Yeah you don’t get to control that. If he says it’s ok then it’s ok. You can’t control what his gf does, whether or not you’ve ever met her.
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It’s your child first off and secondly you don’t know her, you aren’t an a-hole!!!
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If I have never met my baby daddy’s gf then no I wouldn’t because if u can’t be woman enough to meet me then u damn sure better not be woman enough to post my child when u can’t even meet the mother. Period. Now if it’s u not wanting to meet her and she’s been there a while then that’s on u.
Someone who hasn’t even met you should never be posting pictures of your child. How utterly disrespectful. You don’t know her or who her friends/family are.
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I have an honest question,
Do you post photos of your kid on line? Do Your friends, family ect…? If yes their’s your answer.
Edit to add- does your ex truly know ALL of your friends?
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If the father has the child when it’s his time and if he doesn’t mind his girlfriend posting the photos then you have really no say
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You have every right be upset and no you are not am asshole you have the right to know who your child is around and NoOne should post your child ever wo try out permission
Yep…consequences of divorce
Im not aure with insta as i dont use it but if someone posts pictures of your child on Facebook you can report it and have them removed maybe see if you can do they same i wouldn’t feel comfortable with a stanger posting on socail media of my child who knows who they have following them
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When we get married and have babies together, it’s a choice for life of the baby. It’s why God intended marriages to last to the end. You chose him to parent your child, than you need to respect his choices too. Life is all about choices and at some point these newer generations need to realize, you make a choice then you deal with the consequences.
Tbh if she is devoted to your chikds happiness you should be happy with that. She’s not there to make you feel like crap she’s your ex new gf he comes as a family unit. It’s good of her to take that on. I get that your obviously still hurting but look at the bigger picture. Your son benefits by being loved and encouraged by her
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Jesus some you y’all just can’t let people move on without acting like its all about your child. But it’s really not
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Ok view from a bonus mom… When I got together with my now husband the baby wasn’t born yet… she’s now 4. I have been around just as long as him really. We kinda got a surprise it could be yours… anyways. If you co parent well he should really gave told you about her. (Maybe just friends) I always post pics and videos of our kids (even my bonus) I love her just as much and don’t wanna leave her out as she gets older might question why she’s not in my pics to… I’d have to tell her that her mom wouldn’t let me?? And I don’t wanna make it seem that way either… so… idk. My ex tells me about his gf’s. Our daughters 14 now… if she doesn’t mind then that’s it… I’d rather have a caring good relationship with the others then start off with a bad one…
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In my opinion I would not want anyone posting pictures or videos of my child without my permission…it’s possible she asked the father and he gave her permission but if she didn’t then yes I’d be highly upset…
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Although I would be upset too if some stranger was posting stuff of my child… but it isn’t “my child” it’s “our child”
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You maybe should look at it this way, she is looking after your children whilst they are not with you and she likes them enough to post pictures of them on her personal page. When they are in their dads custody, you have no say as to what happens unless you have an agreement with their dad not to have pictures on social media and you don’t post any either.
Btw - how do you see her page anyway? Stop looking for trouble, this woman would have no Ill intent.
I believe you are feeling upset about you ex moving on.
And before you say I don’t know what I’m talking about, I am “the other woman” and I adore my step kids 
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Being you haven’t met her I can see setting a boundary but if she sticks around and makes a life with the father then I think in the future would be ok. Co-parenting is key these days so I hope you and her can work it out.
You’re wrong for stocking her Insta but not wrong for asking her to take the pics and videos off her social media. I had the same experience. My ex’s girlfriend she was use to post pics and all. I never said don’t do that this and that because I was just happy that atleast she liked my kids and they are safe. But she started to act like she is their mother. One time my son had to get his hearing test done. I went to drop my kids off so they can spend time. She came to me and snatched my son off me and said I will get his hearing test done. I was shocked. That time I had no idea how to respond to it because I didn’t want to cause drama in our lives because I knew people would turn to me and say you probably are jealous. But the second time she did. I told her excuse me next time to snatched my son of me it won’t be good. I am the mother not you, your just my ex’s partner that’s all. And I try not to say anything to you because I want us all to be happy for kids. She never spoke to me again. She was nasty to my kids after that.
Sadly when we post pics on social media we are totally unaware who has access to them. You post pics for your friends and family but really dont know who their friends /family are and accounts can easily be hacked , pics stolen and turn up on pedophile web sites.
Personally I wouldnt be happy about this situation but I guess if Dad says its OK then you’ve no right to say anything.
Maybe make a coffee date to meet and talk to his gf…presumably she’s long term if hes allowing her to post pics of his children…and discuss your concerns with her.
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You can ask but if the dad is okay with it there is no legal ramifications to it unless you have sole custody.
