At what age is it not okay for siblings of opposite sex to bathe together?

My kids want to play in the tub together and they are both young. My tub stays full of toys and the water is always high enough to cover their privates. I wash my daughter which is the youngest and her brother washes after I take his sister out of the bathroom.
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. At what age is it not okay for siblings of opposite sex to bathe together?

swimsuits problem solved

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I’d just throw them in with swim suits on :woman_shrugging: it’s likely if they want to play in the tub they are still relatively young.

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I don’t know I bathe my 2 and 4 year old together . There hasn’t ever been an instance where they were curious about anything yet

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When they’re old enough to ask questions and be curious.

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Mine are 5 and 2 and bathe together 🤷 when they start asking questions is when it’ll stop

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I don’t think they see gender at the moment… They see their sister or brother taking a bath with them playing in a tub. I don’t see any harm. Once they question body parts than maybe. Until then let them babies play in the tub

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5 and 3 still like the bathe together haven’t had any issues

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My son is 5 and my daughter is almost 2 and I bathe them together. Swimsuits seem like extra laundry and more work to get them clean, I plan to stop once one of them seems curious, but neither does so far they just enjoy the water, toys and bubbles :slight_smile:

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I was still bathing with my brothers (3x younger) when I was 7. If you sexualise it, it will become a problem. If they say they don’t want to anymore and want to have their own bath then let them :blush:

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I think we stopped about age 3 for the oldest.

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I personally would separate them now. They need to learn.

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Growing up all of us kids were in the same tub, 3-4 of us lol! I think once we were around the age of 5 we were separated

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For sure by the time one enters kindergarten but pre-k likely these days. Would you let them play in the pool naked together?

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My son was about 5 when he screamed that his little sister didn’t have a pp that’s when we stopped :joy:

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My 3 year old hops in the shower with his 12 and 14 and 19 year old sisters well actually anyone so if u shower at my house lock the door

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My girls are 6 and 4 and still shower together… I don’t see the problem with it… they dont ask questions and understand body parts…

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I’d say whoever hits 4-5 years old first, depending on how fast they pick up on different body parts, doesn’t go in with the other child(ren). When my older ones got around 6 yrs old and my little one still wanted to bathe with their siblings, I would let them wear bathing suits in the tub, then when it was time to wash the younger one, the older one would get out. When the younger one was done, the older one would go in and I’d help them as needed.

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My b/g twins are 6 and are just now starting to become separate. They’ve always been together so it never was a big deal. But I feel like we are now hitting an age where it should stop, but they don’t care either way.

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I would bathe them separately from the age of 2.5…

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When they start asking why their sibling has different “parts” than them. I used to put my youngest son in the shower with me. Until he turned 3 & asked me where MY weewee (his word for penis) was… :unamused:

I would never bathe someone in another persons dirty bath water so I cant answer this question. I believe in seperate baths.

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I personally stopped early but only due to my own childhood trauma. Most of my friends stop once they start to get curious on what there private parts are

My 8yo daughter and 5yo son still bath/shower together 🤷🏻‍♀ naked bodies is nothing unnatural So we don’t make a big deal about it 🤷🏻‍♀

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When they become uncomfortable with it :woman_shrugging:t3:

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We bathed together and peed in the water till we were 8 9 and 10 all girls if that matters

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Imo- bathe separate( No one wants to wash in someone else’s bath water). If they want to play in the tub together put them in their swim suits and let them

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If you sexualize it then you are the problem. They won’t see issue until you make it an issue. My oldest two bathed together until my oldest was 8 and wanted to take showers alone. At the moment my biggest issue is trying to get my youngest to be just as independent. He’s never bathed with a sibling so I think he feels like bath time is a spa treatment.

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My 6 yr girl and 3 yr boy bathe together. They know the different body parts so no questions are asked and they aren’t uncomfortable or awkward about it…

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I have opposite sex Irish Twins. They bathed together up until they learned bath time was for cleaning one’s self and not for playing. At which point their own modesty kicked in and they, on their own, preferred to bathe alone. I think they were like 4&5. They’re now 13&14 with a 2yr old sister. And I would have absolutely no problem “throwing” her in the shower with them if I needed to. They’re siblings, they understand the family dynamic!

I personally think it’s gross to bathe in someone else’s bath water :face_vomiting:

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Until they themselves say other wise…Stop making children think nudity is NASTY.

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My 10 and 7 year old still shower together. Heck they still shower with me. They aren’t uncomfortable neither am I. I don’t make a big deal about it because it isn’t unless you make it

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Start making it fun and have them wear bathing suits! Chalk party glow sticks!

I only have boys but I tell my 5 year old that I need privacy while I shower, dine that since he was 4 :blush:

When one of the kids starts being uncomfortable. I don’t think you can really put an age on it. Just as soon as one starts to want to cover up or hide their body from the other.

