A baby shower is called a baby shower because guests “shower” the baby with gifts, not so the parents can get what they want. The point of gift giving is for the giver to put thought and love into the gift THEY are selecting for the receiver!
I think you should just be grateful for what you get. If you don’t like/want something, you can return it to a store for a gift card or sell it on Facebook for cash. If there is something you absolutely want or need, then you should purchase it yourself. A registry is more like a wish list, not a “buy me this or I’ll be pissed” list.
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Don’t be a cunt and be grateful for anything you get.
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Some of the most treasured gifts I received were handmade blankets, diaper bags, and burp clothes. They weren’t on my registry! However someone thought enough of me and my miracle to sew or knit something by hand! Be grateful!
Is this real? Please just be grateful. No one owes you anything.
You can always re-gift, exchange or give things a chance.
Keep in mind that not everyone can afford what YOU like or want.
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I can see both sides of this. But honestly I’m with OP. We live in a tiny apartment and when we were having our baby we kept the registry minimal. I paid for all the big ticket items either second hand or myself, and then kept small stuff in the registry. I think the most expensive thing on there was $45, and my family got mad that I didn’t put more “cute” baby things for them to buy me. Yes, I appreciated the gifts, but would prefer not to be given something we didn’t need. The idea that you have to appreciate what you’re given and like it is outdated IMO. Not everyone likes the same things. Not everyone can use the same things. Getting a gift for someone else is supposed to be about them, not you. 
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Baby showers are not just for gifts… Please stop. It’s more about celebration of a new life coming.
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I was so thankful to everyone who thought enough of me to even come celebrate my baby with me, but I was raised to be grateful. I would’ve been just as thankful if no one brought gifts, those are just perks. Having people go off-registry for gifts also opened me up to products I didn’t know about and ended up loving, since I was a 1st time mom. Ex, a diaper brand I loved more than the pampers I thought I needed, clothes I loved, family treasures passed on that are priceless.
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Ur super rude n wrong
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Wow. You should be humble and grateful that people spent their money at all. As a new mom, I felt like I had everything figured out as well, but those things I didn’t particularly care for at the shower? We used ALL of it. A baby shower is about celebrating your child, not catering to your “style”. Gifts shouldn’t even be a requirement.
A baby shower is soo people can introduce you to Parenthood and help you a little but not exactly to give you everything you need or think you need. Just be happy that all those people took of their time and money to bless you and your baby. 
Well I suggest y’all buy what you and your husband and child wants and need and forget about the baby shower, if you’re gonna be ungrateful for what your guests can afford to bring out of the kindness of their hearts. Anything guest brings you should be thankful for. Some people got some nerves.
What if you register for items outside of my budget but I still want to show love and support to you. Would you prefer I bring nothing? Not come? Or buy what I can afford and celebrate the joyous occasion with you? I think you need to look around at all of the people, your village, and be thankful for the friends and family you have and the love they’ve shown you regardless if it’s in the form of your chosen mattress or an ugly onesie.
It’s a time to celebrate a new life, not what the new mother thinks she is entitled to, but that comes with age when the mother’s grandchild is arriving. Only then will she truly understand. I buy a few things off the registry and a few things that I know by experience what a baby needs.
Wow it’s not about the gifts AT ALL… It’s about celebrating the baby! Not you or your husband and your wants. Not everyone can afford that expensive overpriced mattress or the over priced bottles you want. You should be grateful for whatever gifts your baby receives. And if there are things on your registry you don’t get guess what!? YOU go out and buy them for your baby . After all it is YOUR baby. The baby shower has nothing to do with saving you and your husband money… It’s a celebration…
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Be thankful for everything you get. In many instances that person may have went without just to make sure they could bring you tiny miracle a gift.
I usually buy 1 thing off registry and then something of my choice that worked well for my kiddos
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I kinda understand but be grateful. My baby shower i asked for only diapers and wipes but every body got the same outfits and thought it was funny to do. But i was still super grateful that they actually showed up and got items for my son. A baby shower is exactly what it says- its about the baby not you or dad. Its about friends and family coming together in a time of joy and happiness for the new bundle of joy coming into the world.
