At what age is it not okay for siblings of opposite sex to bathe together?

I bathed with my siblings until I was like 8, both younger brothers (6 and 2). All my mom had to tell me was to not touch their privates and them not touch mine :woman_shrugging:

It’s usually cool to age 45

4-5 years old. I’d say about the time they start school. That’s what I did with my 5.

As long as you feel comfortable, they will feel comfortable. Don’t make it about the body, we all are naked under our clothes. :woman_shrugging:t3:

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I think 5 years old sounds right.

Id say 5/kindergarten is a good place to stop

Preschool age is fine

I’d say 4/5 years once one hits that age I’d bathe them alone. :woman_shrugging: but to each their own!

Once they not longer need to sit in a tub, they can all get bathed seperate. :grin: . Ok. Bye… :v:

Just Put bathing suits on them.

I have a 6 and 3 year old son and daughter and we just recently separated them after they started getting curious.

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Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one. My opinion is never at anytime should they. Ask yourself what you feel is ok or not. I’m sure if you Google that shit you’ll find parenting advice and or laws about it.

When the children aren’t comfortable doing it anymore ie one starts to want more privacy

Put their bathing suit bottoms on no biggie :woman_shrugging::woman_facepalming:

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Why are you washing my back Step Brother??

At 4years of age to stop them bathed together

Kids are innocent they don’t pay attention of what you aware of, they only mind playing toys unless you open their eyes too soon about sex. Come on human there are more important things to pay attention about life than this.

Since I had all boys i can’t comment

If you’re questioning it but don’t really want to explain because they’re still innocent minded, throw them in with swim suits on. :100:

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If the boy is that much older he can bathe himself they don’t need to do it together

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When they become curious and start asking questions . You will work out the right time each family’s are different .

Shoot my son brought his friend in thr bathroom when i was in the tub when he was 12. Had to ask if he could go somewhere. Had a talk about privacy after that

my kids ate currently 18 months and 4yrs until our daughter is 6 and the baby is 3 will let them play together in the tub. one will get washed before i put the other kid in then one they play take the first kid out and bath the second one. also if ur uncomfortable put them in bathing suits they kids will find it fun

Free your minds people.
They’re pepi kids…having happy times IN WATER…with whanau.

Learning water safety n security along with others along the way.

iNCLUSiON OVER EXCLUSiON until YOU KNOW.

My 6yo girl and 4yo boy bathe together, I’m only even considering stopping it because my girl likes the bath hot and my boy likes it cool so there’s always fights :rofl:
But they don’t see anything weird or whatever about it and I dont make them feel as though it is because well it isn’t. They’re just having a bath nothing more to it.

They will tell you when they are done,don’t stress or worry it stops naturally in my experience ( mum of 6)

I wouldn’t be surprised if one day the eldest said they didn’t want to bathe together anymore.

I stopped last year at 5 and 4 because they were getting to splashy and noisy hahah

Ohhhh my with all these answers and testimonies :zipper_mouth_face:

They are siblings. Let them play ffs and stop thinking otherwise

Honestly the kids Will tell you when they don’t wanna bath together anymore

It’s up to the parent.

Sinead Saint I think 28 and 30 is too old for you and Nigel to still bathe together

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It will happen naturally

Bathing suits are a good idea

No more after age 3.

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Also, let’s not sexualize children please.

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I would say 2-3 years old, because around that time, they can recognize that they have different parts and they’re inquisitive at that age. And when they do start asking questions, answer them as honestly and age appropriate as possible. If they like playing together in the bathtub, just bath them separately all together and then let them put their bathing suits on and play in the tub!

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I stopped when they started noticing each other’s differences. Probably when they were 4 and 2.

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My kids are 9(daughter) 6(son) 5(daughter)… I bathe the girls together…

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I would say Just put bathing suits on them if it seems like an issue. But my 8 year old bathes with my 2&3 year olds :woman_shrugging:t2:I think having conversations about being naked and the differences in everyone’s bodies is a good thing. I would rather them talk about it with me and get all the right info than keep it all a secret and avoid it.

