Ha ha ha ha what? She had to go through all this dumb legalization bs to change her last name to yours, so you’re expecting her to go and pay for all of that and do it all over again? It’s just a last name. Not a big deal. I’m sure she doesn’t like it as much as you. My sister has her ex’s last name still. I never changed mine when I got married, I could but nah.
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She’s doing it because she knows it’s getting under you and your wife’s skin.
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That name became hers also upon your marriage. I bet you demand a spouse take your name. Soooo, she gets to keep it, like it or not.
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Ok how about we all notice he said she did legally change it back and she’s using it so no you can’t sue her because you can change your name to whatever you want unless she is doing something illegal like identity frauds
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If when she went to court & asked that she gets back to her maiden name , yet you find out she’s still using her married name. I would think that is fraud. If she is buying things with her married last name. I would make sure she still isn’t using you on those loans, also. Anything else, just let it be
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Really? Omg stop being petty & childish.
Soundsike My MIL saying " if my son dies before you or if you divorce You will go back to your maiden name." Which I replied with a swift, " F%/÷k You"
And we are still married going on 25 years.
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Who cares? It’s expensive and takes forever to change it back. Why care what she does anymore if youre happy with your new life? Which I’m wondering if you really are happy with the new wife because if you were you wouldn’t give a thought about what the ex is doing.
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I think this is a question for the lawyer. If she legally changed it Back to her Maiden…I think it’s illegal to use a former surname. But ,I also think this has nothing to do with your current wife. Nor is it disrespectful. I would be wondering why she is doing it. You may be able to get a cease and desist order put on her. She is using an alias.
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That should be the least of his worries. The whinny butt probably has seen real problems in life.
You say how messy it was , by your post it seems it wasn’t one sided. Drop it
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Where are you finding documents in order to see her signature? Are you going through her personal records and such? Sounds sus. 
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You gave her your name when you got married. If you didn’t want her to have your name then you should’ve contested it. It’s her name. She can use it. No you can not sue her 
. A judge will laugh at you.
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Where are you finding documents in order to see her signature? Are you going through her personal records and such? Sounds sus.
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All these bitter women 
they have no kids and she begged basically to have her maiden name back, now that he’s married WITH kids, yes it is disrespectful! She’s not his family anymore, period. Y’all need to get a grip and stop carrying your bitterness from your past into stuff. 
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Tell me Your petty af without telling me your petty af
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Move on and grow up.
She can keep using it sorry
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You are such a pig. Why she would want to use your name amazes me.
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Why do you care what she has goin on in HER life unless it directly affects you?
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This and the comments are hilarious
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I’ve been divorced for 15 years, he is re married with a family and I still have his name. It has nothing to do with him. I’m happily in another relationship and I’m happy for him. I kept his name because it is short compared to my maiden name. Signing my full name was to much and after we got married it was A lot easier. He don’t care that I still use it because we both moved on.
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Sounds like your poor children need some adults in their lives!
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Get over it ….and the new wife is l🥹me for feeding into this!!!
If y’all have no kids together,she doesn’t even have to exist in your world. Block her on social media and have your wife do the same. Although I think this IS the wife lol. Unless your from a small town,you may never even see her again. Sounds a bit dull to be asking if you can sue over something like this…
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Ike Turner tried that with Tina Turner. And he lost.
So I wouldn’t bother. Just get over it and move on. You’re just being a male version of Amber Turd.
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I advise this man to yip yip yip yip yip yip yip, bum bum bum bum bum bum, get a life 
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My ex husband tried to make me take my maiden name back when we got divorced but I did NOT!! The judge asked me if I wanted to keep Foster last name or my maiden name and I said Foster he was so pis*ed but nothing he could do about it!!
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It’s her legal name. Change yours if you don’t like it.
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I felt this. But my husband was married before we got married & his ex wife kept his lastname. It bothers me but they have a child together so I guess we will all just have the same last name forever 
but you did marry her & have her your last name. She doesn’t have to legally change it.
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If she legally had it changed in the divorce, what she is doing is fraud and identity theft. Have her arrested, she is violating a COURT ORDER which now puts her in contempt.
