You gave it to her when you said I Do.
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If y’all have no kids then you shouldn’t have a problem just cutting her out of your life completely. I’d let it go and move on. It’s not disrespectful to your current wife nor kids. You’re making it that way in your head.
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My sister did that even though she was married again she had the last name of our parents & her ex & her new husbands name crazy!!
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That’s a stupid thing to sue over. If my husband ever divorced me I’m still keeping the last name and I wouldn’t care how him or his new thing feel about it. Haha. If you didn’t want her to have the name you should have never married her.
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She shouldn’t be using it, if it’s not her legal name. I would lock both your credit files though just incase she is being Shady. And just make sure your childrens schools know that no one but you and their mom should be picking up the kids, even if they have the same last name. But I don’t think you can sure her.
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You can tell who the petty women are here. Disgusting.
That is so stupid!! What does it matter to anyone but you?
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If we got married, that’s my name now too. Regardless of having kids or not.
Get over it.
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I’ve been divorced 12 years an I still use my ex husband last name only because I don’t want to go through the hassle of getting everything changed of course my ex doesn’t care but maybe that’s why
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Tell me you’re an entitled, bitter, whiny child without saying so … 
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My ex husband still uses my address 
it’s been 5 years
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First of all… “we?” Sounds like you’ve have a new fling that hates the idea and now you do too. Get over yourself.
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This is ridiculous. She can legally use that name.
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If she didnt switch it legally thats still her last bame regardless. Even if she said she wanted it back she doesnt legally have to change it
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She can use your last name until she changes it back to her maiden name.
My husband and I are in agreement that if we were to ever get divorced I can keep his last name.
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She can still use your name. Suck it up butter cup. You need to concentrate on your wife before you have another failed marriage.
Wow… if a girl said this yall would be pissed off and cheering her on to do. What a shame dude.
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Nope.
Because her name was changed when you guys got married, it is now her name too.
Now if she did change it back and uses your last name on things, then possibly she can get in trouble (depending what she uses it on), but she still had your name for some time. So she was and can still be your surname.
There’s nothing you can do about it.
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I’m divorced and I still have my ex husband’s last name… here in nova scotia Canada it costs money to change names
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If she legally changed it, no you can’t do anything about it. If you share no children or assets, why are you concerned with what she does anyway? Be done with it all. Focus on your new life
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It’s pretty normal for someone who is divorced to keep their married name. Pretty sure you would just look like an ass trying to sue her.
Its a huge ordeal to change your last name still even post covid. They dont want to deal with anything in person and want original documents mailed in. I got married in october and was so excited to use my husbands name but omigosh the pain it has been to get it done has made me wonder if its worth it:rofl:
between mailing every thing back and forth it does take awhile.
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Not even a big deal. Ain’t that serious. Move onward.
Who cares! Keep the peace choose ur battles
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I mean … It’s her last name. If she wants to keep it then so what. She can change her name to be anything at all,if she doesn’t want to change it. That’s her choice. .
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What is her legal name? If she changed it back by deedpoll, she relinquished the use of the married name.
My dad’s 1st ex wife still has my dad’s last name. It’s annoying but she paid for it so it’s hers too. 
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I got stuck with my exes last name kicker is we weren’t married yet🤔. He can sue me if he likes I’ll happily get rid of OBrien.
Court says I need divorce papers to change it but I was never married.
She married you, if she didn’t change her name back to her maiden name, then lagally that is her last name. There is no law stating a divorcee must change their name back.
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She can still use your last name I did till I got remarried again .
It costs money so unless you’re going to pay for it and the compensate for the time it takes then just forget about it. Who is it really hurting?
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She’s the past focus on the future. Who cares what her name is!
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It was her name at one point lol. I swear some men have the most audacity.
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I still use my exes name and we had no kids. It’s too time consuming to change it plus I have established businesses in that name.
Sounds like a super petty situation
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If you have no children together why are you still so invested in what she is doing? She not using your credit or social security number move the hell on!
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Who cares? You share no children, move on with your new family like you don’t know her. People have the same last names, it’s not a big deal and has nothing to do with your kids you have now with the new wife.
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People read the content. She changed her name back to her maiden name. So it is illegal for her to use her married name
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You’re literally a joke of a man for this 
That was her legal name so she can use it. What exactly would you be suing for? There’s no damages.
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No I don’t think you can. I mean anyone can change their last name to anything. I’m a random person you don’t know and if I wanted to I could change my last name to yours. And changing your last name after a divorce is a pain in the ass. And you have to pay for the name change and get everything changed. Bills, rental or homeowner paperwork, car insurance/car owner/registration/etc information, work information and the name that will be issued on your check, W2 and W4s. And tax information in general. Cell phone, utilities, doctors offices, credit/debit cards, bank accts, loans, etc. It’s a pain in the ass.
