I didn’t change my last name back to my maiden for my child’s sake. It’s free when it’s thru the divorce proceedings however several years down the road it does cost. It’s such a hassle to change names back and such with license ssn, work, emails and all the bills. If she agreed and it’s documented on the divorce paperwork she wanted to go back to her maiden name then she should not be using yours. I remember it actually being a question listed on the paperwork that must be answered.
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Me and my ex divorced in 1989 . I kept his name and still have it over 30 years later . Oh yes and I got married was with my last husband 30 years before he died . I never took his last name because I hated it . My ex and I are great friends . He now spends winters with me . He loves that I kept his last name. There are no laws about it .
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No she legally changed her name at marriage. She’s not required to change it after divorce. I know a few people who kept their married name, simply to avoid all the paper work.
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Did you physically SEE the decree where the name change was addressed?
Cuz i made a ‘big show’ SAYING i wanted my maiden name back… But when it came down to it i chose to keep my married last name cuz it was easier…
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Why do you care? She’s your ex. Why do you pay enough attention to her to even know what name she uses? It’s just a name. I’m sure there are other people in the world who have the same last name as you. It’s not a big deal. Move on.
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I can see why it was messy. You sound like a child.
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I didn’t want to use my ex husband’s name after the divorce, so I went with my maiden name (it was in the decree). I found out a few years later, that he had NEVER signed the divorce papers. What a thunderbolt! He finally did when he wanted to get married again. Sigh! I was working for lawyers and they assured me that I could call myself Ms Jones, or Mrs. Black as long as I was not trying to defraud the government.
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It’s a name, you don’t own it. Cut ties and move on already.
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Legally you can call yourself anything you wish so I doubt there’s anything you can do unless your name is unique to you
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No wonder it was messy. If you’re having a fit that your ex-wife still uses your last name for whatever reason then yeah… I cam see you having a fit for everything she did or does. It’s a name. You did give it to her once. If she wants to keep using it then she has every right
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She’s probably doing it to get to you. Sounds like it is.
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Sounds like someone’s wife is jealous 
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What the hell lol. My mom and dad got divorced she kept the last name makes sense since easier than to change back to her maiden name.
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I’m still carrying my ex husbands last name. It will remain that way too until I remarry. I was known as Owens 7 years before the divorce. Why change it if I don’t have a reason to? It’s just a last name…
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The more you and your wife worry about what the ex is doing…. She still has you. Don’t worry about it, don’t give it a 2nd thought. Both of you let it go…. If you want peace
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No lol if she didnt legally change her name on everything she can still use it.
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I see a whole lot of people who are not proud of their family names, heritage or lineage and it shows 
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It was a gift 
You can’t tell someone what they can do with a gift 
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We can’t have everything we want unfortunately. But if in divorce papers say her name changed back to
her original name you might be able to do something.
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Unless your last name is trademarked, then grow up and get over it. Also, why would you discuss your ex with your children… Are you trying to raise them to be as petty as you?
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Do you know how much of a pain it is to get your name legally changed on everything?
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She’ll probably keep it until she remarries. Honestly I’m thankful I don’t have to share a last name with my husbands ex bc she’s 
otherwise I wouldn’t care lol
Are you really being so petty over a name? Let it go. You’ve been divorced long enough to get remarried and have children.
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I still use my ex last name and been divorced 16yrs
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I don’t know if it may go by state, but when I divorced in TX long ago, my last name reverted to my maiden name and it is stated in divorce document as such. That was through the attorney who asked which I wanted to use and was then listed as such through the court.
I will carry my ex husband’s last name to my grave!!! Why? Because it’s also the same last name as my 4 children. And I refuse to have a different name than my children.
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No offence but she married u first if she wants to use it its up to her I prefer my dads last name but thats just me
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No. Ya can’t. Get over yourself.
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Is this a serious question? 
No you cannot sue her and I can see why the divorce was messy if this is how you were.
Unless she legally changes her name back then she can continue using her married name and there is no law that she must return to her maiden name. Also, if she were to choose to go back to her maiden name the change must happen within 90 days of the divorce. This is within Ontario.
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It’s not illegal just ignore it she only doing it to bother you
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You can go to court and change your name to anything you want to. So no, you can’t sue. You hold no rights to that surname.
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Sorry u voluntarily gave it to her. You have no say.
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Change your name if you’re that bothered. Then you’ll see why she can’t be arsed changing it… or maybe just grow up and get over yourself…
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It’s not illegal, the court gave her “permission” to change it back to her maiden name IF she chooses. She does NOT have to do it though.
