Are you going to be sending your 6yr old alway when she gets sick? Kids get sick.! It’s one thing to not want a cousin, friends kid etc to come over while sick but these are your children step or not!
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The children are siblings. You dont ship a sibling off when they have a cold. You do your best with good hygiene but these things happen with siblings.
When she coughed on Saturday morning Dad should have taken her to the doctor. End of story. Rest is out of your control.
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Damn. Poor kid with the cough. I bet she’s super uncomfortable over there.
Take that poor girl to the doctor to get checked out.
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Terrible he is also her parent. What’s different it being your child unwell and another fine within family it’s life take your head out your arse
With the baby being 5 weeks you easily could of kept them separated if you were that concerned. I brought my daughter home and her older brothers ended up getting sick. You can’t really avoid them getting sick, you can only try and prevent it. I couldn’t send my daughter off or my sons anywhere.
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These questions can be so ridiculous sometimes. I get it really step children aren’t your biological children, but they are your children now. It doesn’t matter the relationship between you and their mother. You all knew about your husbands other kid/kids before you got married and if you can’t handle it you should have never gotten involved. I hate how women are all nice and act like they’re the best step mom’s until they have their own kid and push the step child to the side. Sorry for my rant but jfc.
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I didn’t all but only the 1st sentence. You should understand that no matter what always value your time with your kids or step kids sick or not sick. Love is unconditional & shouldn’t matter. Even if the kids are sick you should be their comfort❤️
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People are saying kids will get sick and when you got with him that the bm’s child became your responsibility but where is her responsibility? Also, the baby is only 5 weeks old! A baby that young barely has any immune system and could get hurt from the tiniest illness. If bm knew she was sick then yes, she should of taken her to the doctor instead of dropping her off. What is appalling to me is that she pretty much said her daughter is fine and you are overreacting when 2 kids are now sick. Since ofc you are on the situation now, take the baby and your step child to the Dr. Sorry you are going through that.
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When my older daughter was sick at time of visit with her dad.i called told him she was sick and let him decide if he wanted her on his days.which was never a weekend it was a couple hrs a day during week.he would say keep her home. But even though under court orders we occasionally agreed a make up day or something.
You have two children. You took your stepchild on as a responsibility, and I assume you were aware that children get sick. Your husband can try and keep your stepdaughter away from baby, and y’all can practice good hand hygiene and keeping everything in the house clean (wipe down door handles, remotes, hard surfaces, wash blankets And bedding regularly etc etc). But instead of having your 5 week old exposed to one recently sick person, you went to a hospital that is crawling with sick people. You are in the wrong, kids get sick and that absolutely does not give you an excuse to ask that your stepdaughter not come over. Also, if you guys are THAT concerned about the health of your stepdaughter, take her in yourselves.
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You are overreacting, your kid is fine. What are you going to do when you have another one? Send it out of the home?? No, you aren’t, so just deal with it.
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If she’s too sick to get out of bed, sure. If she has a cough? Really?
What will you do if your baby is sick after you have another baby? Send your child somewhere else?
I think you’re being ridiculous.
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The father can easily take her in he doesnt need permission that’s his kid just as much as the mother. U could of kept the newborn in a different room . I have a newborn 3 weeks my daughter is 1 she was sick we all were under one roof and managed to keep my newborn good. 
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Absolutely, your right. You have to think of your baby first. Still be concerned of the other child but its obvious that the mother is not concerned for the health and well-being of your baby. The father of this child should not even ask the mother and take THIS child to the doctor himself to make sure that your baby doesn’t catch what ever this child may have. I’m sure that you could sleep better at night knowing this child is not contagious too !!!
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Yeah I think it’s wrong of you to be mad. Would you have said she’s not allowed to come over bc she’s sick? You would cancel a visit with her dad bc like all other kids this time of year, she has a cold? So wrong in my opinion. I hope your son doesn’t ever get sick and his germs spread to her while she’s perfectly healthy.
