Birth control opinions, what should I try?

Let’s talk birth control! As much as I dislike it, not being on it is not an option for me right now. I was fortunate enough to not have to be on it for almost a decade in my previous relationship-ex husband had a vasectomy after our third and final child together. I am almost 3 months post baby number 4 and have been on the depo provera shot for almost 2 months. It is the only birth control I’ve had any experience with and I don’t remember having issues the first time I was on it. This time however, I feel SO emotional allll the time! I’m constantly on the verge of tears and it seems like it doesn’t take much to trigger my anger. It’s bad enough that my boyfriend comments on it often. I’m worried about my new emotional state affecting my relationship I feel like I’m losing it! Has anyone else had this experience with the birth control shot? What works for you ladies as far as birth control? I am leery about an IUD because of the risks.. thanks for any input!
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I’m on the pill. Sprintic I think. I hated the shot and I still have the arm implant cause my doctor couldn’t get it out the other month so I have to go back so he can hopefully get it out. I bled all the time on the shot and with just the arm implant and I’m having horrible post partum hair loss with the arm implant. I’m on the shot while I still have arm implant to regulate my period.

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Where do you get the shot? I’ve heard a lot of negative when it’s in your arm, but hardly nothing when it’s in your hip. I’ve been on it for over 10 years and didn’t experience that.

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I had a iud and I didn’t have any issues with it. You check it to make sure it’s still in its proper place and go about your life. My periods stopped which I loved and I wasn’t hormonal at all. I would recommend it. I was on the depo at one point and it made me gain weight I didn’t need and emotional. I hate pills cause tbh I forget to take em.

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If you have just had a baby it’s probably emotions from that also it’s all a stressful time

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I would see your medical professional about suspected post partum depression. Though it could be attributed to your choice of birth control, your symptoms could be indication of something more serious but treatable.

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I started depo right after having my son and I was emotional too. PPD, and stress and after like my 3rd shot so like 9-10 months after baby I leveled out more. I have such trouble with BC patches an pills that I would still have my period 2-6 weeks at time with all other options then not have for a few days to few months. So I tried the shot and once my body regulated I was better. My doctor did warn me starting depo so soon after baby and not waiting a few months could screw with my hormones more then normal.

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I take jolessa, it’s a 90day supply of pills. The last week of the 3rd month are the placebo pills, so my period comes every 3 months. I love it. Super light and quick. I was on nexplanon (arm implant) beforehand and hated it. Heavy long full of cramp periods. My 3rd year with my second one (they last 3 years each) I got two periods a month!

I have an idea, no issues. No periods, no hormone related mood swings. My dr did have me come back after placement to check that it settled in the correct placement. I love it.

I tried depo provera but it wasn’t for me…I gained a scary amount of weight very quickly.
Was on the pill for years with no problems but was taken off that…age, smoker etc…tried the mini pill and fell pregnant …just as well id decided to have another baby.
After that had the copper coil fitted and suffered terrible cramps and constant heavy bleeding. Changed to the Minera coil and had no problems at all .
Theres risks with most contraception and you just need to figure out what works best for you .
I’ve not tried the implant but its basically minor surgery and if not put in properly can get lost or damage nerves…wasn’t one I was willing to risk

I had depo before and hated it cause stayed bleeding. I was on nexplanon, but here I am now, 9 weeks pregnant even though I was on bc :sweat_smile:

I am on my 3rd I.U.D no problems

I was a crazy lady on it after my first kid so I feel you. I was on it14 years prior to having a baby and the second time was a no go. I have the Nexplanon and I like it. Everybody is different on how they react to it but I have not had issues.

I got a paraguard IUD after my second daughter in 2019, 3 months later got pregnant and had a miscarriage while on it so I had it taken out. Got a skylah IUD at the end of last year, 3 months later found out it inbedded in the lining of my uterus and while getting it removed I found out I was pregnant with my now 3 month old. I now have a mirena and so far so good, I got it put in literally minutes after giving birth and its been fine so far, but I just hit the 3 month mark so I’m waiting for some off the wall shit to happen again :joy::person_shrugging:t2:

Well unfortunately your body permanent changes after each pregnancy. BC has so many side effects and it’s always different for everyone. I personally hate BC, but on the other hand I also don’t recommend getting tubal litigation. I know it’s not common, but I almost died from having it done. Look into spermicide gels for when you do the deed. Just like BC it’s not 100%. The IUD sucked for me. I gained a ton of weight and it was so painful getting it removed. Again that’s for me, not necessarily you. Just my experiences. Get different doctor opinions on BC. Good luck mam.

