How do you cope with the loss of a baby?
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Take time to grieve. Know that it’s okay to not be okay & Its okay to be sad. Do not let anyone else try to dictate how you should or shouldnt feel. If someone hasn’t gone through it, theyre really not going to understand. It’s hard. It sucks…horribly. It is normal (&very likely to happen) to feel a whirlwind of emotions- angry, sad, confused, etc. Also there is no “expiration date” on grief. Allow yourself to feel.
To cope, try to find hobbies to keep busy. Find a good book, draw, paint, color, craft-etc.
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Joined groups that allow you to talk about your baby. I’m apart of them. I never made my own post but intalk about my loss in comments from time to time. Look up stillbirth miscarriage and baby loss and groups will pop up. You have to grieve and that looks different for everyone.
Honestly I went through the stages of loss and eventually I ended up lighting some candles and meditating, thinking of everything I wanted to say to my baby. When I was done, I got a tattoo. That way I could carry her with me forever. It helped. I now have two boys and I’m expecting a daughter any-day. It’s still very hard but it does get easier.
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Sending you all of my love
I’m so sorry. Hugs n prayers sent
Find meetings for survivors that the only thing that helped me when my daughter passed away 25 yrs ago. She was 20 days old. And talk Abt your baby to any and everyone that will listen. Cry as much as you want and get angry
One day at a time sweetie… I’m soo sorry… some days it’s minute to minute… just know you’re not alone… I’ve lost 6 prayers and hugs
When I had a miscarriage and stillbirth 2 years apart I would first allow myself to grieve and then i started finding hobbies that would lift my mood. The thing is you never completely get over losing a baby but it does get easier with time. They are in our memories and heartsđź’•
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You breathe in and breathe out. One breath at a time. Lay in bed and just cry a good cry, but never give up. On life, on yourself, on your family. Some days you’ll feel okay, and that’s absolutely fine, and some days you wont be able to stop thinking about the baby. Everyone grieves differently, everyone gets on with life in their in their own time. Theres no timeline, take care of yourself and know that you are a great person, and this happens naturally and is not your fault. Some days i wasnt sure how I was going to get out of bed, but i did. You’re going to be okay, I promise. 
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That will stay with u forever u just learn to adjust to the pain but u don’t forget it and ur heart a piece missing to
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Find others or even fb groups of parents that have experienced infant loss.
Make a book.Be an author of it and it will help other mothers understand to be strong.
Take all the time you need to heal, it’s absolutely heartbreaking, take one day at a time, it’s okay to not be okay. I lost my baby boy in December an I still am taking one day at a time. So sorry for your loss
Facebook groups helped me. Jewelery to remember them by, I got a teddy for myself too. And for Christmas I got a tree ornament.
Even though the baby isnt here with me, I’d still love to have him/her part of my life and always remembered.
Takes time, and lots of patience. Some days are harder than others, but just let yourself rest when you feel overwhelmed. Another thing I’d say is don’t let people tell you how to feel. You feel how you feel, when you feel it. Allow yourself to experience it…
Best of luck, and I’m so sorry for your loss 
It’s been almost 15 years and I’m still coping with it i still cry
I ended up needing therapy to help with my grief of losing our son during pregnancy. It was the hardest thing I had ever dealt with and I was extremely depressed for a very long time. But with therapy and time it got easier. So very sorry for your loss.
Sending you so much love and light. Pray, rest, sulk, do whatever you need to do to just feel okay. There’s no right or wrong way to live through that type of grief but time makes it easier. You’ll never forget though. You just learn to carry on 
I’ve lost 2. One was a miscarriage and my most recent daughter passed away at 5 months do to idiocracy health reasons, or prematurity and health issues the doctors never saw before. That was a year and a half ago. But just take One day at a time. For myself… I am a christian and believe He knows what he’s doing and I will trust him. I went to therapy. I watched motivational speakers and life coaches online. I made and still make myself busy, doing chores, projects, hobbies. I do have my oldest and she’s my motivation to move forward and not to give up.
Just don’t forget it’s ok and normal to grieve and not be ok. And it’s ok to not do anything once in awhile.
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Grief councelling? Child loss support groups, talk to people about your child. Not everyone will understand, but friends and family want to help, they really do, don’t isolate your pain.
One day at a time. DO NOT let anyone tell you there’s a time limit on grieving, because there isn’t one. Especially when it comes to losing a child.
Let people be there for you, honestly for my husband and I we had to take every minute by minute and day by day just putting one foot in front of the other. There is no time frame to grief. We lost our daughter when she was 3 months old it has been 4 years for us and we still have really hard days. There are online child loss support groups that have been an amazing outlet, and grief counseling are some ideas. Just allow yourself to feel what you are feeling its okay to be sad, angry and all the other emotions that come with the tragedy of losing a child. I am sending strength, prayers and am so sorry for your loss
As a momma who has lost a baby you need to keep yourself and mind busy for the first while talk to family and friends even maybe a counselor allow your self time to heal and take it one day at a time. If you had a outfit for the baby try turning it into a pillow so you have something to hug it helped me. Stay strong.
“Love You Forever” book made me cry & when I found out the story behind it, I ugly cried. Might help you or give you an idea for a memorial project. One woman who lost a baby created a charitable fund in her name.
Give yourself time and know that eventually you will make it through
It’s been almost a year & I’m still having a hard time coping… we’re pregnant w our rainbow baby & everyday I still think about the what if’s etc. take it day by day. No one says you ever have to be over it but everything happens for a reason I believe & for instance rn I wouldn’t be pregnant w this boy if I didn’t lose the baby
I lost my son when he was 2 months old 33 years ago. I still love & miss him every day but I agree that you need alone time to grieve. Keep busy & if in the middle of doing something you feel it hit you then you do what makes it hurt a little less no matter what it is. My heart & thoughts go out to you & your family. The grief will never go away but it will hurt just a little less as time goes on.
Time will heal you. Find you a good therapist or someone to talk that you trust. Take it one day at a time. In my opinion it’s the hardest thing I ever went through. It changed me so much. Don’t let anyone around you tell you that you need to get up and move forward before your ready. You will feel better in your own time. Join support groups for the loss of your baby. Take all the time you need to heal your broken heart. This to will get easier to cope with. I still think about it and my miscarriage was 4 years ago. But it definitely seems like it happened just yesterday. I am able to talk about now and know my baby is in the absolute best place he/she could be. In the lord’s arms. I will one day be able to see my baby when it’s my time. Get lots of rest and surround yourself with the support you need and time to grieve. Hugs momma!
It’s so hard I just kept telling myself it wasn’t meant to be I lost all faith after my second miscarriage but now I have am 8mth old and am slowly trying to regain my faith but seriously it is a slow recovery period just think of everything good you have in life and be thankful and keep telling yourself it will happen when its suppose to
However you need to there is no way that is right. Some people cry for weeks or months and do nothinhn. Some party to forget. Some over work. I through myself into my other children and cried at night alone. Sometimes all night. And I talk aboit it. That really REALLY helped
Take it day by day. I’m in two support groups for mothers that have had stillborns. Cry whenever you need to.
I would say the best way to cope is time. Give yourself time to heal, time to process, and time to accept what has happened. Try to talk to people you trust or write in a journal as much as you need to because keeping the way you feel bottled up is not the best idea. If creating a memorial is something you would be up for that would be a great idea as well. But, remember it is perfectly normal and natural to mourn but don’t forget to take care of yourself along the way. Many prayers being sent your way.