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As a Yours Mine and Ours Momma: Do not listen to these absolutely negative Nellies. If one child or spouse was sick then they were kept away from the others regardless of “who’s” child. If “ours” was sick then “yours” and “mine” weren’t there because then you spread any sickness to two other households. Regardless of “who’s” child they shouldn’t be around a newborn especially with all the new strains of things going around right now. Dad should be able to take both together or individually to the Doctor. Keep your head up!
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Soooo… if it were you biological daughter, would you ship her away? I’m pretty sure we all know that answer …smh
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Coughing is always last to go. That child has time with her father. The mother shouldn’t be made a monster because of this. If you were that worried the moment you heard a cough you should have moved yourself and the baby to a separate part of the house or made sure proper hand washing and cleaning was done along with no contact (with the baby). The mother shouldn’t be the one to have the child when she is sick and then the dad has her when she is feeling fine…
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So what if it was your Full blood child ???
It will just build his immune system up …
Yes. When you have a child, you cant just pick and choose when to be a parent. You stock up on lysol and chicken noodle soup and man the fuck up!
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you cant tell him that his kid cant come HOME!! if she is sick he is the father take her to her doctor it’s his responsibility as well as her moms and if she is sick keep the baby away from her and keep the house disinfected…I’m taking it as you being a first time mom so everything is a little tense and paranoid but you cant put the baby ahead of the daughter or atleast you cant expect him to cause he has two kids and it’s hard enough to have 2 baby mamas dont make it worse by making him choose between his kids
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If u had an older child, where would he/she go when there sick? To keep your youngest from catching it? Welcome to motherhood/ Blended family lol
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You’re the mother. If you believe the older child is sick while your infant’s immune system is still building itself, then let her come over but keep the baby and her separated. It’s not easy being a parent to multiple kids, but many of us figure out ways to get it done. Also, make the sick child wash their hands a lot (after sneezing, coughing, blowing nose, eating, rubbing face, etc.) Also, anyone that wants to touch the baby needs to wash their hands (and wear a mask if you’re that worried). You won’t change the BM and it’s a small amount of time until your baby’s immune system is strong enough to have germ parties.
Remember, if the older child was your biological child, you wouldn’t send one away if they were sick. It’s not easy to keep them from getting sick, but it’s doable.
I agree with the comments that you’re being a wicked stepmother. They just said it nicer than I will.
My oldest had a cold when my youngest was born. I would not dream of sending him away just because I had a new baby. Kids get sick, it’s a part of life. You can either accept your stepdaughter as your own, and get over your petty bullshit, or leave her alone- because parents and their kids are joint packages. I UNDERSTAND you are overly emotional, and will be for a hot minute, but damn, why can’t you treat them both like your children and understand she needs to be loved and not shunned because she’s under the weather? Get some Lysol, clean, have someone come over and help with your KIDS while you clean your place up from germs.
Stop treating your step kid like a step kid and step up or step off.
Take her to the fucking doctor or stop bitching. If you’re her step parent, you are just as obligated to take care of her as her father. Get her meds, get her checked out. If she NEEDS meds and it’s not just a simple cold, send them with her to her mothers as well. Tell her to remind her bio mom that she needs her meds. My almost 4 y/o knows when he is ill and needing meds- he will even ask for Tylenol if he is feeling really bad. A 6 y/o will know to remember her meds bc she feels icky. Be a parent, not just to your blood child.
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As a step mom. What would you do if you had another child that is sick? You wouldn’t tell that child not to come in the house in fear of getting the sibling sick. Your fiancé now has two kids. It’s not just your son. He should not have to keep his daughter away because of a cold. He still needs to be a daddy to her as well.
Now, dad does not need permission from mom to take her to the dr if it needs to be addressed.
Sucks but I hope BOTH kids stay healthy
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Definitely wrong. If you had 2 biological kids, will you let the older child go stay with someone else when she is sick, to protect the baby. I think not.