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When she starts noticing a difference or when he gets uncomfortable and wants privacy

My 3 year old nephew and 2 year old daughter still take baths together but my 6 year old stopped like at 4 because he wanted privacy. Every kid is different.

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My oldest son started wanting his own baths at 8 years old. My youngest was 5 at that time. While my oldest didn’t want to bathe with the youngest anymore he would go sit beside the tub and play with the toys so my youngest didn’t get upset. That lasted two years. Then all the sudden my youngest decided he didn’t want anyone to see him naked. :woman_shrugging:t2: I didn’t see the need to point out that they was older or privacy or anything of that nature. I let them sort it out on their own. When they said I can do it by myself I said ok but leave the door cracked so I can hear you. I respect their need for privacy when they feel old enough to need it.

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Our youngest children are will be 8 & 9 soon. They now take showers separately, but they have been bathing together since they were born. Nakedness is normal and healthy and does not have to be sexualized.

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When I was a kid I bathed with the two girls next door. We never gave it a second thought . Our moms were bff’s so we were always together anyway

My kids are 6 (girl) and 9 (son) they do this as well but they both wear bathing suits so they are covered then when bath time comes one gets out while other bathes.

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When they start noticing differences or comfort changes. Also maybe add bathing suit bottoms

Maybe bathe them separately and then put bathing suits on them and let them play in tub

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You can always let them have tub time together in swim suits and keep washing them separately like you already are.

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Why is it an issue at all? Making kids feel ashamed of their bodies is wrong.

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Mine are 4.5(girl) and almost 3(boy), they bath together and know they have different body parts and they are mindful of each others space. I like the idea of the commenters saying when one of them gets uncomfortable.
I’ve also just have to say I think the “when they start asking questions” comments are a little ridiculous. It’s okay for kids to know that there is different anatomy. It’s only weird and sexualized because the adult is making it that way.

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Me and my brother stopped having a bath together I was idk 6 or so hes 18 months older.

I have two girls 8 and 6 and they don’t have to hide from me each other their 10 month old brother. Don’t just strip in front of us. But naked is okay.

Just leave them in their underwear and let those babies play in the tub together. Wash separately when they are done

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Put them in bathing suits

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I have an 8 yr old and 5 yr old. Just as my daughter turned 8 did she start willingly taking baths and showers alone. She still goes in amd plays with the toys with my 5 yr old because he begs her to.

When one gets uncomfortable especially when they start noticing or even trying to play with private parts. But you can always put bathing suits on them. Not just because it’s sexualized but because they need to learn boundaries of others and themselves and they need privacy.

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I bathed with all my kids as baby’s until they was 2 ish only because bath wasn’t so big for both, but my kids now she’s 5 he’s 4 they bathed together since day one and still do but I think my daughters age now she needs to have one by herself. It’s also important to know your kid monitor what they do and say in the bath I always do that way u know

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Some brothers and sisters still take baths together :woman_facepalming:

My kid is 6 and 2 . they bath separate .

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I have 2 year old boy/girl twins and they bathe together.

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There’s no issue until one gets curious or uncomfortable. :woman_shrugging:t3:

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Mine did until they started pointing out that they had different parts.

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Mine are 6 and 9 now. When my youngest was a baby, her brother didn’t bathe with her. I just didn’t feel that was right. Boy/girl. Sibling. I think there should be some boundaries. I made them change in separate rooms once my youngest was out of diapers also.

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When they can start naming or getting curious with each other’s genitalia, it’s time to stop.

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I think when they start to notice differences and ask the the questions that come with that…answer the questions honestly and separate

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Well kids are often curious, but if you educate them the right way and of course monitor them while they’re in the bath then you should just trust your gut. If your confident nothing will happen then go for it. It’s always more fun in the bath with someone to play with.

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My younger brother and I bathed together until my brother said, where’s sissies peepee.

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When they are ready to bathe alone they will let you know. They are just kids let them be kids. My son started to bathe alone around 9. Him and his younger sister loved bath time. His younger sister misses that time now cause she is only 5 but she now takes one with her 14 yr old sister on occasion. Kids ask questions and that’s ok. They need to learn about the human body and they are curious, it’s in our nature to be curious even as adults. Trust your gut momma. You will know.