I have the same option, but kept my ex-husbands last name due to having 4 kids and being married to him for so long thats what everyone knows me as. I have since remarried and I kept my ex-husbands and hyphenated it with my now husbands.
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I carried my Xs last name until this last week. Finally getting it changed back to my maiden name. Its a better feeling but I’ve had it for almost 10 years after divorce only because it sounded prettier. But now…I want absolutely no relation to him other than having my bio kids want it. I’m done being connected to him. Its up to her. Gotta live with it until she remarries or decides to change it back.
Meanwhile…you do you and she’ll do her.
Couldn’t think of anything worse! My kids have their Dad’s surname but I will NOT take it. So what my kids have a different surname to me. Still my kids! I’m an independent woman I don’t need another mans name to define who I am.
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I believe by law she is allowed to keep your last name for as long as she likes.
Tell her you will cover the cost to change her name. Don’t give her the money though because she sounds like the type that would use the money for other things. If that doesn’t work, then go through your divorce file and see if it says she agreed to, or stated she would go back to her surname, then get her served.
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After divorcing my first husband, I kept his last name, because I didn’t want to constantly be reminded of my dad (because of my maiden name). I think it bothered him for a week or so, because we ended on bad terms as well, but then he got over it. 
When I got married again I took my husband’s last name.
But it’s the woman’s choice. If it bothers you & your current wife/girlfriend that much, make up a new last name for you guys. & If you’re like “oh the paperwork”, then you can’t be mad at your ex.
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If it was ordered, due to no children being involved, and she agreed in the divorce to change it, maybe you can get the judge to legally make her to change it. Just talk to an attorney, 1st consultation is almost always free. Just ask.
If she got her maiden name back, she should use it.
I refused to drop my married name too. It’s to damn much work to change a name. Nope fuck that he gave me that last name so now it’s mine and I don’t care what you got going on with who.
What a weird thing to concern yourself with. You said you have no children together, so why is her name being brought up? Who’s stalking her to even see she uses your last name? New wife? So weird. I’ve been divorced for almost 10 years and I’m remarried. I still have things listed under my ex husbands last name because I’ve just never have bothered in changing half of my stuff Zero people have ever gotten after me or have been concerned lol.
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It became her legal name and legally you don’t have a say on this matter.
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Once you give her your name it’s hers to do what she wants with it
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I was asked at the divorce preceeding if I wanted to change my name back to maiden name and I said no because #1 my son has the same last name, #2 it takes a lot of paper work to fill out to get new cards and have everything changed back.
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Your name is also her name regardless if your divorced. Too much trouble to have it changed. Lots of paperwork. What does it hurt ? Except you wife feeling ? Leave your ex alone she is not bothering you.
You gave her the name in the first place, let it go! It has zero to do with you, it’s also a big hassle to change all your documents.
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Ppl can use any name they want if they change it legally. Now it sounds like you are saying she changed it to her maiden name but is still using yours. That I’m not sure about.
So you don’t have kids with your ex wife? Also, y’all are legally divorced. So unless you or your new wife are being nosy, how would you even know that she’s using her surname? Nothing should be linked to you because that would defeat the purpose of the divorce. I say enjoy your life now with your wife and kids and don’t even give any of your attention to your ex wife, especially since y’all don’t have kids. Out of sight, out of mind.
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When you chose to marry her, you extended your surname to her. She isn’t obligated to change it back to her maiden name. You have no legal stance on this at all.
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You can go to court and change your name anytime. I could go change it to Smith if I wanted. Get over it and move on. You said You have no kids so who cares you aren’t in each other’s lives YOU’RE AN ADULT MOVE THE F ON!!!
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No law says she has to change it. I kept my ex-husbands name. You need to focus on your new family and not what your ex-wife is doing.