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If it was her full biological sibling you wouldn’t have a choice. So you will have to deal with it. Came with the fiancé
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When the kid woke up sick on Saturday you all (meaning you and her dad) or just thr dad, whatever. Should have taken her in. You are just as much responsible for that little girls health as you are your own child and if you arent willing to accept that responsibility then you need to rethink becoming her step mom. I totally understand you don’t want your baby to get sick, especially in this season, however, when the child is with you under your fiance’s parent time, her health is your responsibility and it should not all have to fall back on the mother. Your sons health and her health should be equally important to you! Because you are choosing to be her mother as well.
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little kids have weak immune systems Get and give suppliments to strengthen them. If and when the get into school it will be one cold after another you might check into allergies if she was fine when she got there, what happened, do either house have pets?
If the child is sick she needs to stay home. If my children are to visit their dad and they are sick I would tell him they are sick Do you want them to still come over? And then let him decide. Now my children do have asthma and allergies so when they get a cough its a nasty cough out of nowhere
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When you get with someone with kids, you’re their mother too.
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Why can’t the father of his child take his daughter to the doctor without the mom’s permission?
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Your step kid is YOUR kid. Would you make your five week old stay somewhere else if he was sick???
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Yes you are. Would you deny a child of your own jist cuz she was sick? You should treat her as if she were yours. I had a horrible jealous self righteous stepmom who left all the money to her drug addicted daughter and her …son. We got nothing. Daddy trusted her. HA
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Well u just said urself she was fine friday but next day poorly!
It happens, 1 day my 5yr old can be fine then the next … awful cough n cold etc.
Also u as a mother will get a cold from time to time, where u going to put ya kid? 
Hopefully everyone feels better now 
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TAKE THE CHILD TO DR YOURSELF! If ur with her father, they r kinda ur responsibility too! Yes it probably sucks to have an older sick kid while u have a newborn… But u wanna send her away?! What if u had an older child of ur own and they got sick?! Where u gonna take them?! Welcome to blended family!
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Oh stop it 
seriously just stop. Visits don’t stop because of a sickness. They bring the meds with them. Not completely stop visits 
So what happens when your child is sick and your stepchild comes over?
What would happen if they were blood siblings or your husband had full custody?
I’m shocked people even think like this.
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I get you have a. Newborn. But what if she lived with yall full time? What would happen then? Instead of being an ass about it. How about you figure out what kind of sickness or allergies she has! Im sure if she lived with yall then yall wouldnt call somone else to take her while shes sick.
You are frustrated and i get it but you’re acting out of anger and thats not fair to baby girl who wana spend time with HER DAD. If you cant step up and take care of her as well then you do not need to think long before becoming her step mom period.
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When you committed to him you also committed to his daughter. This situation would not be any different than your now son being sick in three years when you have your next child. You are a family and must do what’s best for all kids involved.
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Stepchild still equals child. What do you think parents who have multiple children do when their other kids are sick and they have a newborn? Deal with it. Be a mom and stop acting like your baby is more precious than your stepchild 
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You’re overreacting! If she is sick make sure she washes her hands frequently especially before touching the baby and tell her no kissing the baby till she gets better. Problem solved!
I would hate to be the step child here. Can somebody step up and get the child to the doctor? What about some comfort for her and some basic care? Medicine, hot tea? Heating pad? Some hugs?Feeling like your a germ instead of a person must feel like crap. Put yourself in the child shoes. You remember the people who took time to care for you when you were a sick little one. And you remember who didn’t. You have a great opportunity to be someone special to this child. Really put her in your heart as your own and the answers will show up easily.
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So I’m guessing you’re planning on sending your son somewhere when he gets sick when she comes over? Doesn’t work that way
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Take her to doctor as you did your little one!
