It depends. How old is the child? If it’s a teen who did something stupid and knew better, yes you should pay. However, if it’s a younger child who wasn’t supervised and an accident happened then you are not at fault and shouldn’t be responsible for paying.
If your child does something wrong you as their parent are responsible. If your child injured another child you pay the medical bills. If tour child breaks something you are responsible.
I would offer to pay what I could to help. Accidents happen but bigger ticket items like a computer could really hurt the pocket so out of compassion I would do what I could.
My bets are on the fact their kid actually broke the computer… Their kid blamed the visiting child so they didn’t get into trouble 
Or the computer was broken to begin with 
Ha, yeah I wouldn’t be paying out unless the child’s old enough to tell you how he apparently broke it.
Like, how does a child brake a computer anyway… Obviously not being carefully watched.
Offer to replace the screen or whatever has been broken if you do believe its your kids fault.
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Yes, he can pay you back with his allowance. Our kids learned responsibility and accountability
I imagine if one of my kids friends broke my computer… it ought to be my responsibility. I am the one who invited the child for a sleepover… and not knowing someone elses child… considering it’s someone elses… I would have my eyes in them constantly!! So it would have been my fault. Parents try to “train” their children but come.on… kids will be kids especially around other kids and accidents happen.
Your always responsible in way of morals. Then you make the child do chores or whatever and help pay. But you pay it. If both kids are at fault then it is 50 50 .
I’d want more details before deciding. Could go either way depending on the circumstances. Were they told to leave it alone and did not? Did they break KNOWN house rules (example - throwing a ball)? Yes, you need to fix it. Was it a lack of supervision and/or unvoiced house rules that led to the breaking? I would say technically no but you should probably offer if you can afford it or maybe suggest splitting the cost.
As far as a computer goes, if you’re going to pay, I would definitely ask to personally take the computer in somewhere rather than just shelling out cash for a new one if you’re worried about being scammed.
I would offer to pay. If I was the the recipient of the broken item, I would refuse the $ but appreciate the offer- especially if it was an accident. It it was on purpose- I might just accept the money or a small amount depending on the cost of replacement/ repairs.
My son had a birthday party a couple years ago. His friend kept climbing on the sides of the pool after I repeatedly asked him not to. He ended up tearing our liner and laughing about it when we had to take the pool down to properly repair it. I informed his mother of the situation and instead of taking responsibility she chose to not let her son come to our house anymore. Mind you I also found said boy trying to sneak inappropriate things on his phone that I had to nix. My son chooses not to be friends with this child any more but what he did is a reflection of his parents and her reaction to it solidified that. If my child went to someone’s house and it was NOT an honest mistake, bet your booty Id pay for it. If it was sincerely a true accident I would have a conversation with the other parent about how to come to an agreement to fix things. Id need more details about the situation.
Yes. I think you are responsible. It is your child. 
So in turn, your responsibility.
My boys had a friend over. And our puppy chewed up his helmet. And we replaced his helmet. Because it was my dogs fid it, making it my fault. If the friend had said broken the PS4 controller… by doing some he KNOWS not to do? Welp. Guess what? I’m going to have a talk with parents and they will be replacing our Playstation controller.
yes, you are responsible, but in return have a talk with your kid and have your kid do easy chores, to “pay” you back. My daughter accidental broke something at my mom’s when she was 4, I bought my mom a new one, in this case it was a lamp, and i told my daughter that yes it was an accident but at other people’s houses you have to be careful now that I just got nana a new lamp, I would like you to do these chores everyday to pay me back the money that I just paid for the lamp, and next time when i take your brother to the dr, don’t play ball in the house with the dog when nana tells you no in the first place
Absolutely you should. Atleast 1/2 if it was a cause of their child and yours playing together. What if said person cant replace and thats their childs school computer. You absolutely pay towards fixing or replacing. Definitely something that big. A cheaper toy then maybe not again depending on circumstances. But something as expensive as a computer…
If you were over at their house and accidentally broke their thing would you feel responsible to replace it? Yes!
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I agree with others. your child your responsibility. However, if someone else’s child was spending the night at my house and something got broken I’d take responsibility for not watching if they’re younger.
If they’re older it’d be my child’s responsibility.
Growing up we had a rule, your friend=your responsibility.
Um yeah! Id make sure my child pays for something they broke. If they are old enough to do a sleep over then it shouldn’t matter if things were put up or not. My children know if they break it they have to help pay for it. Just like if you were to go to a store and they broke something, you have to pay for the damages. Don’t be salty because of this. Just own up and teach your kid the responsibility of things.
If they don’t want things broke - don’t let them play with it. I see it both ways, it is a dilemma. Personally with my kids and their friends - I didn’t feel they were responsible enough to let them play on anything that was expensive with their friends.
