I’m looking for advice. My best friend got married in June. I wasn’t able to attend because I was sick. I was in bed all day & hated to miss it. I texted her of course & told her I couldn’t make it. She replied back & understood. Well ever since then she has been ghosting me. I have been texting her & she hasn’t responded. She did respond to a text in July when I told her happy birthday but she won’t respond to any others. I don’t know if she’s mad at me or what. I finally texted her mom the other day. She said that my bff was really busy. We have been best friends since elementary school. What do you think? Is it she’s just really busy or mad at me?
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You should have gone. Even to just the ceremony! Take what you needed to get you through that part and then made your excuses. That’s the most important part. Your friend needed you there.
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Go see her and talk it through. Yes she maybe disappointed still, yes she maybe busy but until you see each other face to face and clear the air , it will continue
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She mad.if you have been best friends for that long and shes ghosting you
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Probably a little bit of both
You’re done. She has moved on
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She big mad, I think you need to have it out, let her have her say
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She’s mad and should just say it
Friendship is ended. Sorry sis, but it sounds like you’ve been pushed to the back and are no longer in her future plans. She’s mad, you missed her big day, she’s gonna be happy with the ones that were there, and, you just weren’t there. Sounds harsh, but I can only imagine.
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She might not be mad and might have understood but disappointment lasts long, she was probably looking forward to spending the most important day for her with her best friend by her side, so it can be that she still feels deeply sadden that you weren’t there. Maybe give her some space, or arrange a time for a coffee and talk to her because she is the only one that can give you a truthful answer as to why she has been ‘‘ghosting’’ you.
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PLEASE GET YOUR HEAD FROM WHEREVER ITS SHOVED AT 
are you really asking this …. Great friend you are!
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Yep I’d be pretty fuming too to be fair. Unless I was in hospital seriously I’ll I’d have been there if it was my best friend.
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If you think that maybe that’s the reason I’d say you’d probably be correct.
I think your bff 
found out that day who supports her.
Are you mute? If not, that text should have been a phone call. That’s common courtesy.
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What is special to the ones we love should be special to us too .
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She’s probably not mad at you not really busy but she is a newly wed, hello 
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She’s mad at you of course.
I think the texting is the issue here. It’s so impersonal. I wouldn’t want sick people at my wedding but id rather a call from someone. Just pick up the phone and call her or pop down to her place and see if she will talk to you. No point sitting around guessing. I think its a little childish both ways.
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Soooo…. BFF? We’re you even in the wedding?
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If you were so sick, that you couldn’t show up for your best friend on this important day you should’ve at least called her!!
So yes she’s mad. She’s very mad and upset!!
And she has a right to be, I actually feel sorry for her for having a friend like you
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She is a newlywed, things change after you get married, she will come around when the newness wears off.
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she’s mad. and i respectfully, i see why.
my best friend got married & she told me she understood if i couldn’t make it (i ended up finding out i was pregnant after her date was set 
). her wedding was on my due date and i told her then the only way i wouldn’t be there is if i was in the hospital delivering. and even then, i had planned on facetiming in.
had the baby exactly 10 days before & carried my așs to her wedding & served as her MOH. 
If she’s your best friend why weren’t you in the wedding?
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I don’t understand everyone’s responses here. I wouldn’t want a sick person at my wedding, potentially passing it to everyone there. If my friend was sick and couldn’t come i would say “thank you for letting me know, i hope you can get the rest you need to feel well again, i love you and I will check in later” because what kind of friend wouldn’t want their friend to get better? There’s no place like the comfort of your own home when you’re sick. It’s like “it’s my wedding day so you can’t be sick” kind of thing, and it’s weird 
and super petty, tell her to grow up.
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If u cant ask her straight out is she really ya best friend?
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I’d be fuming.
You text!!! You didn’t even ring her to speak to her on her big day.
If you wasn’t dying then you should have attended the ceremony at least.
My partner had a dr release him from hospital for an hour to attend his brothers wedding and when I say he was ill, he was seriously ill.
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She’s newly married. Leave her be. Things will settle down sooner or later.
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Yes she could mad!! You blew off her wedding!! If you are bff why were you not in the wedding? Basically you are just thinking about you!
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Ps if i was unwell in my bed I would not be attending a wedding… people that say they would thats fine! But I would not put myself through it
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She’s mad. Like, were you violently ill? High fever? Couldn’t see from a migraine? Constantly throwing up and using the bathroom? I feel as though for my BFFs wedding, I would have to be on my death bed to miss it. Just my opinion 
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You wouldn’t be my bestfriend after that day
Period.
