Weddings are stupid and superficial, and mostly end in divorce… nothing to lose a friendship over… find better friends. And take care of yourself
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Were you supposed to be in the wedding? If you were in the wedding and TEXTED me that you were sick I would be VERY upset… I hope you were actually sick because I feel like that friendship is probably over. I’m in my best friends wedding in November (friends since 1997) and could never miss it. I would have to be on my death bed. And I 110% wouldn’t TEXT her if I couldn’t go.
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Go and see her and explain again
She deserves better than that, and has moved on from it.
I think the friend is being a spoiled brat. Why would you want someone who is sick at your wedding? Number one because it is just mean to expect someone to drag themselves out when they feel bad enough to stay in bed all day.
Number two, like someone else said maybe she had diarrhea and vomiting.
And last why would you want to risk everyone else getting sick from this person being there.
I think people need to grow up and stop acting like spoiled little children.
Maybe she should have gone and made sure to contaminate the selfish bride and let her be sick on her honeymoon. Then she would have been mad about that. I say find a new friend, that’s not one I would want anyway.
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I’d be mad if I got a text saying you were sick. No call no nothing. That’s just a day that you don’t miss. I think had it been handled differently it would be different.
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Did she find out you went somewhere else possibly?
Yo, I’d be dosed up to hell but no way I’d miss my besties big day, she mad mad
Missing a wedding because you’re sick… fine. But your best friends wedding? You know why she isn’t responding and seems you just needed to feel better about yourself by asking here. You should be asking her.
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call her! you’ll never know what’s going on unless YOU CALL AND TALK TO HER. not the people around her
How about a cheeky phone call instead of text 
You couldnt even call her and let her know you were sick? I dunno man … sounds like an excuse anyways so I she definitely has the right to be upset and she most definitely is ignoring you on purpose.
Not gonna lie I’d be pissed at you too
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Did u tell her u were sick the day before?
No way I would be mad. I wouldn’t want anyone sick at my wedding. One I wouldnt want to get sick or have any of my guest get sick. Two if it’s my bestfriend I wouldn’t want her getting out feeling like crap. Like rest and get better.
Not your friend, at least not anymore 
Do you have a history of canceling plans or flaking out? If so, she may not believe you were really sick
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One was you in the wedding and two did you at least send her money for your plate because I’m sure they had to eat up that cost for last minute cancellation. Now I’m going be real y’all friendship is over sorry to although you text (which was the wrong thing 
) you still missed an important day and unless you had covid you should have been there with your mask on supporting her.
Good luck maybe one day y’all can talk but right now she’s over you
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A phone call would have been better than a text. We tend to forget that the art of conversation began with verbal not written. Sounds like utter disappointment really got to her. A wedding is an epic event to miss. Hopefully as time goes on she will get past it. You did handle it a little wrong. Best friends deserve a bit more than just a text. You message your boss not your BFF on her wedding day. I’m sure you were part of the bridal party so there is this feeling of you let her down and you really don’t care to be a part of the big things. I’d be mad if my BFF missed and all I got was a text.
Unless you had COVID you should have been there!
I think she is mad at ur form of communication… a call would have been better. I mean a text. Kind of disrespectful to me seeing as this was her wedding day and u said u all are best friends. Like when u doh want to go work and u not really sick u usually send a message cuz they can’t hear ur voice to see if ur sick or not… a video call would have been Good as well so she could see… but dats just my opinion…
Did you at least send a gift? Hope you didn’t ghost your BFF on a gift. Probably should of just sucked it up and went just to show face. But if you were really really sick then nothing you could do.
I’m think she’s definitely upset and hurt and maybe even a little mad about you not going to her wedding. I would be too. Sick or not I would expect my BFF to at least be at the ceremony. And I would do the same for hers. Espresso Because a BFF is usually going to be in the bridal party. A maid of honor in many cases. We’re you in her bridal party? If you were and you didn’t go you also messed up her entire plan for her wedding party. Imagine not having your maid of honor or brides maids by your side at your own wedding. That’s really hurtful and messed up. Sick or not I would have been there. So yeah, yes she’s definitely still mad at you. Now, with that said, I would never be this mad about my BFF being Sick and missing my wedding that I don’t talk to her for months at a time and ignore her and make her question our friendship. That’s also messes up. I would never purposely do that to hurt her or make a point. She’s wrong for that too. She should be able to talk to about how hurt she was and let you know if she no longer wants to friends because of it.
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I can’t get over the people who think she is a bad friend for missing a wedding when she was sick. Clearly you haven’t been so sick to the point you can hardly get out of bed, let alone go to a big event. I would have felt horrible, but you can’t control when you are sick. I had the flu last year and it had me down for 3 weeks, I was really really sick. A couple weeks Ago I missed a day of work due to being sick, I had fever and chills and was in so much pain I could hardly move… I’ve gone to work sick before but this time was bad, I tried and just couldn’t do it and stayed in bed all day. People at work were mad because it ended up being a very busy night.
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She should of went and gotten everyone else sick. Then she’d be bitching about that ! Childish!
Best friends since elementary school and you missed her wedding!!! The only way I’d miss my best friend’s wedding is if I was in the hospital. You could have attended but not stayed all evening. You missed one of the most important days of her life. Also the fact that you were missing her wedding and texted her… couldn’t even call her makes me think you’re not really that great of a friend. Then you’ve only sent text messages since June… maybe you should have called her instead of texting her mom. 
Maybe she’s busy, maybe she’s angry, maybe it’s both… whatever the case is…
You definitely lost that friendship.
I think maybe she didn’t believe she was sick .
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U know, if she really thought of you as her friend, really knew you and your friendship was strong and you told her how sick u were and are devastated that you can’t come, she would hv understood. Yes, I would be sad and hurt in a way but also understandably but if I knew my friend was sick I would rather her be home and get better then that bitc* best be taking me out post wedding drinking lol 
It sounds like a lot of these women who are commenting are expecting 1 way relationships. If your sick, your sick. You would think the whole world has learned it lesson with passing shit. We was just locked down for what 2 years. You probably saved yourself lots of heartache from that relationship.
If my best friend from elementary school missed my wedding I’d be pretty upset. Also I’d have to be in the hospital dying to miss my best friends wedding even if it only ment being there for the ceremony and going home before the reception. Definitely wouldn’t have just sent a text and thought that was ok. A text day of to bail on a WEDDING?? Naw you’re rude for that.
It would take a lot more than just feeling sick to miss my best friends wedding. Did you ask to face time through parts of the event? Were you a bridesmaid? Did you ask relatives or friends to give you updates or photos through the event? If you just sent a text and said sorry I can’t come I’m sick ya I’d be pretty annoyed too. Sounds like you made no effort to find alternative ways to be involved as much as you could.