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hell yes be angry!!! not only is the step daughter health in danger so is all around her. the BM surely doesn’t give two hoots in hades about her daughter
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So take her to the dr!
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SO ?
BM ?
For starters, I have no idea what that stands for . So you pretty much lost me right then and there.
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You need to grow up.
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Sooooo if this was your bio daughter living under your roof, you would send her away???
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Take her to the doc. Yourself
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If it were your biological child, would you send her away for a month bc she was sick? The answer is no. If she was fine when she got to your house, that means she was fine before she got to your house, at least that day. Nurse your baby and he’ll have all the immunity he needs and taking him to the Er for hours was way worse than her bringing a little lingering cold around him. Oh and btw, quit calling her a baby mama, it’s trashy. Get over it. Kids get sick.
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Bet you’re glad u asked !!!
I believe that with the weather change we have been having lately and about all winter lots of people have been sick… and doctors don’t give antibiotics like they did when we were kids … It is said that if your not running a fever your not contagious … It has been said to me alot that it’s a weather change cold … coughs also almost alot get worse at night … It is also said fresh cool air is good for babies and kids … Also a fact that a hot house is not healthy for people … houses need to be warm but cool and comfortable and germs live in heat , hot places, this is why hospitals and nursing homes and etc are cool not hot … so the blame could be on alot of corners … I wouldn’t blame the bm nor child for adult behavior she is just going with the flo… but I would keep little one away from her and spray her bags book bags, shoes, ( worst germs ever) cars and etc to keep germs down … Although it is also known that we need germs and they actually keep you healthy ( not saying infant needs access) but it’s almost impossible for little people to stay germ free
If your crying over a cold and your son is only 5 months you got a long road. Suck it up your a step mom and you son will have a healthy immunity to colds, allergies are just around the corner and goes on for months. As the wind blows she could get worse try homeopathy elderberry tablets might help.
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Why would this girl’s mother even let her go to someone’s else house if her daughter was sick? Not good parenting on the sick daughter’s mother.
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Yes you are wrong. Your stepdaughter is still your child just as much as you biological child sick or not you choose to be with someone who had a child and you can not push her away when you feel like it. She is not a piece of trash. You live her and care for her just as you would your own. So suck it up put you mommy panties on and cary for the child and help get her feel better. Go make her some chamomile tea, get a humidifier and some vicks maybe ebmven tylenol just incase she starts running a fever while in your care. But do not exclude her just because you now have a baby or she will recent her sibling
You are about to be this girls step mother. You need to welcome her into your house whether or not she is sick. Keep her away from the baby if she is sick, but you shouldn’t not welcome her into your guys’ home because she is sick. That will make the child feel like a burden because believe or not, they will pick up on that. As for the BM, just talk to her about it. If she won’t do anything about it then you guys should as her other set of parents.
Omg -So your step daughter not allowed over if she sick ? Sorry honey can’t see daddy you got a cold 
I’m guessing his custody agreement is x amount days -
He a dad , he has to take care of All of his children 
Regardless if they have the plague-
If mom keep him from his child because daughter was ill - the dad would be dragging back to court saying it was “his time “
He just as much responsibility for His daughter medical care as the Her mother -
Men want 50 / 50 custody ( or the kids get sick )
Till the next woman comes along -
Your not going to last long as step mom , you see this child as guest in your home
Not as a extra person to love 
and child.
At some point he have to choose between living with you or being a father.
He an infant honestly not enough reason , it’s not a legal reason to not have visitation-
She 6 years old they not share toys - touched his bottles ect
The act of her being breathing the same air as your son isn’t going to hurt him.
A 6 year old can recover from a cold much faster than an infant - but sorry your son was ill but babies get sick -
Yes - your wrong
Isn’t he the father of your step daughter? Unless he doesnt have authority to take his sick child to the doctor why doesnt he? She is a child … kids get sick , it seems to me that you should have thought about getting involved with someone who has a child… no sympathy from me here.