And technically since it was her name too she kind of has the right to use it. I feel like it would just be better to ignore it and move on. There’s many people with the same last names. Not much you can do about it.
Most people don’t change their name back when the get divorced
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Petty petty ….Seems Someone likes unnecessary drama…now I can see why the divorce was so messy.
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Lmao sorry dude you can’t magically erase her existence, as much as you’d like to. She’s your karma and the only way to change your karma is to change YOURSELF. Sounds like you need to change too
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that why i did this when i married i had used my maiden name with a slash than my married name - when i divorced i just went back to using n=my maiden name and it was all legal - but if your ex -wife wants to use her married name - it’s her choice !
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If men understood how hard it is to change it in the first place he wouldn’t be saying that
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Nope not a thing you can do. It became her name when you married her, no takesy-backsies. Sorry bout it, I’m sure your wife is super unhappy about it. She’ll have to get over it unfortunately lol anyone here ever watch the show The OC? Julie Cooper Nichol Cooper-Again Roberts?? Anyone? 
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Sounds to me like the second wife is insecure and petty
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That’s a petty thing to sue over. You’d probably be laughed out of the courtroom. So what if she’s still using your last name? Block her on everything, tell people you don’t want to hear about anything she does and let it go. It’s not disrespectful to anyone and she’s likely just doing it because she knows it gets to you. Ignore her.
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People can change their name to anything they want at anytime and how someone else feels about that is not grounds for a law suit.
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Lmao this fuels my decision to keep my ex husband’s last name
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My husbands ex wife was mad that the judge ordered her back to her maiden name…And they had kids together . I kept my maiden name…but all our kids carry his last name. I don’t see what the big deal is changing your name when you get married…
Should have made it a stipulation in the divorce for her to change her last name from yours. If you didn’t, not much you can do about it.
I would talk to a lawyer honestly cause if she has kids and gives them your last name you can be held accountable for those kids financially. There would be a whole ordeal with having to prove paternity etc.
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You married her 
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I would use if I had a child/children.Through divorce,I would ask for my maiden name back,NO PROBLEM!!
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If she legally changed her name to her maiden name in the divorce that’s her name. Unless she’s gone and changed it with the courts again. Maybe Check your credit report just in case she’s up to something.
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You need to tell whoever is “showing” you stuff…aka you stalking probably…to stop showing you stuff that pertains to her because they, or you, are just trying to amp up drama.
And you sue people for money. You want money?
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Relax you are being a drama queen. Seems you are the messy one. So it is true…rotten fruit falls on its own.
She’s prolly yanking yr chain on purpose. Jk
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Ha ha! Tough tatas! I kept my ex’s last name for so many reasons and I’m sure it made the new one that showed up a week later angry. It’s my daughter’s last name, kept it consistent since I raise her alone, it’s a pain in the rear to go have everything from DMV/SS/banking/employment on and on changed. It would be more of a hassle than changing it, so unless you want to put the time and energy into doing all that 
plus I knew it would irritate the new one.
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If it was put in the divorce papers that her name was to be changed back to her maiden name then she is committing fraud I don’t think you can sue her but you can turn her in for fraud.
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Dude. Let. It. Go. Have you ever heard the phrase choose your battles? If you’re divorced, and have moved on and remarried, and have nothing to do with her, who cares what she calls herself. Quit being bitter and wasting this energy on being petty and redirect your attention on something else actually worth your time. In 10 or 20 years, this won’t matter because she will be remarried. Let it freaking go. There isn’t a damn thing you can do to change her name. If she wanted to, she could legally change it to match yours…you’re being petty and grasping at straws. Check yourself.
Unless it was in the divorce decree then no you can’t make her change her name.
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Why you worried about an ex u have no kids with using any alias?
Move on!
Worry about why you’re worried about it🤷♀️
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Move on leaving her behind in the past and live your life
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Ways to show the new wife you’re still obsessed with the last one😂
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Ummmmm!!! Once you are married they can take your name, once divorced someone can choose to keep it or not…
Why does it matter that much anyway seems like a lot of drama for no reason
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It’s truly her choice. If a name change wasn’t granted in the divorce she would have to go back to court to approve the name change and that costs time and money.
If it’s written in the divorce order that her former name was restored, she’s violating the court order. It’s not her legal name anymore if they ordered it changed.
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If this is your worry in life consider yourself lucky. Move on.
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it’s a name, there is so much more going on in this world, than to argue over a name, I went back to my maiden name, my choice, I didn’t want to be connected to him in any way. everyone has a choice. folks will sue their animals and grand parents if they thought they’d get away with it.
