I feel this 
The mom guilt 
Iâm struggling with this too 
minus the smoking just the guilt
No, I stopped because I absolutely hated it. My little man is 2 months and doing great. Thatâs exactly why we have formula, love! Donât listen to the negativity.
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I wanted to breastfeed my second SO BAD. I didnât try really with my first. I was 17. Uneducated and it felt weird honestly. But I tried so hard and my son had troubles latching, I had a horrible nurse who was very discouraging and pushing formula. When I got home I settled for pumping and bottles but I only did that for 3/4 months til my sons belly issues were due to a dairy allergy and sure I couldâve changed my diet but my mental health was in the toilet and honestly I needed medication I knew I couldnât take if I continued. Sometimes you have to choose you. FED is best
It really is a non issue. Do as you feel best.
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I didnât breast feed my premie. They gave me a formal made especially for premies. I pumped and mixed half my milk with her formula.
No, thatâs not being selfish. Get that thought out of your head. Just ask his pediatrician if they can recommend a good formula to give him. They have access to ones that the average person doesnât know about, kind of like they do medications. 
Good luck and as long as you love and are taking care of him, ur doing well. Breastfeeding isnât for everyone.
Never! You have to have a lot of patience. Time off work. And your mental health has to be able to withstand breast feeding. The only thing that matter is your baby is fed.
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Iâm a breastfeeding mom but also have older kids that had only formula. If you are concerned about smoking and breast feeding. Iâd definitely do some research because itâs definitely safe. Breast milk supply doesnât even out until about 6-8 weeks. Can I ask why you think your supply was tanking? If you are pumping it isnât a accurate measurement. Baby nursing will always get more out then a pump. Thereâs so much education that goes into breastfeeding. Wish someone would have told me these things. At the end of the day you have to think of your mental health because if mom isnât in a good place baby wonât be either.
If your baby is fed, healthy and happy thatâs all that matters!
Donât let this weigh on your heart. Breastfeeding doesnât come as easily for some. Itâs not easy and sometimes things donât always go according to plan and thatâs okay
Weâre all just doing the best we can with what weâre given. You gave your baby the most beneficial part of the entire breastfeeding journey. The first few weeks are what they need the most. I always encourage new moms to try and even if they only get through a week or 2 the baby got A LOT from it.
Literally you can just tell the baby you nursed for 2 years and they wouldnât know the difference. However if you continued and were unhappy, that could effect the baby negatively. Gotta take care of you first
Mom guilt can feel so crushing. No, youâre not selfish or wrong. You canât worry about how others do things, only what works for you. Nothing matters except happy babyâs with happy mamas.
I started out breastfeeding all my kids but actually only was successful with 1. From my experience breastfeeding is easier once you get past the beginning parts. Itâs not selfish to formula feed. Keep the shortages & expense in mind though.
I had to stop around 6 weeks with both of mine. First was because my supply tanked after I started trying only to pump because my nips were TORE UP from nursing so much. Second was because I had 2 surgeries in less than 6 weeks after my daughter was born (tubal and gall bladder) and because I was on pain medications I stopped nursing and pumping so the meds didnât go to baby and killed my supply that way. If it doesnât work for you, donât feel guilty. Thereâs nothing wrong with feeding your baby formula.
Itâs better to be not taking form doping goes to baby formula is fine
No. Itâs your body and baby.
You do whatâs best for both of you and donât you dare feel bad for it. Breastfeed donât breastfeed at the end of the day it honestly doesnât matter. Healthy happy baby and healthy happy mom is where its at
I feel guilty too but honestly if itâs better for your mental health and baby is still fed and healthy, youâre okay 
youâre doing great
Fed is best. And just because youâre a mom now doesnât mean your mental health doesnât come first.
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You donât WANT to bf, or you CANâT, because your supply decreased, and youâre smoking? Itâs a bit confusing. Why donât you quit smoking, pump to get your supply back up, and give him what you can while you can? Itâs ultimately your decision, but if you want to bf, do what you can to make it happen. If not, as long as heâs fed and growing and healthy, all doctors will tell you, heâll be fine one way or another. I would personally quit smoking, though. Itâs not good for you, nor your family. Thereâs second-hand and third-hand smoke that can affect families of smokers.