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You could’ve sent a text just as quickly saying “hi I’d really like to meet her since she is around our son so much” instead of shutting her down before even knowing her 
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My granddaughters father has a girlfriend who likes to post videos where said girlfriend is telling my granddaughter what to say and it is always trashing my daughter and myself. Said father is to scared to tell her to stop
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When I had my daughter I made it known I didn’t want anybody posting or sharing her pictures. My husband family would always share photos and videos knowing they never even visited her. He would politely ask for them to remove her stuff & they would be upset. You never know who’s has access to your picture & I didn’t want her pictures circulating the internet. As a mother I will do what I can to protect her.
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Are you friends with this chick? How did you see her insta story ? Were you sticky nosing her socials and found it… if so then why not just message her directly she will be able to tell you’ve seen her story. She might absolutely adore your kid. If you don’t know her have you tried to reach out to her to get to know her? Not all new partners are bad just because they are with your ex. Sometimes they turn into family too. You don’t have to hate each other because you broke up set the example ! 
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You are an as…its super controlling. He can be with and trust whomever he wants it doesn’t need to be approved by you… People like you try to stop people like me from being step moms to kids who need it and want it… and that’s garbage. the nerve. I’m glad judges rarely fall for that bs.
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I co parent as well and I haven’t been in this situation before. Maybe you should discuss this with your son father about issues you may have when it comes to his girlfriend. I think if she is not doing anything inappropriate or negative towards your son I don’t see the problem. Do you or any other family members or friends post pictures of your son online? If the answer is yes to that question then it sounds like your feeling some type of way when it comes to your son dad girlfriend.
She got permission from the father, there is nothing you can say or do. I’m a photographer and I had a client (father and his mother) bring children in for photos. Dad signed my model release and the child’s mother tried to tell me to remove the photos from my business FB and threatened to sue me. She also demanded copies of the photos because they were of her children. I consulted a lawyer and the verdict is… the father alone can give permission for the child’s photos to be posted online. If you feel like it is to your child’s detriment, you have to get a court order that his girlfriend isn’t allowed to post. And no judge would do that. Move on with your life…
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Not the a-hole. I hate when women do this! I would be livid however, I would have gone over to his house when she was there and cause a HUGE scene cause that’s how I roll.
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You have every right to be upset! People use social media to get to our babies and who knows who she has viewing her account.
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Stay off her page stalker.
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No you don’t have the right to do that. What your son does with his father on his own time is none of your business unless it’s a vacation, or important event.
Also you should stop creeping on her page and trying to dig deeper, I think the issue here is you’re not over him yet. If that’s not the case, try to approach her and meet her, she could be your sons stepmother one day and that’s an important role in his life. Don’t be the toxic BM.
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“Our child” not yours yalls. You can ask but since the child is he’s as well he can just say stay in your own lane. 
Also stalking ex. Partner is weird. I’m sure he’ll call you out on that.
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Why you stalking her page?
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Yes u r a petty person
You have a right to say no more posting but ultimately it’s your child’s choice in whether or not people take and post pictures of him. And stop stalking your babydaddy’s woman.
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You are absolutely right! She should not be posting any pics or videos of your child without your authorization
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She should never post pics of your child without your consent.
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I would reach out to her and politely ask her to take it down, or talk to the father about it and explain your concerns.
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You’re going to have to get over that.
This is a fence issue for me. Like I understand you don’t know her or her intentions for your kid BUT on the same hand you really have no say what goes on at his house (unless abusive in any way). From this post I get the feels your jealous that they are forming a bond. It has nothing to do with you and should be ok as long as son is happy & healthy.
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A lot of “my child “ going on in this post … clearly forgot that the father is a parent too … you can request it but if the father allows it then not much you can do
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Find a guy friend your ex doesn’t know and let him post pictures of your kids and see how dad feels
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If dad said it’s coo then there shouldn’t be a problem I bet dads the one taking some of them , it’s sure nice that they all get along , It’s both of your kids and he’s on dads time … in my opinion .
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Sounds like petty drama
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Unfortunately, you will have to move on from it as the father probably allowed her to do that. I would say if you are not unhappy about the situation, communication is key.
However, you can come across as a stalker and not on good eyes by the father. Unfortunately, it is her page. If you tried to talk to him and they did not listen. There’s nothing you can do.
Just move on from that and try not to think about it. There’s no rules for other family members or extended family to post other children’s family pictures. However, they will not take you serious for the child’s safety.
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you are not the a88hole imo. i dont allow anyone to take pics and post them unless they ask me first. (ive started a family fued over my aunt taking pictures of my son and posting them.) i dont care who you are you need either mine or his daddys permission or i will go full blown mama bear karen on you. way to many creeps in this world. however if she has dads permission then thats all fine and dandy.
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I can understand not giving her the authority, but honestly from one mother to another, atleast this one took the time to do it and cares for you’re child,none of the other pettiness should matter! Let it go! Welcome her its so much easier that way!!!
