Has anyone ever found out they have an incompetent cervix? I recently found out, and I’ve lost two baby girls. It’s killing me, and I’m not sure if I want to try to have another baby. How did you cope with finding out, and if you lost any babies, how did you get your mental health better?
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My old boss did and she had to have her cervix sewn closed
OP can message me if want to talk - I have incompetent cervix that led to the loss of my son at 22 weeks 2 days. I now have a beautiful daughter after weekly shots and a cerclage (cervix sewn closed). There are options 
hugs! So so sorry for your losses.
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Op can also message me. I have an incompetent cervix, was able to carry my son to 32 weeks due to a cerclage, and I was able to carry my twins to 29 weeks thanks to shots and a cerclage. Im so sorry for your loss, please now there are options and it is possible to have babies with an incompetent cervix.
OP you can message me if you would like. My first was a normal term pregnancy. I got pregnant again and had a missed miscarriage. A few months later I got pregnant again. It was a normal pregnancy and at my anatomy scan I was 1cm dilated. I had to have an emergent cerclage the next day at 19w2d and lost our son at 22w3d. I researched and got an open TAC. I am so happy I did. I now have my rainbow that will be 3 months on Tuesday. There are so many support groups on Facebook.
I am so sorry for your losses. Having IC is not easy mentally and physically. Please reach out if you have any questions. Good luck!
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All I can advise you to do is to abstain the moment you know that you are pregnant until birth.Look after yourself and the baby inside you.Only do very light chores.Pray,always!
I lost a baby boy to incompetent cervix. Have had two successful births after him. Talk with your ob about a cervical cerclage.
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I do and my Dr put in a pessary, and I had vaginal suppositories to help thicken me in there. I gave birth at 29 weeks so she stayed in longer than she would have without. She will be 8 tomorrow. They originally asked if I’d want a cervical stitch but also gave me a 50/50 chance of losing her when they did it. I passed and asked for pessary, higher chance of keeping her. I was also admitted into the hospital and had to stay in bed laying down, only up to go potty, shower, and sit up slightly to eat. Also, abstain from intercourse! I never lost a baby because of that but I’ve lost a baby because of Rh-.
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First time I was pregnant I noticed spotting and went to my doctor. She diagnosed it an incompetent cervix and she put in sutures the next morning. She removed them at 36 weeks and I carried to 40 weeks.
With my second I didn’t have a problem.
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Please seek help from perinatologist for pregnancy care . Lost two sons at 24 and 26 weeks due to weak cervix . You will need cervical cerclage at 12~14 weeks and possible bed rest until 32 weeks . As for mental health , seek counseling - it’s a white knuckled pregnancy and support is beneficial. Best wishes for healthy delivery … think positive and slow down life . Focus on yourself and your unborn baby .
I had 3 losses (23, 17, 24 weeks) because of incompetent cervix. However, I had a wonderful doctor who watched me very closely with my 4th pregnancy. I got my cervical cerclage at 14 weeks. Progesterone shots started then. I was put on modified bed rest at 18 weeks. Weekly cervical ultrasounds which ended up being twice a week starting around 20 weeks along with NST twice a week. I had to use vaginal progesterone suppositories as well…I had a hard pregnancy. In an out of the hospital every few days because I was contracting and my cervix was funneling. I started contracting at about 16 weeks. We planned for a 36 week c section and when she went to cut my cerclage I was already like 5 cm dilated. I ended up having to be put on vistaril and Zoloft around 30-32 weeks.
I had a few years between my pregnancies.
This group is for women with incompetent cervix! They can answer any questions you may have and it is a great support group.
I lost my first baby at 20 weeks to having an incompetent cervix. I then had my daughter at 25 weeks. She was a micropreemie but she was a fighter! Just turned 7. When you get pregnant its important to get a cerclage as soon as possible and may also need progesterone weekly.
I had two boys still born at 26 and 32 weeks from it I stayed on bed rest the whole time. One successful pregnancy after with a cerclage. Am pregnant now with another cerclage and weekly injections
I lost my daughter and has had 1 emergency cerclage and 3 preventative cerclages. 4 sweet babies and only the emergency cerclage failed. Pregnancy isn’t easy but so worth it.
I lost my first pregnancy at 21 weeks and had to have a cerclage done with my future pregnancies. I had it done 4 times and although my babies were still premature they are all alive and healthy!
I had that and my doctor did a cervical cerclage. Have a healthy son because of it.
I lost 2 prior to having my son! He will be 10 months tomorrow!! Don’t give up hope but also don’t try so hard! I tried and tried and tried to no avail but the moment I stopped trying I got pregnant. I don’t have an incompetent cervix though. Good luck to you!
No advice but prayers for u and the family on the loss and Hope’s u get ur rainbow baby when time is right.
I had 3 losses at 16, 19 & 22 weeks. I had to have a cerclage put in between 14-16 weeks to help keep my babies to full term and i now have 4 beautiful babies. Definitely see a high risk doctor and discuss about getting a cerclage put in to help with your incompetent cervix
I had a preemie born at 32 weeks in 2011 before I gave birth I was on bed rest and then I was admitted into the hospital for 6 weeks.
I found out I was pregnant in 2019, I was terrified of having another preemie. My cervix was monitored weekly, I started progesterone injections at 16 weeks, at 23 weeks I got a cerclage. When the doctor took out the cerclage at 36 weeks I was 3cm dilated. I carried him til 36+5.
I am currently pregnant again. 25 weeks. I am receiving progesterone injections and I had the cerclage placed at 20 weeks. The stitch went through my cervix and I had to have emergency surgery to have another placed. So far everything is going well.
