I wish my life was easy enough for me to have nothing better to do than worry about what my ex is doing let alone what surname they’re using! 
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Move on. Any person has the right to change any part of their name to ANY name they desire. If they picked a name out of the phone book etc. , they can change their name legally.
If they legally wanted to change their first and last name to yours they can.
This post is almost as ridiculous as the one about the lady and the half porch on the trailer. 
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Just a surname as long as she isn’t using your identification on anything it doesn’t matter
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Sometimes it’s just easier. Changing a name is a pain in the ass. I had my ex husband’s last name until I remarried, and I’m still in the long ass process of changing everything. Grow the fuck up you petty piece of shit
You can do what my father-in-law did (for a different reason) and add an extra letter at the end of your name and change your wife and kids last names at the same time. For example, if your last name ends with a “r”, add another “r”. My husband and his siblings had to start school the next year with a different spelling of their last name, but it wasn’t a big deal.
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Ask a lawyer but I’d definitely do it too if I were you, either way that’s infuriating
I use my ex’s last name (Thiel) even though I’m currently married (Oeckerath). Lowe is my maiden name (use for profile on Facebook) It just makes things easier for me so I don’t have to change everything over. It’s a lot of work and time consuming to do that. Me and my ex husband don’t get along either but he’s fine with me keeping the last name. Doesn’t mean I like using his last name but like I said, it just makes it easier for me and it doesn’t hurt anyone. If it’s really bothering you that much then get a consultation. If you decide to pursue legal action, you will be wasting your money 
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Unfortunately no you can’t sue her for using your surname, it’s legally her name and she can choose to keep it if she wants
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By law we dont have to change our name back if we dont want to, the only way you can make her was if it was a stipulation in the divorce decree.
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My ex husbands mom still has her ex husbands last name. Mind you they got divorced when my ex husband was like 12, he’s 38 now. His father is passed and his mom has been engaged to a guy for like a decade now still with her ex’s lasts name.
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Nope… she got your name when you married… she is entitled to keep that as long as she wants
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If you got enough money you can sue anyone for anything! Just saying. I agree 100% it’s completely disrespectful especially since she made it clear that she wants to go back to her own sur name. But I honestly don’t know if there’s anything legal you can do… consult a lawyer and see what your options are especially if this is something you feel so strongly about.
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There’s lots of people using same surname but they are not married to each other…
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It’s just a name. I don’t think it’s that big of a deal. Pick your battles.
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It’s just a name. I don’t think it’s that big of a deal. Pick your battles.
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Lol you don’t own that name tho. Kind of only a big deal if you make it one.
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I don’t know where you live but changing your name here is a massive pain in the ass and not free either.
Maybe offer to pay for it considering you’re the only person benefiting from it and it actually is really annoying for her having to change ALL of her identification and bill management etc simply because you and your wife don’t like that she has the same name as your family.
She can use that name no matter what you say
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This is probably one of the stupidest things I’ve ever heard… 
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You gave her that name. Can’t force her to stop using it.
However if she legally changed it back to her maiden name, and she’s using yours it’s more of a fraud issue
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ild be wondering y shes using it if she was strict on changing her name back to birth is she doing it as jealousy has come in to fact ur happy and have the life she wanted
My mum still uses my step dads last name, he’s chill with it
I was given the option to drop my exhubs name, but only kept it because of our son. It’s just a name.
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It’s HER name too!!!
You can hire an attorney to send her a [cease and desist] letter to remind her that her legal name has changed and so she may have committed fraud by giving the incorrect name if she has done so on legal documents, such as buying a car, or anything with payments attached.
She will probably move pretty quickly to get it changed when contacted by an Attorney. Unless she is pretending to be someone she is not or that is not a legal name for her you cannot “sue” her. The court order grants her the right to change her name but it is not official until she does it officially with the state. If she is in some way disparaging or defaming you there may be a cause of action. With divorce, just as no law compelled her to take your surname, no law compels her to give it up. She legally became Ms. or Mrs. You, and she, can choose to keep using that surname. You may have to bite the bullet on this one…call a Lawyer.
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It’s more so fraud if she’s made a big stink about changing back to her maiden name. Clearly she wanted nothing to do with the name but found a convenient way for it to work for her whatever the situation is. 
Find out if it was legally changed. Then make sure nothing monitory has both your names and no other connections… if need be add a middle name to yours
Shouldn’t of married her 
Since you married her at one point and time, she however can keep that name or use it how she pleases for as long as she wants….nothing you can do about but whine and cry about it.
Suing her bc of this is just absolutely comical 
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U should consult with an attorney. Sounds like she’s doing it out of spite.
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It’s a name…move on and ignore it. To the people that keep stirring the pot between you and her, kick them to the curb.
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Are you still hung up on her? Because it sounds like you are. Who cares she is using a name she legally adopted?
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You can’t make her change it back to her maiden name! My ex husband wanted mine changed back and I said no because we have a son that has that last name. Judge said it was my choice but he couldn’t make me change it back.
