Anyone else get upset at their S/O when you plan something out as a family and all they do is complain and make it almost unbearable to be around them? All I wanted to do was go get matching pjs for our Christmas photos this evening and he is literally zero help and just makes things so much more stressful vs if it was just the kids and I.
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Has he worked all day? Does he get a lot of days off or not? I guess l would be ok with just getting the pjs myself as long as he was in the picture. Pick your battles
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The question should be… “Should I live with this type of behavior from a grown man or not?”. He shouldn’t be acting like a child when doing stuff with his family. There is NO reason for him to do that. Doesn’t matter if he worked all day or not. Family comes first, always. Us moms are always expected to be on our toes with the family and so should the man. Psh. My ex-husband was like that and he never wanted to do anything family oriented. My man now, wants to do everything and anything as a family. Never settle for less.
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Is this a one off thing or does this happen all the time with all family things you try to plan?
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Sorry, but not something I need him to help with! Lol…
Been married 25 years….and 6 kids later….
and it would just be a pain in my butt if he was shopping with me! lol
I Purchase them, and he wears them with a smile, bc he didn’t have to go shopping! LOL! 
Is he an introvert and hates being out with lots of people? Does he hate shopping in person or hate shopping in general? Does he enjoy doing family stuff when you’re at home (say, board games or making pizza, working on LEGO or erector sets or puzzles with the kids)? Do you do uncomfortable stuff to make him happy? For example, listening to a lecture on a topic he finds fascinating but you don’t.
Maybe doing family things when and where there’s not a lot of people would suit him better—family hikes or bike rides, going to a historic site, going out for dinner or ice cream at an uncrowded place.
Research introversion and see if it fits. I’ll bet you’re an extrovert. Being with people energizes you but exhausts him. Being alone and quiet recharges him but drains & bores you. Learn to appreciate and work with each other’s differences.
It’s not every man who would consent to pix in pjs, so count your blessings.
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Yes so I don’t plan it with him
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If all you were gonna do was go buy matching pjs, you could have easily left him home with the kids. It’s not like he was gonna choose them anyway.
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We made a deal I would not make him do things like pumpkins patches amusement parks or anything like that but he had to do 2 things per year with me and kids without complaining and he could do whatever he wanted while me and kids had fun. He was having we were happy and at Christmas and Easter is when I made him participate usually matching outfits and pictures and farm visits, it worked great for us. ( me and kids even went on separate vacations and then him and I go on vacay alone.
Typically men don’t like to go pajama shopping. Just pick some
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My husband is not a shopper, neither is my son or my brother or dad. I would rather take toddlers shopping vs men in my family 
I would’ve just shopped online for PJ’S. No need for everyone to go out for that.