I would definitely suggest seeing a high risk ob. I actually see 2 different obs, I see a high risk and I see my normal ob.
This is currently my 4th pregnancy,y husband would like one more but I have put my foot down and said no more. I physically can not take another pregnancy.
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With my eldest son I had a cyst they were monitoring and found out I had an incompetent cervix. At 23 weeks I needed an emergency cerclage. I had like a centimeter of cervix left. I was put on pelvic and bed rest until I delivered. Hes a healthy 8.5 year old. So when I got pregnant again 5.5 years later, I had a cerclage put in at 14 weeks. I was put on pelvic rest for the duration of my pregnancy but otherwise had no limitations. Stitches were removed at 36 weeks.
Its good you know now, definitely discuss with your OB about cerclages, there are different kinds too. The cerclages saved my pregnancies for sure and they made delivering my babies much easier to be honest.
Keeping you in my thoughts 
its tough because we all want a picture perfect pregnancy with no issues and it’s so scary finding out your body is struggling to do this but there is hope
I found out after I lost my first daughter that I had an incompetent cervix and my other pregnancies I had to have cervical cerclages placed. My second daughter I needed four stitches placed and my cervix still was opening and my water broke at 25 weeks and I had her at 29 weeks. My last two were allot better.
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Yeah I had to have my cervix shaved due to abnormal cells that were precancerous so they said they can stitch it closed so I don’t have a late term miscarriage. So I would ask the doctor to stitch it closed.
I had a cerclage for two of my pregnancies. Sewed that cervix right up! Lol
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Talk with your doctor…they Can sew a stitch around the weakened cervix, to make it stronger. The reinforcement may help your pregnancy last longer, usually perform a cerclage at 12 to 14 weeks of pregnancy
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The doctor refused to do a cerclage for any of my pregnancies. I was on total bed rest from 18 weeks to 38 weeks for the first and 20-36 for the other. I also had to have progesterone supplements for the entire pregnancy. I have had 5 miscarriages and have one adopted daughter and 2 bio daughters. With my oldest bio daughter I have an ultrasound pic of her foot sticking out of my cervix at 22 weeks. Bed rest is HARD but worth it. I also had steroid shots twice a week for the last 4-6 weeks of pregnancy with both.
I had an abdominal cerclage (its permanent just have to have c section) after losing 2 baby girls at 22 weeks and 23 weeks a year apart. I was 18 weeks pregnant when I had my cerclage placed. Had two girls back to back then 12 years later I had another girl with my 2nd husband. cerclage did the job after 12 years of no pregnancies. Find a doctor that will listen and help you.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Anyone else have an incompetent cervix: How do you cope?
I lost a baby back in 2017 due to an ectopic pregnancy. You honestly never get over the feeling of something missing, you just learn to live with it. It honestly does become easier, my fiancé and I now let off balloons on the anniversary of the loss. Just know, no matter what, you baby is always with you. I spoke with a woman who is able to speak with spirits. I never told her I lost a baby, I didn’t even know the gender. I started speaking with her to see if she was able to communicate with my great grandpa but this one spirit kept barging in showing her images of me crying, holding my hospital bracelet and a baby hat that I got from the hospital when I lost my baby. This spirit told the psychic that she was my daughter I lost in 2017 and that she wanted to tell me it wasn’t my fault. That she loved me and is always watching. I cried. So just know, your baby is always with you.
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My sister has had 2 successful pregnancies with incompetent cervix. Once she found out she was pregnant she immediately got the cerglage. Best of wishes momma
Yes, I did and they did a stitch to close it when I was pregnant after having a stillborn, I was awake while they did the procedure and some discomfort throughout that day, it was done outpatient. I had two more babies after and the stitch caused some scar tissue and my cervix to harden so I did not need a stitch in either pregnancy with them. But you will be on bed rest for the majority of the pregnancies in future
I had 1 son and lost my 2nd son. I didn’t leave my house for months. I was a wreck. The only thing that got me to leave was when my husband started making arrangements to move us closer to family. There are a lot of groups on fb for child loss. You may want to look into it. Losing a child isn’t talked about enough. Everyone thinks "oh it’ll never happen to means then when it does you’re just crushed. There are resources out there though. You are not alone. I have no advice on trying again. That’s a personal decision. I ended up with a surprise pregnancy after I lost my 2nd son and my 3rd son will be 4 in July.
My mom had this issue before I was born. She lost my brother. But once she was pregnant with me she said they put in a stitch to help support me. With my youngest brother they didn’t do anything. She didn’t even know she was pregnant
The getting over the loss is terrible. I know somebody that’s gone through it a couple of times but went on to have two healthy babies. She had to get her cervix stitched closed.
I and several people I know with IC have had successful pregnancies with cerclages. If you know you want to try again speak to your doctor because there is an option before you get pregnant that is no risk to future pregnancies. Getting a cerclage while pregnant does have some risks but is very successful done early. PM if you would like to
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I see some people saying it but research and ask about a cervical cerclage! Could make a world of a difference
I got a cerclage and had a successful pregnancy
I was also diagnosed with incompetence cervix , I lost my first pregnancy at 16 weeks in 2018 and now 2020 I’m preggies with twins, being pregnant with twins as it’s high risk pregnancy my Dr put a cervix stitch at 16 weeks and I am also using progesterone pessaries 200g twice a day since 24 weeks I’m currently 32 weeks and planned a C section at 36 weeks, can’t wait to meet my little ones