Maybe reach out joining parent groups or getting together for play dates. Maybe get some childcare help if possible
He’s working ! With 5 kids and a 6th on the way single is probably not your best bet !!!
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Quit having kids and go out and get a part time job.
Neither my husband nor myself have to check in and update each other unless something is wrong or needed
We’re adults and don’t need to be micromanaged by each other
Obviously he helps financially or you wouldn’t be able to be a stay at home mom…
If you’re questioning your entire marriage over him working hard to provide for YOU and your guys children sounds like you have bigger issues
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He probably feels lonely and over whelmed being gone from 7-7 as well. Probably would love nothing more than to be home with his family, but you know, you have a lot of kids and a lot of bills to pay. Be grateful he’s busting his ass out there to provide.
Ohh stop having bbs if the hubby aint gna b arnd to b a family man!!
Get out that “might as well be single” bs mind set… he’s literally providing for you and all the kids. It’s not like you can go work and support you and all them kids cause you said it yourself your pregnant and more than likely hormonal af try talking to him about it, sheesh. My husband is gone for work from 530 am to sometimes 7pm EVERY SINGLE DAY to provide for myself and our 5kids(I don’t get any updates I’m lucky to get an I love you text and that’s on a slow day) trust me when I say he’s probably stressed out too, how would you like it if he said that to you " I might as well be single"?! You’d cry. Give the man a break from time to time. Ijs. & If you need a break tell him he’s watching the kids and go do you for a bit it won’t hurt, I’m sure he’ll be understanding.
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Zero help I’m sure he’s supporting u 
Why keep on having babies if you are not happy and appreciate your husband?
My husband and I don’t communicate throughout the day (never have). Unless there’s an important bit of information that we need to share before we see one another.
I’ve worked with guys who are constantly on the phone talking to their significant others and those guys are the ones not focused on the job and are usually the first ones to be let go.
True communication is important to any relationship, but constant conversation isn’t necessary.
Maybe make some friends and get the conversation you need from them and allow your husband the space to do his job while he’s at work. It’s not like he can change a diaper over the phone or like you can help him do his job via text.
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Well, this is not meant to be rude at all, but before cell phones this was the norm. We have become so accustomed to having instant access when there are some times that naturally the other person is otherwise unavailable. If he is at work then he is doing what he needs to do to take care of you and your children in a very important way! If you are overwhelmed then definitely have a talk with him and try to come up with alternatives and solutions to your problem but realize that some things may not be in his control.
My husband and I talk all day long. He drives a truck and I have a online business. We have been marries 33 years
Hes working all these hours to provide for his family and he should be applauded hes putting his family 1st as all men should
This really is insensitive for women who actually are single. No, you have a partner. Someone to share the bills and life with. He comes home and you have someone to help you make decisions and pay for your home groceries and stuff for your family. Single parents have none of this and you’re insensitive for saying just because your husband works all day without being able to respond to your needs while working. I am a RN and work full time and am actually single. Even if I did have a partner I have no time during a 12 hour shift to respond to messages as I am caring for people who are ill and I can’t be distracted. You sound needy and you sound like you need to step it up- your husband is working all day and you need to learn to appreciate it and communicate reasonable needs in a kind way instead of being insensitive.
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when my wife worked for the railroad, yes, she couldn’t have her phone on while on the train-unless stopped & not moving at all. then she got off & only had 10 hours to eat/shower/potty/sleep & then was right back on again. it was tough, for sure.
Pick him up and have lunch with him or bring him lunch or snacks.
My husband works 13 hrs and drives an hr to work andan hr back. It depends on how busy his work day is and if his boss is around if I hear from him. It’s been like this most of our marriage (17 years) doesn’t bother me. I’ve been a stay at home mom most of our marriage. We only raised 3 kids but our youngest had lots of health issues. I tried to work but lost my job due to him always being sick. You do have a hard job too. Try to find time for each other. Sorry others are so mean.no one knows what you are going through but you. Good luck hun!
Yes, my husband is gone from 430am to 1045 pm 5 days a week if not more. Because of nature of his job (that I used to do as well ) there is no technology allowed. I understand it but it is so lonely and I feel single most of time too. I have no support and am so exhausted 24/7 with all the kids. My youngest just turned 2 and I have 8 children total all the way up to 21.
Maybe he just doesn’t know what to talk to you about. My fella rings me any chance he gets to just chat about anything n everything lol he rings me when he’s finished work too before he leaves. I’m not saying he doesn’t know what to talk about to have a bash at you both, maybe he genuinely doesn’t like talking on the phone. Or he could be worried it will only be complaints about the kids/home.
Mine would text quick on break usually, I do the same . A break is a break . We can’t have our phones on us at work I usually eat something quick and send a quick text and watch a video and go back . We both get 30 min breaks or 15 .
Never got calls from work and he doesn’t text. He’s at work. He never called me when I was at work either.
Ya my husband never texts me when he’s working but I have learned to deal. I put the shoes on the other feet and if I’m doing what he’s doing I’m not texting either. I’d rather him be busy working than busy cheating
Try to have date night once a week. Even if it’s sitting alone on the porch… no kids. Keep connected and talk… when the kids are gone, you need to really still know each other…
I work a 12 hour shift and am not allowed to use my phone for the most part. I can maybe get it if I use the bathroom, but even then I can’t always.
He’s at work, what is he supposed to be updating you about? I mean i guess every relationship is different but we’ve never bothered each other at work unless it was something important/an emergency or maybe at lunch and had something funny happen but even then that’s not very often. And I’ve never expected or even wanted more than that. It would be annoying to me if someone was constantly messaging me, expecting a response when I’m trying to focus at work so i don’t expect that from him either. I know it’s hard being home with the kids all day, especially if he’s working that long of hours but that’s just an unfortunate part of being a SAHM. You have to find activities or something to get out of the house with the kids or something but that’s just the phase of life yall are in. It would be different if he was working less hours and then still like going out with friends or something and not updating you but he’s literally at work that whole time so i personally think you need to check your expectations and give him some grace with working those long hours.
If he really wanted to call, trust and believe he would make time. People make time for what they really want. No excuses.
You are seriously complaining about your husband working. Grow up him working is him supporting his family if your doing your part you would be to busy for his text or time to check in. Step back and realize it’s probably hormones and feeling anxious about your upcoming arrival that is making you feel this way.
maybe stop having babies with someone that doesn’t help you
…updates…? Really…I’m at work…I could get in trouble for being on my phone. What update does she need? “Hey hun taking a shit. Day is shit. Can’t wait to come home and deal with more shit…” Really?..
It’s opposite for me I work 7-5 wake up at 4:30 ( job a hour away) get home at 7 it’s a van with full of other coworkers at time we stop at the store for gas but my 15 min break I send a message my 30 lunch I call o text
I’d say sit and talk to him about these feelings my husband works 10-11 hour days 5-6 days a week and without fail every single day he calls me on lunch to talk see how we are ramble about work ext we have 3 his baby’s youngest 6 months and I have 2 older that live with there dad but I still see them often idk I get you I think if my husband didn’t have that one phone call a day I would lose my mind it’s our way of being able to talk communicate complain etc and he does text me from time to time when he gets a chance