I had family members not buy off of my registry and I ended up having to return about half of what I received due to the fact multiple people bought the same items in the same size which could have been avoided by buying from the registry since most of them will take off items that have already been purchased. I think it’s okay to want people to stick to what you have provided as a list but to still be thankful for gifts given that may now be on it. My daughter got clothes I absolutely hate and I simply returned or gave them away as I didn’t want to out her in them.
You sound ungrateful!
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A registry is more like gift IDEAS for people. Just be grateful that people are coming together and willing to buy your baby a gift. Gosh… I hope your child isn’t as entitled as you.
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I totally get this. You want to do things your way. I always stay on registry unless there is something amazing I found but I always include a goft recipt
You might be better off not getting some of the things you put on registry. As a first time mom ( assuming you are because of behavior) you might never use what you put on it anyway. Some first times moms think they need the latest trends but honestly those are usually items that remain sitting in corner unused. Always be thankful for what you get because no one had to buy anything, they did so out of love.
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You should just be grateful people actually attended and brought u and ur baby anything
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You sound like a selfish bitch. Sorry not sorry. By the way its a “baby shower” not mommy and daddy shower. 
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Since you are a first time mother how is the world do you really know what ‘works’ and ‘doesn’t’ haha you don’t! Therefore don’t be ungrateful because they got you stuff you didn’t ask for… sounds like you don’t know what works or doesn’t yet… they do 
Wow, I am sure glad I am not friends with the likes of you lady. You sound very ungrateful. Maybe the onsies were all that person could afford. If you need a baby shower to get the things you yourself need for the baby, maybe rethink having a child in the first place. You chose to have the child, not your friends. Be grateful for what you get.
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Honestly no. Asking for a gift receipt isn’t in any way out of line. I made sure to mention to anyone who came to mine that I’d rather they buy off the registery but if they didn’t i wanted an opportunity to be able to exchange it or return it in case we already had it, got one from multiple people, just weren’t going to use it. Was I grateful for reciving stuff? Yeah of course but everything except a couple onsies ended up getting returned because we just didn’t have any need for it.
Geesh! I wouldn’t throw you a baby shower knowing how you feel.
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How ungrateful, what a selfish person!!! Be grateful someone actually comes to ur shower… still can’t believe what a selfish person 
here’s to hoping once u have ur baby u won’t be so selfish
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Ungrateful comes to mind.
Ungrateful i buy what i want
You are wrong. In my opinion registrys arent so popular. And if its older people they may not know how it works. Also anything you are gifted put it to use ! Nothing will spoil. Most often you get lots of the same things like baby shampoo lotion onesies etc. But its what people choose to buy and how much they want to spend. Anything you want go and buy yourself
Some people want to put their personal touch on a gift… Also, no, no one is obligated to bring a present in the first place, imo the point is to gather and celebrate a new life. Yes, the gifts are wonderful and help, but jeeez, if someone wants to choose something themselves, let it be… Sell it online if you must, but don’t be ungrateful.
You get what you get and like it or don’t have a baby shower go buy all the expensive shit yourself you ungrateful bitch
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I was taught to smile, say thank you and always be grateful. Some of the gifts might be a blessing in disguise.
So I literally JUST bought stuff for my cousins baby shower(her first child) that weren’t on the registry because she didn’t have nursing pads on there…and whether she breast feeds or not she will NEED them. I did buy diapers that were on there but I also bought a customized onsie(with the baby’s name on it)too that wasnt on the list because it’s her first baby and I wanted her to have a keep sake after the baby outgrew it.
Being a new and/or young mother, keep in mind that sometimes the gifts you get may be an item that an older, experienced mother knows you’ll need later… never turn a gift down …its a gift for a reason.
wow don’t think a baby shower is there specifically for YOU not to BUY anything necessary for the child you’re bringing into the world and it’s bad to expect that!! Baby showers are so daft anyway for this reason, I’d be upset if something I took the time in choosing something and you sent it back
The baby and his/her things needed are your responsibility not others , and a baby shower should not be only off your registry, i had made my granson a beautiful blanket with items from his moms and dads . And others like to make gifts as well . You sound young and entitled. Good luck 
You’re wrong… Baby showers are to celebrate the baby, not make sure parents have the specific things they’ve chose. While you could add in a note that you request items not bought off registery come with a receipt, it might also just mean some people don’t get you anything cuz you sound stuck up…
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WOW!!
