This may seem like petty question but here it goes. One of my son’s friends comes over to play almost daily. When my son isn’t home he always asks where my son is. It irks me and I want to gently tell him that it’s not polite to ask or just ignore his question. They are 9 and 10 years old. Thoughts? Thanks!
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What is wrong with you lol this is super sweet and adorable. They are kids
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This is pretty common for most kids, lol. Especially that age. Yes, I think it’s kind of silly to be annoyed. He’s not being impolite, he’s just curious.
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. You are overreacting. Be happy he has someone that wants to play with him.
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I wish I had a little neighborhood like that…. Poor kid just wants to play.
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Just tell him not to worry about it, ain’t that deep. You’re doing too much
They are kids. Sounds pretty petty. Just tell him he’s not home right now that you’ll let him know he stopped by. It’s that simple.
It is not impolite to ask. It also is not impolite for you to tell him that it’s private info.
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Jeeze, what is up with you?! He’s a kid who wants to play. You should be happy that your son has friends that care enough about him to want to hang out
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This is just the natural curiosity of kids. It’s wonderful he has friends to visit. I think I enjoy being the house where all the kids want to be just as much as my kids do. 
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Why be mean they are kids just Simply say they are not home.
He’ll never forget you if that’s your attitude!
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Wow I’m happy to see my kids have friends
My son is 9 and asks me every single day to play with his friends. He’s a boy being a boy. Enjoy these moments while they last.
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As a mom to a 4yr old boy who doesn’t have friends outside of school… be grateful your kid has someone or a few friends that cares… lifelong friends are the best.
My son’s friends come over even on the weeks he is with his dad 
they just go in the fridge and up to his room. Personally I enjoy being a safe place for the neighborhood kids.
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I wish my son has friends like this… be greatful
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Be grateful that they want to play with him and he has social interaction. Most kids today just want to sit in front of the TV to play games.
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I think you’re being very petty honestly.
He is a kid… I can’t believe this is even a question…
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I mean if you don’t feel comfortable telling them where he is just make something up. Kids are always gonna ask questions regardless if an adult tells them to or not. They are just curious and bored wanting to play with your kid which I think is awesome!
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At that exact age. My parents were divorced and my mom worked. Thank god my friends family let me hang out. We were good kids and just needed somewhere safe to go. I’m 64 and we’re still friends to this day. Sometimes life is bigger than ourselves. Even if we don’t realize it.
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My kids’ friends are my kids too! They all know this is a safe place where they are always welcome.
From 8 to 17. They all know Momma Jill loves them 
and I make sure they do. I’m going to miss this all when they’re grown.
Parents why are we still being this way? you never know what that little boy is dealing with at home, your son might be his safe space. i grew up always playing with my friends and going to their door to see if they were home and vice versa. let kids be kids!
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I wish I had neighborhood kids for my kids to play with. I would just be grateful and let them know they won’t be back until said time or whatever. And you never know what their home life is like, they might just want an escape for a few minutes.
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I think it’s sweet. I would be glad my kid has a friend who cares & wants to hang out. If he’s out somewhere you don’t want to share (doctor for example) just give a generic answer answer like “he’s out with his dad” etc
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Does come across as a little petty to be that bothered. It’s really easy just to tell them “I’m sorry he’s not home and I’ll send him over when he gets home or he can’t play today” you aren’t obligated to tell them where.
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Just a kid being a nosey kid…maybe hoping he’ll return soon, jeeze
Maybe next time, before he asks the question you say he’ll be home in two hours. Sounds like he’s just timing it.
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Yes. You’re being petty. He’s a kid.
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Very Petty! How dare a kid ask where his friend is!!!
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They’re kids lol they don’t know how to phrase statements and questions to cushion feelings for adults because they shouldn’t HAVE to.
I don’t even know what advice to give to be constructive. Just accept that they’re a child and they just wanna know when they can play with their friend again?
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I think if I was his mom and knew you felt this way I wouldn’t feel comfortable with my child hanging out at your house at all. My house is the hang out for all my kids friends. Even if they’re not here!!
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They usually don’t actually want to know where they are just if they will be home soon to play
Just say he’s not home now or he can play tomorrow or whatever.
Also yes you sound petty 
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Is it really that hard to just give him a vague answer. This is sad
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Yea, you’re petty AF.
Let your kid have friends that care.
Just simply answer he’s out. They are kids and curious doesn’t mean you have to tell them everything. You as an adult should know this common sense
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Yes you teach them Respect by Modeling n Giving Respect
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I think when he asks where he is, he more is trying to figure out when he’ll be home…
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Kids are curious creates … get a life!
Just be nice and say that he had things to do today, kids are curious
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Kids are naturally curious and he is missing his friend. Seems like a natural thing for a child to do.
He just wants to play girl your tripping! Be glad your son has friends who actually care and want to play with him tons of kids are bullied and forgotten
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Petty. Just say il let you know where he is when I say buddy. Have a good day. You’ll need to repeat it because we’ll…he’s a kid.
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I think your son is lucky to have caring friends. Maybe he asks to see if he will be home soon.
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Chile my sons had me write a note and put it in their friends mailbox because they wouldn’t be home for a week and they didn’t want him to think they moved 
because he comes asking for them daily! I did it because I love their relationship! You’re entitled to feel how you feel however, I’d be happy my kid has someone checking for him!
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This makes me sad. You should be happy for your son that he has friends that want to play. There are kids in and out of my house daily and it is just normal. If there wasn’t I would be trying to figure out where they are!
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Yea u need to check urself
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i mean i used to do that for my best friend who lived across the street like 15 years ago. it helped me gage how long it would be until she came home and we could play! they just miss their friend. consider your son lucky!
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If it bothers you that much just tell him instead of asking where he is you prefer that he asks what time can he come out to play when he returns or something along that line.