I’d never forgive my “bestfriend” for texting me on the day of my wedding saying she’s sick and not coming. Unless you were in the hospital so sick, I’d never be able to forgive. She’s definitely hurt.
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Ask her and see if she will answer you
She sounds mad, I personally wouldn’t be mad and I think it’s selfish to be mad. Not just to your friend who is sick but to the family members you’re willing to expose to what ever sickness the friend has. She should be more understanding. I’d insist they stay home.
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if your friends mad at you that you were sick then they need to grow up.
it’s possible with new marriage she’s busy too. the only way to know for sure is to give her a call or show up to her house and talk to her.
but honestly, some people need to realize it ain’t all about them and if she can’t appreciate the fact you didnt show up spreading that illness around, then she truly needs a wake up call
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She’s hurt and disappointed. I think you made her feel like you really didn’t care about her as much as she thought you did .
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Best friend were you in the wedding? Sounds like she doesn’t beliyou were sick.
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I’d be more sad than mad that you missed my day. I wouldn’t take it out on you, you can’t help it if you’re sick. I’d appreciate the respect of you not coming due to you being sick. Personally with mine and my best friends friendship after everything was said and done I’m calling you even at 2 am to check on you and see if you need anything after my wedding.
My best friend got married and I couldn’t be there, she lives in Florida and I’m in Texas. I did get to video call and attend but I also married her and her husband. Maybe show up to her house and talk to her if she’s avoiding your calls. If she’s your best friend and for as long as you say she is. At this point you’re allowed to just drop in. Good luck❤️
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She’s mad & will hold it against you for as long as she wants too. It’s been this long with no response. I’m guessing that you have asked her straight out. Since maturity went out the window, you might have to wait until she is ready to talk to you. Or you can show up at her place and sincerely apologize to her. It’s not like you planned to get sick. Me personally, I don’t get upset with loved ones when they are ill. I would have checked in on you and asked if you needed anything through a text then showed up the next day with medicine etc. People handle disappointment differently. Just go see her, will never know until you get face to face. 
You texted her???
Gtfoh
So you’re gonna tell me no call? No actual conversation? Only forms of trying to communicate is TEXT???
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Wow! I’m reading all these comments and am shocked at how many people think she should have went no matter what! What if she was contagious? That would have ruined her best friend’s honeymoon! Damned if you do and damned if you don’t!
Sounds terrible you were ill & couldn’t make it too the wedding, however I feel that it maybe time to catch up with your friend as it seems to me that asking on here if your friend is mad at you does not sound like good communication for good friends. Take the time to visit your friend and let her know how disappointed you were that you missed her awesome day!
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You sent your BEST FRIEND a TEXT on the DAY OF her wedding saying you couldn’t make it and you’re asking if she could be mad at you? 
I think the answer is pretty clear.
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I’d be pretty upset if my best friend missed my wedding. Sick or not. You weren’t in the hospital right? I’d never miss my best friends wedding. Ever. You’d catch me on the side with a barf bucket or something lol. Keeping my distance if I needed to but I’d still be there. Especially a best friend since elementary school. You texted her and told her? Yeah that’s messed up in my opinion, couldn’t even call. Crazy 
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I guess I will be the oddball out. But if you were my best friend, and you called me up and told me you were sick, I would not want you at my wedding. Because I would not want to risk that everybody else might get sick, and let’s not forget that we don’t know exactly every single person’s home life. So you don’t know if somebody could contract your illness and bring it back to a loved one. My kiddo is immune compromised, and I would absolutely not want you to show up to my wedding if you were sick.
I think the only reason why she might be upset is that she probably thinks you were faking it, since most people use the “I’m sick” excuse as a way to get out of something.
So as long as you weren’t sick, I would just flat out tell her that if other people showed up to her wedding, then it would be okay. And unfortunately, you do have to put your health first. And if she doesn’t understand that, then she’s crazy.
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She’s highly pissed. You shldve gone sick and sat in the back that’s what she wanted. Were you in the wedding?
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She’s probably mad and disappointed in the situation, not necessarily YOU. I’m be pretty upset if my best friend cancelled on me the day of my wedding. Especially when you’d have likely been a bridesmaid/MOH
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Maybe her Mom will let her know you’re worried about it.
Yeah, I’d have to be in the hospital, or violently ill to not make my best friend’s wedding.
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Sometimes I don’t message my friends back forever it’s not because of them tho, sometimes I open it & forget. I have 4 kids, life happens, health issues happen, jobs, etc, you know. I’d just call and check on her!
If you have to ask, I think you know the answer. go see her in person and apologize and work it out. If you’ve been friends that long, she will forgive you. 
Why not make a call to your friend invite her to lunch or something and talk with her about it? Maybe she is super busy…
Maybe both. I’d go confront her.