Lmfao GTFOH 
if you look in the divorce papers it states the name she will keep you seem like a real gem
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No legally she can maintain it though if she went back to her maiden name I don’t get why
Contact a lawyer and see if her last name is legally changed.
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She does not have to change it. Ever. When I divorced I went back to using my maiden name, but before I did so I spoke with my lawyer to make sure if I chose to go back to my married name in order to match my kids it was possible. & I could at any time. Shouldn’t have married her I guess.
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No you can’t she can call herself what she wants. I worked In that area for over 20 years.
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As a divorced mom for 16 years, I still use his last name and will until kids are grown… makes things much easier…school, drs, travel etc…
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most last names are repeated. I doubt it is a one of a kind last name. So it should not matter.
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You don’t own the surname so the simple answer is no you can’t sue her.
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I had this problem for years, but I didn’t know that you were supposed to ask the judge for your maiden name back, so I was stuck with my first husband’s name because I couldn’t afford to go to court to change it. I just thought once you were divorced, you could change it back no problem; boy, was I wrong
I bet your last name is smith too 
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No , grow up and move on
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What’s the big deal, you have just shown the ex it bothers you and she has gotten what she wanted to piss you off. Now turn the table tell everyone you now have 2 wives 1 of them no benefits and feel pretty special, make sure it gets back to her she will stop using your name. But make sure you tell the current wife what you are going to be saying and why before you end up with 2 ex wives pissing you off.
Well well she definitely got a rise out of you!!!
She has definitely won this round
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Take her to court again to press charges against her. My fiancee with his first wife made sure she couldn’t and it was in their divorce paperwork that she had to change her last name and she can’t use it again.
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Dude grow TF up! Your last name is likely repeated but hundreds, if not thousands of people. Are you going to sue all of them?
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He says they have no children…while apparently the law says she can keep it, I can understand his frustration to be honest. Sometimes a toxic marriage can be something you just literally want all ties cut with. And since they did not have children I don’t understand why she kept it, but to each their own. As far as to the reader, I would just release this and stop trying to look her up to find out. It’s the past. If there are still mutual friends or family who approach you with this sort of topic, I’d politely say, “Thank you, yes, I am aware and no disrespect, but we both have moved on and wish each other the best and we’d like our friends to do so as well. We aren’t those people anymore.”
Get a grip. She might be doing this just for your reaction, just cut her off on every level. Sounds like you’re just feeding the shark.
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I think you would get laughed out of court
I still use my ex husbands surname and we have been divorced for many decades
When he remarried
I called myself ms not Mrs
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Who gives a crap… she earned that name being married to you… disrespectful to your wife and children? You really think your kids care about someone else’s last name when they probably have friends or classmates with the same last name and that’s if they’re old enough to even know what’s going on
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Can’t imagine anyone wanting to use an ex’s last name!!
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This makes me wondering if my ex was mad I didn’t change my name for 10 years
BTW it’s a pain in the a$$ to do and has nothing to do with you at all…
I mean I’m sure you can. If it means that much to you, and you feel some type of way about it, then do what you need to do.
Personally I’d think there’s bigger things to worry about in life! If you two are divorced and moved on how do you know all this? Personally I’d let this one go.
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Personally I’d think there’s bigger things to worry about in life! If you two are divorced and moved on how do you know all this? Personally I’d let this one go.
Who is showing you her using the last name? How is it shown to you? Why is it shown to you? Like did she sign something and someone you know was there and took a pic of her signature? This is so weird to me that you are so far up in your ex’s business that you are “shown” her using the name. This doesn’t make any sense. You and your wife should be focused on yourselves and your family instead of your ex and her life.
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No not really. My mom kept her ex husbands surname and they had been divorced for 10 years before she passed away. I think you’re overreacting
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Imitation is the best form of flattery they say
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I still have my ex husband last name seriously you will get laughed at
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I got a question why are you here
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I for one would never use my ex husband’s last name but as I see she was good enough to marry you have her that name and should just ignore her and whatever name she uses from now on
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I’m assuming your new wife is the one with the issue….who cares, she took your name when married….get over it and move on…and tell the new wife to move on too! As well as stop stalking her!
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You do know you don’t own a copy right on your last name right ?
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You think that’s bad, wait till she collects social security $ under your ss#
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Did she actually change her surname back to her maiden name??? If she didn’t it’s still her surname, regardless of divorce. If she did change it, she is committing fraud, and can be arrested by the relevant authorities. Good luck
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My cousins ex-wife had her new husband change his last name to my cousins name, crazy!!
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I know someone married to her ex husband for 30 years and is newly married 10 years ago ans still has her ex husband’s last name
This is so petty
You can tell it was a woman asking this question & not the actual husband
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I got why you asked, but my brain works differently. Lol
If she went back to her surname but didn’t go to the social security office to switch it back, it doesn’t change. It’s not automatic.
If she truly changed it, if she’s signing legal documents with your name, that’s fraud. You need to know of she changed her name back before you go off.