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Exact same experience with it. The second time on it I got one shot & prayed for it to get out of my system it was so bad! I got an iud this time. ZERO birth control is “safe” & all have serious side effects but you just have to choose which is worth the risk!

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I had the depo shot and I 100% do NOT recommend it. So many horrible side effects even after I stopped and I’ve heard the same from friends.

I had the nexplanon implant (in the arm) and it was OK. The only downside is having a permanent scar on your arm from it.

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I have nexplanon, the arm implant. I personally love it since you don’t have to worry about taking anything everyday. I now don’t have to worry about birth control for 5 years which I think is very convenient. The only issue was when I started on it I spot bled for two months or so, now I don’t even get my period anymore which is also another plus. I personally prefer an implant in my arm verses inside of me, but I guess it comes down to what works best for you.

Well I had the mireana (spelling sorry) for the full 5yrs. I had no issues BUT I can’t say the same for my bestie. Hers had to be surgically removed from her RIB where it was traveling to her heart. Which would have killed her. She can no longer have children either we believe because it went through her uterus. After that I will no longer recommend them. Too risky. If i was needing BC I’d go with the pill. The less it fucks with your hormones the better. Oh and my sister has 2 depo babies. Just food for thought

Speak with your doctor, possibly could be PND as well

I have the iud and on my 2nd term of it and have never had any issues.

try a non-invasive and non- hormonal birth control

I’m on Xulane, it’s a patch. I change it once a week for 3 weeks then skip the 4th week which is when I get my monthly, which is very light and only lasts maybe 4 days. I have done the iud before but I personally had 2 cause me issues and the last time I had to have it surgically removed. But it’s different for everyone. But I love the patch :blue_heart:

I’ve been on the pill since I was 18? I’m gonna be 37. Ive never had a problem with it. I know it’s not an option for some ppl cuz they forget to take it but I just take it first thing in the morning with my women’s vitamins so I don’t forget.

Don’t get nexplanon. It’ll do the same thing to you.

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The problem is trying to conceive while off it I been off it for 2years ( depot ) and still no periods

I do not recommend nexplanon. It shifts over time after getting it implanted and it will totally mess up your cycle. I’d be on my period for 4 weeks and off for 2 weeks. I went back to the depo. No problems since.

They affect everyone differently. I’ve had the Nexplanon arm implant and the Mirena IUD and both caused so many issues for me: frequent migraines, heavy periods that would last for two weeks, heavy cramping, depression, Nexplanon made me gain 40lbs, mood issues, etc. On the other hand, I have friends that have had both and it worked wonders for them. I’ve been on a combo pill (Marlissa) for about 3-4 years now and have had no side effects and love it. Just something to keep in mind because our bodies react so differently from one another.

I got pregnant with my one and only child on the shot. I will never use it again. I take the 3 month oral ones and skip the inactive week so no period EVER. It’s wonderful.

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I have never tried the patch, ring, or depo. I’ve only ever tried the pill and the IUD. I was forgetful with the pill and after my first born, I tried the IUD. I only had it for a short time as I didn’t like it. Switched back to the pill and then after baby 2 I decided to do the IUD again and never had any issues. After baby 3, I have the IUD and no complaints.

Do all your research and talk to your doctor. Look at all your options and voice your concerns. Good luck!

I got pregnant on the patch never again

Depo is super disruptive to your hormones. I love my Marina IUD. I’ve had two

Ive been on the nuvaring for a year and have had no problems at all, in fact, it helped me! :laughing: I no longer have pms mood swings or hormonal acne! Lol

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I’ve been on the pill for years with no issue, but I feel like since you’re only 3 months post partum you’re going to be super emotional anyway. You’re body’s not back to normal yet.