Damnit yes, you need to replace it with your CHEAP behind! What if the shoe was on the other foot and the other child damaged the computer you needed for work and/or school. Wouldn’t you expect the other parent to assist with paying for it? Where is your human decency, common etiquette, and just common sense?
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If your kid is big enough for a sleep over, yourkid is big enough to be careful at other people houses. That child should also be hed responsible for what he or she does.
You are responsible for your child no matter where they are. If children are taught how to behave at someone else’s home these things shouldn’t happen.
He’s your child and you’re responsible to teach him manners at someone else’s home. You being his parent are responsible for teaching him to be respectful of other people’s property. If it was my son I’d be making him spend the next two weeks cleaning around the house to work off the debt he owes to pay for the new laptop or computer. I definitely speak with your child to find out his side of the story but in the end I’d be offering to pay at least half unless it was his complete fault.
I don’t even know why anyone would question this.
YOU should have been offering to pay/replace the item.
Teach your child responsibility instead of entitlement!
Absolutely, you’re responsible for your child. If my child broke something, I would replace/pay for it.
I never let my kids sleep over anywhere other than my their grandparents or aunts house because I’ve worried about that . If I’m babysitting someones kid and they break something I dont expect them to pay for it because it’s my fault. I was suppose to be watching the kid. And if someone is babysitting at my house and my kid breaks something I don’t get mad at the adult. So it depends on the situation why was the little kid by the computer. Saying small child makes me think you’re talking about like a preschooler
So, next time I have other people’s kids over I’m
Bringing ALL the valuables out for them to break cause apparently the supervising parent has ZERO responsibility to take care of their own belongings in their own house!!! Ridiculous.
What’s the whole story?
If the family is playing catch in the house and it’s your child’s turn to throw the ball and he accidentally hit the computer than no. They allowed that kind of play in the home they chanced it.
But what actually happened???
Completely depends on the circumstances of how it happened! Did he maliciously and knowingly damage it or were him and their child together doing something that ended up causing the damage?
I would pay half of what the computer that was broken is worth. I wouldn’t pay half on a brand new computer because who knows the real story behind it all? I feel like important information is missing however right is right.
No your child did it, it’s his and your responsibility, he should have known better
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Doesn’t matter who asked who to stay the night. Your kid your responsibility. If my kid broke something I would insist immediately on replacing it
Depending on how it happened, at least half. I bet if it was the other way around, you’d expect the other parent to step up?..
I didnt even know people thought like this. Yes you should replace it. Without an attitude. And keep your son home from now on so he can break YOUR stuff and not someone elses
If it wasn’t something expensive, I’d agree with you. But when it comes to furniture /electronics / valuable items… If you don’t think your child can handle behaving at someone else’s house to that extent, don’t allow them to go to other people’s houses regardless of what has been asked by the other parent. The only other variable in this situation is your child’s age… Now if your child is under kindergarten age (or we’ll just say five and under) the person asking to watch the child is responsible because we all know how little kids are, but if your child is grade school aged, it’s on you
Your child should pay some even if they have to work it off cpl hours at a time. Otherwise they think it’s ok and will keep happening and get worse…before y’all call her selfish pls remember not everyone can afford a new computer at this time
Work it out with them. Yes, you should do the right thing and replace it, if your child broke it. Accident or not, it’s the right thing to do.
If you want to teach your child responsibility, then lead by example and pay for the damages. Then you have them work off the cost in chores
You should offer to pay or at least pay half. Yes, kids will be kids, but your kids actions are your responsibility regardless
Yeah but yr child DID stay and you have permission , as far as IF yr child did break it it’s only fair to offer some kind of compromise and it changes the dynamics of yr child going to some bodies house or them coming to yrs for the future eeeks I’d be like we naaaa .
My daughter’s friend broke my $1,500 TV playing the Wii!! No I didn’t make the family pay for it. it was an accident accidents happen!! Good luck.
You need to replace it and have your kid earn the money back from you. Otherwise he will be the kid that goes around breaking things with no care in the world. Then he will be the kid no one invites over. Teach him a lesson
Yes, of course replace it. Friendship is more important. Especially the friendship between your son and the other boy.
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What is wrong with people?! Why should u even have to ask that question?! Your child your responsibility…i mean common sense and having goodmorals should make u at least offer to do such!!!
How old is the computer ! I think the age of the system should be Taken into account when replacement is discussed . My system is 14,years old not worth more than $100.00 to buy a new system - no I would however offer to help replace it at my sons expense .
Perfect time to teach your kid that accidents happen but there is still consequences. Have him do some odd jobs around the house for “money” and give the family he slept over at half for a new computer.
Another stupid question. It doesn’t matter who extended the invitation. You are not responsibility, it’s your son! But you are the adult with money. Make retribution and work out a repayment plan with your son. Lesson learned. Teach your son to respect others property.