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My best friend(s) flew outta the country for my wedding. Couldn’t imagine her not being there. Nicki Townsend sick and all you better not had missed it:rofl:
I would imagine she feels a form of rejection. This possibility could still be fixed. I felt this way when my closest friends missed my wedding too, but life does happen… I hope that you make a point to ask her about it because it sounds like she really wanted to be able to share that day with you
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The ones saying it is over, I feel like they have never had long term friendships
Yea, sick or not… you missed the best friends wedding. Ouch
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Were you suppose to be in the wedding?
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You should ask her, not us 
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She’s mad about missing her wedding. Is this the first time you’ve missed one of her major life events?
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So if it was me and I was sick I would try my absolute best to suck it up and go even if I just went for 1 hour 
. However my best friend has an autoimmune disease and I know some days it’s really just too hard for her to get out of bed so I would be upset but I would not hold it against her because I know certain things are out of her control and I know how badly she would feel about missing it and I wouldn’t want to add to that. Because she’s my best friend and even if it’s my wedding I still need to look out for her and her needs as well. I can understand her being upset but she really should be understanding.
My best friend for 25 years wasn’t able to attend our wedding due to being sick. Was I bummed? Yes. Mad? Of course not! I’d rather the germs stay away. So if she is mad, she needs to get over it. She also just got married and is probably adjusting to her new life. Why don’t you just ask her what her deal is?
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You TEXTED her on her most important day and told her that you can’t make it cos you are sick lol and you wonder why she is ghosting you like fr 
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Only way I’d miss my best mates wedding is if I was in hospital and even then you’d have a hard job stopping me🤷♀️
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She’s a newlywed. She probably IS really busy. It’s an adjustment.
She sounds childish, but clearly you guys need to meet up and talk 
If she I’d your best friend you should be able to ask her.if she hast responded to a text may be time to call or stop by.even if she isn’t angry she may be hurt.i would be sad had my BFF missed mine.once friendship pass thar 7 year mark they are more like family.35 years I’ve been blessed with mine.im sure she’s adjusting to married life she may be busy.have you bought her a wedding gift?good excuse to stop by.
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Try calling when you know she’s not at work, or see if you can arrange a face to face meeting to talk. Tell her you’ve noticed a change and you’d like to find out what’s happening.
Honestly, it doesn’t sound like she wants to be friends anymore. People make time for the people they want to stay in touch with. Answering a short text here and there shouldn’t be a major ordeal. If it is, she should tell you honestly that she is so crunched for time that she won’t be able to text much, instead of just letting you guess at what’s happening.
Maybe you need to make an unexpected visit with bff and talk to her explaining how you are feeling?
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This happened to me a couple years ago… is there something else you did that upset her, other than not attending her wedding? That’s what happened with me. I apparently did more to upset her and she never talked to me about it (and found out via a FB post similar to this). I do think about her and her daughter every once in a while. Wish I could have gotten to know her new baby. For now, I’ve left it in God’s hands, and if there’s to be reconciliation, that’s up to Him.
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Stop texting and go see her and ask her directly is the best thing to do, catch her on the hop you will soon know where you stand
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It isn’t over…unless this has happen more then just the wedding date. If you are truly best friends then she will get past it, but she is probably hurt over it.
She might be busy. My friend and I will text and literally not respond for days and we live in seperate states, we both live different busy lives, so when we do talk it’s a few hours on the phone after not hearing from one another for months.
Orrr the Hubby doesn’t like you, doesn’t want you being friends, and he has controlled her on that??
Or he has made her feel like she should be really mad about the wedding and stop talking to you, even if that’s not what she wants.
“It’s my wedding day you can’t be sick”
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I’m more concerned that you’ve only texted her since June. Go there! Celebrate her marriage… have you been sick everyday since?
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No one is ever to busy to eventually send a text. Might be max a day or 2. But not months.
I would just suggest go and visit. 
I can imagine she’s busy but no one is that busy.
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She’s pissed and probably hurt. Maybe apologize and let her know she’s important to you. Let it play out.
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It’s probably not that you were sick, it’s the text. That was for sure phone call/video chat worthy.
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I feel like she’s upset and really has decided to cut ties… I say that because ONE, I make time for the things that are important to me! She hasn’t made time because she no longer cares. I get you were sick but what I ABSOLUTLEY despise is an important day where I spent tons of money and you get those ppl that text you the day of saying they aren’t coming! Plus that’s your best friend REALLY sister if you will… so why would you text me on my wedding day you aren’t coming I feel like you should have called and after made up for it a special day out, went to see her made her feel like you really felt bad for missing! You didn’t go then started texting her after very insensitive…
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I’m not understanding a lot of these responses!! The girl was sick best friends wedding or not!! I’m pretty sure she hated missing it. Just go on and make her feel worse than she already does 
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Nah cuz I’d do that if my bff didn’t make my wedding. You better be dead to not attend. Even then your ashes better make it
What about a phone call. Much more personal?