Hopefully your kid won’t be an ungrateful B like you!!
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Just be grateful you are given a baby shower
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Super ungrateful. Instead of spending $200+ on decor and food for guests for your baby shower maybe you just need to go buy all those “necessities” yourself. No shower no problems 
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Although I understand what your saying, I think you sound ungrateful and presumptuous. Plus, people got me items that I didnt ask for and didnt know I needed. I’ve bought other people stuff not on their registry because I simply didnt have a chance to go to that storr or time to have it shipped or maybe the items are too expensive because others bought the smaller items already. Would it be nice to have receipts to return stuff, sure but you keep disappointment to yourself. If there are things you feel you NEED then buy it yourself!!!
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Yes. Ungrateful AF!
If you can’t accept the gifts as what they are-then don’t waste everyone’s time with a shower. No one is obligated to give you anything. I was never given one for my first and would have been beyond grateful that people were willing to spend their hard earned money on MY baby! You don’t have to like what they give you, but you do need to be grateful that they even cared to do something. I cant believe this is even a legit question. Terrible!
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If you’re getting gifts from people with kids already…they know better than you what you actually need. Most of the stuff you think you will need you won’t. But all of the stuff you think I’ll never need that, is exactly what you’re going to need.
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I’m glad my daughter-in-law wasn’t uptight about her baby shower. They had a registry and the baby is the first grandbaby on both sides. They got a few things that they had on the registry, but the rest was gifts for the BABY.
You know, the one who doesn’t care if the sleepers have feet or if they have to wear socks.
The baby that doesn’t care if the diapers are Pampers or Parent’s Choice.
The one whose PARENT’S need to buy the “needed” items if it’s something that has to be specific.
It’s YOUR baby, you buy the expensive crap.
Your baby will fall asleep upside down, dangling off the side of the couch with spaghetti o’s in their hair one night. They really don’t care about a mattress. One of ours would bring his pillow and sleep in the doorway of our bedroom sometimes. Most times he was dressed, sometimes not. You step over them and go make coffee. Deal with that mess when he wakes up.
Parenthood isn’t expensive gifts or getting every thing you want, honey. If it’s not something you want, sell it or give it away. A gift comes from the heart. If you’re going to gripe because someone didn’t get you what you thought you deserved, next time make sure you put a note before the RSVP on the invitations that says to keep your butt at the house unless you buy a gift off our registry. Make sure you call us first so we can tell you exactly which present you can “surprise” us with!
No one wants to go to your shower anyway, Karen. Way to make people distance themselves from your child too.
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Definitely the first baby, huh?!?! 
I’m literally crying laughing at this for real, that onsie that isnt “your taste” will be needed when that baby has an explosive bowel movement and you having nothing left to put it in because you’re so exhausted from being up all night every single night holding and soothing that baby that you didn’t even think to do that load of laundry, speaking of being up all night that crib mattress isnt gonna see much use 
oh and those bottles ha ha ha ha, your specific taste probably wont be the babys choice.
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I thought a baby shower was to celebrate the new baby and expecting parents… not just to get what they need I know a lot of mothers that just ask for diapers and books… they don’t expect people to buy the big items normally you pick them out and pay for those yourself . A registry is just for suggestions for ones not sure
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Entitled much? What did you do while opening? Tell the person to return it because that is not the item you asked for?? Wow. Just be grateful you got anything with your attitude.
