So I need some advice…
I’m 15 weeks pregnant I’m 18 and a senior in high school… I was planning on going to college this autumn but I’m due in September and I would be starting my classes (that I already made a schedule for) in August… I’ll be majoring in equine therapy (I went to visit the college so the professors that I will be having knows I can’t do things that’ll be risky) … so my question is would I be a horrible parent in deciding to go to college anyways in autumn and once I have my baby go back and have someone watch her… Also I can’t have my boyfriend (the baby’s father to watch the baby while I go to college because when I go to college in August he’ll be starting his senior year in high school (he’s 2 years younger than me)… I just feel like I shouldn’t change me wanting to go to college for a baby because I feel like I can be a mom but also go to college and get the degree I want
please no negative
I just want advice on if I should wait for college or go ahead and go… I won’t be staying in the dorms I’ll be living at home and driving back and forth
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I’d highly recommend going still. It will lead to a good job to support your baby. However I’d start in the spring semester.
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GO TO SCHOOL! it’s the best thing you can do for your growing family. Trust me, it’s harder to go back later. If you can figure out child care than do it! Good luck to you!
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You are only bettering yourself and your life for you and your baby! And that is an awesome thing! The only thing I would say is maybe wait and move your classes back to the start of the next semester. A new baby is tough and you’ll need to establish a routine and heal after the birth.
Go for it girl, don’t let anyone tell you that you shouldn’t. I was due with my boy at the end of October and my bi term classes started the 8th of October and I still went and finished my semester. I’m so glad I did because once I finish school it will benefit my babies! I’m pregnant again and still going to school! It is a little bit harder but nothing you can’t handle! Good luck!
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The best thing you can do for your baby is to make sure you can provide the best life possible, go to school.
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My daughter is just finishing her first year of university and with the daily commute it was a struggle for her to adjust. I cant imagine throwing a new baby into that mix as well. I would give yourself a semester off. Give you and your baby a chance to get into a routine and then start school in January. You dont need to change your life, just put it on hold for a couple of months. Good luck:)
It’s really rough to go to school the same semester that you have a baby. Personally I would put it off for a semester or a year. Definitely still go, but I don’t think you understand how difficult it is to take care of a newborn. You will be so tired and your body will be healing. I would at least take the first semester off.
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Go to college! You can try applying for daycare assistance too
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Go to school!! Its the best thing for both of you. Maybe start a semester late? But if you can keep up with the workload with an infant, you go girl!!
I ended up not going because I also got pregnant my senior (although I graduated a semester early so I technically wasn’t in school when I got pregnant) but I was still supposed to start school that next fall and ended up not going and I regret it a lot. If you can find someone to watch your little one you should go! In the long run it will be best for you and your little family. You’ll miss a few moments here and there, but working moms do the same thing and don’t get any hate for it. You shouldn’t feel guilty!
First off, congratulations! I’m glad you realize that women can be mothers AND successful at the same time. If you want to go to school right now and have the means to have your child stay with someone safe, responsible and loving while you do, go for it. If it doesn’t work out as you hoped and need to postpone school for a bit, it’s not the end of the world either. Test the waters and see what works best for you and your family, and go from there.
Maybe see if your college has a day care or get something lined up. I think going to school will be good. My husband went to school right after our first son was born and I was working full time. I just worked my schedule around his classes.
If you’re motivated now to go to college then I would run with that. Your likelihood to go back later dwindles as time goes by. Maybe look into your program and see if they offer any of your classes online. If they do, I’d start with those during your fall semester and then take classes in the spring. And I’d probably start off part time rather than full time. Any college is better than no college. You can do whatever you put your mind to. People go back to work after 6 weeks of having a baby and are gone for 40 hours a week. As long as the baby is loved and cared for while you’re away then you shouldn’t worry or have a problem with that. Plus your baby will be so proud of you once they are older and realize how amazing you were to raise an infant and get your education. I’m praying for you!