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No you can not…you gave her that last name…
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All these females getting butt hurt hahahaha. Honestly I think you should try to sue her. Her using your last name is disrespectful to you and your current wife/family. #sorrynotsorry
None of your business what name she uses. She could change it to he maiden name, married name or to Princess Consuela Banana Hammock if she wants
Lol no you can’t. I still use my ex husband’s last name. We got a divorce and then he died. My sons last name is Cornelius so I kept it the same so we would have the same last name. Kozak is my madien name.
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How is it disrespectful though? You married her, giving her your name, I’m sure she did a lot with your name in the time you were married that doesn’t go away. How do you know she’s actively still using it, versus just still having stuff with the old name because it’s easier? If she got certificates or degrees under that name that’s how it will always be . Stop being so ridiculous and focus on your new family if be really angry if my husband was this focused on his ex.
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It’s hard to have ur name changed right now. The ssi office where I live u still can’t go in. U have to set up a phone appt then mail in all ur personal stuff . It took over a year for me to fix mine. Do u know how many ppl have the same last name as u and have no relation to you?! A bunch. Who cares. Sounds like the new wife is the one w the issue.
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For what grounds? You need grounds to sue someone, sadly your current wife’s hurt feelings aren’t grounds to sue someone. You might still feel very bitter and angry toward her since the divorce and are looking for a reason to lash out and make her “suffer” many ex partners keep their married surnames because changing it is both costly and very time consuming. Also she may have documents, bank accounts and what not tied to her married name and to change it, means changing a whole lot of paper work.
TL;DR: No you can’t. Put feelings aside and think like a rational person.
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I know several women who divorced without children who still go by their married name. It’s usually because they made new lives in that married name with new friends, etc and it’s just less hassle even if they may claim they want to go back to their maiden name…they still stayed with their married name. Once the divorce is final if she’s using your actual first and last name and not just the married name itself for loans, etc…then it’s fraud but if it’s just going by the married name it’s nothing and harmless. Plus if she’s your first wife, if you’re in the US and you unexpectedly pass she will receive social security benefits, not much, but she’ll still receive them regardless of how many times you’ve been married since. My Mom received benefits off my Dad when he passed and he was married five times AFTER they divorced. She kept the married name due to having children with him though.
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I kept my x husband last name for my kids sake
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shouldn’t of given her your last name then 
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She’s obviously using it to get to you and drive you crazy because she seems crazy. Best advice especially since you don’t have kids, treat her like a stranger. Don’t communicate, don’t have her on social media and block all forms of communication. Poof she no longer exists in your life. Now focus on your new wife and have a beautiful life together!
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Just ignore it and move on
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Is it still he legal last name?
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Everyone saying she’s committing fraud lol “shown her using my surname” so what…? Like on Facebook? Or other social media?? U can literally go by whatever u on those and it’s not at all fraud you can literally go by any name u want in life it’s only fraud if your opening credit cards and stuff like what in which case I have no idea how they’re being shown that. You can’t force someone to change their name and I don’t think a court can either. Because literally anyone can go down to the court house and change their name to ANYTHING they want
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Why are you keeping tabs on your ex? 
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This seems super petty and like your current wife has serious insecurities. You gave her your last name. That’s it. No takesies backsies. Lol childish.
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She’s not using your surname, she’s using her surname. It just so happens that you have the same surname now.
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Isn’t it legally her name now you should be like yeah I took that s*** from you hahaha
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No. Why does it bother you so much? Just let it go and move on with your new life. Put her in the past where she belongs. PS: I’m divorced and I still carry my ex husband’s last name. He has remarried. 
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I kept my ex husbands surname purely because I couldn’t be bothered changing my name with the bank, bills etc. The surname doesn’t mean anything to me…it was just too much hassle to change it
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That is legally her name though you can’t force her to change it
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Hell you gave it to her so stop being petty and move tf on bruh.
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Just because you are divorced doesn’t mean your name just automatically changes back… if she had it legally changed she can still go by that name just not on documented papers and such. I’ve been divorced and still had my ex husbands last name legally due to the social security office closing down here during covid. It hasn’t opened back up yet surprisingly. It’s a lot changing your name and everything your name may be on in the first place then having to change it all back sucks.
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Umm if it is was her legal last name she can use it. If it wasn’t put in divorce papers to change it then she can’t change it legally. You have to have paperwork (at least in my state) to legally change your name.