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Have you ever heard that saying “it’s the thought that counts”
And those things you wanted on the registry isnt exactly always what you need half the shit people buy for you… You’re child will out grow your child within three months two months even a week whatever, basically whatever you buy or someone buys for you… Ungrateful bitch ass be happy with whatever they fucking get you, no the matter what it is!!
to be honest I really don’t think you deserve shit
if you want bottles, buy them yourself lol
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So wrong, girlfriend. Just enjoy pregnancy instead of being a demanding diva
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I disagree. I got a lot of gifts not on my registry that I actually use more than the crap I put on there. Who knew I’d need a bottle sterilizer? Not a new mom. I sure didn’t lol
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A baby shower is meant for celebrating the life your about to bring into this world with family and friends because once you have the baby it will ahwile untill you can have all these people in the same place at the same time with Baby celebrating with you. Presents are just a bonus but not mandatory lol. Maybe you didn’t mean to come off they way you have in your post, but maybe you could save your money and don’t have a baby shower and go buy everything you think your baby will need
People are buying gifts for your baby so be thankful. No one has to buy you anything. As for those bottles you think you have to have, your baby may not even take them or they may make them gassy. And if you have to have a certain brand mattress, go buy it yourself. At the same time I understand not necessarily wanting certain things (I hate diaper genies and will not use one) but it wasn’t my money spent on it when my grandmother insisted on getting our oldest one. And yes in that case I took it back and got something we did need. Just like my youngest has some clothes that she didn’t get to wear cause she practically jumped from premie to 0/3m skipping nb and I plan to exchange them for the same in a bigger size once the stores allow exchanges. But I found my taste in clothes actually changed a lot with both my girls once they were born because I dressed them to fit their personalities and characteristics (hair/eye color). Its actually rare I like the same thing for both of them lol
Just be grateful people show up to celebrate out of all the people I invited to mine ( about 100 people) only my mom and two sisters showed up I had fruit and veggie trays and sandwich trays and a whole bunch of shower favors that went to waste
wow. just wow. you need to check yourself!
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But you do sound ungrateful. Sounds like you should skip the shower & buy what you want.
Wow, if you’re that picky, buy it yourself 
a shower is a celebration for the baby soon to come. Yes, it helps the parents financially but it’s really to, c e l e b r a t e and help prepare your baby for coming into this world
What is wrong with people, be grateful. Like one said it’s the thought that counts. Sounds like you need to come down to reality. Enjoy life!
Girl you need to come back down to the real world. Noone is going to agree with you. Your ungrateful dang I hope your child doesn’t turn out like that. How does your husband handle your spoiled butt. You should be greatfull that someone would want to come to your baby shower. May be some can’t afford the items you put on there I could only imagine the price on those items your asking for.
Maybe you should be grateful they bought you anything. Selfish.
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U sound selfish AF. Some of us don’t get baby showers and buy every single thing ourselves. Fix your ungrateful attitude.
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Wow you sound so bloody ungrateful,what if people can’t afford an item you chose? Should they not come. Very imature!!
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You chose to get pregnant. Not your guests. Them buying your special requested presents are not their responsibility. Don’t we teach our children to be grateful for presents they don’t like?. It’s the thought that counts. Be happy and appreciative. With that attitude, I’m supprised any one showed up for you. Very rude and ungrateful. I hope you think hard and change your mindset and mature a lot about this and probably other things or you will probably lose a lot of good people in your life. What a shame.
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Rude! You accept what people get you. Be grateful that they even got anything to help out. Shame on you for having such disrespect. You seem to think you are entitled to things. No, I had my baby shower online due to this pandemic. But, guess what things were bought that weren’t on my registry and I don’t mind. I will find use for everything given to me and my baby!
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Ungrateful woman … ! I actually hope noone turns up !
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Yeah…I didn’t have a baby shower. Providing for your kid is your responsibility
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Maybe the mattress and ur bottles YOU want might not be in others budget for a baby gift?
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This has to be a troll for attention and we are all biting ???
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How ungrateful are you kidding me??!
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Then buy it yourself…
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I like to buy something off it and something else I may think is cute ect but I always give the receipt even for registry gift
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Honestly nobody HAS to buy you a damn thing! You should be thankful that they want to be a part of your baby shower and bring gifts. Some people can’t afford huge expensive gifts…onesies and little things like that cost a lot less then a crib mattress. If you want something specific then YOU should buy it!!!
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Some times people aren’t able to get to read your register but they get you something anyway. Be thankful you got anything you ungrateful person.
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And what about before gift registries I mean moms and dads back in the day didn’t have them and I’m pretty sure they were just grateful for that they got!!
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You sound extremely ungrateful.
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Tanya Sah 
shes very ungrateful. She wants things for her n the baby daddy “I dont want to sound ungrateful.”