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Nope it is her choice
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Wow, just when you think ppl can’t come up with anymore petty excuses to sue an ex for…this ? comes along. I think instead of asking a question here, you need to sit your “new” wife down and have an adult conversation. For starters, maybe say…i was married before you, so…there is no chance of your pretty dreams and hopes of how your love life/marriage will go, “first love and last” with me…as your not my first. And with the sounds of things doesnt seem like she will be the last either…but stranger things have happened so who knows…you BOTH need to come to terms that you had a past, you had another wife- and at one point you loved her and gave her your name. If she chose to keep the name, so be it. Remember you’ve both ended it, moved on, and your in different relationships and on diff paths. What i don’t understand is why, if you and your new wife are “in love and married to one another” why there is jealousy of the ex, and obviously the peeping into her movements, her affairs, her life, which is of no concern to you and least of all your new wife. She wasn’t part of that relationship, so it was none of her business then or now. Y’all need marriage counseling. And instead of concocting ideas about suing your ex for being just that-- your exwife, and choosing to keep your last name, yall should be pouring into each others cups the love you professed for one another the day YOU BOTH got married to one another. Not you, the new wife, & the ex-wife. Leave your ex out of this marriage. Live your lives minding your own affairs, tending to your own family/household needs, and your own business. And let your ex-wife, regardless of last name used-- tend to her own business without you two being opinionated on how she choses to live it. Bc the day you ended it with her, her life, thoughts, opinions, etc…was no longer your business, and shouldn’t be now… the pettiness of you both really shows how weak the foundation of your new marriage to one another is. And this question goes to show how far your willing to entertain your new wifes issues, bc she can’t come to terms that she wasn’t your “first and forever”, and that you have an ex before her that basically had your last name. There are millions of ppl with the same names, first or last…many with exs who chose to keep the last name- child or not, its a hassle to change it and easier to leave it… is she gonna start discussing suing ppl who share your last name? Bc im betting there are thousands with it. Y’all truly got married, been together long enough to bring lives into this world…and still have time to be petty about an exwifes name…are y’all being serious? Bc if so, please have no more kids together bc its obvious your both triggered on how your ex is living her life minding her own business, and y’all miserable, gross,and petty married couple with kids can’t find the time to be happy, growing, contributing to your children/family bc your too busy filling your time with envy, greed, pettiness, amd every other gross thing there is. Both of you need to grow up. Your new wife for her jealousy, and you for letting her feel that jealousy of your exwife to begin with-- as im betting you painted her to be this terrible b@%@^ when y’all ended it, and she is some scorn exwife…and bc of it ur new wife feels dislike for a woman she doesn’t even know, and prolly like if it weren’t for you. Its not the name, its not the exwife using the name…the problem is YOU, and your new wife on how she responds to how YOU spoke of ur past to her. Ima just pray for your kids, both of you narcissistic gaslighting individuals who married one another…and for your ex…whom im sure has no clue she is this famous/admired/talked about by the likes of both you and your new wife…its name, your not rich or famous, never will be…yo new baby mama needs to chill out…long rant over…sheeesh this is why i hate ppl, it just gets more ridiculous each yr that passes, and ppl like this keep making kids…blows my mind…
If she legally changed her name back to her maiden name and is still going by yours then it’s all to annoy you. If she didn’t actually change it back then offer to pay for it and explain why. If still no then there really isn’t a thing you can do about it besides ignoring her and moving forward.
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Sounds like someone wants to be petty. Sometimes it is just better to move on, messy divorce or not, your remarried qith kids, enjoy them and stop focusing on the past.
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You can’t sue her for that. You don’t own your name. It’s unfortunate that it bothers you and your wife. But that is something you both need to move pass from.
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D names hers till death do ye part no big deal get over it 
Is she bothering you? If not leave it alone and quit looking for drama!
You sir is very toxic lol let her do what ever she wants. As long as she don’t mention ur name or ur current wife name. Have a good day
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I heard a guy on the radio that said he was changing his name to Led Zeppelin. So any name is ok as long as you pay the court
It’s still an alias of hers regardless. As hard as I try I can’t get my dirty exes last name to go away! In court they use it to annoy me. I get mail still and even struggle to get my bills changed over even though I’ve called them a bunch of times to change it. Let alone the fact I have to sign into child support using the name because that’s the sign in name they made and won’t change it for me. So no you can’t sue her for it. Even I can’t get rid of the stupid married name.
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I have been divorced from my first husband but for a long time I used his last name, I still get mail with that name come to me since we’ve been divorced that was 16 years ago, I’m currently married and my husband told me to send it back to the the place that sent it lol
Dude. My mom remarried after my dad and guess what, when that marriage didn’t work out, she took my dad’s surname back.
Honestly, a person may change their name or surname to whatever they’d like.
Why are you paying attention to your ex anyway?
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Heck I got an order to change my name back after I got divorced and I didn’t get around till 18 months later it’s a pain in the ass to change your name back he just needs to relax and get over it.