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Why are we sexualizing children?
Gross.
When they are uncomfortable then they will let you know.

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If they just want to play and your worried, put their swimming suits on…
If you see nothing wrong then go with your gut, but if you have family there that have issues with it just put them in swimming suits to avoid conflict.

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I’m one of 9 siblings and my mom put me and my younger sister and brother in the tub together.We slept in the same bed until I was 8 or 9 and my sister and I slept and even showered together until we left home.My children, a boy and girl, shared a room and a tub for a while and nobody made an issue of it. There was nothing dirty, sexual or unhealthy about it.

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After 2years old, they shouldn’t bath together

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For us personally, I never bathed them together but it’s not necessarily because they’re separate genders. I wouldn’t bathe them together if they were the same gender simply because I feel with baths they’re just bathing in each other’s funk and dirt :joy: BUT i feel it depends on them and whether or not they’re comfortable with it. If they are still fine, go for it!

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Honestly I’ve never bathed my kids together even though they’re the same sex. We used to bathe together when hot water wasn’t as easily available. If you can afford to wash them separately just do, it’s kinda gross sharing a bath with someone else. It’s not the 50s.

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Leave undies on them :woman_shrugging:t2:

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When they start asking questions. When they point and notice something is different. :joy:. Put them in bathing suits. They can still get clean.

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Untill they say otherwise . My oldest is 9 nearly 10 and for awhile now hasn’t bathed or showered with his brother who is nearly 8 or have his little sister’s in the bathroom. But my 8 year old boy doesn’t care atm if his sister’s are in there. I don’t make a big deal about nudity and let them decide what they’re comfortable with.

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I stopped when my son was 5 and his sister was 2 1/2

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Don’t sexualise kids. Let them decide when they are not comfortable also watch for warning signs and just let them be kids. They will get to an age where they don’t want too.

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My first 2 kids (girl and boy) did til they were 3-4 years old and my last 2 kids (both boys) they stopped around age 5 once in a while if they need a quick shower and we are in hurry they shower together very quick I am very good supervising them

when they want to stop :woman_shrugging:

I don’t understand why this is such an issue, a naked body is normal, can we stop sexualising it from such a young age?! let them decide when they want to stop and enjoy a bath to themselves, but at the minute be appreciative that you’re saving water :joy:

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They should stop bathing together naked when they are able to say and describe what they are seeing. Otherwise just let them play in the tub together with bathing suits.

As a mom of twins (boy and girl) I had to stop when they verbalized they were peeing in the tub. :rofl: I should have realized that was happening much earlier but it’s bad enough to have to deal with one kid peeing in the tub, nevermind two. :woman_facepalming::rofl:

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Well to be honest I have a 5 year old boy and a 3 year old girl and they have shared a bath since my second baby was a newborn but I did stop giving them a bath together but they both go to the toilet together and they run around naked in front of each other and yes I have told them what each private parts are to them then they know what it is because my 5 year old is in school and will get to know anyway and yes my girl knows both parts and why they look different

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I don’t see it being an age more so whether the children are comfortable. As long as they’re comfortable, sure. When one isn’t, it stops.

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Whenever anyone is uncomfortable. I would expect the oldest child to ask for privacy or independent bathing around age 6 or 7.

Jessica Taankink Nan bathing us all in 1 tub lol.

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never, lil boys pee in the water, lil girls can get a rip roaring bladder infection from this.

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My kids are very comfortable with their bodies and still bathe together. They’re 3 and 4. My daughter (4) still takes baths with my oldest daughter who is 9.

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Just pout shirts on them

Sounds like it’s time to stop since your son can bathe himself alone while you get your daughter dressed😬 I personally wouldn’t have had them bathe together from the get go

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They have time I would stop around 9 probably they don’t know any better

Maybe b4 they go intermediate… or if u see them changing maturity…

Until they ask not too

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We stopped when my son was about 5/6 and my daughter was 2/3.

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U can put on there swimsuits

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I took my oldest out of sibling baths around 7/8 years old.

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I think my younger brother and I occasionally bathed together until I was 7-8 years old.
BUT our parents always made us wear our bathing suits when we bathed together.

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When they show modesty and don’t want to bathe together :woman_shrugging:

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my kids are 5 and 2 and still bathe together. nobody asks questions. they sit and play together :woman_shrugging:t2:

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My son (7) would still play in the tub with his sister if I let him but he has autism so… his sister who is 11 will sometimes go in and sit outside the bath clothed and play with him when he has trunks on just to appease him but yea I mean realistically if you throw bathing suits on em they can bathe together for a long time!! Used to make school nights so much nicer when he was in pre k and kindergarten cause it was a 2 birds 1 stone cause they both kinda needed help in some way!