It’s exhausting. Take time to adjust. Go to school next year.
Go! I graduated from high school when my so was 6 months old. I graduated college when he was 4 and his sister was 2. You can do this and it makes you a better mom if you do!! Go for it!! I’m a message away if you ever need someone to talk to as well as I’ve been through it!
Go to college! I was 23 when I had my first and was in school had my baby anf graduated on time!
If you can make it work, then go to college as planned. It won’t be easy but it will be so worth it.
Definitely go to school and don’t put it off. I had my son at 18 and it’s the best thing I did.
Choose school…but make sure the person watching that baby is safe to watch a baby.
Go baby girl! You can be the best mom and still better yourself in the process! Your babies shouldn’t hold you down they life you up to push you to go better and bigger places! You got this momma!
It’ll be a struggle but you and your baby’s lives will be better for it in the end.
If you don’t go now, you never will.
Go for it! You will adapt and figure things out as you go.
GO! I was 18 and a senior in HS when I got pregnant with my first. I live in the Bible belt so the school staff members were far from understanding and I got asked to leave school. It’s illegal for them to kick me out for getting pregnant but it still happened. I was 4 credits away from graduating and I never got to finish. I’m almost 21 now with no diploma, no jobB, and expecting my second, trying to get my GED. If I had the option to finish and start college I would definitely do what I needed to make it happen. Yes you will feel bad for leaving your child with someone, but you have to remember that you’re also doing it for your child to have a better life. Do what you feel you need to do. Not just for yourself but also as a mother. And don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do it either because I promise even though I didn’t do it I know plenty of young mother’s who have and did! You can do it!
I’d would wait to start next spring. At least give yourself and the baby time to adjust to the “new life”. No matter, good luck!!
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It’s going to be hard, you’re going to want to give up many times. Don’t. You’re a strong young womanand you got this. Yes you’ll miss the baby but you will be able to give a better future for you both doing it.
Getting your education will be a key factor in providing for yourself and family in the future. Go to college now, don’t wait.
GO TO SCHOOL!!!
I am almost 23 and I wish I would have pushed myself to go through college even with my child. Now I still havent started and I regret not going right away.
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Go to college. Maybe online classes the first semester so you can still get your work done while at home. I have 6 kids and have postponed many times due to something coming up. I will be graduating RN school next month at the age of 40. Dont let anyone get you down. I’m proud of you for trying!!! Get it girl!
Babies, are very expensive. The older they get the more it cost to raise them. I wish 1000 times over I had went to college and made it easier on myself to raise my children. If you don’t go to college now you may end up regretting it in the future like me. I have two little girls ages 3 and 5, me and their father both have to work ourselves to death to be able to afford to give them the life they so much deserve. Don’t do that to yourself girl. Go to school, get that degree, your child will grow up and be so proud of you.
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I was a senior when I had my oldest. I graduated hs and just did the work and be a mom life. Go to college, you will be able to better care for your family. It won’t be easy, and being a mom is a tough but rewarding job 
Definitely go! You’re giving your self and your baby the best life possible, you really can do anything you put your mind too❤️ congratulations!
You have to go to college to make a life for you and your child
Go, get a loving sitter. Some schools have daycare center. Anyway an educated parent is a smart parent. Try it, you can change up later if you want.
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Go for it. Just shows you want an actual future for you and baby
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Here is the thing… anything could happen during delivery… preparing yourself for a baby means also thinking about the what if’s. If you deliver and there are complications… or the baby has some medical needs to attend to you might now want to pay for a semester of school and be too overwhelmed to attend or do your best. College is so expensive that you want to make sure your not wasting money on a semester that you can’t get back. I would wait. Also now days your not even aloud to drive for 3 weeks after having a baby… they advise you not to lift ANYTHING heavier than your baby. How will packing school bags and car seat and diaper bag and baby every morning to drop the baby off with who? Another thing for you to think about is this… colleges are a number one place to contract the flu you will be bringing that home to an infant. I would wait. You need time to heal. Your baby needs time to adjust to living outside your body. I am speaking from experience also as I delivered my first daughter May 1st of my junior year… went back for my senior year in August and even having 3&1/2 months it was super stressful and difficult. And I didn’t have to pay for that year of school.
