Any other mamas going to buy their own Valentine’s Day flowers just to have something? My husband never buys a thing for me and I want my kids growing up thinking he does so I’m buying my own flowers and saying they’re from him… am I alone in doing this?
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I just can’t do that. I set the expectation that my husband needs to do something. Simple. Dollar store card and balloons for less than $5. Not too much to ask and have children see the example
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No, I don’t lie to my child.
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I’ve been married 18 years we have 5 children most of them are grown.i ordered myself a few things the other day and told him he bought them for v.day.he did buy an adorable card.some years he didn’t but the man makes me coffee in the morning and still kisses me goodnigh.as long as he is showing love in other ways I don’t see a problem good for you for buying yourself flowers.you deserve them.
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Absolutely not. If you communicated your interest in receiving flowers from him and he couldn’t care less, you find your self worth and dignity. What you allow is what will continue.
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Why would you give credit to someone that doesn’t want to buy you anything and why would you lie to your children? You’re setting an example that lying is okay, because they will find out sometime.
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Do you buy him something? Ot should be a joint effort decided on before hand. We always discuss before hand what we are doing for the day and how much to spend on each other before hand. Discussing expectations before hand makes sure no one is disappointed.
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My sister and me take turns fixing Valentine’s day dinner for each other,this year it’s my turn. Steak, potatoes,and broccoli.
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Valentines day is a waste of money anyway. I buy some candy for the kids but my husband and I decided a long time ago that we don’t want to feel obligated to spend money on each other just because…someone said we’re supposed to? If he’s going to do something sweet and indulgent I’d rather him do it because he wants to, not because he feels obligated and everyone else is doing it. We show our kids the day to day love and thoughtfulness and make big deals about birthdays and our anniversary, because those are OUR days. I’m editing to add, if it’s that important to you and you’re upset about it then you should tell your partner. If something really matters to you then it should matter to him too.
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Im not a fan of Valentine’s day…i get the kids their little presents and candy, but I’d rather have my husband surprise me on a random day with flowers or a little something then do it on a planned holiday that it is expected 
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Do not give him credit where credit isn’t earned. If you have boys take them to the store and allow them to pick out flowers to give to you and teach them yourself how to treat a lady!!! If you have a girl shame on him for not getting you or her a flower.
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Parents think kids don’t notice just like that, but they do. Don’t give him that credit but also recognize he just may not he that kinda guy.
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I told mine specifically NOT to buy me anything. I don’t like chocolates, I don’t want stuffed animals, flowers are just something else to take care of until they die, I have more than enough heart shaped necklaces. My love language is acts of service. I’d rather him care for me the other 364 days a year and not waste money the one day the price of all these items are tripled.
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I would buy them but not say they are from him. I don’t get anything for my birthday or valentines and most times anniversary. My kids know it and they say stuff to him… like u know it’s valentine’s day!! I’m not giving him credit for something he didn’t do.
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My husband and I don’t do anything for Valentines Day. We never have. I think that showing your significant other how much you love them should be an every day thing, not just one “special” day.
I buy for myself every year and my kids think it’s from their dad!
I think that’s pretty sad you have to do that tbh fair enough if you want to buy them but wouldn’t kill your husband to make a effort and get you some flowers and a card
No tell them they are from you because teaching them self love is most important
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If I use our joint account then he’s technically bought me flowers lol
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Valentines day is to let someone who doesn’t know that u like them.
I wouldn’t worry too much about focusing on 1 day a year. How does your husband treat you every other day of the year? And do your children notice that? That’s the important thing. That’s how we do it anyway🤷 I’m not worried about 1 day a year when my husband will buy me any and everything I ask for any day of the year!
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No just spoil my self here and they or near the holidays just bought my kiddos theirs for school and them and picked at their stuff xoxo
No don’t do that. You’re setting a false narrative to your children of what a lousy husband yours is. Just teach your children how to be better partners than what your husband is to you. He deserves no credit whatsoever.
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Buy your own flowers, but let them know is from you to you… self love is our greatest love❤️
I bought my own flowers yesterday but I don’t mind because my husband has a mental breakdown leaving the farm and trying to navigate town. So, buying my own flowers saves the 50 angry messages about town being busy even though our town is only like 30k people:joy:
Or… you just buy your kids valentines. I get that it feels good to have your partner get you stuff, but if they are not going to give the effort, then why focus on it? Setting yourself up for expectations usually leads to huge disappointments. Rather than focusing on what your husband isn’t doing for you, you could always get little gifts for your kids and you can make the moment for them.
My husband waited until I went to sleep last night and I woke up this morning to homemade chocolate covered strawberries, a stuffed hedgehog, flowers and a new thermos cup.
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No, I wouldn’t accept my husband not getting me anything. I definitely wouldn’t lie to my children and give him credit where it isn’t deserved.
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Commercialised bull. Show love every day not once a year.
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Nothing wrong with it. Even just a random day of the week. If I see pretty flowers, I grab em. My husband does randomly buy me flowers, but personally, I HATE that they indicate “love”. They die, and they are kind of a waste of money (I know, I am weird) I do like getting them, buuuut I also think it’s a silly holiday. Love should be shown throughout the whole year. Women just like to receive gifts, that’s why I’m sure they made it up🤣
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Nope I bought all my own stuff I always do. I love him but he don’t love me like i love me when it comes to material things and how and what I like. Easier just to buy my own
I also do not tell my kids it’s from him it’s from me to me. Love goes beyond material items and it’s important my daughter sees that. I don’t need daddy I want daddy huge difference
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Oh hell no…he doesn’t deserve credit. Let those kids know you bought them for yourself. Let them know it’s ok for you to love yourself.
My finance got me 2 jumbo bags of mini eggs, and I got him a set of couples mugs from the dollerstore 
Mostly just got the kids stuff. Our kids know and see we love eachother daily so it’s not really a big deal to “spoil” eachother on one day of the year. We don’t really celebrate but reguardless I have always hated Valentine’s Day anyways.
Don’t get me wrong deep down I want all the mushy stuff but I think I really just prefer attention and some loving 
I have a good man who’s changed my view on love and relationships in a positive way. if I want something, I go out and get it. I don’t need a man to do that.
However, personally I don’t think you should hide that or pretend. if kids know you love eachother and see you in a healthy relationship they will see what love is, not from one day of chocolates and flowers.
Happy Valentine’s Day though, take those flowers and give them to yourself from yourself 
you need that most.
I don’t think it’s necessary! My kids get to see how much my husband and I love each other not based upon what gifts we buy each other materialistic things me nothing. That being said we do buy gifts for our kids and that’s what matters.