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It’s a very important day and I know she’s pretty bummed you missed it… I’m sure she thought about all the new memories you all would make on her special day… butttt she should be happy you didn’t come and get everybody sick. She’ll eventually get over it… 🫶🏽
You skipped her wedding. Sick or not, she’s your best friend. If you were really THAT sick, you really should have gone above and beyond to show her how sorry you were. I’d be ghosting you too. I’d have to be on my death bed to miss an important wedding.
did you send her a wedding gift? if not, she’s probably mad about that…
Sad to think she could be that mad. You need to talk yo her face to face, call her, go see her, do whatever you can to patch things up and explain how duck you were; give complete details-fever, cough, vomiting or diarrhea-tell her all of it.
I guess. I’m definitely the minority here. I’m getting married in a few weeks and my best friends since childhood aren’t able to come. But guess what? I DON’T CARE! Because I understand they too have families and dealing with tough financial situations due to being on strike. I plan to FaceTime them so they can at least watch. We plan to have a girls trip in the spring. While it’s a huge step, I can’t allow myself to have them putting themselves out (especially if I can’t cover their expenses). While my situation is different than yours, I personally wouldn’t have been upset. You were sick and did the right thing to keep your ick at home. And the mature thing to do would be for her to either address it or you just accept it for what it is and stop wasting your energy on someone who has checked out of the friendship.
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I think she is more hurt than anything but that friendship is probably over
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The only way I’d miss my best friends wedding is if I was on my death bed. There is medicine. You could have took it. I’m sure most people are vaccinated so they shouldn’t be scared of getting fake Covid 
You lost your friend. 
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If she’s you were best friend why weren’t you in her wedding?
Man minus a few comments this whole thread is filled with Bridezilla’s and horrible friends 
“I don’t care if you’re sick, you have to be at my wedding!” Like what the actual hell is wrong with you all lol I’ve been friends with my best friend for 26 years and I missed his wedding…guess what? We’re still best friends, he still lives next door, he wasn’t a butthurt baby about it. Sounds like a bunch of teenagers/early 20’s females on here.
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My friend didn’t come to my wedding she had to work and her job you can’t get days off we are not mad at each other your friend sounds shallow to me your better off without her.
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That friendship is over.
A wedding only happens “once in a lifetime” and sick or not I’m sure she feels super let down.
My best friend was unable to attend my wedding (she was in school and had an exam) but she told me WEEKS in advance, I understood.
She for sure didn’t text me the day of, that would’ve been a slap in the face.
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Tell her you be sure to be at her next one
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I won’t missed my bff wedding, unless I’m in labor. Btw, did you send her a gift or something special for her wedding
So many questions…1 were you in the wedding? 2 did you get sick the morning of or did you get a few days prior , the night before ? 3 what kind of sick was it? Cold, flu, covid?
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We’re u in the wedding? If so, I would have had to have been there no matter how sick. If you weren’t in the wedding, we’re u really her best friend. Id be mad just because it can never be fixed, best friend not in any pics, it prob would be pretty devastating. I’d say friendship is over unfortunately
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Definitely mad. Very very mad , hurt, disappointed etc. … it is what it is. If your friendship was that bonded she would of been sad but would of understood. If not this it would of ended some other way in my opinion.
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Thank God my best friend was never like that. I didn’t attend her 1st two marriages… and thank God she never held it against me. I attended her 3rd one. Cause this guy I actually like… a true friend might be sad. Or even a little upset… but would never ruin a friendship over it.
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Like how sick ? I was literally 9 months pregnant for my sisters wedding and physically miserable but without a complaint I gave her whole day my all. I mean if you were contagious that’s courteous 
even if you were feeling ill the day prior, giving her notice would at least make it seem like you were concerned with potentially missing
I think she’s mad but if you were really that sick to miss her wedding I feel like you had to be really sick and she should understand. But if you flake on a lot of events or bail or things last minute than that was probably the last straw.
She’s mad at you thats for sure
There is a likelihood that you might have been included in the bridal party as her BFF and if that is the case she has every right to be upset. If you pay 100s of dollars for makeup, hair, pictures, catered meal, ect for someone to not show up sucks. Especially when you didn’t even let her know there was a possibility you weren’t coming until the DAY OF the wedding so she couldn’t find a replacement or get refunds.
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