Talk about all options with your support team and your counselor. A lot if moms only get 6 weeks maternity leave and then go back to work. That’s the minimum time to heal vaginally. Look at all options and decide what you feel will be best. Remember bonding is so important in the early stages. Take into account the time taken from the school day to pump or remember to pump and freeze so your baby gets the nutrients it needs from you. It’ll be hard but worth it. So do what you feel is best for you and your family. But involve your back up care takers if you decide to continue to be a student.
I was pregnant in college and worked full time. With a great support system you can do it.
Lisa, can you give some advise.
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Go to college 100%
Your baby will benefit from it in he end. X
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Just go for it, you can do it girl!
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Go. If it’s your dream, go. It’s worth it. Your baby will be fine even at this point if it’s having to go to a cummunity college to get your associates first. Go. You’ll have more jobs wanting you. It’s worth it. You’ll provide more for your baby unless you’re more interested in a trade school. You are NOT a bad momma for planning your future!
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Did you check with a college sometimes schools have daycare or the hospital you’re planning on having the baby talk to a social worker they may have some ways to help you but get your education it will help you provide better for this baby and yourself whether Daddy’s in the picture or not right now you’re going to be that baby’s Soul Provider so try to work out see if there is a daycare situation there’s a school so you could drop the baby off go to school pick the baby up good luck and I’ll be praying that you can work this out
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Good luck . Going to be hard .
I had a baby at 18 and went to college… worked full time… went to school and raised him alone… it was hard work and I felt like giving up but I knew I had to make a life for us. You CAN do it! Dont let anyone change your mind.
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I was 2 months pregnant when I started my first semester in college ( 25 years old ) anyways I finished my first semester and dropped out. Once you become a mother your priorities change so much and basically your whole outlook on life. You are young enough, my advice would be to finish high school and then take a gap year. Trust me it is going to get hectic, pregnancy is no joke when you have tests to study for and assignments due… it would not be healthy for u or baby. Taking one year to first get your home life with baby settled is in my honest opinion the best thing to do.
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If you have someone to watch the baby GO. Because making the decision to go back is so difficult.
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Line up child care now as well as two solid back ups. Usually you wait 6 weeks to put the child in daycare so be honest about how quickly you will be going back to school. Can you miss classes without repercussions? Can you afford child care? Who will help you take care of the child in the night? You will be operating on very little sleep the first few months and you don’t want academic probation to add to the overwhelming stress. Waiting one semester may not be the worst idea ever.
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Honestly the best thing you can do is go to college so you can get a good job and give that baby a good life full of what he needs
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Yes definitely go to college so you can provide for yourself and the baby better as long as you have someone responsible to take care of the baby but waiting one year to go to college while the baby is in their first year of life is a good option too as long as you don’t put College off more than a year
If you have reliable childcare then go. I had my daughter in the second year of my PhD program & we’re all fine. It’s hard as hell but it will pay off in the end. Best wishes with whatever decision you make.
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My suggestion would be to take the first semester off and start in the spring. You might have to take more time out of classes than you think and you wouldn’t want to risk your GPA. Adjust to being a mom and then add school to it… it would be easier than the other way around.
If you are able to find childcare go to school. If childcare is unavailable, hold off on school until the child is older and then go back. I got my RN license at age 29 after 3 kids. It can always be done. Don’t feel like a failure if it takes longer. The time spent with your child will never be a waste.
Go girl go! Do not let having babies stop you from chasing that dream you’re already signed up and good to go, so long as you are healthy and up to it when the time comes go! You do you! Continuing your education and following along your goals will never mean you are a bad parent.
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Mind over matter! Only you know how strong willed you are.