No. According to judge Judy…if they were responsible for watching your kid, anything your kid breaks in their care is their responsibility
Yes you should replace something your child breaks in someone else’s house every if he was an invited guest. Your child should know not to touch things that he doesn’t have permission to touch. My son at 12 broke a friend’s child’s tv by tripping over the cord. Accident, yes. My responsibility to replace what my son broke on accident? Yes. I bought the other child another tv. Luckily I got a deal at a local pawn shop but I still replaced what my child had broken.
As a parent we are responsible for our children
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Yes! I would have offered to pay right away. Ask yourself how you would feel if the roles reversed.
So what are you teaching your child? Is it to not be responsible for anything they do wrong. If your child is old enough to sleep over, he is old enough to play unsupervised. How many computers have you had to replace because he broke them… You know your child and if you know they can’t play unsupervised then he shouldn’t be having sleepovers… A computer is not something small like a plate or glass…
According to Judge Judy(
) is the person watching them’s responsibility. In her case there was a kid spending the night at a friend’s house and they snuck out the car and crashed it.
I think both parties should pay, you pay half since it’s your kid, they pay half since they weren’t watching close enough. If it was my kid, I would offer to pay at least half if not more, but if I was the other parent and I was watching the kid when it happened then I wouldn’t expect for the parent to pay.
Your child broke it. Your responsibility. Yes they shouldn’t have allowed the children around it but, either way whats done is done.
When we have guests electronics are not an option for use. Accidents happen supervised or not. I would offer to pay half.
I would find out all the details and then I would make an informed decision. More than being responsible I think you should make sure your child understands what they did was wrong and ask them to apologise. Think about it from another point of view how would you feel if it was your computer?? Personally I would offer to make a contribution and if you feel your child was responsible then say they have to miss out on a treat to help meet the cost. As others have said if you are struggling explain to parents and ask if you could pay in instalments but first find out all the details. Good luck
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Yes you are partly responsible for your child damaging their computer if they had a part in the damage. And make them work off the money through chores AT BOTH HOMES. Accidents happen BUT if the shoe was on the other foot YOU would most definitely want them to compensate YOU for the damage their child did.
Absolutely responsible. Replace it or at the very least pay half. That’s unreasonable to expect a parent to eyes on supervise children 24/7. If we were talking about a $50 item you would probably replace it no questions asked
I would feel responsible regardless. No parent can watch a child 24/7, and its a good learning experience for your child. Make him/her do chores to pay it off.
If my child broke the computer I would at least offer to replace the item if they broke it. If it had happened in my house I would expect the parent to at least offer to replace it, just out of general manners if nothing else.
I mean yes, when our kids break things we are responsible but on the other hand where is the proof your kid did it ?
Who’s to say they aren’t trying to get a free computer 
To me it sounds like the computer was already broken and is blaming it on your child just so they can get a new one
I would offer to pay. Accidents happen, but it is the right thing to do. Plus it can cause friction for years to come for you and your child.
Morally I feel you should take the responsibility or see what the other family expects or would like from you. It may mean setting down for a discussion on the item and repair cost. This could follow your child, these two may belong to the same organizations thru school while growing up. You don’t want him/her to be left off invitation lists because other parents hear and decide to exclude your child.
That’s a hard one because of the object. Who knows if the computer was working before my child got there? I might give them something but not replace the whole thing. Now if it’s a figurine , bowl, glass or something yes replace it
Why is your child putting his hands on things that don’t belong to him and let’s face it if your child is old enough to go stay elsewhere then your child is old enough to know better and you’re def responsible for his actions whether at home or someone else’s home! Teach your kid respect for other ppls property!!
This has happened to us before. We at least offered but they didn’t take us up on it. If it’s something super expensive, maybe “your” homeowners (possibly renters) insurance will pay for it.
I have had my best friends kid break stuff at my house ( xbox ) never once told her she needed to replace it… it was my responsibility to watch her kids…
I would ask BOTH the child and the parents in charge what led up to the breaking. Were they running around in house and bumped into it, were they using it and spilled something, etc. (How did they break a computer?). And OFFER to pay half.
i would definitely see if it was him that broke it or if it was already broken. if him and other kid did brake it then it should be 50/50
I believe you are not legally responsible for the damage because 1. They invited your child. 2. They are responsible for the supervision.
On a moral level, I would try to find a solution with the other parent - to avoid conflicts with the children. For example, Paying half.
If I was the one who had the children at my home, I usually try to put things away I don’t want the children to play with. My daughters iPad was broken while friends were there - while I was irritated, I didn’t ask for a new one from the parent.
You are responsible. Although if you can’t pay for it, you need to make it right somehow. Pay them back later? Offer to watch their kids for date night. Make them a few meals. Something to try to help offset the cost. Even if it doesn’t seem like much.