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It happens. You need to care for you. Formula wonât hurt baby. Goal is to have happy healthy loving MOM AND BABY. Sending lots of hugs momma. Be kind to your self. Love yourself. Love the baby. It will be okay.
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No youâre not selfish at all itâs ok to know your limitations. Youâre not neglecting your baby by giving them formula and donât let anybody tell you otherwise.
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Fed is best. No matter how they get it.
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I was only able to breast feed both of mine for 4 months each due to different reasons. Iâm one to say feeding is best. Plus its that first milk thatâs the best for your baby. Donât listen to any of the crap others might tell you. As long as your taking care of your baby then your doing great!
In all honesty it would be worse if you were smoking weed and feeding your baby so not breastfeeding is better if you choose to smoke. Weed stays in your breast milk for 6 days after smoking so even the pump and dump method doesnât work like it would with a glass of wine. Weed in your breast milk can cause hyperactivity in new borns and could alter brain development.
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Donât feel guilty, do what youâre most comfortable with!
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Its ok love,bottle feeding is not so bad neither and your reasons are understandable stop feeling guilty and enjoy your baby
You do what you think is right and it doesnât matter what anyone else thinks or wants. Your baby will be loved no matter how you feed.
Breast is best. Yes formula is important for baby to keep going but ultimately breastfeeding is best. I dont think your a bad mom but i dont think you have the right support. I say start pumping and feed baby.
As long as baby is fed momma you are doing good. Stress is a major supply killer, youâre mental state needs to be good to be a good momma
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I felt this hard, It was so hard to breastfeed my preemie, we stopped doing boob when he was around 3 months adjusted (4months old) and I pumped until my supply dried up and we switched himâŠ. You need to do what is best for you and babyâŠ. If you were too stressed you baby will sense that, donât feel guilty mama
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No guilt, I couldnât breastfeed at all, formula was fine for all of my three.
No you are not. Sometimes the stress after birth is so bad. As long as your baby is drinking well on the bottle. You are doing a good job
As long as your kid eats, itâs fine. Donât worry about it
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Entirely your decision. The whole breast is best crowd are usually filled with people who have little to no problem producing and god bless âem for it but thatâs not everyoneâs story.
There isnât a single person in the world that will be able to tell the difference as your child grows. Do you, mama.
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Keep doing what youâre doing mama!! Baby wonât react to you smoking at all as long as theyâre not in the room with you it cannot harm them! 
Do whatever works for you!
No itâs your choice, I never breastfeed any of mine. I have my reasons
Not at all. Fed is best! Also, taking care of your mental health is not selfish either.,
Your child was born early meaning breast milk would have done him good. Breast milk is literally considered liquid gold. If you could be willing be try, you can try pumping every couple of hours, it will increase your milk supply. About smoking, you can try and smoke only when itâs absolutely necessary. Or pump before you smoke. Or smoke at night. All Iâm saying is you can still smoke a lil and still breast feed your baby. Wheat products have really been helpful in increasing my milk supply. You can try them if you donât mind. Otherwise Iâm sending you love and light. Been there myself. Used to smoke when necessary, and things got better and I stopped smoking. We are now 5 months on exclusive breastfeeding. You got this mamađȘ you just have to be willing to give it a try
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Your mental health is more important than forcing yourself to breastfeed. Your baby can pick up on the stress and will cause him to have issues while eating. I had to stop at a month because baby was picking up on my stress and was crying more than she was eating
No! Not even the littlest bit. Do not let stuck up snobs let you think any different. Itâs not worth the stress.
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I didnât breastfeed either of my kids for even a second. Guess what? Theyâre almost 15 and almost 9. Healthy, happy, barely get sick, no allergies, super athletes, straight A students. Thereâs nothing to feel guilty for. Happy healthy mom = happy healthy kids. As long as theyâre fed, itâs all good.
Girl give that baby formula & take care of yourself
They all literally end up eating week old McDonaldâs fries off the floor in the car I promise
I never breast fed either of my kidsâthey are now adults and as children they were very seldom sick (never even had an ear infection) and are healthy as adults.
l Get paid over $127 per hour working from home. l never thought Iâd be able to do it but my buddy makes over $18621 a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The possibility with this is endless.