Go dont hold back if you do hold back one day you may regret it.
Take advantage of the time until then to research look into good childcare, use all the time you have to find a place or person you genuinely trust, get all up in their business about how they’re going to care for your child.
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I would push back classes to the spring semester to get you and little one time to adjust to life together and go to school. I go to school and have kids it’s a lot of work and the first baby really hits you with surprises. It’ll all work out. Just give yourself a few months then head to school 
good luck
I had my son at 35 and finished half of my degree (for other personal reasons I changed my major) he is now 3 and I am finishing the other half…I am also 13weeks pregnant I will be taking finals around my due date, it doesnt make you a bad mom if you put college on hold or if you go now. Most colleges also have an on site daycare, I’m lucky and can do some of my courses online & my dad watches my son while I work full time. No matter what choose what YOU feel is best for you and your little family xoxo
No go to college to better yourself and the baby
You could wait until January get started. there was one gal that had delivered and she was in class the very next day. She missed couple of days but she was there, I helped her with what she missed, she was good to go. I saw the strain on her but she was determined.
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I didn’t go to college because I was pregnant and I regret it. Go after it!
I graduated 3 months pregnant. And still went to college. As long as you have someone to watch the baby you go for your dream.
You can absolutely do both!!! And you will be better off in the long run with a career that will keep you financially stable for you and your little one!! Maybe even try to get your start date changed? Are there later classes you can take so that the dad can watch the baby while you take some evening classes? You CAN make it work! Even if you have to wait until the next classes start! Having children young doesn’t mean you have to cancel your goals/dreams!! It just gives you more of a reason to succeed!!! You don’t want to regret not going and you don’t want to possibly resent your child in the long run if you don’t do it!!
Go for it. It won’t be easy but im the end it will give you and your baby a brighter future with more possibilities. Take all the support you can get. And I wish you the very best.
Go to college now please do not put it off
So proud of you also. You are making a good future for yourself and little one!!!
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Go to college! You can do both. I finished my degree with 2 kids as a single mom. Yes it is hard but TRUST ME it is harder the older they get. So do it now. Good luck to you! And Congratulations!
I can’t give advice on school but there is a group on Facebook called the Parent Life Network. I highly suggest joinging the group! 90% of the other moms and dads in the group are so supportive there are no stupid questions there and you can get help and advice from sooo many people that have either gone through or are going through or know someone who has gone through the same thing! It’s so great, best of luck girl!
If u have a safe place for your child to be while Iu attend collage and having support go for it
You can do it!! It will be hard but you can do it, college is important! Go for it, if you have a support system that’s better.
I’d say focus on your baby for awhile and get the hang of being a mom and get to know your baby before going to college. Doing both and being a new mom will be stressful. It’s great u wanna better yourself and go to college but also remember that your child is only little for so long. Once your comfortable with your baby and feel good about leaving it with someone else it will be easier for you to focus on your college studies.
Go now.
Do not put it off if you can at all help it.
Definitely go! I put off going back to college after I had my son (when I was 20) and didn’t start up again until last semester, when my 2nd child was almost 3. I’m 27 now and it’s my 2nd semester back. I really wish I had stuck with it - it would’ve been so much easier keeping up with all this schoolwork with only one child.
The only upside is that during my time off, I realized what I really want to do with my life and switched my major when I started school again.
Yes, go to school. Your baby will be fine watched while attending.
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I was in the same boat and wish i would have gone to college back then with just one kid. But I also wasnt focused enough on school…being a new single mom workin full time… I didnt know how to throw school into that. I graduated shortly after finding out i was pregnant and had classes lined up but backed out and got a job in a deli 
It good u want to go to college. Don’t know what state you live in, you may get financial help through the state with daycare
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Go to college while you are passionate about it!!! You may have to do it slower and less classes a semester but in the long run setting yall’s family up for success is wonderful. It’s no different than parents taking their child to daycare to go to work. Just dont live the party college life lol. You’ve got this mama!!!