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Grow up, if your baby daddy is cool with it, then it’s fine. Its not just YOUR child.
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if i was ever in your situation, i would have to ask for it to be taken down. it is unfair that you have not met this person. how do you know that your child is even safe with this person? i hate peoples comments sometimes because they are not supportive & do not understand the dangers or worry of your child being around someone you do not know & potentially unsupervised at that. you’re not an asshole. it’s your child that you birthed out of your body.
I’m pretty sure if you have custody the majority of the time…Hmm, what do they call that again? That you have the right to tell him and her not to post pictures if you don’t want them on there. Some custody agreements will say it’s your right to tell him what doctor he can take your kid to, blah blah blah and this would probably fall under the same kind of conditions.
Sounds petty to me!!
I’m sure Dad is looking out for things at his house. If he’s not fit then the child shouldn’t be there. Appreciate the GF is bonding with the child and wanting to spend time with the child. There are more important things to worry about. This is not one of them.
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I went through this exact situation, except for the fact they were both on drugs & I was fully pregnant with our 2nd child. I didn’t want her or any other girl he was dating to be around my son until it but n I’m
As long as you are being true . But if it’s because deep down you know it’s out of jealousy then yea. Went thru this with my sons ex
Do you have a right to ask? Sure. Do they have a right to tell you no? Yep.
You don’t have to know who the woman is. You don’t have to like her. You don’t have to like if she’s posting things about your child. At the end of the day there is literally nothing you can do because it was dad’s time with him 
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It is called adulting. Have a conversation with your ex. Tell him how you feel. Ask him to discuss not posting the child without your consent. Would this be an issue if she was a family member? You are the only one who knows why this bothers you. If is because it is his woman .you are being petty. If it is because you don’t want ANYONE posting your child…it is your right…
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Unfortunately while you are not an ahole for not liking it. You can’t demand it be removed. Dad is ok with it so there isn’t much u can do. I would not go ape sh$% over this.
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How come you haven’t met her yet if she’s the gf and your child is around her
Do you allow others to take pictures and/or post photos. The father? Your friends? Grandparents? If so, your just being petty trying to stop his gf.
You said you’ve never met her, but you’re checking up on her social media.
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She has accepted your son. That in itself is a good thing. Let it go and be happy In the fact he is being included. I do understand how hard it is to watch but better to know he is loved than ignored
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Sounds like you’re being petty… if the girlfriend is being loving to your child that is what truly matters
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No u don’t have that right to ask her to take it down. - just giving u legal … if the kid is with his father and the father is dating. That’s out of your hands.
Be proud that your child is taken care of by another woman. Who - by the way - doesn’t need to love your kid like their own …
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One if you don’t know her how’d you find her Instagram? Two why are you snooping? Three dad can give his permission that’s his child too. And finally it’s her social media account you don’t get to dictate what she posts.
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You are the Whole! You can’t control who is around on his time and he is also the parent to the child he has a right to tell her it’s ok to post even if you don’t like it
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Most definitely. If he’s with his dad, surely he wouldn’t put his son in harm. Posting pictures isn’t harming him in any way
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I think that’s a bit much from not knowing the whole situation. Ask to meet with him and her. Just to let them know that from now on you would like to be aware of who’s doing what with whom and who is going to be around your child. But no need to get nasty. A nice civil conversation will let them know that you are being an adult about it and that you mean business as his mother. AND that you are watching. Develop a talking relationship with the girlfriend too. Don’t be her best friend and exchange “war stories” about your ex, but it’s important to let her know that if you’re going to trust her around your son, you have to know her. That’s all. 
It’s dad’s time with him so you’re helpless
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You definitely have that right! I’d be plenty upset as well.
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I’d he’s a responsible loving father then I’m sure he wouldn’t allow anyone around his son that could cause him harm. Put your trust in DAD’s ability to care for his son and let it go!!!
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You’re definitely not an asshole and I would have a conversation with the ex. While dad can post if he wants, what rights does the girlfriend have to post. Especially if it’s not her child and hasn’t met mom!!!
YATA. He’s your son but also his father’s. You don’t have the only say and you should be thrilled that he has another person in his life to love him. You can not like it, but that doesn’t give you the right to demand it be taken down.
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Nope nobody should post anything about your children with out asking first period
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I won’t even post pics of my FRIENDS children without permission. And we’ve known them forever
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Yall missing the point. A PARENT gave permission.
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No you’re not, In my opinion. If dad posts it it’s fine but her, I don’t think so.
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Ask to meet the GF. That’s the issue here. Save the rest of the drama. It’s not about any of that… you wanna meet who your child is around and that’s fine (be prepared to do the same). Then go get you a massage, some dinner and/or go out. Let it rest that your child is being cared for by two loving individuals… 
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I would ask. He can say no. If the answer is no, I’d ask to meet with her. Social Media is serious when kids are involved.