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I would probably take this down!!
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Sounds just like a normal kid thing , just curious to why his friend can’t play wouldn’t anoy me
I really don’t think it’s a big deal. He is just asking a harmless question and is curious. If you don’t want to answer just say he is out.
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What’s wrong with him asking ? Just tell him.!!
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your right it’s pretty petty
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I don’t understand the issue. Maybe just respond by saying “he is out but will be back at such and such time”
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I allow my kids friends over when they aren’t home. If they want to be at our house and feel safe here, I am all for it!
It’s not polite to ask where his friend is lol ummm projecting much
Yeah you are being very petty. They just want to know when he will be home not what he is actually doing. If you have an attitude with kids they sure do remember you so be nice😂
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I used to have kids just walk in. I would come into the living room and they would be playing with the dogs even when my daughter wasn’t home. You need to enjoy these days, they will soon be gone.
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He’s just wondering where his buddy is. Be glad that he cares, and that ur child has friends. Some kids aren’t so lucky
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Lol they are kids! Pick your battles and what you choose to waste your time on!
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It’s perfectly fine to be annoyed. Esp if it’s everyday. Plus, your son might not want him to know where he is all the time. You can let them know that the next time your kid wants to play he can go over instead.
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They are literally 9 and 10 lol they are full of questions you could just say “he’s just not home currently”
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They’re kids, it’s normal. Welcome to Parenthood… Honestly if you don’t like it tell their parents to have them stop. You’re most definitely overreacting.
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Treat that kid how you would like other people to treat yours.
He probably is trying to figure out when he’ll be back, so I’d tell him when he’d be back as the answer to the question.
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Yes! You are overreacting! Your son is lucky to have friends!!! So many kids have no friends to play with! Grow up!!
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I think your being ridiculous. My daughter has a friend who does the same and NOT EVEN ONE TIME, have I ever been annoyed with him asking where she is. I’m pretty sure he is just looking forward to her return so they can play again🤷♀️ as 9&10 yr olds they aren’t your nosy 40+ yr old neighbor asking things that are none of their business to gossip about later to the whole neighborhood. Lol i think maybe try to calm down, they’re just kids looking forward to having their friend return.
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Yes you’re petty. Why would you discourage a friend who wants to play with them? Do you know how many kids/ adults would live a loyal friend who wants to play with them.
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You my dear are being petty. They are kids and they are friends leave it at that !!
You’re overreacting. At least he has a friend that cares about him.
I so wish my daughter had friends in the neighborhood who wanted to play. They could come over anytime and ask whatever they want. We have no kids in ours and it’s sad. You are being petty, I only say that because you asked. Be glad your son has friends.
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Just simply say he’s not home. Have some patience and know how to respond. It’s not hard to act like an adult.
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I don’t think it’s rude of him to ask. I think it’s rude of you to ignore him. He’s a kid who is curious and misses his friend 
You need to ask yourself why tf that irritates you so bad, then work on it. There is nothing rude about asking where someone is. Chill tf out koojo.
That’s a normal kid question. He’s just wondering so that he can play with your son when he gets home.
I thought you were talking about the neighbor kids dad or something lol
I explain to my kids friends that they are spending with their dad and will be back on a certain day. Kids are just curious and come from different situations with families.
Kids are naturally curious. He doesn’t mean anything by it. He’s not an adult there is nothing sinister behind it. You’re big weird for being upset by a child being a child. He wants to play with your kid and misses him get over yourself. 
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Petty 
Use your words like an adult
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Why is it not polite to ask? Confused by this. I’ve been asked plenty of times where one of my kids are by their friends & never thought it was impolite. Felt pretty good actually knowing my child has been missed.
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Some of y’all have way too much time on your hands to be upset about some of the stuff that upsets you. It’s not impolite for a kid to ask where his friend is. The kids are genuinely curious.
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Yeh pretty petty … he’s a child.
Just tell him. Then tell him you will let your son know that he stopped by. Both boys will be happy.
Really? He’s a kid who just wants to play with your kid! He doesn’t have some kind of conspiracy theory going on! You need to get a grip!!
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They’re kids not stalkers. Relax
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So petty. Just say ‘he is not home but he will call you when he returns’.
Wow. Guess you are one of those who only likes her kids lol yikes just a kid asking a question!
I think you’re overreacting but that’s just me…
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He’s not being nosey. He’s a kid just asking where his friend is.
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No you are not overreacting, it’s not the checking for him that’s the issue, it’s how bold the question is “where is he” just remember it’s a child regardless and answer appropriately (he will be back at such time, you can come back and/or wait if that’s possible.
Xoxo
I always had my sons friends asking where he is or going it’s normal I don’t know why it irritates you it’s kids?? They ask all sorts of question🤷♀️
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Hes only asking unless you have a reason this gets to you just say hes out ,im not sure i understand the problem
I think you need to relax. It’s just a kid Karen
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He’s 10…does not have the maturity of an adult…is just asking where his friend is…you need to put yourself back into your 10 year old self.
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I think you are way overreacting!!
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Yes ma’am, you are being petty. I get why it gets annoying though. Especially if it’s routine. Maybe jokingly but not, say MYOB son lol
My daughter had a friend who’s grandma lived in our building and was there most days, she ALWAYS met her at my car or came up and asked me where she was. I thought it was sweet. I also don’t see how it’s rude. Be happy your child has a friend. If it bugs you that much just say “he can’t play today sorry/he’s not home sorry” or let them know that he will let them know when he’s home. Maybe have your son tell them when they play if he will be home the next day so you don’t have to? Definitely weird thing to be upset by imo
Jesus karen calm your tits! If my kids friends knock for them and I say they aren’t in they always ask where is he/she is and when will they be back! They are kids sweetheart!