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Hi I had my daughter at 17, a month after I graduated high school. I took mechanical engineering technology and decided to wait 2 years after having my daughter to start it. My daughter is now 15 and I also have a 2 year old son. Your body alone will need time to recover. In my opinion only, I think if you want to give college all you got, then you should wait a little bit so you’re not completely worn out from one end to the other. College is a lot and so is a baby.
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I did it , not going to lie it’s not easy but I made it and now I’m a Nurse , I had my first child at 17 graduated and went to college , had my second child 17 years later now that’s not easy lol that’s starting over at my old age , you can do it !
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I would go baby girl. Ur only going to better yourself and your babys life. U can do it hun. I believe in u. Good luck sweetie. 
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If you want to go to college go to college, first of all nothing should stop you and second of all you’re just making a better life for that baby. If you want to go to college go to college, first of all nothing should stop you and second of all you’re just making a better life for that baby. Congratulations on the baby
So many rude comments hun finish school go to college be the best you you can you baby will be fine. Dont let people bring you down by word make you life yours and be the best you can for your new baby xoxo best of luck
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You can do whatever you put your mind to. Figure out how to balance a baby at home and your studies and you’ll be setting you and your new family up for the better in the end.
I started my senior year with a baby. You can do this. You’re going to college to better yours and baby’s life, and baby won’t even remember they’ll be so young.
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Google Scholar House. While it’s based in KY … it provides daycare housing and for single mom’s going to college. There are several of them in the state.
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You won’t be a horrible parent. Question though, who will be watching your baby while you’re in class? Will it be a parent? Family? Someone you have to pay? If you have to pay them, how will you do that? Will you have a job as well on top of school? Not trying to discourage you at all! Just want to make sure you have thought everything through. If this has been answered in all the comments I apologize, there’s over 200 comments. Again, I’m encouraging her to go to college!
Go to school, get help with the baby u doing it for her. Can u mother help.
I had my son while I was in college. I finished and I now have an excellent paying job. Go to school, hun. Your baby will thank you later.
You can do whatever you put your mind to! If you have the ambition to go to college, then GO! You wont regret it! It’ll be tough but in the end, it will be worth it!
If you can find a way to go to college then go! I dropped out and I regret it
If I’m speaking honestly I think no matter what advice you get here or elsewhere and no matter what your plans are until you have the baby and get accustom to having a newborn you won’t really know what you can handle. Newborns are a lot of work and between hormones, exhaustion and the stress of a newborn you can’t really plan how you will handle this new big experience and the new big experience of starting college. I know I’m not giving advice I’m just saying it’s a very hard situation to plan. I’m wondering if giving yourself a semester off to get everything on track and starting the next semester might be beneficial??
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I dropped out while I was pregnant and definitely regret it. Do it for you and baby!
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I would not think you are a horrible parent. I would suggest taking a semester off and give yourself some time to get adjusted to parent life. Your going to have to take some time off when having the baby, then you are going to have many sleepless nights. It will affect your studies and college is very expensive.
First, congratulations on your pregnancy. Second, I was pregnant with my son at 17 after I got my GED and started school right after that. I was in labor with him at 18 when the second semester of classes started. I have been in school for 6 years and graduated with my AA and will be finished my Bachelor’s this fall and then going to get my Master’s. Its a TON of work, but you will find a good balance for being a mom and going to school if you focus and stay motivated. If you think its best for you both, then do it! Both of your futures will be brighter and more secure because of it. 
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Girl, go to college, you and your child will be better for it
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Go! I had my daughter at 13, and went back to school when she was 2 months old. It was agonizing but necessary. I’m now 17 and she’s 4 and I’m going to university! Follow your dreams and make a better life for her
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Honey do what you feel you are woman enough to do. I dont know you and am proud of your decision. Though you may feel different when she or he gets here but even still don’t let those emotions knock you off your square. Always remember, Rome wasn’t built in one night. Take your time. Best of luck and congrats!
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