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It’s petty she probably was enjoying your child and wanted to post him. If she’s dating his father and your child hasn’t complained about her she’s probably good to him. Not every woman has bad intentions. I loved my ex’s children because they came from him and I loved him! My sons father is dating a woman now and she is so good to my son. I’m very grateful for her. We co parent very well together …her and I lol
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Being upset and having the right to tell the dad what to do about the girlfriend are 2 different things.
In my opinion, you have the right to be upset. You have the right to feel, say and do as you please.
Telling your sons dad what to do is your choice, but he doesn’t have to listen.
After all, that’s his son too and he is allowed and able to do the same as you.
If the dad allows the girlfriend to post, definitely out of your control.
This is a situation you are trying to control and you shouldn’t.
*I dealt with this with my ex. I learned that what he does or allows that doesn’t harm the children is out of my control.
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You do have that right.
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One day she will be his stepmom instead of attacking her - you should see if she want to meet up with you and have lunch get to know her instead jumping like that’s my child not your situation----- one day you going meet your future husband he has to be round your child too
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You never know the strangers that have access to your child’s photos, you have that right to be upset & ask them not to post pictures of your child on social media.
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I’d be happy your child is so loved and accepted by your exes new partner. You sound petty
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You are not an asshole. It’s easier for him to make you the “asshole”, than to tell his girl she’s the one that is wrong.
It’s yours and your ex’s child. Not just your child. If your ex is okay with it, then it is what it is. Would it be ideal for you two to agree on it, of course. But the reality of the situation is - y’all don’t. You can request it, but it doesn’t mean it will be honored. I used to be like this but I realized it was a tactic of me using my child to reach out and initiate confrontation because I was hurt seeing my child around another woman with his father. I had to realize that as long as I’m doing what I need to do for my child in taking care of him and making sure he knows how loved he is by me, I had no reason to feel insecure and I should be thankful there is another woman who is there to help care for my son while I’m not around.
Editing to say - stop looking her up on Instagram or social media if it’s going to trigger you. You need to dig deep to the root of your issue and find out exactly why this bothers you. I feel like there’s underlying stuff here and you’re using another woman and your child as a scapegoat. Sorry if that is harsh.
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You need to set up a day to meet this woman and set boundaries
No! You have every right to say something
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Not at all. Instagram and Facebook are actually really good about having photos taken down that other people post of your kid. I believe if they keep doing it, their account gets suspended
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Absolutely not the a hole. I cut my children’s half siblings off for posting photos of my children on social media.
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u r 100% in the right to ask for her take them off her anything rather fb instagram ect.so no u are not a AZZ HOLE that is your right so dont fret it or beat urself up for asking that to be done
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I would be upset too. You don’t know this person. And you don’t know what her intentions are. You have the right to protect your child at all cost. And so should his dad.
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No your a Moma Bear
Protecting your cub
I wouldn’t ask
I would demand she take them down and not to post anything about your child on social media
The father should have had enough brain cells to know
This is wrong
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You should asked to be introduced if ur son is already spending time with her.
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Depends are they serious? How long have they been together? If not that serious then yeah I’d be pretty pissed and ask the same thing. However, if they’re pretty serious…… yeah don’t be mad. Ask to meet instead.
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How long has he been seeing his gf? No…I do not think you are an a hole. I world not be happy if some person i never met was posting pics of my kids.
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So is she a danger??? Or is this your imagination??
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I mean I would probably be upset, but he’s also dads child and dad has the ability to make those decisions, so you just kinda have to suck it up and deal.
I may be the odd one out but I feel the biggest factor at play is how long this woman has been apart of the child’s life and how long they’ve been apart of dad’s life… if it’s something new then yes you have every right to ask for it to be removed. But if it’s an older relationship and the woman is a step-mom figure to the child I feel it should be left alone.
Also what is the contents of the pictures/videos would also come into play.
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Feels weird, doesn’t it???
If dad was okay with it you can ask but she doesn’t have to take it down. Did this with my husbands BM when we got together
Also, if she’s a long term partner it’s really not even your business what she posts while dad has the child. Dads kid too and he can let whoever post pictures
Unfortunately you have no control over what happens when your child is with his father. All you can do is ask but the request doesn’t have to be honoured. It’s totally up to your child’s father if he is ok with it. He doesn’t have to arrange for his gf to meet you. Its unfortunate and not how we would hope it would be but it is what it is. I’ve never met my exes now wife. I dont follow either or their family on any social media. I’ll know from my children’s behaviour if something is not right when they go there and do what’s needed if that happens , otherwise just like the judge said to my ex when we got court orders. What the mother does on her time is none of your business. Goes both ways
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