HELPPP My 1 1/2 year old has been throwing really bad fits lately especially when told no (normal I know) but if I tell him no to something he starts to hit and or if I catch him in “the act” of something he like tries his fastest to claw or hit or anything as long as he can touch (example: if I tell him NO when he’s reaching for remotes on a table, he turns looms at me and starts clawing/ waving his hands faster just so he can get his hands on it) BUT IT’S AGGRESIVE!!! how do I stop this??? I’ve done timeout he doesn’t seem to understand timeout as much idk maybe I’m doing it wrong… ive told him stop sternly he cries and throws himself on the floor.
please any advice would help!!! I don’t want to raise a bully just trying my best 
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Welcome to the terrible twos my fellow mom
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Going through the same thing. I can’t even enjoy a trip to the grocery store without him flipping out before the trip is over.
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Hes 1 1/2… They dont really understand much…
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Mine is 11 months old and also uses his teeth. My 12 year old, as a toddler, was the kind of kid that made you want more kids, gave you a false reality. My baby is the devil. I have no advice.
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Legally restrain him by holding arms by his side if he kicks wrap your legs around his ankles. Learnt this on a course at school. Never wrap his arms across his chest as this restricts breathing. No force needed either just a comfortable grip until he calms down
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When you tell him no and he throws himself on the floor walk away. He may only be 1 and a half but he knows what hes doing and he does understand a good bit. People dont give kids enough credit.
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Just got to keep trying different things and find what he responds best to. Sometimes it is raising your voice to be stern, give em “the look”, remove them from the situation, bear hug. All kids are different and what works for one doesn’t necessarily for the other.
Have you tried saying, that’s not yours. Or redirecting to something he can have. Like you cant have our remote but here is your toy remote you CAN HAVE. I found with my kids and some reading I’ve done they get frustrated with all the No. No no. Every time they hear a NO
. And dont know what they CAN HAVE, (and that’s consisntancy). So their only form of communication is an outburst of frustration.
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Be calm, consistent, and model the behaviour you want to see. They don’t have control over their big emotions yet. Remember they aren’t giving you a hard time. They are having a hard time. Give them space to calm down, and emotional support when they’re ready. They will grow beyond these tantrums soon. 
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My little one is 20 months old and is doing the same thing, when he throws his fits I just completely ignore it… he eventually forgets why he’s mad and goes about his day. Obviously when he’s older and understands more things will be different. Just know you aren’t alone!
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They are tiny humans learning to express their emotions the only way they know how. It’s our jobs as the grown up to help them learn to express them in an acceptable manner, not scold them for feeling that way. We all feel things, tiny humans have to be directed in the correct way to express these feelings. Took a few times with my daughter but she eventually caught on.
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My son is nearly 2. When he becomes angry he will automatically run to the garbage can, whever he is in our 3 level house, and knock it over. Every single time. Just a reaction. They will all straighten out eventually unless there is something more serious going on.
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Act like him throw a fit.Maybe when he sees how dumb that looks might get him to realize how dumb and annoying he looks.
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When my daughter does this I grab her by the hands real firmly, look her in the eyes and I tell her “We don’t hit anyone” then I let her just cry it all out and I ignore her. Once she’s all done crying, I comfort her. I don’t comfort her during her tantrums. Only after she is done.
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Stay consistent with timeouts. It is hard. It make take 20 minutes for him to sit there a full minute, but keep at it. If all else fails, smack his hand hard enough for him to understand you aren’t kidding. (Don’t beat the crap outta the poor kid, he is still young.)
I would love to tell you it gets easier from here, buttttt…it doesn’t.
Lucky for me, my oldest is SUPER easy to punish. He is a big people pleaser, so he breaks down and cries if he even thinks he will be in trouble with his mama.
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Look into Love and Logic. It’s a whole behavioral system. My son responded very well to it from a very young age.
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My son used to be aggressive. We would hold him from behind in a bear hug and talk him down calmly. We would have take deep breaths until he was calm. It worked well and we were less likely to get hurt soothing him this way.
Oh just wait till 2 and three it’s amazing 
best of luck mom stay calm and keep telling him no its bad to do that and put on time out
At this age I try not to overuse “no.” It’s so hard though. I distract their attention away from what they’re getting into as much as possible. Also firmly hold those little hands & arms away from the remote when you reach him. Tell him it’s mommy’s & put it out of reach.