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I had the Nexplanon and had absolutely no issues… I had very regular, light to normal periods. No emotional issues… I have to say I absolutely loved it… I tried a bunch of different birth control pills and no matter when I took them they always made me sick… then my on recommended the Nexplanon and it was a god send… after we have our next baby I plan on getting it again

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I was on the pill and had a stroke. Whatever you choose, do your research and remember that it will mess with your hormones until they are leveled out

I had nexplanon and loved it and never had any problems with it. I currently have the IUD and hate it. I bleed for a couple weeks at a time spot when I’m not on my period. The dr that’s common for some women and I’m taking a birth control pill on top of the IUD to help with the bleeding.

If you dont like the hormones they have non hormonal iud. Like the copper t. Its like the mirena(which i really liked) but made out of copper. Just DONT get the arm bar. Its HORRIBLE!

Sounds like postpartum depression.

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I had depo and nexplanon and was always so pissed off! LOL AND MAJOR weight gain with depo! After having my girl I got on the IUD and I love it so far!! But as they say, it works differently for everyone! IUD is definitely my favorite so far!

Research on the Temp Drop. It is a band you wear on your arm at night. You record your body temperature and learn your rythem and cycle. You learn your boby. This works for many women who can’t take any form of birth control and those who hate what homones do to them.

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Yes, after having my first I got the shot, it made me feel similar then you described, didn’t get it again until two years after my second and I don’t feel so extreme like the first time…

Nexplanon is the best I’ve used!

I’ve never had the shot, but your reaction could just be your body adjusting after not having birth control for so long. I use the nexplanon, the one that goes in your arm. The first time, like you now, my emotions were all over the place, but eventually it all calmed down. I’m also 3 months post pardom and got the nexplanon again, but didn’t have the same reaction. :woman_shrugging:t2: Your body chemistry changes after having babies.

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I HIGHLY recommend the Mirena. IUDs only apply hormones locally, they don’t enter your bloodstream. So you will have no emotional or other physical side effects from the progesterone. Any estrogen birth control made me CRAZY. I’ve had an IUD for 4 years now and I’m thrilled with it.

I’m on nuvaring and I haven’t had a bunch of weight gain like I did with the pill or all the complications that I had with an IUD.

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Just remember your only 3 mos Post partum…your hormones are still all over the place…its gonna be ok Mama

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I love the good old fashioned pill…never had any issues or side effects

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Nuva Ring I found the best over the pill and Depo.

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i have gotten pregnant on the pill and had significant weight gain and emotional issues on the shot. I actually really like the IUD. I had one after I had my twins, about 18 years ago, and kept it until right before I got pregnant with my son 13 years ago. I had no period, no signs or symptoms of a period… no cramping , no bleeding, no anything. I had a tubal after my youngest daughter 8 years ago and started having complications. Heavy, long flow, severe cramping, body aches etc. I had an IUD inserted a little over a year ago to avoid a hysterectomy and same thing. No bleeding, no severe cramping, body aches etc.

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Depo was horrible for me. Didn’t get my period for almost 2 years, sounds great but the constant pregnancy worry was ridiculous. Ive been on the “mini” pill. Not too bad but i got pregnant on it because of antibiotics. Every thing effects it. Has to be taken at the same time every day even 10 minutes messes it up. I’ve had the Mirena. No issues with that besides the strings came all the way out that I could touch my belly button with them. Easy fix tho, just a visit to your Dr’s office to snip them. My choice if I had to choose again.

I use the Nuva ring and haven’t had any issues

I loved nexplanon but it did cause me to have pcos so be careful if you want children in the future

I am wondering if you are having post partum depression, it has only been 3 months since you had your baby so your hormones are still out of balance from pregnancy, I suggest going to your doctor and discussing depression, and if the shot could be making you worse. I had no problems with the shot myself and every other thing I tried had horrid side effects, like massive weight gain for example with the pill it was like pms all month long cravings were horrid, I gained 60 pounds in 6 months, we had to use condoms because of such side effects.

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I was on the depo and felt the same way I was angry often I’m taking the pill now (Estaryalla I think it’s called) and feel much better overall not perfect but deff better

I think you should jus tell your new bf to get a vasectomy too

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I was on the pill for 7 years and it worked great for me, I tried depo after my daughter and was NOT having it, it made me absolutely insane like I was really crazy. Went back to the pill for a few years which worked great again, the only downside I had experienced was I weighed more. My weight didnt fluctuate at all, but I wasn’t losing weight if I tried. Stopping the pill I have lost that weight, but my face breaks out constantly instead :upside_down_face:
Birth control is a nightmare to figure out lol good luck

Tubes tied work’s every time

Nexplanon. It goes in the arm and the doctor told me it’s just like depo only no appointments every 3 months. It stays in your arm for 3 years.