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My twins stopped taking baths together and started showering at about 3

4 or 5. School age is too old.

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At the age 2 my son knows what a wiener is so he will not be bathing with anyone else. I think once they truly know what body parts are they shouldn’t

My daughter was eight. The baby was just over a year. He kept pulling his penis. I had stepped out and I heard. "Oh my god, mummy! He’s gonna pull it off!!!":rofl::rofl::rofl:

Stopped around 2.5. When they started getting curious about private parts

I never bathed mine together not even my own boys . One at a time. Especially these days

Maybe since they want it to be playtime, you could put swimsuits on them? Just to make you feel more comfortable with it since youre asking about it!

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At 4 my son started asking and pointing out their privates were different so I stopped then.

Oh man, my mom threw me, my sister, And brother in the tub together! :woman_facepalming:t2:I’m the oldest, so once I hit about 10, I couldn’t do it anymore. Anyway, my two youngest are girl/boy, 19 months apart, and the main reason I’ve never bathed them together is because my daughter would probably drown her little brother. So, probably no baths ever together. They’re both autistic as well. They’re 2, and almost 4.

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My 6 and 4 year olds both boys still bathe with their sister who is 2. Oldest brother who is 10 stopped bathing with little brothers when he was 7 or 8

My kids stopped bathing with eachother when they noticed “they’re parts are different.” Our youngest was 2 when he said that to me so I’d say that’s when it’s time to stop.

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I personally say about 6 I always bathed with my best friend when we were young got curious about 6 so I’d definitely say then

When either of them become uncomfortable with it

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Mine stopped around 3

I stopped by kindergarten

U could always put swim suits on and let them have at it no matter the age

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My 6, 3 and 1 year old all bath together. My 6yo is a girl and the younger 2 are boys. 6 and 3 both definitely know their private parts and the fact that they are different but we have just explained why and not made it weird. I ask out 6yo regularly if she wants to bath/shower alone and she says no. We will keep them together until one of them feels uncomfortable.
I think it’s healthy not to make it something to be ashamed of

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I didn’t ever bathe my sons together, but there was a four year age difference. I always tried to respect my older son’s privacy.

Idk I have all boys and they take baths together. 6,5,1. Most of the time my oldest will ask to bathe alone

I stopped when my kiddos were i think 3 and 4. Most kids don’t make a big deal out of it unless a big deal is made.

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Me and my 3 sisters used to bathe together. My son’s do from time to time. I even bathe with my 2 almost 3 year old boy. He hates taking baths so if me being in there with him helps, so be it! I also teach my son the names of private parts and explain how we are different. It’s life. Not some oddity or something to be ashamed of or embarrassed by. Use that time as learning time about our bodies and how we are all different! I feel like as they get older they’ll want to bathe alone. Also want privacy.

My son is 5 and daughter is 2 my daughter just recently asked what’s that to her brothers private part. That’s when I explained he’s a boy she’s a girl (again) but they have different parts. (She proceeded with I want one and asked where hers were) but I feel like when the questions start is when you separate the baths. But if it’s a quick wash up I put them both in and my son will wash himself while I wash his sister then after I get her out I rewash him

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My 9 year old (boy) takes baths with his 5yr old sister and his 3 yr old brother. When they bathe together they keep their underwear on (they came up with the idea)

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According to DHR never

You could put bathing suits on them after you wash them that way they could still play in the bath but no one could say it is inappropriate. Just a thought.

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When my daughter was 3 & her brother was 4 1/2 she told him “I don’t like weiners[toddler Boston accent]
in my bath!”:rofl:

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If they want to just play on the tub put there bathing suits on them and let them play if it makes you feel more confertable

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Mix sex I would say soon as possible before the questions… then you can explain to each one separately . I never did unless in an rush. I guess the bathroom is a private moment

When one of them ask to not bathe with the other anymorr

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Well i had to quit showering with my son at 3 when he asked what “that” was and giggled at my boobs :person_facepalming:

My grandmother had 6 kids, she’d put bathing suits on them and let a few of them play in the tub together. You could have brother go first, wash up and suit up. Sister goes in in a suit after… play play play. Brother gets out, you wash sister.

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