Definitely your responsibility to at least offer. Its just common courtesy.
If it was my child I would at least offer to pay for it . My children were learned at a small age .When you go to someone house you don’t touch nothing .
Yess regardless if it was an accident your child did it next time don’t let them go if you don’t want to pay
A decent parent would of at least offered to pay for the broken object. A rude one would think it’s the host that’s responsible.
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I have a habit of adding contractors names if we’re having work done and not the company and then never remember who they are.
Honestly it would depend on the situation. If your child was careless and broke something yes, I’d freak accident, or playing rough and it could be blamed on both children no.
Depends on the age of child.
Sounds like you may have an older child not a toddler. So yes, your responsibility to pay. Your child knows right from wrong. Maybe even told to leave it alone.
If the tables were turned you’d probably feel the same way.
Firstly how old is the child? Because that will be a determining factor…if the child is not school aged then no, because under school age they were responsible to watch carefully (I need not explain I would hope) if the child is school aged then yes you would be responsible because the child at this age should know better by now what is ok to touch and what they need to ask permission for!
I think it falls to the parent. IF there is PROOF. If there isn’t proof that it was in fact YOUR child, I wouldn’t pay a dime. People are dishonest, and love to find a scapegoat.
Offer to pay for part of it.
How did it happen?
And was anyone else responsible for it getting broke? And maybe they wanted your kid to stay the night and it was already broken and your kid is being blamed.
Yes! If your kid breaks something, you offer to replace it. Then it’s up to the owner if they choose to accept your offer or not!
You are responsible for your child until they are 18. Don’t know your sons age but if he is a minor your responsible. Common courtesy
first, how do you even know your child broke the item? It could have been broken and they are looking for a freebie. Second it really depends how old the child is and whether they should have been supervised.
If you didn’t pay for it or take it out of his allowable you’d be the worst kind of parent .me i would make my kkds pay and thats that ,a good parent doesn’t cover up their kids crap ,they make them take responsibility, a crappy one would say not their kid
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In most states the parents are responsible for the willful misconduct of their children … that means the child knowingly caused damages however in most states if a child has an accident & damages something unexpectedly the parents not usually held responsible … i myself believe if it was an honest accident then the parents should at least offer to pay some of the damages but not more than half of them
Absolutely responsible for it. It teaches the child that there are natural consequences to even accidents.
I agree with Darlene Tuttle Tucker. It is the morally right thing to do to pay for what your child broke. Then, make your child pay you back.
This one is a bit sticky. As a guest (or parent if the guest) it would be appropriate to offer some restitution. However, having been in a situation where I was blamed solely for an event that involved others, I would question some of the circumstances. A high ticket item like a computer is scary enough not to fess up to as a kid.
Yes. Yes you are. Especially since your kid was in another person’s house, they should know to respect other people’s stuff.
I’m sorry but in no way would I make another parent pay for something that thier child broke in MY home that I invited them to stay for the night , at that point I assume all responsibility for that child .
I agree you are responsible for your kids regardless of where they are… So I believe the parent is responsible for replacing WHAT IT WAS WORTH, not a new one UNLESS it was new! If it was years old then look at the prices for one of the same age and that would be what I would offer… I mean if I borrowed a trailer from my neighbor in good shape and it blew a tire while I was using it id replace the tire with another tire used /new , so what’s the dif with your kids?
Yes. At least pay half of it. You child is responsible for their actions whenever they are playing at someone’s else’s house. It bothers.
Yes you an your child are responsible for the item. But knowing the surrounding circumstances should help the decision making process.
Honestly I would need details on what happened and ages would help with whats more appropriate for the age range of the children. And what age and condition the computer is in. Its not that cut and dry.
Depends on what it is if they were feeding the kids dinner at the dinner table and they had their laptop open on the table and the kid knocked over their drink by accident then no I would say the parents were being careless. Something like that I wouldn’t feel responsible for but I guess it just depends if they had the laptop safely somewhere and your kid grabbed it and decided to throw it then yeah that’s a different story
Depends in the item and if it was intentional or not a computer even if it was an accident id feel horrible and i help at least pay for a new one or repairs morally its the right thing to do and why ruin a kids friendship over a lousy computer the kids parents might not let them hang any more
It depends how old your child is. If they’re a toddler and need adult supervision constantly and it was like a family member, then maybe it would be the person who wanted to watch your childs respobsibility, but it would definitely be nice for you to at least help pay for it. But if your kid is a bit older and don’t need constant supervision, and it could have been avoided then you should pay. The situation definitely needs more details. Like Age of your child, how the item got damaged, etc
I would pay monetarily but my child would be reimbursing me in what ever age appropriate way possible. I don’t allow horse play in the house so there would be consequences.
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Yes I would insist on paying if it were my child
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