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My son who will be 2 in July does the same thing. If I tell him no, take something away etc he goes and throws something or hits something. It’s par for the course I feel with boys but depending on how aggressive he’s being he gets a tap on the hand or a time out until he can play nice again
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Let him throw the fits. Or bust his little butt. He is testing what bottons he can push and seeing haw far he can get away with
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Put him in his crib and leave him there. It’s a attention thing. My nephew used to do that all the time until his momma decided to put him in the crib
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Smack his little hand but b4 that try tight hug while in a chair, sounds weird I know but it helps in kids and adults who are in the spectrum I know yours isn’t on the spectrum but the same principle applies for little little kids
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Lol my daughter is two so a lot of Tantrums and Whining and crying is what I deal with everyday lol I just let her be 
My two-and-a-half-year-old let’s say if I tell him know about the refrigerator he’ll run out as fast as you can rip it open try to shove the door against the wall grab everything in the fridge and throw it now this is what he does when he tell him no it’s stressful he’s being diagnosed right now to see if he has any disabilities because he has a lot of symptoms right now they’re thinking at sensory processing disorder but I totally hear you it’s very stressful
I think it’s pretty normal for this age. My 17 month old gets like all of that but she’s also a biter. As they get older they’ll understand and learn the appropriate way to act. For now just keep praising good behavior and telling him no for bad behavior.
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Breathe mama. It will get better. Just stay strong and keep saying No firmly…
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When my lil guy was younger and was upset I would ignore and pick him up for a hug. They want to be in control and haven’t learned self regulation at that age. They need to know you are there to comfort them when they don’t know how to control their emotions.
word of advise…if u stay firm in all your rules & find a fitting punishment (no empty threats either, kids comprehend that too)…he’ll listen a whole lot better when he’s older 
my grandmother always said…put your foot down when they’re young & they’ll listen & love you more…when they’re older 
Ignore his fits when he throws them. And when he’s aggressive say I won’t let xyz (hit scratch bite etc) and put him in time out for 1 minute per year of age or until he calms down. Tell him when he calms down you can talk to him give him a hug etc but then cut off communication until he’s calmer. Be consistent it won’t happen over night but this is what we follow.
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Offer him something else. Make a big deal of it. Say it’s a toy, cuddle and play with it. If you have fun with his toy, chances are he will too.
Give him an “angry pillow” to punch, kick, and bite until he has words to tell you why he’s so upset. I’m sure he feels out of control so find something he can have control over. Plus boys need lots of exercise, outdoors if possible. That helps dissipate anger & lets them get control over their bodies.
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Download the Nathan Wallis app. There is a 3 minute video on tantrums that explains it so well 
. The app is $10 but has lots of videos on baby brain development that are so on point.
Time out doesn’t work until like age 2
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Be firm and calm, all babies learn what they can have or not by learning the word NO. If he throws a fit, remove him to his bed or playpen. He can learn to self soothe, as well as learn what he can have or not. No also means get up and move the object and not just sit and argue with him. Also you can replace the object with a toy he likes, as a swap out for what he can’t have. If you want him to do something and he says no to you, you get up and gently pick him up and assist him to do it. That’s yes. Taking him out if the situation is no. No arguing, no raising voice, no bartering, just calmly get up and do it. You are the parent, you are in charge, you need to show him. If you are always calm and hes throwing a tantrum, then on the occasion you do raise your voice, he will definitely know you mean business because he’s been shown what no and yes mean because you’ve gotten up and shown it. They need to learn these from you.
Do not in anyway shape or form spank your BABY there is no reason for it especially at that age they don’t understand why you’re hurting them, they also don’t understand that they are hurting you when they’re having those episodes they’re just getting out their frustrations. Stay consistent with time out, or try redirection, or gentle restraining or all of them if you have too. Spanking won’t teach them how to process their emotions, take it from me I was spanked from a young age for stupid things like this and I cannot process my emotions because of it, my son’s dad spanks him and it makes my child 1000x worse and you don’t want that.
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Get him a kid chair and put it and him in the corner, keep putting him back in the chair every time he get out of it. Even if takes hours. In the end he will get the idea, you mean business. Don’t give in. They know you may give in. But don’t. You will be so happy you showed him who’s the mother and who’s the child. Just keep it up. Over time he will know you are the grown up. Stay with it every time he’s naughty. Make sure the chair is screwed to the floor. He will see you mean it. Good luck mom. From a mom who’s been there. Just stay with it. Dan’t let your husband give in either. You both be the parent. Not the patsey
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A swat on the hand or butt will help. He obviously isn’t taking to your time out attempts and he clearly couldn’t care less if you say no. So, a little swat on his hand or butt when he goes to grab something you’ve told him not to will help.
That’s what I would do, but it would be my last option.
And I don’t really care about anyone’s negative opinion on it. I don’t care if you don’t agree/like spanking. I’m not asking for opinions on it.
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