Nope once u give ur last name to someone its there’s forever if they want it…
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If my husband divorces me, I’ve already told him I’m keeping his surname.
I hated my maiden name and it took me 38 years to find a man to marry me
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If my husband and I divorced I would still keep this name
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Sue for what?? What kind of harm has this truly caused? Has it significantly affected the quality of your life?? How much compensation do you think you deserve for being “disrespected”?? She does NOT have to give one crap about your new wife and your kids. Please. One of the stupidest things about this country is frivolous lawsuits!!! Yes, yes please by all means talk to an attorney about it, and record that conversation and post it on this page…
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I feel like if the husband wrote this then it would say my last name. A guy wouldnt use words like surname that’s just my opinion though lol. It’s a last name. Move on.
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No kids involved with ex. No reason to keep thing’s going. Have any thing to do with her. You’ve moved on. New wife and kids. Focus forward… Don’t look back…
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I’m pretty sure you can if she went back to her maiden name call a lawyer it’s usually free just to ask questions
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I mean I still have my exhusbands last name. When he filed he forgot to put that I wanted my maiden name back. I didn’t feel like contesting nor did we want to prolong things so we left my last name as his. It’s our daughters last name as well. It’s really not that big of a deal especially if you have remarried (just like my exhusband is) it’s really just a name at the end of the day. If all her identity documents are still with that same name then she’s fine. Unless it’s some how harming you financially in some form… not really anything to worry about and I don’t think you can sue over that.
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If she went to court and had it legally back to her maiden name. Then everything has to be in maiden name SS, License taxes All of it. But it has to legally changed or she can use the surname for the rest of her life
Nope. Sorry. It’s her choice. Just ignore her.
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Why would you care? How does her last name effect you? It’s a name for Pete’s sake.
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Depending on how long you were married she still could have people and businesses who knew her by your surname. By the sound of things I wouldn’t choose to go by your surname either you seem a bit dramatic for a man. It does not hurt your children if she shares a surname with them you don’t own that name there is lots of other people in the world with that same name. Get over yourself and move on sounds like there is no reason you need to even be thinking about her anymore
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I still have my ex husband last name. He never cared or bothered him and he’s married with kids now
No way. She has a right to keep it or change it back, which costs money. Millions of people divorce and keep their changed surname.
She has a right to keep it by LAW. Doesn’t matter if you had children together. Current wife has the same rights. You could remarry a dozen times, and each spouse has the right to use that name after divorce.
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People he said she changed back to her maiden name
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Hahahahahah
You’re an idiot
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You can sue, but you’ll lose.
Depending on state, she may have had her name legally switched back to her maiden, but because certain documents and paperwork were established under married name, she may have to continue that practice for awhile.
Dude, I’m on my third marriage and still get crap under my first married name - I did legally change it during the divorce, but not everyone got that memo. And, fixing it after the fact is damn near impossible at times (hence, almost 25 years later, I’m still getting crap in the first married name).
Pick your battles. This isn’t one. It was a name given to her by you in the first place.
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I used my ex husband’s name to cut down on number of names in the family. I think it’s our choice to go back to maiden name or not…
Why are you even paying attention?
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It’s what you signed up for getting married in the first place. She changed her last time, you can’t make her change it back.
Just worried about yourself.
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Would be nice if you could. There is no reason for her to keep it. This baloney doesn’t happen in Europe. No women use their hubby’s last name ever. They keep their own.
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Is everybody missing the part where she made sure her name was changed back to her maiden name? So other than informal settings, she must use her maiden name.
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Yes you can sue her. If she hadn’t changed her last name, you could still sue her but the judge wouldnt care honestly because once she’s given your last name that’s it, it’s hers now. But since she legally changed it back to her maiden name than a judge would be more willing to care about your case. But in all honesty it depends on your state. I’d get contact with your divorce lawyer first, and then decide is she worth the headache.
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You can not make anyone do anything. People do what they want all the time despite consequences. Why don’t you have a grown up conversation with her and find out WHY? Being a bull head is only getting you pissed and frustrated.
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I am still using my ex’s last name. I did ask him first about it and he didn’t mind
If she made a big show about changing it back to her maiden name then maybe but doubt it. You’d have to prove she actually legally changed it back to her maiden name. An if she hasn’t done that then legally she has all rights to use the name. Also and the biggest part to this is YOU ARE NOT the ONLY PERSON/FAMILY with that NAME. My husband only has his last name bc that’s the name his mother had when she had him. So his last name is that of a man who died long after they were divorced and she wasn’t officially with anyone let alone who his sperm donor is. So there’s lots of ppl who ask oh are you related to this person or that person an we say nope. I have the same thing happen with my maiden name where I get asked if I’m related to someone and I’m like i dont know maybe but more than likely not. So see you have no reason to even think your argument is actually valid bc there’s too many variables at play an no one person owns rights to any one name either. So how bout you stop crying like a baby an ignore her existence bc clearly she still has some hold on you if think this is something you should be worried about or mad about let alone thinking you can do something about it. Grow up.
She wants your attention, don’t give it to her. Live your life