She like Tina turner she worked hard for that name and it’s not going nowhere 
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She can keep your name change it change it back. If you die before her & you made more money she can get your ss too
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Why do you care? You married her lol. She didn’t have to change her name back, but if she asked to her her maiden name back in the divorce and never officially changed it back she’ll wanna do that or it will be a big mess when she goes for social security.
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Honestly, it is a pain to change your name. It’s especially difficult if you carry professional licenses or own businesses. I’m sure it’s not about attachment as much as convenience. And if it was messy, she probably gets a kick out of it bothering him.
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You gave her your name when you married her … move on it’s not worth it
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Court order will make her stop using your last name. My dad took my mom to court over using his last name. After a contempt charge she learned her lesson 
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Absolutely not your bitter move on.
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No. You can’t sue anyone for the name they use. You’re going to sue anyone who has the same last name as you?
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i am divorced from my children s father and i still have his last name ? why you ask ?
cause it’s expensive to change your name back again and a pain in the butt, all your liscences , passports, your name absolutely everywhere, your signatures. you get use to it just being your last name and legally changing it all takes so much time !
which unlike you who seems to have way to much time on your hands she may not have that much or care that much !
move on buddy !
No, you cannot sue her…get a life!
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No. She can change her name to George Washington if she wants to.
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Are you sure you’re old enough to be married if you’re this immature about a freaking name? Lol
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YOU DON’T OWN A NAME
There are probably MILLIONS of people with your last name, are you going to sue them to?
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Lmao you can LITERALLY change your name to anything you want. If she wants to change it back to your last name she 100% can even if she changed it back to her maiden name. Get over it
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Unless someone on here actually has a degree in law in your state, you’re not going to get an educated answer here. I would look into a different group to ask this question. I’m sure they are out there.
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it depends on why she is using it
You can sue anyone you want. You don’t need merits for a case. But since you gave her that name, YOU can go sue yourself!!
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Get over it and move on. You guys r both too focused on what the ex is doing if you weren’t watching her u wouldn’t even know about it and if you had a messy divorce so if you act bothered by it she’ll probably keep doing it out of spite. U and your family should just move on and pretend she doesn’t even exist. Sometimes no response is the best response. Also what your kids don’t know won’t hurt em. Ignore her and the whole situation
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Haha. Nope. Not a thing you can do. If she DID legally change it after divorce, she can’t change it again bc she’d need to provide proof of a new marriage. Sounds like she is yanking your chain. At any rate, screw her. She sounds like a piece of work. And if it tears you a new one bad enough, really mess w her and take your current wife’s name
Young one, she is jealous, and doing it to cause drama. Don’t allow it. Ignore her- eventually she’ll just go away- unless 
she’s like those crazies on ID channel.
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Whoa. All the feminists are out in force today. What a joke you “ladies” are. LOL
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Uh. No that is just beyond petty. Like tf.
1: there are millions of people in the world with your last name. You don’t own a name 
2: marrying you LEGALLY changed her last name. It’s not cheap to change your name if it’s not marriage related. I tried once and it would’ve costed me around $200.
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Sorry. She can keep the name or rename herself anything she wants.
Why do you care anyways? Block her on everything and use this energy to concentrate on the wife and family you have now.
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I often read peoples comments on these posts and wonder if anybody read all of it or just a snippet. He’s clearly annoyed by it because she made such a fuss about changing her name back to her maiden name after or during the divorce proceedings but now somebody has shown him that she’s now using her married name again. Why go through all that fuss if she was just gonna use it anyway? Best advice I can give to you is to just let her go do her thing. I know it’s frustrating to you that she’s doing it, but the best reaction you can give is to give her no reaction. Maybe then she’ll stop behaving like a crazy person and start using the name she made so much of a fuss about changing back to. 
You go about your life with your lovely wife and children and don’t let her bother you.
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That is legally her name.
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What a bitch lol! She is just looking for a reaction from you and sounds like she is getting it. Sorry dude.
In some states like mine- we can use any name you want even if we request to get our former name but it’s an an option
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Grow up sounds like it’s your new wife that has the problem and your getting it in the neck about it 
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Why are you so worried about it? Does it affect your life?
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My advice is get over your ex and grow up
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My husband’s ex still has his last name. We all hate it, but nothing we can do.
If someone gets married five times and change their last name each time to that of their spouse, they can go back to any one of those names at any time.
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It’s expensive to change it back and she doesn’t have to especially if she had it for years already (not necessarily the case here). I know lots of women who didn’t bother to change it back.
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