That’s beyond selfish. Why not be glad that people care enough to spend child on you and your child. Be glad they took the time out of their day especially during this pandemic and people being short on cash, to think of you and try to do something to be kind? And baby showers aren’t just to buy you things, they are celebrating the new life you have created.
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I had maybe 15-20 items in my registry and I only got 2 lol
U r a very ungrateful human! I hope no one shows up to ur party an the prices double for the things u think u must have. U r quite ridiculous fr. Wat mom or father is ungrateful of people thinking about them an taking time out of there lives to bring u a gift. Bet ur arse i wouldnt have ever showed up!
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I didn’t have a registry I was grateful for what I got an I am the parent so bought whatever else was needed
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Hahahahaha I actually know women like this. Sad
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Your rude…When I had my kid, it was by mistake that I got pregnant when I did, we had just moved into a house I had nothing, my daughter had hand me down everything, i had registered at stores but also made a point to buy what you want, as we were broke, we were grateful for anything and everything you’d be surprised what people bought me, I was so grateful people went above and beyond the list for registry…her crib was handed down from a family that had three kids that used it…people bought brand new Dr. Brown bottles…like come on now…give people credit and ya not everyone lives the high and fancy expensive life style you might…be GRATEFUL it is the time to CELEBRATE the BABY!!!
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Just when I think my life is bad I read this and see how grateful I really have it. OP needs to make a copy of this and send it to all of her people that she invited to the baby shower. Then she will be left with no gifts and no friends. YES YOU ARE SOOO WRONG!!
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Wtf did I read. I feel bad that you will halfto read all the comments. Maybe you’ll realize your ungrateful
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Some people can’t afford the things you may put on your registry, but they love you and your new baby and want to contribute somehow. So while it may not be the exact brand of wipes, bottles, diapers and such that are a necessity. So maybe they buy the generic brands, it’s still thoughtful and they are participating the most affordable way they can
I’m sorry this is wrong…be grateful people are buying these period. Mom of 2 kids here and was grateful for anything anyone got me
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I feel the same way. My daughters baby shower No one got anything off her registry and for her first birthday only one person got something off her registry. It’s like why bother asking what she wants/needs if you’re not gonna get it anyway. I feel like not making anymore lists/registry.
Don’t have a baby shower then? Buy your own stuff.
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This person is confusing the word want and need.
You need a crib mattress.
You want this specific mattress.
Also most stores will let you do returns or exchanges. Say thank you and send a thank you note and then just take the item back and put it towards the one you wanted and pay the difference.
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Wow. Talk about ungrateful.
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In a perfect world all of your guests would buy everything from your registry and you would save tons of money and would be so grateful! But this isn’t a perfect world, and you need to come back to reality a little bit. People buy the gifts they can afford and think you would want or need. Just cause you make a registry doesn’t mean they have to buy from it. Same thing when you have a wedding, theres a registry and a lot of times you dont get squat from it. But it’s not a big deal and you should just smile and say thank you to those who are generous enough to even buy you anything at all.
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Yes you are wrong!! You decided to have a baby, not your friend and family so buying things that YOU want for that baby is you’re responsibility, not your loved ones. And I’d also like to add that is NOT the purpose of a baby shower, gifts are not the purpose, the purpose of a baby shower is to celebrate a new life coming into this world with the ones u love most. You don’t get married so your guests can buy u things, u get married so you can show your love and commitment to each other. I think not only are you being ungrateful but you’ve lost sight of what’s important.
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Ungrateful. Rude. Wrong. Entitled. Selfish brat… you are all of these
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People usually can’t afford the expensive registry…I made one but only received a couple items from my list BUT I was so grateful for all my gifts for my baby and personally I think u should be grateful people helped you out at your shower too
Wrong. If you want specific stuff, you buy it yourself. A registry is a guideline, a wish list, a " i have no idea what to buy" idea list.
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Sooo entitled. It’s not anyone’s job to provide what YOU think that YOU need for your baby but YOU. Don’t have a shower and buy your own stuff and have a wonderful life with probably not many friends or family to enjoy and celebrate this time and your child with you. Sounds like a one person show to me.
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