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I had thr arm implant and didn’t have any issues at all. It all really depends on what’s best for your body. Call your dr and schedule an appointment to have a chat with them about it and hopefully you can find one that works best for you. Because of family history I was not allowed to get an IUD but the arm implant (nexplanon) was great!

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Concentrate on your precious children.

I had the same side effects from depo. I also ended up pregnant. I’ll never do that again. I also wouldn’t recommend the IUD. It does do well for some. It didn’t for me. I was always in pain and had to have it taken out. I was using the nexplanon for 6 years. After having my twins, l I’ll be going back to that. I didn’t have any emotional issues, no periods, no weight gain and most importantly, I didn’t get pregnant on it. Nor did it mess with my fertility.

I’ve tried numerous birth controls since I was a teenager.
I wouldn’t do an IUD, mine started to fall out 2 months after it was placed. Pain was worse than childbirth. I was glad it fell out and didn’t embed itself though.
The pill is always a classic, you just have to make sure you set an alarm to take it at the same time every day or it’s not effective.
Depo made me gain weight but I don’t have a fair assessment as I developed adenomyosis and required a hysterectomy while taking it, I doubt the are related.
I used nuvaring when it first came out, putting it in and taking it out was weird at first. But honestly it was one of my favorites.
Couldn’t do the implant as I watched videos of insertion and removal and f#%& that.

I have the Marina IUD and actually I love it. I am 5 months post partum and I haven’t had my period yet. I nurse also and it’s more progesterone based than estrogen. So minimal mood swings ( I’ve been on the patch and the mini pill and the pill, and all were horrible.) I love this one, and I too was leary about it. But there are more complications if you have complications in there already, like fistulas and such.

I think you may be having postpartum depression. Most birth control has the same amount of hormones.

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Sterilised? If you wasn’t wanting anymore children and you have 4 you would properly get one, if you was wanting to keep the option for years down the line the copper coyle is a gold one and it dosnt release extra hormones to the body, x

I found that if you are still newly postpartum (under about 8 months) that the hormones seem to make you even more teary on any birth control you use simply because the whole body still is processing it’s hormones, emotions, and just adjusting to new life. Also be aware post partum depression IS a real thing and NORMALLY takes place within the first year after having a baby so be sure to talk to your Dr about that as well

I have the mirena iud and it’s been great. Helps stop or lighten heavy periods for five years and fda just approved it for contraception for 7 years.

Have him wear a condom instead of you putting hormones etc into your body.

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Your 3 months postpartum, you sound like you have postpartum depression. You need to go back to your ob and be real with them and get on something to help you be the best you can be for yourself, your baby, your other kids and your SO. You deserve to feel great.

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Sounds like you’re having PPD versus a reaction to the Depo. Go see your doctor about getting some therapy.

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Depo side effects include lowering the immune system, so i had surgery myself. God bless. :smiling_face_with_three_hearts::pray:

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Don’t do the IUD. I had to fight with my doctor to get it out. This may be TMI. I still had cramping everyday and when I first got it in the pain was worse then labor and I bleed for 3 months. My hair fell out like crazy to the point that I bought a wig and I would get tons of pimples and not the little ones either, the great big ones that feel like they attach to the bone. The acne would go from my forehead down to the bottom of my neck and scarred. 18 months later I was finally able to get it out and then 2 weeks after my skin was clearing up and my hair started growing again.

Maybe post partum depression not the shot . Does the shot contain hormones ?

NuvaRing is a good option

I have the mirena iud I’ve had it for 2 years no issues and I have light spotting once every 6 months or so every birth control I’ve had issues with besides this one

I gained 40 lbs in 3 months with that devil shot its a no from me​:no_good_woman::no_good_woman::no_good_woman: … im a big fan of nuva ring and the patch .
Or if your cool with the pills lo loestrin fe is a low hormone birth control and I’ve never had any kind of mood swings from it . I don’t like any kind of implant waaaay to many horror stories.

Depo was horrible, im trying the IUD this time around

I had the Mirena IUD and absolutely loved it! Everyone has their opinion but fortunately I had no issues with mine.