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It’s legally her name. My ex tried to do the same thing when we were in court but I didn’t want a different last name than my kids so I kept it. Not because of him, because the kids.
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So many illiterate people on here and uneducated…
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Lmfao I mean this as disrespectfully as possible when I say…
…FUCK Y’ALL
I kept my married name because 1) it was literally my identity for over a decade and 2) because it’s my daughter’s last name.
But yeah sure. Go ahead and sue. What an absolute great way to spend your time and money. 10/10, would recommend if asked the most asinine thing to be upset about
Eww no you can’t “get your name back” after its given… I didn’t wanna go thru the trouble of changing mine back after my divorce so I still have my ex’s last name and will until I marry again
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Lol this is funny one
It costs to change back name and is hassle to do. If she’s not using it for fraudulent activities, if you have zero contact with her, why care? Only one it will cost $$$ for suing is you and new wife. If you’re content with new wife, just don’t look back at your childless 1st marriage. No kids=you can permanently shut off crap regarding ex if you want to.
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You and your current wife sound immature and need to find hobbies, move on with your damn life already dude…
If she made a big show about making sure she gets to keep her maiden name…
And she’s just doing this for drama… let it go…. 
But to answer your question, if the divorce paper says that she will be using her maiden name, I don’t believe she can legally use your name anymore but you would have to go over your divorce papers with a lawyer. 
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Sorry, it’s hers now.
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I kept my ex husbands last name until I got married again just because I wasn’t about to change all my ID etc
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I use my Ex husband name GONZALEZ OH WELL I’m not going through all the name changing again
If it’s in the divorce papers for her to take back her maiden name then she is violating court order documents.
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We all know the “wife” made this post lol
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Lol no I kept my ex husband’s last name for 12 years, he got remarried, we both had our own children, and i still didn’t change my last name until I married my current husband. It’s a hassle to change everything
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Nope, you gave her your last name big dawg, no takesies backsies
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There are better things in life to focus on.
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Do you have any clue how much WORK & HASSLE it was for her to change her name and everything else in the first place? and now YOU want her to change it back? Give it up buttercup, especially if she has been working - she is now known by that married name.
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One her name to as changed back to her maiden name then she has no right to use the married name I would be wary due to fact she maybe using it to get illegal stuff I would get it as lawyer and investigater to follow her!!!
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So if she made sure she was granted her last name back then it’s strange she is still using yours.
If you wanna pay for her to change her name, go for it. But a lot of women don’t change their names until they remarry. Doesn’t sound like an issue at all, you’re choosing to make it one and be petty for what? Because your new wife is uncomfortable? Grow up. It’s honestly not that serious
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I actually think u can force her to stop using it. I know celebrities can do it so us common folk should be able to
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Nope. My husband’s ex still has his last name and while I wish she didn’t, I just accept it because we don’t have any contact with her and I know who he’s married to now.
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When getting divorced; the judge asks you what you will be doing; changing it back or keeping it; & what ever you tell them at the time of the divorce is what you are suppose to do; I kept my exs last name to continue to have the same last name as our children & I didn’t want to have to go thru the hassle & $$ to change it back again; I just figured if I ever got married again, I’d change it then; but I do believe if she said she’d change it when you all got divorced if she hasn’t she’s violating a court agreement/order
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I don’t understand all these people that keep the ex’s last name. It’s really not that hard to change names on your license, SS, and everything else. I mean you did when you got married…Why would you want to keep the name of a marriage that failed?
The people that leave it on FB crack me up too cuz you can make your name anything on FB doesn’t have to even be your legal name. So why not make it your maiden name.
And people saying it costs money. If it’s in the divorce papers you’re going to take back your maiden name then SS won’t cost you, license is what $10-20? And then bills which doesn’t cost anything just takes time to turn in new licenses and such. So then it just boils down to laziness.
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You married her and legally, she can use your name or hers. My maiden name is Newton and I can still use it even though I took my husbands name. Once she was married and changed her name, she can use it whenever she wants to. Besides that, she can change her name to anything she wants. You can’t sue and if you do, you’ll lose. Go ahead and waste the money.
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It’s not your name anymore. It’s her name the second she adopted it. She owns it now. Get over it.