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Not at all if your not comfortable with breast feeding or if you arenât producing enough milk for baby the next best thing is getting bottle feeding. All the best donât feel guilty either be positive girl ⊠and enjoy looking after your baby. And stop smoking promise you will enjoy life better when you have your health sorted
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nope. FED is best. i didnât breastfeed my son at all. & guess what, heâs always been happy healthy, & advanced in all stages. he was also a nicu baby. donât beat yourself up! iâm sure baby boy is doing great
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Your baby can still grow up to be happy and healthy without breastfeeding.
Donât beat yourself up over it. We do what we have to do to cope with everyday life.
Breastfeeding is so hard Iâm on my second round with my second son your mental health is definitely more important!!
Donât feel guilty. You managed to give it a go and thatâs more than many. Iâm a huge advocate of breast feeding but I know it just doesnât work out for everyone and no one has the right to make you feel bad for using formula.
Its not selfish at all.Your mental health,needs to be better set.A mom canât pour from an empty cup.Iâm a firm believer that,fed is best.
Your mental state is more important than breast feeding your baby. Your baby needs you to be well.
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Oh sweetheart your mental health is more important I wasnât able to breastfeed due to severe post partum I have multiple mental illnesses so I was put on meds directly after labor I felt guilty a little bit my son is perfectly fine he is bigger than the average size one year old he thrived on formula he did fine your will be okay
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Donât beat yourself up about not continuing with breastfeeding - itâs not for everyone. You have given your baby a monthâs worth of your milk - now you have to do whatâs best for you and then you will be able to take good care of your baby. You will then both be happy. Take care x
You did breastfeed in the beginning so you passed off antibodies. Breastfeeding is a choice not a requirement.
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You need to take care of YOU! A ton of women go through depression with having to breastfeed among other things, so donât beat yourself up. Itâs absolutely normal! Also, let me tell you something⊠Iâve been a preschool teacher for 8 years, and know very well most of my kids who were breastfed and who werenât. Some of the ones who are sick the least werenât boob babies, so if thatâs what worries you, donât sweat it 
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Donât feel guilty hun. U needed to deal with your state of mind so you can continue to watch over and protect your child. Donât let anyone make you feel bad for that
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You are not being selfish at all! My youngest son was a premmie and also in the NICU so I know exactly how you feel. He had to be taken to a different hospital (one that had a NICU) than where he was born. I didnât breastfeed because of the pain meds and everything surrounding his birth. You have to do what is best for you and baby. If not breastfeeding is what you feel is best than do it mama!
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You tried it wasnât fir you donât feel guilty and stop beating yourself up. Itâs not for everyone.
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No. Youâre not. Itâs your decision to make. The first month is the important stuff, after that mental health and Fed is best.
I have four kids. I breast fed one for six weeks. The others were just about a week or two. It just wasnât for me. They all had formula and are all healthy adults
Never feel guilty when it comes from breastfeeding. Doesnât matter for how long, or if at all. Breastfeeding was so hard for me and I would have given it up a lot sooner had my husband not been my rockstar and helped me through it all. Everyoneâs bodies, minds and babies are different. Itâs natural to do whatâs best for you and yours. I pray you and yours are happy and healthy
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In order to have a healthy baby that baby needs a healthy mommy.
Dont feel bad.
Dont feel guilty mommaâŠmy daughter stayed in NiCu and even though i was producing like a cow , i wasnt able to feed her bc she would projectile vomit⊠it broke my heart to not do so but at the end she wanted my love not my MILK
You can still smoke weed and breastfeed your baby
What makes you a good mom is doing what is best for you to be the best mom you can be and in this case it was to choose formula. You are doing right by feeding and loving your baby , donât feel guilty
No. No guilt! Just be the best at what you can be!
See your doctor about your mental state. As long as your child is healthy youâre both fine
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Donât let others judge
No you are not! Guilt will eat at you but as you watch your baby grow and you are in a better healthier mental state your baby will be too!
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I didnât want to breastfeed. Iâm not sure why but I didnât so I didnât. I still formed a beautiful bond and they are healthy