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I dont have an age answer for ya, but if you start thinking they are getting too old, have them wear underwear while playing in the tub.

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U as the mother should know Ur own children and know when to stop lol

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My 2 and 3 year old (soon to be 3 and 4) still bathe together. They just play with toys and splash.

My kids take a bath together. They are 3 and 1. I would probably say around 5 or 6. I never really thought about it.

5 I think is the limit

When they express that their uncomfortable or would like some privacy during their shower times. My 6 year old loves playing in the bath with her 1 1/2 year old brother and I see nothing but sweet fun. It’s a big tub and they love to play with her mermaids. Communication with them both is key.

Both of my kids still shower with me too. My daughter is starting to complain about me hogging the water lol but on days where we all need a shower or bath in the morning, they hop in towards the end of mine. I’ll get them cleaned up and move them to the jetted tub to play while I get ready.

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Mine are 4,7&9 all boys and the older two were 7 when they stopped sharing, and it was mainly because of space tbh. my middle only recently stopped sharing with the youngest

I said ur the mother and when ur thinking should I stop bathing them together that’s ur mother bit kicking in saying it’s time to stop but just because u can wash his self I wouldn’t leave him on his own cos kids get over excited and can easy fall xxx I hate water xxx I know with my girls both girls only 11 months between them I just said do u want all the bath today and all the toys and ur sister can have it after she loved the idea cos she felt big and grown up xxxxx everyone puts a age on everything and each child is different xxxx

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You dont give ages of your kids but honestly dont see a problem if they’re still young…as long as you’re ready to answer any questions that arise if they haven’t seen each other naked before
When they get uncomfortable its time to stop

When they can’t fit lol nah I think its a maturity VS age thing

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I personally think it doesnt matter i mean they are brother/sister, if they or you are worried or uncomfortable, or they just want to play in the bath together and if they start to get curious about eachother private areas then could use underwear or swimwear… At the end of the day its totally up to you as the parent/s and children

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When they feel uncomfortable about it or don’t want too

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Heck. I don’t know. My kids didn’t bathe together. If you’re starting to wonder , maybe that’s the time

If they are ok with it don’t make it weird. Their minds are innocent not sexualized like adults.

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I personally have been trying to not let them play together in the bath simply because my daughter has acknowledged boys have different body parts than her and she’s almost to curious about it. She’s only 3 so it makes sense she’s curious. We just tell her “boys have different body parts, it’s normal babe” if she doesn’t stop looking and tries to get to close we try to redirect by saying “ewww, boys have cooties, boys are yucky” you know, the regular stuff from when we were kids, once she can grasp it and isn’t so curious it’ll be easier for them to bathe together. Just depends all on the kid and all on how curious they are about it you know. Also, if one kid feels uncomfortable getting nakey around the other than I try to encourage them to start showering like big kids, gives them a sense of pride to shower like a big kid you know. Xoxo mama

If you don’t want them seeing each other naked, you can put them both in swim diapers or bathing suits, to play in the tub together

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My 8 year old baths with his nearly 3 year old brother. I don’t see a problem bathing them together in fact it makes it more easier for time.
I’ve bathed and showered with my nearly 3 year old and so has my fiance.

Why would anyone want to sexulise siblings bathing together. I mean I don’t see no difference if a sister has the blessing of watching her sister give birth or a sister in law getting that blessing. Naked bodies are natural.

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I would never bathe opposite sex together. But that’s just me. My mom did w my sister and brother n I always thought it was weird.

Do the these posts get screened to make sure there are no creeps asking these questions? As a mum and I’m sure other mums wouldn’t make an issue of this. This is a red flag for me along with other posts on this page.

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Put their swim suits on.

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So my girl is 3 and is the only girl once the boys hit 5 they aren’t to bath with her anymore

You are the parent you make the decision no one is going to have the same answer

If they like to play in the tub together let them with swimsuits on. Then bath the younger. The older one depending on age can shower once the tub is drained.

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When they start asking what’s that or they notice they are different it’s time to have them bathe alone.

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If he’s old enough to wash himself, he’s too old to take a bath with his sister.

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I would say when someone gets uncomfortable or expresses they want to bath alone.

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I used to put underwear on mine when they were little and didn’t do it past the age of 5.

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I think maybe when they begin to realize they have different parts and start asking questions is when you should maybe stop letting them bathe together. Acknowledge the questions though and educate them on the situation then just get them use to a new routine of bathing. I think you’ll know though for sure when it’s time to stop.

My girls are 11 and 8, and my son is 4 turning 5 in a few weeks. Very rarely, my 8 yr old doesn’t want to bathe alone and ends up taking a bath with her brother. He’s more self conscious than she is, but they both just drop a rag over their laps to cover their privates.

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As soon as they are uncomfortable. We do not need to sexualise nakedness.

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