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Steups. Like you Trademark that name? I bet there is something around your house that needs fixing. Go fix that and ignore your ex wife.
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It’s a pain in the rear to have to do this. I kept my exs last name for a couple of years just because I didn’t want to have to hassle with changing everything. It’s not just the DL or ID but your SS card and your insurance if you have any. And anything that’s in your current name has to be changed. My ex and his wife wanted me to change it also when he found out but I didn’t change it for a couple of years until I married my current husband and we’ve been together now 20 years. Anyhow, all that being said, the bigger of a deal you make of it, the more she’ll be inclined to keep your last name just because she knows it bothers you and your wife. Just ignore it and her and eventually she’ll change it.
Using your surname maybe due to her work life.??? Having been divorced, it was a huge hassle to change everything-social security card, work ID’s, driver’s license, bane with credit cards, banks, post office. What doesn’t make sense is taking back her maiden name but using your surname. Talk to her if you can and ask.
Using your surname maybe due to her work life.??? Having been divorced, it was a huge hassle to change everything-social security card, work ID’s, driver’s license, bane with credit cards, banks, post office. What doesn’t make sense is taking back her maiden name but using your surname. Talk to her if you can and ask.
Change your last name
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Sorry, but if she took her Maiden name back, than Legally she CAN NOT use your name. Everything Soc number, license, bank card had to be changed. She’s breaking the law and your Divorce decree…
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If it is in the divorce papers take her back to court
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Is not about making u miserable is about having to go to dmv and change the name at social security then credit cards banks debit cards post office heck even passport so yeah its a bitch all tht. I had my ex husband’s last name even 7 yrs after we divorced. I just changed it now bc im having a baby (re married) and i didn’t wanted my baby to have his last name if he is not the dad 
if there wouldn’t b a baby in my new marriage I would’ve never changed it
It depends. Sometimes not all places are notified of a name change. I STILL get mail and such in my exs last name, tho I changed it when we divorced. That is not a name I want or desire to use EVAHH again. BUT if she is still using the last name for legal purposes yes it’s fraud, BUT you have to have proof that it’s being used fraudulently. You could be out of pocket more trying to sue over a last name than what it’s worth. If you’re legally Divorced, and don’t have factual proof that she was granted her maiden name back…then just let it go. It’s not going to do anything to your credit or ties to anything to you since you’re not legally binded anymore.
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I used my ex husbands name until I remarried (I had reasons bc my family name was in a sense at the time tainted) nothing can be done bc she can legally keep her last name or yours.
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It became her name when you married her
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Talk to the court, or talk to a lawyer, she don’t deserve yr last name
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If she went back to her maiden name then she is legally bound to be using it.
You and your new wife are upset that she is using your name and she’s probably doing it because she now knows what pushes both your buttons.
Ignore her and if she doesn’t stop take her to court because she has to use the last name stated in divorce decree.
Best of luck!
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I use my ex husband’s buuutt I have kids with him and I like my name to match my kids. If he would let me change the kids name to my maiden name I would in a heartbeat change mine back…
By law, IF there’s a legal document like a divorce decree stating her name has been changed to something else, she can continue to use the married name. I think women should keep their family name but that’s just me.
No you can’t. I’m sure you’d get laughed out of court. Why bother with the expense and hassle? You don’t own your name and I’m sure your name isn’t that unique that no one else around the world has the sand surname?! Are you going to sue them too? She maybe your ex but you’ve clearly moved on (altho not as far as you think clearly) and she’s just another person with the sane surname. Your stuff will forever have your name to it, as the man, but for us to change, there’s council, tax, insurances, passports, drs, dentists, banks, phone, utilities, loans, store credits , any other memberships we may have and these are just the things we can control, that doesn’t count junk Mail. She may, like me wait until children come along or gets married again. I waited until I got pregnant and went back to maiden name by deed poll as I didn’t want my exes name on my dd birth certificate.
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You are being petty asf
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So basically your wife is having a tantrum because your ex wife uses your last name that you gave her at one point? 
sounds like a solid relationship u got goin:joy:
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You will have to look at your divorce decree if she opted out of your surname, you might be able to sue her, it depends in which country you live in.
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yes you can!
a friend of mine did that to his ex wife bc it broke the divorce terms and she changed her name back to her real name
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