. 
I’m 36… 
Soooooo……
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Its normal. The exchanges between the neighbor kids asking to play with my bonus son usually go like this:
Knock at door
Me: hi!
Neighbor kid: is so and so home?
Me: not right now sweetheart
Nk: (pauses…looking for correct question) what’s he doin?
Nk now eagerly awaiting my answer so he can calculate when to knock again
Me: he’s at his moms house for the weekend
Nk: (locked in thought because now he can’t knock again for days)
Me: hun, he’ll be here Monday after school ok?
Nk: oh, ok! Thanks!
(Runs off until Monday after school)
No wonder this is an anonymous poster. Wow. Yes you’re being petty. Don’t ask if you can’t handle peoples opinions.
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Don’t listen to everyone saying you’re petty or over reacting. It can get really annoying when they ask daily. People are staying the obvious that they’re kids but it does get annoying.
Lol who the hell gets mad about a friend wanting to play with their son? Dumb as hell
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I’d your son’s not home, don’t answer the door. Problem solved.
My son is 10. He’s with me half the time and his dad half the week. Kids come over all the time and ask if he’s home. They’re kids. They want to play. They aren’t being nosey or anything.
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I can’t think of another word that describes you… Innocent child is bothering you. I imagine that child you’re probably even rude to doesn’t exactly have a good home life and/or attention and looks for your child for comfort and friendship….
You should probably just get over yourself. It’s not your job to teach the neighbor boy manners. ALSO, what’s rude to you may not seem rude to someone else.
Why isn’t it polite to ask? It’s a simple question
It’s normal for kids to ask questions and be curious qnd nosey, he’s more or less wondering if he will be able to play at any time but doesn’t exactly know how to word that, or maybe your son told him to come by and then he isnt there, we teach kids there is no wrong question only wrong answers so remember that when your annoyed with a 9/10 year old asking a simple question
Kids want to know. Your kid doesn’t ask a million and 1 questions?? If they don’t you are lucky because that is all my children did at that age is ask a ton of questions.
What’s wrong about him asking? Is it supposed to be top secret where your son is???
It may be that you and your son are the only joy in his life.
That’s typical behavior… does your child NEVER ask questions?
You’re the problem. They are kids they don’t know any better.
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When this question is asked, it was because they wanted to join them. They’re at the Village Green playing pick up football. They’re at the school Playing basketball.
Seriously if this is the worst thing that happens during your day, I’m so jealous
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Scary to know my kids have to exist in this world with people like this. Be thankful he gives a shit, how would you feel if your son had no friends at all? Are you pregnant & hormonal maybe? I’ll just blame it on that
How can that possibly bother you?
It’s a u problem don’t make it that poor little kids problem! I’d figure out why such an innocent question from a 9/10 yr old bothers you so much and work on that. leave that little kid alone!
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They’re kids and that’s probably his best friend. And it’s not rude to ask where a close friend of his is. It is rude to treat a child like that though.
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I’m bipolar AF and even I don’t get mad when the neighbor asks where our daughter is lol… Geeze I thought I was bad. Lol