Other moms with boarderine personality or depression /anxiety. How are you doing it. I’m struggling so bad. I am in counseling and no my son is not on danger. But I’m so mad and overwhelmed and overstimulated all the time and having trouble connecting with my 2 year old. I have been a single mom till recent and honestly financially, I’m strapped, I’m stuck at a job I hate because I can’t find anything in my area to work with my daycare hours. I’m supposed to start counseling and I’m drained. I just yell all the time (apparently) and I’m so tired. My son won’t listen and I don’t know if it’s a 2 year old thing and what’s normal. Ive tried the time out, taking toys everything
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As a mom that’s struggled with anxiety and depression for years, this is my best advice. 1. Counseling is great and can be such a great tool to have. 2. Routine, routine, routine. Not complicated ones but a routine will help behaviors. 3. Redirect if you can instead of punishment, however always make punishment be things you stick to and know you will stick to. Like don’t tell the kid no Mickey Mouse for a week if you know that hr a day is your only chance to do dishes, laundry ect, bc you will give in immediately. And lastly…love…give that child all the love in your heart!
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I have bpd among other things, luckily I never have those issues, he saved me in so many ways. But counseling is a good start!! I learned coping skills long before I had children that help me every single day for the last 30 years. The proper meds and therapy will help wonders! Good luck mama!! You’re doing a good job, even when you don’t feel like you are! Sending love and prayers 
I hear you loud and clear. I’m going threw a lot of the same stuff. I’m pregnant with # 4, and I have borderline personality disorder, ptsd depression and major anxiety. I rage out everyday no matter how hard I try to controll it or meds try to mask it mostly from stress. It is so so hard. I have no advice really cuz idk how to even help my self , exept lots of love and hugs to you and I hope you can heal soon momma
I have the same problem. Not in counseling, (judge and soical worker deemed me mentally stable enough without counseling) but I wear 2 rubber bands on my wrist, everytime I catch myself wanting to yell, I snap the rubber bands until the anger passes (4-5 mins tops) then I correct my children’s behavior. It seems to help me manage the anger and overstimulation, at least not yell as much. Much love mama. We got this!
There are lots of meds , old ones & newer ones too that are beneficial. Don’t be afraid to take meds but go to your Dr! Try not to yell! I’m OLD & wish I had used softer tones, but kids are resilient & forgiving. Funds are tight so there are resources & clinics that are cheaper. Hang in there… raising kids is the toughest best job you will ever have
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Hey there my new borderline bestie! 
Have you done any DBT work?
Parenting with Borderline Personality Disorder
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I’m glad your reaching out for advice sorry your overwhelmed kids feel tension. So I really hope things get better for you it’s hard doing it alone for one! 
my thoughts here are taking the toys from a two year old not nice. Not judging you yelling doesn’t help the situation. Anger doesn’t fix anything. Kids at that age shouldn’t be disciplined. Two year olds are a handful but they don’t think like adults you have to redirect them in a fun way. Kiddos need love and patience please reach out to someone close for support get meds or get your weed medical card to help stable your moods and relax you! And maybe find a parent mother groups, church, also there is programs for behavioral for children who assist with you and your child at that age for development - they do so much more and would be a great support system for you and they can help with resources, clothes or free tickets for activities, food, utilities, items and toys for child etc. Usually the city has developmental behavioral programs for single mommas.
Post partum depression is hell and for 1 in 3 women we get to keep that 
forever. Fun times. My kids are and 6 and I’m still struggling
I have bi-polar depression and severe anxiety. Got it due to my crappy and overwhelming job. Stuck here because nowhere is going to pay me close to what I make and give me the same benefits I currently have. So I feel you there. But let me tell you, you’re not the only one struggling. Sorry I’m the only one who has commented but don’t feel alone. I have 3 age range from 13 to 5. I yell from being over stimulated. Luckily my kids are aware of my condition and try their hardest to understand me and help me. Just take you a moment and breath when you feel worked up. I’m guessing you have a partner now since you are no longer single? Ask them to help. Teamwork makes the dream work. Ask your therapist for different techniques to help with stimulation issues and what can get worked on. Hugs. You got this momma!
I struggle with borderline disorder, anxiety, depression and PTSD. It’s hard. I had a hard time connecting with one of my children but eventually did. Therapy does little for me and neither do the depression meds. It’s probably a two year old thing but kids feed of us and can tell when we’re stressed. Try not to yell bc it just encourages them to misbehave. Have u tried meds? You could still have PPD even after this long. I would suggest talking to your Dr.
Lamotrigine. Lamotrigine changed my life.
I was diagnosed BPD in 2016. Mom of an 8yr old boy and 5month old girl.
It’s HARD!!!
I bought a self help dbt book I’m trying to go through and then also on a few different meds. I had to get off lamotrigine because it gave me wicked nightmares but Prozac and buspar has helped along with Ativan as needed.
Reach out if needed!
Councling will help. Meds too. Just be careful and ALWAYS reach out for help and talk. It’ll slow you from doing something stupid. Good luck. It’s a rough road.