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TBH, I think there are more things in this world to worry about. I mean, it’s really not that big of a deal. I’d just move on, and enjoy my life with the person that’s currently in it.
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sue your e. ya need to grow up, it’ namr hse’s standing her ground. I couldn’t wait to change to my maden name, my choice. but to Sue someone over it is not bright
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She took your name when yall took the vow, she doesn’t have to “give it back”, it’s her name now, married to you or not.
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Now we see why she divorced you!
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Shes your EX and you have no children…why are you even thinking about her?!
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No you can’t when she married you she took your name divorced or not she entitled to keep and use your name, so you you cannot sue her for use of your name and no its not disrespectful to yourself or your wife as she was also your wife at one point as well remember that
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Changing your name is a hassle. Easier when you’re freshly married, but still a hassle then. I have 2 kids with my ex, I kept my name the same when we divorced. It wasn’t an issue.
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Absolutely not. You don’t own your surname. It’s not intellectual property. Many people share the same surname outside of families. Also, to sue someone, you have to have some sort of damages. It annoying you and making you feel disrespected does not meet the legal burden of damages by a longshot.
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Nope you can’t lmao my mom still uses my dad’s last name sometimes, not all the time. You literally gave her your name in marriage, she doesn’t actually HAVE to change it back and unless she’s up to something shady but using it (like idk credit cards or something) that actually effect you then going to court would just cost you money.
You seem to care about what your ex is doing wayyyyy too much
My ex husband asked me to stop using his however we had a son together so I refuse and honestly my name or what i do is none of his business anymore. Keep it moving…
Depending on what state you are in, unless the divorce settlement states that she had to change back her to maiden name, she legally does not have to.
Thanks for the laugh this afternoon
Let her keep it…if that’s all she wants to hang on to and you’re currently happy in your new life let her have it.
To the women in here saying he’s petty, he married her, it’s too “time consuming”, get over yourselves. You are no longer married, he’s moved on, he doesn’t want you you don’t want him, you’ve moved on or does his name actually mean that much to you that you have to keep it because it’s all you have and he is your identity? It’s a name and it costs you an afternoon and a couple hundred bucks.
OP you can’t sue her; but go through your divorce decree; if it’s in there that she has to change her name; get a lawyer and file contempt of court. She’ll be court ordered to change her name and can potentially have to pay fine. I would.
The amount of people who don’t understand the value of a last name is ridiculous. It shows a lot.
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My last name is still my exs. We have one child. I have two after and have been with the father for 3 years. I plan on changing my name for me. This is weird. We paid to have this name changed and it cost money… are you offering her full coverage to change her name back? You have no contact? You have no clue what’s been going on in her life or her finances and paying for a last name is the last thing on my mind when I take care of three kids. My man doesn’t even care. I’ll be changing because it’s what I want but some people literally do not care. I feel like your wife’s bothered and is bringing it up making it a thing for you or something along those lines.
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If you want to be petty and waste money on a lawyer, go ahead and see if one will take your case.
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Nope, it’s her choice whether she wants to legally change her name or not. It’s also a hassle & expensive to change your last name. I’d ask her & offer to pay to change it & replace her id & paperwork. If she refuses there’s nothing you can dom
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Who cares? Maybe the people telling you should mind their own business. I wouldn’t want drama starters like that in my life. If she took your name when you got married that became her name so if she wants to keep it for whatever reason that’s her choice.
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I feel like his wife actually posted this… because it bothers her.
You didn’t get the answer you were hoping for?
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Are you for real? Is this really a question?? Lolol
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If you’re done with her be done and stop caring what she does… You’re clearly still checking up on her since you know she is. Treat her as she is irrelevant. Energy flows where focus goes
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The post said she made a big deal of changing her name back to her maiden name so if that’s the case she has no right to use it
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If its in the judgement of divorce and she’s still using your name then she’s using another alias now
If a name change was specifically noted in your divorce papers for her to have her name reversed back to her maiden name, then you might be able to look into it but it’ll always publicly be one of her aliases so it might be hard to stop. I was happy when my husband’s ex wife got remarried and it changed. I get where you’re coming from.
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Grow up and let it be!
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It isn’t legally her last name anymore because she changed back to her maiden name. So I’m confused why she would use your last name when she had changed her name back to her maiden name. Wouldn’t that be fraud to be using it when it isn’t her name anymore
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Grow up for real. Probably by your current wife. She doesn’t have to change her name that you gave her just because it didn’t work out my mom used my dad’s name till she died. Never remarried anything.
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My husband ex wife stil has his surname i dont give a damm he wants nothing to do with her
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